You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
I had an early breakfast with a friend yesterday who is recovering from the loss of a significant relationship. He like many of us was left with a vacuum that is created when we no longer have our days filled by activities with someone who is gone. We also talked about the similarities to what the aged feel when they no longer can pursue many of the meaningful activities that helped them stay happily occupied in previous years. My comment to my friend was that I felt we can never feel it is too late to reinvent ourselves.
Later I recalled an article written by Marc Chernoff that I think can benefit those of us who would benefit by putting some sizzle back in our lives. Here in part is what he wrote.
Simple Things to Start Doing for Your Happiness
- Start learning to be more human again. – Gadgets are great, but they can get in the way if you aren’t careful. Control them so they don’t control you. In other words, put down the phone. Don’t avoid eye contact. Don’t hide behind a screen. Ask about people’s stories. And smile together.
- Start filtering out the noise in your life. – Be careful about who you give the microphone and stage to in your life. Don’t just listen to the loudest voice. Listen to the truest one.
- Start choosing differently, for your own well-being. – A big part of your life is a result of the little choices you make every day. If you don’t like some part of your life, it’s time to start tweaking things and making better choices, right now, right where you are.
- Start being present. – If your mind carries a heavy burden from the past, you will experience more of the same. Let it go. And also be careful not to dwell so much on creating your perfect future life that you forget to live today. Be here now and make the most of it.
- Start replacing your worries with positive actions. – Most of the things I’ve worried about didn’t happen. So keep dreaming and keep DOING.
- Start comparing yourself to yourself, and no one else. – Forget what others have and where they are. You’re not walking in their shoes, and you’ll never comfortably walk in your own if you keep comparing yourself to them. So focus on what’s best for YOU and your unique circumstances.
- Start genuinely being happy for others. – The more beauty you find in someone else’s journey, the less you’ll want to compare it to your own.
- Start being grateful for the life that is yours. – Gratitude is simply the awareness of what’s good. Count your blessings, no matter how small, and start with the breath you’re taking now.
- Start replacing the phrase “I have to” with “I get to” whenever you catch yourself starting to complain. – So many activities we complain about are things others wish they had the chance to do.
- Start opening up to new growth opportunities. – In almost every situation, a little more willingness to acknowledge that there may be something you do not know could change everything. Go somewhere new, and countless opportunities suddenly appear. Do something differently, and all sorts of great new possibilities spring up. Keep an open mind and have fun with life.
- Start turning the pages that need to be turned. – No book is just one chapter. No chapter tells the whole story. No mistake defines who we are. Keep turning the pages that need to be turned.
- Start measuring your progress every day, no matter how small. – You are a work in progress; which means you get there a little at a time, not all at once. You may not be where you want to be yet, but look how far you’ve come, and be grateful that you’re not stuck where you once were.
Every day is a new day, and you’ll never be able to find happiness if you don’t move on.
“Dilbert’s Work Rules”
- If you can’t get your work done in the first 24 hours, work nights.
- Don’t be irreplaceable, if you can’t be replaced, you can’t be promoted.
- You can go anywhere you want if you look serious and carry a clipboard.
- Keep your boss’s boss off your boss’s back.
- Everything can be filed under “miscellaneous.”
- Anyone can do any amount of work provided it isn’t the work he/she is supposed to be doing.
- Important letters that contain no errors will develop errors in the mail.
- If it wasn’t for the last minute, nothing would get done.
- When you don’t know what to do, walk fast and look worried.
Money can’t buy everything… but then again neither can no money.
A father passing by his son’s bedroom was astonished to see the bed was nicely made and everything was picked up. Then he saw an envelope propped up prominently on the center of the bed. It was addressed, “Dad”. With the worst premonition, he opened the envelope and read the letter with trembling hands:
It is with great regret and sorrow that I’m writing to you. I had to Elope with my new girlfriend because I wanted to avoid a scene with mom and you. I’ve been finding real passion with Joan and she is so nice, even with all her piercing, tattoos, and her tight Motorcycle clothes. But it’s not only the passion dad, she’s pregnant and Joan said that we will be very happy.
Even though you won’t care for her as she is so much older than I, she already owns a trailer in the woods and has a stack of firewood for the whole winter. She wants to have many more children with me and that’s now one of my dreams too.
Don’t worry Dad, I’m 15 years old now and I know how to take care of myself. Someday I’m sure we’ll be back to visit so you can get to know your grandchildren.
Your son, John
PS: Dad, none of the above is true. I’m over at the neighbor’s house. I just wanted to remind you that there are worse things in life than my report card that’s in my desk center drawer. I love you! Call when it is safe for me to come home.
The more you know, the more you know you ought to know.
Five Jewish men who influenced the history of Western civilization.
Moses said the law is everything.
Jesus said love is everything.
Marx said capital is everything.
Freud said sex is everything.
Einstein said everything is relative.
“Never apologize for showing feeling. When you do so, you apologize for the truth.”
Nancy, who was fed up with her husband’s inability to do even the simplest domestic chore, said, “Lisa taught her husband Bob to cook, clean and do laundry. If anything happens to her, he will be fine. What will you do without me?
“I will move in with Bob,” he replied.
Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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