“The future begins today.”
Wayne Gerard Trotman
I hope your new year is starting well. 2016 has been pretty expensive for me so far, my appliances are in revolt. First a TV bit the dust and needed to be replaced and then our water heater sprung a leak and it too needed to go. So we spent a few thousand dollars already and we haven’t even made it through the first week of the new year.
For me the big thing is the adjustments I must make this year. My wife and my ages have imposed some limits on what we realistic can undertake these days. I also find that it is time to inventory my commitments and start to limit them to more practical levels. Right now I am struggling with the guilt associated not contributing as much effort as I have been able to do in the past. If the truth be known it is getting harder to get motivated to step away from a more leisurely existence.
I have promised myself and others that I will take it easy for a few months and concentrate on rebuilding my stamina and strength. So my friends at Kiwanis and the other organizations that I work with it is not that I don’t care it is just that I am real tired and want to take it easy for a while. I will keep up with the Daily, it is my five days a week mental workout. And will continue with my YMCA exercises and who knows what else.
This week I will be going on a special non-cancelable assignment for a few days so the Daily will go dark at the end of the week but will return early next week.
As I was working on my “what’s next” life I ran across the following article that I think has some good suggestions.
How to make a fresh start
Leave the past where it belongs and take these steps to move forward and start over.
There’s nothing wrong with lying low for a while: it’s an opportunity to regroup and rethink.
When you’re hurt, it can be tempting to lash out. But the best strategy is to maintain composure and avoid burning bridges.
Allow yourself time to wallow
Eat chocolate, watch a sad movie, call your friends. Write a letter and burn it. Get it all out. But put a time limit on how long you’ll do this for because this behavior gets pretty counterproductive after a while.
Leave the past behind
It’s only natural to put emphasis on your negative experiences, but reliving the past is only torturing yourself because it’s not where you’re going. That energy is better spent investing in your future.
Forgive yourself and others
Holding a grudge or beating yourself up will ultimately only weigh you down. Forgiveness isn’t about being weak or allowing anyone to “get away” with anything, it’s about setting yourself free.
Focus on being happy
Regardless of what’s happened, there are plenty of ways to find a little joy. Go for a walk, call your mum, sit in the sunshine or share a meal with a friend. And above all, take life one day at a time.
“It may not be the life you imagined, but it’s your life. You came here for a reason. Is it time for you to go and begin again?”
A Western Buddhist woman was in India, studying with her teacher. She was riding with another woman friend in a rickshaw-like carriage, when they were attacked by a man on the street. In the end, the attacker only succeeded in frightening the women, but the Buddhist woman was quite upset by the event and told her teacher so. She asked him what she should have done – what would have been the appropriate, Buddhist response.
The teacher said very simply, “You should have very mindfully and with great compassion whacked the attacker over the head with your umbrella.”
Stress is when you wake up screaming and then you realize you haven’t fallen asleep yet.
For thirty years, Johnson had arrived at work at 9 A.M., on the dot. He had never missed a day and was never late. Consequently, when on one particular day 9 A.M. passed without Johnson’s arrival, it caused a sensation. All work ceased and the boss himself, looking at his watch and muttering, came out into the corridor. Finally, precisely at ten, Johnson showed up, clothes dusty and torn, his face scratched and bruised, his glasses bent.
He limped painfully to the time clock, punched in, and said, aware that all eyes were upon him, “I tripped and rolled down two flights of stairs in the subway. Nearly killed myself.”
The boss said, “And to roll down two flights of stairs took you an entire hour?”
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.
A friend and I were lunching at a sidewalk cafe in Huntington Beach, CA. Our waitress looked like a real surfer girl: athletic with a great tan and blond hair. Mulling over the menu, my friend asked her if the roast beef was rare.
The waitress gave us a long blank look, and then replied, “Well, no. We have it, like, just about every day.”
“I saw a woman wearing a sweatshirt with ‘Guess’ on it. I said, ‘Thyroid problem?'”
A little boy took his dog on a “take your pet to school” day. There were prizes for the smallest, the prettiest, the cutest, and the smartest pet. Determined that his dog win a prize, the boy put his pet through a whole series of tricks.
Finally the boy turned to the dog and asked, “Mindy, how much is two plus two minus four?”
The dog sat quietly, making no sound, remaining still and silent.
“Right!” exclaimed the boy.
His dog won first prize.
What is not started today is never finished tomorrow.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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