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I think Teddy was right

Watch out for the joy-stealers: gossip, criticism, complaining, faultfinding, and a negative, judgmental attitude.

Joyce Meyer

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I have been worried lately that too many of us seem to only be able to find fault. In the political debates most seem to only throw mud suggesting no alternatives other than they could do better while providing little in rational workable solutions to today’s problems. Those who do try to offer well thought out workable solutions are shouted down by those who have no answers themselves other than dislike for the thoughtful.

In last week’s TV show the Blue Bloods actress Sami Gayle quoted Teddy Roosevelt during a family discussion around an event where her grandfather’s speech at a University was shouted down by critics that wouldn’t listen. Here is the quote.

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

There are far too many caring good men and women doing their best to keep our country great to demean their efforts. We are better than that, or at least I hope we are. I keep waiting for the process to wean out those who seem to believe that we are so gullible that we will buy their siren song.

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It is much easier to be critical than to be correct.

Benjamin Disraeli

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The little girl knelt in the confessional and said, “Bless me, Father, for I have sinned.”

“What is it, my child?”

The girl said, “Father, I have committed the sin of vanity.  Twice a day I gaze at myself in the mirror and tell myself how beautiful I am.”

The priest turned, took a good look at the girl, and said, “My dear, I have good news.  That isn’t a sin – it’s only a mistake.”

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The best way to make a long story short is to stop listening.

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Her Rules:

  • ANY woman who so much as stares at my husband will be labeled a SLUT and my network of friends will be informed immediately to spread this as quick as possible
  • I make his life miserable by making him feel guilty about doing anything other than catering to my needs.
  • It is appropriate to break into tears for no apparent reason.
  • I keep him in line by asking for help in some endeavor then become livid when it is given.

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Ambivalent? Well, yes and no.

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A census taker in a rural area went up to a farmhouse and knocked. When a woman came to the door, he asked her how many children she had and their ages.

She said, “Les’ see now, there’s the twins, Margie and Mikey, they’re eighteen. And the twins, Pam & Sam, they’re sixteen. And the twins, Sissy and Missy, they’re fourteen.”

“Hold on!” said the census taker, “Did you get twins every time?”

The woman answered, “Heck no, there were hundreds of times we didn’t get nothin’.”

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“After Mama gave birth to 12 of us kids, we put her up on a pedestal. It was mostly to keep Daddy away from her.”

Dolly Parton

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A limousine had encountered a red traffic light and was waiting for it to change when a small mini also drives up. The haughty businessman in the back of the limousine started bragging to the mini owner that his was the best car that money could buy.

“This is the best limo that money can buy. It has ABS, airbags for all passengers, automatic climate control, onboard computer control system, photo chromatic glass, mini bar, a television with satellite dish embedded in the roof, blah blah blah….”

At this point the mini owner interrupted.

“But do you have a video in there?”

The light changed at this point, and the limo driver pulled off. The businessman in back felt a bit down that he didn’t have this simple item, and that very day had one installed in the limo.

A few days passed by, and again the limo was at a traffic light when the businessman spotted the mini again. It was pulled over to a side, with the glasses all steamed up, and steam coming from a half open window. Upon seeing this, the businessman got out of his car and knocked on the window of the mini. After a few moments, the mini owner poked his head out (which was dripping with water, by the way!)

“I installed a VCR in my limo”, said the businessman proudly.

The mini-man responded:

“You got me out of the shower for THAT?”

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“Middle age is the awkward period when Father Time starts catching up with Mother Nature.”

Harold Coffin

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Signs Found In the Kitchen

*So this isn’t Home Sweet Home … Adjust!

*Ring bell for maid service. If no answer, do it yourself!

*I clean house every other day. Today is the other day.

*If you write in the dust, please don’t date it!

*I would cook dinner but I can’t find the can opener!

*A clean kitchen is the sign of a wasted life.

*My house was clean last week, too bad you missed it!

*I came, I saw, I decided to order take out.

*If you don’t like my standards of cooking … lower your standards.

*Although you’ll find our house a mess, Come in, sit down, converse.

*It doesn’t always look like this: Some days it’s even worse.

*A messy kitchen is a happy kitchen, and this kitchen is delirious.

*A balanced diet is a cookie in each hand!

*Thou shalt not weigh more than thy refrigerator.

*Blessed are they who can laugh at themselves for they shall never cease to be amused.

*Countless number of people have eaten in this kitchen and gone on to lead normal lives.

*My next house will have no kitchen … just vending machines.

*I’d live life in the fast lane, but I am married to a speed bump.

*Mother does not live here anymore, clean up your own mess.

*Martha Stewart doesn’t live here!!

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Those of us who shout the loudest about Americanism in making character assassinations are all too frequently those who, by our own words and acts, ignore some of the basic principles of Americanism: The right to criticize. The right to hold unpopular beliefs. The right to protest. The right of independent thought.

Margaret Chase Smith

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NOTE: I am off to the oral surgeon this morning to remove a molar. I am told this will take my mind off my back pain. If it does it so well that I am still benefiting from the pain there may be no Daily tomorrow.

Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

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Ever Lonly?

The most basic of all human needs is the need to understand and be understood.

Ralph Nichols

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I think I mentioned the other day my concern for how many people I meet who report that they have become lonely as the years have gone by. I don’t know if these folks are just shy or that they fear trying to make new contacts. All I do know is that we all need others if we are to truly enjoy all of our years. If you are like so many of us who could use some friendly hand holding once in a while you may benefit from the following abridged article.

5 Tips for Being More Sociable with People

By Byron Van Pelt

Learning how to become an extrovert can be a daunting task. And if you’re anything like me, just being told to “get off the couch” and “get out more” doesn’t quite seem to cut it. So I’m here to offer some tips and strategies you can implement into your life immediately to get some more results with your social life.

Understand there is Nothing Wrong With Being Introverted

First, realize that being an introvert is not necessarily a bad thing. Many people who are shy make the assumption that they’ll never be happy unless they can be comfortable going out and socializing on a regular basis. They feel that they’re a failure of some kind for being alone during specific nights. This creates a completely unfair judgement of oneself and just leads directly to unhappiness.

So it’s cool to stay in and spend time alone every now and then! The key is to do it with balance – if you’ve locked yourself away four weekends in a row, it’s time to step your game up.

Join a Social Group that Holds You Accountable

Plenty of blogs and articles in the self-help arena suggest joining clubs, classes, and programs that you are interested in to become an extrovert. I think this is an awesome idea; connecting with others with similar interests is a sure-fire way to get out more and socialize more frequently.

But there’s another key step to this tip. You need to find a group that holds you accountable. Don’t just join a group where members fade in and out over time, coming and going as they please. Join one with a level of accountability.

Maximize Your Time When You’re Being Social

When you’re out among friends, classmates, or co-workers already, leveraging your time gives you an increased amount of options for further socializing. The most convenient method of doing this is by creating or joining activities others have planned in the future.

Here’s an example: if you’re at work and winding down for the day, ask a co-worker or two what they’re doing for the weekend. Explain what you’ll be up to if you have plans. As you get a better sense of what they have going on socially and they understand what you’re up to, you open up the discussion for joining one another at a later time. You’d be surprised how many times you get invited along just by asking someone else what they plan on doing over the weekend.

Being proactive in these situations instead of keeping to yourself will give you more chances to get out of your shell and meet some new people.

Socializing is a Learnable Skill

A big reason most introverts shy away from social scenarios is because they’re not quite sure what to do to be comfortable in front of others. This is probably the #1 stumbling block for shy people who want to be more sociable with others but are terrified of doing so. In their minds, being at a party or social event can be far too daunting because this fear seems like a gigantic, unmoving, unfixable problem.

Instead of focusing on the fact that you might not know what to say or do in social contexts, think of one aspect you can work on. Maybe you’d like to practice smiling – so you remember to smile when you can throughout the event, noticing how much better you feel when you do so. Instead of going home and beating yourself up for feeling awkward, you get to reflect in the progress you made because you were focused.

Shift from Getting to Giving Value

Don’t worry, I’m not suggesting you suddenly have to become the most interesting man in the universe. You just need to shift your thinking whenever you find yourself communicating with others. Take your attention off of yourself, and the emotions you’re “getting” when spending time with another person, and put it onto what you’re giving.

Are you giving 100% of your focus and concentration to what that person is saying? Are you giving information you’ve come across that could potentially help the person? Are you giving away specific compliments to make him or her feel better? If you give enough, you will have a plethora of opportunities to get out more and have your value sought after. Your options will widen significantly, and you will find yourself becoming an extrovert.

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“There are two types of people — those who come into a room and say ‘Well, here I am!’ and those who come in and say ‘Ah, there you are’.”

Frederick Collins

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“Sorry, we don’t have potted geraniums,” the clerk said, and then added helpfully, “Could you use African violets?”

“No,” replied Ed sadly, “It was geraniums my wife told me to water while she was gone.”

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Money can’t buy happiness, but it sure makes misery easier to live with.

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A couple was having a discussion about family finances. Finally the husband exploded, “If it weren’t for my money, the house wouldn’t be here!”

His wife replied, “My dear, if it weren’t for your money, I wouldn’t be here.”

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Better to understand a little than to misunderstand a lot.

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A boy asks his father to explain the differences among irritation, aggravation, and frustration.

Dad picks up the phone and dials a number at random. When the phone is answered he asks, “Can I speak to Roger, please?”

“No! There’s no one called Roger here.” The person hangs up.

“That’s irritation,” says Dad.

He picks up the phone again, dials the same number and asks for Roger a second time.

“No, there’s no one here called Roger. Go away.

Don’t call again.”

“That’s aggravation,” says Dad.

“Then what’s ‘frustration’?” asks his son.

The father picks up the phone and dials a third time: “Hello, this is Roger. Have I received any phone calls?”

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Few women admit their age, Few men act it!

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A 16 year old girl bought herself a very tiny bikini. Very proud she came home and put it on. She then showed her mother how she looked in it. “What do you think mom.” , she asked.

Her mother replied: “If I wore that when I was your age , you would have been 5 years older.”

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You can make more friends in two months by becoming really interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you. Which is just another way of saying that the way to make a friend is to be one.

Dale Carnegie

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Another new beginning

To laugh often and much: To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends; to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you lived. This is to have succeeded.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

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I had another one of those days yesterday that wore me out and this morning I am off to a 6 AM meeting followed by other demands that will keep me busy to midday. I find that my stamina is still far from where I need it to be so canceling the cruise was a disappointment but probably a good thing.

Rather than send you something muddled I will again revisit history and send you a Daily from out of the past.

Ray’ Daily first published on November 12, 2004

It still amazes me how on-target old Ralph still is. I was thinking the other day that we should not be angry with people who see us as we really are, rather than as we think we are. I think Emerson’s checklist would help us become who we would like to be:

1.Laugh more

2.Earn the respect of people and the affection of children

3.Respond to honest criticism

4.Endure others failings

5.See the beauty around you

6.Look for the best in everyone

7.Consciously work to make the world a little better place

Do this and then move next to me, I would love to have you as my neighbor.

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When you have a taste for exceptional people, You always end up meeting them everywhere.

Mac Orlan

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Wendy sent us this:

Hymns For Us in The Over “50” Crowd

  1. ” Just A ‘Slower’ Walk With Thee”
  2. “It Is Well With My Soul”, But My Knees Hurt
  3. “Nobody Knows The Trouble I ‘Have’ Seeing”
  4. “Precious Lord, Take My Hand”, And Help Me Up
  5. “Count Your Many ‘Birthdays’, Count Them One By One”
  6. “Go Tell It On A Mountain”, But Speak Up
  7. “Give Me The Old ‘Timers’ Religion”
  8. “Blessed ‘Insurance'”
  9. “Guide Me O Thou Great Lord God”, I’ve Forgotten Where I’ve Parked The Truck

GOD BLESS US ALL YOUNG AND OLD

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“Happiness depends upon ourselves.”

Aristotle (384 BC – 322 BC)

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FIVE QUESTIONS MOST FEARED BY MEN

What makes these questions so difficult is that every one is guaranteed to explode into a major argument if the man answers incorrectly (i.e., tells the truth). Therefore, as a public service, each question is analyzed below, along with possible responses.

Question # 1: What are you thinking about?

The proper answer to this, of course, is: “I’m sorry if I’ve been pensive, dear. I was just reflecting on what a warm, wonderful, thoughtful, caring, intelligent woman you are, and how lucky I am to have met you.”

This response obviously bears no resemblance to the true answer, which most likely is one of the following: a. Baseball. b. Football.

Question # 2: Do you love me?

The proper response is: “YES!” or, if you feel a more detailed answer is in order, “Yes, dear.”

Inappropriate responses include: a. Oh Yeah. b. Would it make you feel better if I said yes? c. That depends on what you mean by love. d. Does it matter? e. Who, me?

Question # 3: Do I look fat?

The correct answer is an emphatic: “Of course not!”

Among the incorrect answers are: a. Compared to what? b. I wouldn’t call you fat, but you’re not exactly thin. c. A little extra weight looks good on you. d. I’ve seen fatter. e. Could you repeat the question?

Question # 4: Do you think she’s prettier than me?

Once again, the proper response is an emphatic: “Of course not!”

Incorrect responses include: a. Yes, but you have a better personality b. Not prettier, but definitely thinner c. Not as pretty as you when you were her age d. Define pretty e. Could you repeat the question?

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You can’t change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying over the future.

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It was the finish line of the Boston marathon. A first time runner is hobbling away, having just finished.

A grizzled old marathoner looks at him and says “You’ll feel a lot worse tomorrow.”  He pauses and then says, “But the REALLY bad news is that in about 3 days, you’re going to think you had fun today!”

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Too bad the only people who know how to run the country are busy driving cabs and cutting hair.

George Burns

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A lady on her first visit to Yellowstone National Park said to her guide, “Look at all those big rocks. Wherever did they come from?”

“The glaciers brought them down,” said the guide.

“But where are the glaciers?”

“The glaciers,” said the guide in a weary voice, “have gone back for more rocks.”

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“A computer once beat me at chess, but it was no match for me at kick boxing.”

Emo Philips

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As an act of charity, the wife of a local magistrate in a poor district of London invited a little girl from the area to tea. The girl sat down at the tea table, looked around, and then turned to her hostess. “I see you keep your house very clean,” she said. “Cleanliness is next to godliness, you know.”

The magistrate’s wife smiled at the girl and winked at her husband.

The little girl went on, “Is your husband working?”

“Of course he is!” said the lady. “Why do you ask such a strange question?”

The girl continued. “And are you both keeping off the drink?”

“Why, what an impertinent little girl you are!” cried the lady. “When you are invited to tea, you should try to behave like a lady, my child.”

“Oh, but I am trying,” replied the little girl. “When ladies visit our house, they always ask these questions.”

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I don’t mind that my grandson is earning more than I did on my first job. What disturbs me is he’s just seven, and it’s his allowance!

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When Bill’s wife ran away he got so depressed that his doctor sent him to see a psychiatrist. Bill told the psychiatrist his troubles and said, “Life isn’t worth living.”

“Don’t be stupid, Bill,” said the psychiatrist. “Let work be your salvation. I want you to totally submerge yourself in your work. Now, what do you do for a living?”

“I clean out septic tanks.” Bill replied.

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“Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside in a cloud of smoke, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming “Wow! What a Ride!”

Hunter S. Thompson

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Let’s have coffee

The eternal quest of the individual human being is to shatter his loneliness.

Norman Cousins

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On this Veterans Day I grieve for the many families who have lost loved ones due to war. Sometimes the bitter loneliness created by a families loss remains for the rest of their lives.

As time goes by we all lose friends and loved ones either through breakup, distance or death. In fact I think that the greatest illness rampant in our world today is loneliness. Too many have lost the ability to communicate with others. Some feel so much pain that they feel that reestablishing close friendships with others is too great a risk.

I am especially concerned with how many of the elderly allow their social contacts wither away without making new contacts or new friends. Someone said recently that there are so many lonely folks around that we should feel bad that we withhold our friendship even while we ourselves are lonely. If we wait for others to come to us our isolation will only worsen so it is up to us to step out and embrace those just waiting to be our friend.

Here is an edited piece that I picked up that was written for those who recovering from a breakup. I think it might help anyone who wants to find a cure for their loneliness. Just don’t sit alone and mope, we all need friends like you.

How to battle loneliness

  1. Don’t indulge in self-pity – that’s most important. Make a conscious effort to appear confident and keep smiling. Get down to watching your favorite programs on TV. Spend some time re-connecting with yourself and regaining parts of yourself that you may have lost or been neglecting lately.
  2. Visit friends and family – they can be a great comfort after a breakup. Catch up with them and allow them to take care of you and keep you company when you’re feeling down.
  3. Take a break and get out of town for a few days- A new environment will allow you to meet new people whom you might make friends with.
  4. Pick up a new hobby- Now could be a good time to do something you’ve always thought of doing. Take dance lessons. Start a blog…

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The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.

Mother Teresa

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Waiter: “Tea or coffee, gentlemen?”

1st customer: “I’ll have tea.”

2nd customer: “Me, too.  And be sure the glass is clean!”

(Waiter exits, returns)

Waiter: Two teas.  “Which one asked for the clean glass?”

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If you think things improve with age you have never attended a class reunion.

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A man, exiting a grocery store, was very surprised when a rather good-looking and perky young lady greeted him cheerfully by saying, “Good evening!” Her face was beaming. At least she was smiling until he gave her that “Who are you?” look. He couldn’t remember having ever seen her before.

Then, she obviously realized that a mistake had been made and apologized. She explained, “Oh, I’m so sorry. When I first saw you I thought you were the father of one of my children.” She walked on her way into the store.

The man was left staring dumbfounded after her. More than a bit puzzled, he thought to himself, “What is the world coming to, an attractive woman who doesn’t even keep track of what the father of her children look like. “However, he was also a bit flattered that he might resemble one of her former suitors. But, also hoped that nobody overheard her saying that she mistook him for being the father of one of her children. A bit panicked, he then thought, “Could I possibly have forgotten a relationship?” “Could it be that I really fathered a child?”

Still stunned, he walked to his car.

He did not know, of course, that she was a fifth-grade teacher at a local elementary school.

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“It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through.”

Zig Ziglar

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A mother took her daughter to the doctor and asked him to give her an examination to determine the cause of the daughter’s swollen abdomen. It only took the doctor about 2 seconds to say, “Gimme a break, lady! Your daughter is pregnant!”

The mother turned red with fury, and she argued with the doctor that *her* daughter was a good girl, and would *never* compromise her reputation by having sex with a boy.

The doctor turns around and faces the window and silently watches the horizon.

The mother becomes enraged and screams, “Doctor, would you please quit looking out the window! Aren’t you paying *any* attention to me at all?”

“Yes, of course I’m paying attention, ma’am. It’s just that… the last time this happened, a star appeared in the east, and three wise men came. I was hoping they’d show up again, and help me figure out who got your daughter pregnant!”

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I was always taught to respect my elders, but it keeps getting harder to find one.

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A very shy guy goes into a bar and sees a beautiful woman sitting at the bar. After an hour of gathering up his courage, he finally goes over to her and asks tentatively. “Umm, would you mind if I chatted with you for awhile?”

She yells at the top of her lungs, “No, I won’t sleep with you tonight!”

Everyone in the bar is now staring at them. Naturally, the guy is hopelessly and completely embarrassed and he slinks back to his table. After a few minutes, the woman walks over to him and apologizes. She smiles at him and says, “I’m sorry if I embarrassed you. You see, I’m a graduate student in psychology and I’m studying how people respond to embarrassing situations.”

At the top of his lungs, he responds, “What do you mean $200?”

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Which of my enemies told you I was paranoid?

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When my printer’s type began to grow faint, I called a local repair shop where a friendly man informed me that the printer probably needed only to be cleaned. Because the store charged $50 for such cleanings, he told me, I might be better off reading the printer’s manual and trying the job myself.

Pleasantly surprised by his candor, I asked, “Does your boss know that you discourage business?”

“Actually it’s my boss’s idea,” the employee replied sheepishly. “We usually make more money on repairs if we let people try to fix things themselves first.”

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If you want the last word in an argument, say, “You’re right.”

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A police officer stops a blonde for speeding and asks her very nicely if he could see her license. She replied in a huff, “I wish you guys would get your act together. Just yesterday you take away my license and then today you expect me to show it to you!”

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When you have nobody you can make a cup of tea for, when nobody needs you, that’s when I think life is over.

Audrey Hepburn

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Honor the good people

“We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.”

Albert Schweitzer

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Good morning. Yesterday as I spent a large amount of time canceling my cruise arrangements and ordering my travel insurance claim forms I thought about how our personal landscape changes. For weeks we had seen our travel to warmer climes with friends on the horizon only to watch it fade because of my health problems.

The gap in our calendar did provide us an opportunity to engage in looking for some more modest activities. However my mind was soon diverted as I watched my community eulogize an old friend who passed away suddenly at age 64. He was revered by many in my town for his tireless voice raised on his radio programs, in the media and in the ears of our community and political leadership. I had known him for forty years and considered him a friend. I did not see him often lately but I watched as he made a difference in the quality of life of thousands. I will miss him.

I did have some good news as two friends of mine were identified as Indiana Women of Influence in our states business paper. One is a top administrator at a major university and the other is an effective state legislator. Both have worked outside their job descriptions helping to make my city a special place. I appreciate them both and am grateful for them offering me their friendship.

Here is a story that embodies the spirit I find in these and other friends. Just think what the world would be like if we all cared this much.

Rabbi Mordechai

Rabbi Mordechai and his wife Henny have been, for the past 30 years, turning their tiny apartment into a guest house for thousands of people. Every weekend the Rabbi and his wife host meals for hundreds of guests in their small apartment. They literally cook all hours of the night to prepare enough food for everyone who comes. They also help people find places to stay.

Having spent many late Thursday nights cooking with the Rabbi’s daughters for over a hundred guests a week, I have personally witnessed the extraordinary dedication of the Rabbi and his wife. Every single week they open their house to hundreds of homeless, destitute people with nowhere else to go!

One story about Rabbi Mordechai stands out among the many. There was a homeless man who used to come to their Jerusalem apartment every week. He was extremely needy since he had lost his house. Rabbi Mordechai, who had no room left in his apartment, agreed to let this poor homeless man sleep in his (Rabbi Mordechai’s) car every night until he was able to get back on his feet! Eventually, he just gave the man his car for good.

The incredible kindness they have shown to thousands of people is unreal. The amount of dedication they have put in is something that has to be seen to be believed.

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“Let us be kinder to one another.”

Aldous Huxley

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He said:

  • Because I’m a man, when the car isn’t running very well, I will pop the hood and stare at the engine as if I know what I’m looking at. If another man shows up, one of us will say to the other, “I used to be able to fix these things, but now with all these computers and everything, I wouldn’t, know where to start.” We will then drink beer.
  • Because I’m a man, when I catch a cold, I need someone to bring me soup and take care of me while I lie in bed and moan. You’re a woman. You never get as sick as I do, so for you this isn’t a problem.
  • Because I’m a man, I can be relied upon to purchase basic groceries at the store, like milk or bread. I cannot be expected to find exotic items like “cumin” or “tofu.” For all I know, these are the same thing. And never, under any circumstances, expect me to pick up anything for which “feminine hygiene product” is a euphemism.
  • Because I’m a man, when one of our appliances stops working, I will insist on taking it apart, despite evidence that this will just cost me twice as, much once the repair person gets here and has to put it back together.
  • Because I’m a man, I must hold the television remote control in my hand while I watch TV. If the thing has been misplaced, I may miss a whole show looking for it (though one time I was able to survive by holding a calculator).
  • Because I’m a man, you don’t have to ask me if I liked the movie. Chances are, if you’re crying at the end of it, I didn’t.
  • Because I’m a man, and this is, after all, the year 2015, I will share equally in the housework. You just do the laundry, the cooking, the gardening, the cleaning, the vacuuming, and the dishes, and I’ll do the rest.

This has been a public service message for Women to Better Understand the Male.

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“Husbands are awkward things to deal with; even keeping them in hot water will not make them tender.”

Mary Lorraine Buckley

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She said: My husband went on a sudden business trip, and I accompanied him. It soon became apparent that he could not wrap things up in one day, so his employer put us up for the night in a luxury hotel. We found a convenience store and purchased toothbrushes, a razor and other necessary items.

Finally we entered the lobby of the hotel, each of us toting a brown paper bag filled with supplies. The hotel manager looked us over.

Raising an eyebrow, he intoned haughtily, “Matched luggage?”

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A liberal education makes your mind a pleasant place to spend your leisure time.

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When the car engine developed a slight knock, Bob asked his wife if she had bought special or regular gas, but she couldn’t remember. “You probably got the cheaper gas,” he said. “That could account for the roughness of the engine.”

“No, the gas wasn’t cheaper!” she replied indignantly. “It cost the same as always. I told the man to put in the usual ten dollars worth.”

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If you look like your passport picture, you probably need the trip.

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A southern Baptist minister was completing a temperance sermon. With great emphasis he said, “If I had all the beer in the world, I’d take it and pour it into the river.”

With even greater emphasis he said, “And if I had all the wine in the world, I’d take it and pour it into the river.”

And then finally, shaking his fist in the air, he said, “And if I had all the whiskey in the world, I’d take it and pour it into the river.” Sermon complete, he then sat down.

The song leader stood very cautiously and announced with a smile, “For our closing song, let us sing Hymn #365, Shall We Gather at the River.”

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“I still miss those I loved who are no longer with me but I find I am grateful for having loved them. The gratitude has finally conquered the loss.”

Rita Mae Brown

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Some days are better than others

“Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal; it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it.”

Eliza Tabor

! disappointment

As I age I am learning new skills, some are OK others only have value as character builders, which means leaning to deal with disappointment. Lately I have become a prolific canceler. I have canceled my attendance at a Frank Sinatra Junior’s presentation in honor of his dads 100th birthday. I also canceled my trip on the Belle of Louisville paddle wheeler and a trip to Ohio for lunch and a play. Toughest of all was yesterday when I had to cancel a week long Caribbean cruise with friends.

These were major disappointments, but attending while being somewhat disabled would have been worse. By not cruising next week I don’t have to delay some tests, a molar extraction and a few other things that will help take my mind off of my regrets.

I have cruised more than thirty times so I have enough memories that missing one more is not critical, but missing seeing my friends is a major disappointment. They live in another state and I am hoping we will find a way to meet one more time in the not too distant future.

A while ago Marc Chernoff sent me a piece he wrote for times like this. Here in part is what he offered:

Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Stress

The key is detachment – letting go of the life you expected, so you can make the best of the life that’s waiting for you.  It’s not easy, but it’s worth it.  Here are six strategies for making this happen:

Create some healthy space for yourself. – Sometimes you are just too close to the puzzle to see the big picture.  You need to take a few steps back to gain clarity on the situation.  The best way to do this is to simply take a short break – a breather – a vacation – and explore something else for a little while.  Why?  So you can return to where you started and see things with a new set of eyes.  And the people there may see you differently too.  Returning where you started is entirely different than never leaving.

Accept the truth and practice being grateful for what is. – To let go is to be grateful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and helped you learn and grow.  It’s the acceptance of everything you have, everything you once had, and the possibilities that lie ahead.  It’s all about finding the strength to embrace life’s challenges and changes, to trust your intuition, to learn as you go, to realize that every experience has value, and to continue taking positive steps forward.

Concentrate only on what can be changed. – Realize that not everything in life is meant to be modified or perfectly understood.  Live, let go, learn what you can and don’t waste energy worrying about the things you can’t change.  Focus exclusively on what you can change.  And if you can’t change something that’s upsetting you, change the way you think about it.  Review your options and then re-frame what you don’t like into a starting point for achieving something different in your life.

Make the NOW the primary focus of your life. – Now is the moment.  The past is just a memory.  The future is a mental projection.  You can choose to dwell back in the past for learning and joyous reflection.  You can choose to dwell in the future for visualization and practical planning.  However, any time your awareness floats away to the past or future frequently for negative purposes, you are suffocating your ability to thrive in the only moment you ever have… the NOW.  Past and future literally do not exist right now – feel the freedom in this truth.

Embrace your quirks, your mistakes, and the fact that life is a lesson. – Life is a ride.  Things change, people change, but you will always be YOU; so stay true to yourself and never sacrifice who you are for anyone or anything.  You have to dare to be yourself, in this moment, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.  It’s about realizing that even on your weakest days you get a little bit stronger, if you’re willing to learn.  Which is why, sometimes the greatest thing to come out of all your trouble and hard work isn’t what you get, but what you become.

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“The size of your success is measured by the strength of your desire; the size of your dream; and how you handle disappointment along the way.”

Robert Kiyosaki

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Three blondes had just bought a can of Pepsi One and were anxious to try it for the first time. So the first blonde opened the can and then the second blonde poured it into three glasses. The third blonde eyed the three glasses suspiciously and said, “I wonder which one has the calorie?”

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“Be faithful in small things because it is in them that your strength lies.”

Mother Teresa of Calcutta

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Ways to Deal with Stress

When someone says “have a nice day”, tell them you have other plans.

Make a list of things to do that you have already done.

Leaf through “National Geographic” and draw underwear on the natives.

Start a nasty rumor and see if you recognize it when it comes back to you.

Make up a language and ask people for directions in it.

Bill your doctor for time spent in his waiting room.

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You never get tired if you rest a lot in advance.

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Soon after marriage, Terri’s husband, Colby stopped wearing his wedding ring.  Terri asked, “Why don’t you ever wear your wedding band?”

Colby replied, “It cuts off my circulation.”

Terri answered back, “It’s supposed to!”

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Could it be that the people who have nothing to say are the ones we should listen to?

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Laws Of Slow People

  1. Slow people always walk side by side, even if they don’t know each other.
  2. They drive side by side, too. If they can’t find another slow driver to pair up with, they drive in the fast lane.
  3. Slow walkers never look back. When they drive, they never look in their rearview mirrors, either.
  4. Slow people drift sideways, so they will block the path of anyone trying to pass them. If two people, or vehicles, are trying to get around the slow people at the same time, the slow people drift into the path of the one who is moving at the highest speed.
  5. Follow behind a slow person in the grocery store and you’ll wind up with soggy ice cream every time.

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Health nuts are going to feel stupid someday, lying in hospitals dying of nothing.

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I hate the idea of going under the knife. So I was very upset when the doctor told me I needed a tonsillectomy.  Later, the nurse and I were filling out an admission form. I tried to respond to the questions, but I was so nervous I couldn’t speak.  The nurse patted my hand and said, “Don’t worry. This medical problem can easily be fixed, and it’s not a dangerous procedure.”

“You’re right. I’m being silly,” I said, “Please continue.”

“Good,” the nurse went on, “Now, do you have a living will?”

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“There’s always failure. And there’s always disappointment. And there’s always loss. But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.”

Michael J. Fox

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

How will your day be?

It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes happiness.

Charles Spurgeon

! good-day

I remember when my wife and I seemed to live from one major event to another. It might be a cruise, a trip to another state, a major theatrical event or the like. As of late our activities are often controlled by what is thrust upon us. Illness, cancelled trips and the slowing down of friends can make later life look humdrum, gray and dull. In truth we end up living day-to-day dealing with whatever comes our way.

It may not seem all that exciting but what it does do is let us appreciate the little things more and especially appreciate the goodness of the people around us. We may not spend as much time in Adventureland but we do appreciate the comforts of home and the folks who warm our hearts.

What about you? Do you enjoy your days? If you would like to appreciate them more the following edited article may provide the answer.

5 Fun Ways to Fall In Love With Your Everyday Life

By Dr. Kate Siner

If you find that each of your days fade into the next, remember: Nothing is wrong with your life and nothing is wrong with you! It’s just that in reality — some of life is just not that exciting. However, you can do some simple things to shake things up, break the rut, and put some “WOW” into our normal, ordinary days. In other words: To really get the most out of life, we need to learn to make the most out of life.

Doing this is easier and more fun than you might expect. Best of all, it doesn’t require that you climb a mountain or win the lottery to achieve it. So here are five fun ways to love the life you’re living right here, right now:

Celebrate the super small stuff

We’re the “meaning makers” of our life. If we don’t create meaning, appreciate the little things, celebrate our wins, and mourn our losses, then regardless of how good it gets nothing is going to feel that special.

There are some celebrations that you probably already observe (like birthdays and major holidays), but how do you celebrate your little wins? What goal did you reach that’s deserving of a high-five? Know that when you get a tiny raise, work out faithfully for a month, spend two years at a job, or even adopt a dog … it all matters. So, dedicate time to celebrating you and the ones you love.

Accept a fun challenge

When you look back on your life, you might notice that some of your most challenging times become the most meaningful. Challenges make us focus, think, and call on resources that we didn’t know we had. Overcoming a challenge helps us feel significant and accomplished.

Pick something that you’d like achieve and set a goal for yourself. Or, take a risk to start something you’ve always wanted to do but have been afraid to try. And when you reach your goal — that’s right — celebrate it! Whether it’s learning a language, building a backyard deck, or finally organizing your online photos into albums, set a goal and make a game of achieving it.

Notice what a wonderful world you live in

One of the fastest ways to create meaning in your life is to look for things you’re grateful for. So play a little “I-Spy” with your life. Call out what you already appreciate at home, at work, or with friends. Take a moment during breakfast or dinner to turn to a loved one (or friend) and tell them one thing you’re grateful for, excited about, or intrigued by from your day.

Another approach is to tell one person per week how grateful you are for them or something that they’ve done. The great thing here is that when you express your gratitude, while those around you feel appreciated and noticed. It’s a win for all involved.

Get curious when things don’t go as expected

Most of us have unconscious expectations about how the details of our lives “should” go down. At the very least, we all have hopes that our lives will turn out in a particular way. When you’re preoccupied with comparing what you have against what you think you should have, you’re not able to appreciate what you have for what it is. It’s that simple.

But let’s get real here. Paying attention to what actually IS working in your day-to-day life is not about adopting a fake, sunny disposition about a crappy job or a hard situation. It’s about getting clear on what’s important to you and learning how to find it in your current situation.

Remember to feel your way through life

When we’re bored or checked out, that’s our reminder to check back in and ask ourselves, “What is it that I want to feel and how can I bring more of it into my day?”

One good way to move into each day is starting off in bed each morning asking yourself how you’d like to feel that day. How would you like to feel as you move through it? If there’s a hard or challenging aspect of your day ahead, see if you can come up with a way to deal with it that handles the situation but also feels best for you.

As you go forward, build on and develop these five skills to start adding more actual enjoyment to your daily life. But, don’t worry if you have some days where you feel flat. It’s normal. Remember that you can always wake up tomorrow and ask yourself, “What would I like today to feel like?”

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In seed time learn, in harvest teach, in winter enjoy.

William Blake

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A golfer is in a competitive match with a friend, who is ahead by a couple of strokes. The golfer says to himself, ‘I’d give anything to sink this next putt.’ A stranger walks up to him and whispers, ‘Would you give up a fourth of your sex life?’

The golfer thinks the man is crazy and that his answer will be meaningless, but also that perhaps this is a good omen, so he says, ‘Okay,’ and sinks the putt. Two holes later he mumbles to himself, ‘Boy, if I could only get an eagle on this hole.’ The same stranger moves to his side and says, ‘Would it be worth another fourth of your sex life?’

The golfer shrugs and says, ‘Sure.’ He makes an eagle. On the final hole, the golfer needs yet another eagle to win. Though he says nothing, the stranger moves to his side and says, ‘Would you be willing to give up the rest of your sex life to win this match?’

The golfer says, ‘Certainly!’ He makes the eagle.

As the golfer walks to the club house, the stranger walks alongside and says, ‘You know, I’ve really not been fair with you because you don’t know who I am. I’m the devil, and from now on you will have no sex life.’

‘Nice to meet you,’ says the golfer. ‘My name’s Father O’Malley.’

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Someday we’ll look back on all this and plow into a parked car.

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Some billboards gained attention in Cleveland.  Some reported seeing one or two messages, but the newspaper listed all of them. Here’s a list of all variations of the “God Speaks” billboards.  The billboards are a simple black background with white text.  No fine print or sponsoring organization is included.  These are awesome…enjoy.

Let’s meet at my house Sunday before the game. -God

C’mon over and bring the kids. -God

What part of “Thou Shalt Not…” didn’t you understand? -God

That “Love Thy Neighbor” thing… I meant it. -God

Will the road you’re on get you to my place? -God

You think it’s hot here? -God

Have you read my #1 best seller?  There will be a test. -God

Do you have any idea where you’re going? -God

Don’t make me come down there. -God

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If I were you, who’d be me?

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He said:

… she has an uncanny way of standing between me and the television screen. Bases loaded, two strikes, three balls. The crowd goes wild, the pitch flies, and all I can see is her back side.

Howard, Dodge City, Kan.

… what’s mine is hers. I buy her negligees; she sleeps in my T-shirts. When she’s cold she wears my wool socks to bed, never her own. She steals my half-used razors; new ones are too sharp. She even wears my boxers. I’m tempted to switch to briefs just to see what she’d do.

Dave, Martha’s Vineyard, Mass.

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“Each new day is a blank page in the diary of your life. The secret of success is in turning that diary into the best story you possibly can.”

Douglas Pagels

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

Ray’s Daily has been sent for more than fifteen years to people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

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