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I will keep going

“It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.”

William Shakespeare

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Here we go again. I will spend another day waiting for the steroids and pain pills to let me cross the bridge to a more normal existence. I will get the added benefit of visiting with one of my Doctors this afternoon so we can plan the next steps to my recovery. The length of the time to go semi-painless was to be expected so I just have to keep going and not get bogged down.

Here is an article that I edited that is in the spirit of what my day must be.

6 Habits That Will Help You on Days When You Just Feel Like Giving Up

by Henrik Edberg

I’d like to share 6 habits that have helped me to hold on or to change direction on those difficult days.

Tap into realistic expectations. Tap into realistic expectations not by listening to advertising that promises you quick results. Not by listening to the perfectionism – from the people around you or yourself – that allows no mistakes or failures.

Tap into it by listening to the people who have already gone where you want to go. Listen to the people who know what works and how you will stumble and fail along the way and can tell you how long your journey may take.

Remind yourself why you are doing this. It’s easy to lose the big picture in the busy everyday life. But if you feel like giving up then try reconnecting with why you are doing what you are doing.

Maybe it is to:

  • Support and keep your family safe.
  • Live healthier and longer so you get to watch your kids grow up.
  • See the world and explore new things.

Remember: It’s darkest before the dawn. This thought has helped me to hold on when things have felt very difficult and I felt like giving up and going home. Because I have found it to be true.

When things seemed to be at the lowest point with my blog and business, with my dating life or with my motivation in life in general something always happened. Probably quite often because being at that low point forced me to change something in how I did things. But maybe also because life seems to have some kind of balance if I just keep going. If I just keep taking action instead of giving up and doing nothing then something good always happens.

Reconnect with the basics or change the path. When I have run into a plateau or a longer rough patch these two things have been helpful:

Simplify and reconnect with the basics. It is easy to become overwhelmed by all the information out there about any change you can make in life. That can lead to confusion and trying to do too many things at once.  In those situations it has been helpful for me to simplify. To just focus on a few or one of the things I have learned that are the basic fundamentals in this area of life. To improve my social skills those things were for example to keep a positive attitude and to assume rapport.

Learn more and course-correct. Reconnecting with the basics often works well. But sometimes it has been helpful to change my course slightly instead.

Tell yourself: Just for today! Here’s a little phrase I got from Brian Tracy that I often use when I’m having a bad day with a new habit. I say to myself: Just for today I will XX! Replace XX with what you will do just for today such as getting exercise, getting going with the most important task first thing in the day or eating a healthy lunch. By telling myself that I only have to do it today I get two big benefits:

  • I release the mental burden of the past times I did it and future times when I will do it. And so the task becomes much lighter and the inner resistance melts away.
  • It also reminds me that the period that I am investing in changing a habit is not the rest of my life. After 30 days or so the habit will mostly be automatic so it is not something I have to do on willpower for the next few years or decades.

See if it is time to quit and to try something else. Sometimes it is not time to give up. But it may be time to quit what you are doing and to try something else. If you feel like giving up or you are bored a lot, if you feel no real passion or excitement or curiosity about a change or your current path then ask yourself these two questions:

  • Am doing this because I truly want it?
  • Or am I doing it because someone told me to or because so many people around me seem to have done it or are working on it?

What you want isn’t easy to know before you get started though. You may need to try different paths before you find one that fits you. And just because everyone around you seem to love running doesn’t mean that you have to love it or that you have to give up on the habit of regular exercise. Try walking, biking, playing badminton or table tennis instead. Try a new way of doing what you want and see if it is a better fit and more enjoyable for you.


If you’re going through hell, keep going.

Winston Churchill


Biological Differences

Even though we can now explain differences between men and women’s social conducts genetically (that’s the best excuse I’ve heard for years), several facts remain puzzling, and distinguished professors in the field think answer may be a few centuries away yet…for instance, can you explain why:

  • Men are biologically incapable of letting a women light a barbecue.
  • Men drive to a party, women drive back.
  • Men have flu, women have colds.
  • Men warm their posteriors at the fire, women do not. Women’s posteriors enable them to sit comfortably on the floor, men’s do not.
  • A man who regularly visits his mother is a mommy’s boy. A women who does the same is a good daughter.
  • A man who has no difficulty in undressing an adult women will nevertheless prove incapable of fitting a small child into a nightgown.
  • A woman believes that visitors will be impressed by a clean house. A man believes that the visitors will be impressed with his large stereo system.
  • Exactly the same haircut will cost $30 more for a woman than it will for a man.


It’s a Tough Job! ….. So I’d Rather YOU do it.


On some air bases the Air Force is on one side of the field and civilian aircraft use the other side of the field, with the control tower in the middle. One day the tower received a call from an aircraft asking, “What time is it?”

The tower responded, “Who is calling?”

The aircraft replied, “What difference does it make?”

The tower replied, “It makes a lot of difference. If it is an American Airlines Flight, it is 3 o’clock. If it is an Air Force, it is 1500 hours. If it is a Navy aircraft, it is 6 bells. If it is an Army aircraft, the big hand is on the 12 and the little hand is on the 3. If it is a Marine Corps aircraft, it’s Thursday afternoon.”


I saw a woman wearing a sweatshirt with ‘GUESS’ on it. I said,  “Thyroid problem?”


A story concerns itself with a wholesaler in New York who sent a letter to the postmaster of a small mid-western town. He asked for the name of an honest lawyer who would take a collection case against a local debtor who had refused to pay for a shipment of the wholesaler’s goods. He got this reply:

“Dear Sir:

“I am the postmaster of this village and received your letter. I am also an honest lawyer and ordinarily would be pleased to accept a case against a local debtor. In this case, however, I also happen to be the person you sold those crummy goods to. I received your demand to pay and refused to honor it. I am also the banker you sent the draft to draw on the merchant, and I sent that back with a note stating that the merchant had refused to pay. And if I were not, for the time being, substituting for the pastor of our local church, I would tell you just where you could stick your claim.”


Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenges, wish for more wisdom. The major value in life is not what you get. The major value in life is what you become. Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person you become.

Jim Rohn


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.


Take at least three a day

A good laugh heals a lot of hurts.

Madeleine L’Engle

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Good morning everyone, I am semi-back after my medical day yesterday. After a series of tests in the hospital they determined I am suffering from Lumbar Stenosis, which in non-medical terms is – “Boy I bet that hurts a lot.” And you know what, it does. So today I am on steroids and narcotic pain pills.

The good news, besides getting a lot of sympathy, is that we can now work out a plan to minimize the impact on my activities. I am learning that growing old gracefully is more an art than a science, I just wish sometimes that I was getting less practice. At least I have an excuse to spend more time with the good folks.

While I probably won’t be dancing the jig with you at Octoberfest I will be watching and enjoying the antics. In fact I am scheduled to do just that soon on a short river cruise where I will again learn that laughter is great medicine.

Stress relief from laughter? It’s no joke

By Mayo Clinic Staff

Whether you’re guiltily guffawing at an episode of “South Park” or quietly giggling at the latest New Yorker cartoon, laughing does you good. Laughter is a great form of stress relief, and that’s no joke. A good sense of humor can’t cure all ailments, but data are mounting about the positive things laughter can do.

Short-term benefits

A good laugh has great short-term effects. When you start to laugh, it doesn’t just lighten your load mentally, it actually induces physical changes in your body. Laughter can:

  • Stimulate many organs. Laughter enhances your intake of oxygen-rich air, stimulates your heart, lungs and muscles, and increases the endorphins that are released by your brain.
  • Activate and relieve your stress response. A rollicking laugh fires up and then cools down your stress response and increases your heart rate and blood pressure. The result? A good, relaxed feeling.
  • Soothe tension. Laughter can also stimulate circulation and aid muscle relaxation, both of which help reduce some of the physical symptoms of stress.

Long-term effects

Laughter isn’t just a quick pick-me-up, though. It’s also good for you over the long haul. Laughter may:

  • Improve your immune system. Negative thoughts manifest into chemical reactions that can affect your body by bringing more stress into your system and decreasing your immunity. In contrast, positive thoughts actually release neuropeptides that help fight stress and potentially more-serious illnesses.
  • Relieve pain. Laughter may ease pain by causing the body to produce its own natural painkillers. Laughter may also break the pain-spasm cycle common to some muscle disorders.
  • Increase personal satisfaction. Laughter can also make it easier to cope with difficult situations. It also helps you connect with other people.
  • Improve your mood. Many people experience depression, sometimes due to chronic illnesses. Laughter can help lessen your depression and anxiety and make you feel happier.


A good laugh and a long sleep are the best cures in the doctor’s book.

Irish Proverb


Ken and Melba had finished their breakfast at the retirement home and were relaxing in the library. “You know,” said Melba, “today, in most marriage ceremonies, they don’t use the word ‘obey’ anymore.”

“Too bad, isn’t it?” retorted Ken. “It used to lend a little humor to the occasion.”


Some mistakes are too much fun to only make once.


As you know I spend a lot of time with medical professionals, sometimes for treatment and sometimes just for friendship. In order to converse intelligently it is important that I am well versed in the medical jargon. These are the latest words I have learned.

Medical terms?

~ Artery: The study of painting

~ Bacteria: The back door of the cafeteria

~ Barium: What doctors do when their patients die

~ Caesarean Section: A neighborhood in Rome

~ Cauterize: To make eye contact with a girl

~ Fibula: A small lie

~ Nitrates: Cheaper than day rates

~ Outpatient: A patient who fainted

~ Recovery Room: A place to do upholstery

~ Terminal: Where the planes land

~ Urine: Opposite of “you’re out”

~ Vein: To be conceited


“Old minds are like old horses; you must exercise them if you wish to keep them in working order.”

John Quincy Adams


The hit-and-run victim was just getting to his feet when a policeman ran up to help.

“My mother-in-law just tried to run me over!” the shaken man told the cop.

“The car hit you from behind,” the officer said. “How could you tell it was your mother-in-law?”

“I recognized her laugh!”


Anything is possible, unless it’s not.


Mrs. Jones called the doctor’s office and was met with this response by the secretary. “This is Dr. Whitman’s office.  What would you like to talk about?”

Mrs. Jones was disturbed by this response and replied sarcastically, “I want to order a hamburger with fries.  Why would I call a doctor if I didn’t feel sick?  I’m very sick.  I need to see the doctor.”

“Fine,” replied the secretary, “I can make an appointment for you. Let me see, ahhhh yes, I have an appointment one week from next Friday.”

“Great,” said Mrs. Jones, “I’ll have my mortician drop me off then!”


Wrinkles should merely indicate where the smiles have been.

Mark Twain


In my sociology class, we were instructed to write down answers to some questions the teacher was asking.  “Next question,” announced the instructor. “How would you like to be seen by the opposite sex?”

I was thinking about my answer when the young woman next to me turned and asked, “How do you spell ‘intellectual?'”


“Your sense of humor is one of the most powerful tools you have to make certain that your daily mood and emotional state support good health.”

Paul E. McGhee, Ph.D.


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Good and Bad

“Your work is to discover your world and then with all your heart give yourself to it.”



Yesterday was one of those good and bad days. The good was a CNN article on my grandnephew’s photo series (http://www.cnn.com/2015/10/12/living/looking-at-phone-removed-photo-feat/index.html) that is getting a big play on social media. Erik is a highly regarded photo artist and provides myself and others a way to see the world thru his eyes.

The bad news was that I threw my back out and was bedridden most of the day with pain. It persists this morning and the plan is for me to go to the hospital in a few hours to see what is going on.. Since I have had little sleep and want to go back to bed I am sending you another reprint.

Ray’s Daily first published on October 14, 2010

A friend said to me the other day that his family was concerned about his having enough to do after he retired. I should have offered him some of my stuff since I am a little capacity challenged right now. I know yesterday that I said it was a good idea to walk away from some of what is too much only to find myself trapped by must-be-dones. My current major job is finding a replacement distribution method for the hundreds of readers who have been receiving the Daily via Google Groups. Can you believe that Google is shutting down the service without even asking me if it was all right to do so.

Sometimes I think there was less work when I had a job especially since my opportunities-for-service cup runneth over. But I know this too will pass and all will be well in Rayland soon.

So why do it, you ask, why worry if a few hundred miss the Daily? It is because I don’t want to loose the connection with them. I have already heard from a number of my Google readers that I hold in high regard, some that I had not heard from for a year or more and now I have. Many are working to make the world a better place both here and abroad and if the Daily occasionally brightens their day then it is all worth it.

We all face tasks that seem too burdensome on occasion and it is then when we get to let them get us down or we use them to invigorate us to action. Here is something Ralph Marston wrote that says what I mean better than I can.

A good enough reason

Give yourself a good enough reason and you can get yourself to do whatever must be done. Give yourself a meaningful enough reason why, and it will happen.

Make yourself an offer that you can’t refuse. Give yourself a reason that you cannot resist.

In an instant you can go from apathetic and unmotivated to enthusiastic and energetic. All you have to do is find that raw nerve of authentic desire, and touch it.

Allow yourself to want what you really want. Then allow yourself to be driven by that desire.

Every possibility is open to you. Latch on to one so positive and compelling that it won’t leave you alone until you make it happen.

Give yourself a good enough reason and you’ll give yourself plenty of motivation. Give yourself a good enough reason and you’ll have no trouble moving quickly and decisively forward.


“A positive attitude may not solve every problem but it makes solving any problem a more pleasant experience.”

Grant Fairley


After being interviewed by the school administration, the eager teaching prospect said: “Let me see if I’ve got this right. You want me to go into that room with all those kids, and fill their every waking moment with a love for learning. And I’m supposed to instill a sense of pride in their ethnicity, modify their disruptive behavior, observe them for signs of abuse and even censor their T-shirt messages and dress habits.

“You want me to wage a war on drugs and sexually transmitted diseases, check their backpacks for weapons of mass destruction, and raise their self esteem. You want me to teach them patriotism, good citizenship, sportsmanship, fair play, how to register to vote, how to balance a checkbook, and how to apply for a job. “I am to check their heads for lice, maintain a safe environment, recognize signs of antisocial behavior, offer advice, write letters of recommendation for student employment and scholarships, encourage respect for the cultural diversity of others, and oh, make sure that I give the girls in my class fifty percent of my attention.

“My contract requires me to work on my own time after school, evenings and weekends grading papers. Also, I must spend my summer vacation at my own expense working toward advance certification and a Masters degree. And on my own time you want me to attend committee and faculty meetings, PTA meetings, and participate in staff development training. “I am to be a paragon of virtue, larger than life, such that my very presence will awe my students into being obedient and respectful of authority. And I am to pledge allegiance to family values and this current administration.

“You want me to incorporate technology into the learning experience, monitor web sites, and relate personally with each student. That includes deciding who might be potentially dangerous and/or liable to commit a crime in school. “I am to make sure all students pass the mandatory state exams, even those who don’t come to school regularly or complete any of their assignments. Plus, I am to make sure that all of the students with handicaps get an equal education regardless of the extent of their mental or physical handicap. And I am to communicate regularly with the parents by letter, telephone, newsletter and report card.

“All of this I am to do with just a piece of chalk, a computer, a few books, a bulletin board, a big smile AND on a starting salary that qualifies my family for food stamps! “You want me to do all of this and yet you expect me. . . . . . .NOT TO PRAY?”


“Dreaming permits each and every one of us to be quietly and safely insane every night of our lives.”

Charles William Dement


Top Ten Reasons Why It’s Great To Be A Dog

  1. If it itches, you can reach it, no matter where it itches.
  2. No one notices if you have hair growing in weird places as you get older.
  3. Personal hygiene is a blast: No one expects you to take a bath every day, and you don’t even have to comb your own hair.
  4. Having a wet nose is considered a sign of good health.
  5. No one thinks less of you for burping. Some people might actually think you’re cute.
  6. Who needs a big home entertainment system? A bone or an old shoe can entertain you for hours.
  7. You can spend hours just smelling stuff.
  8. No one ever expects you to pay for lunch or dinner. You never have to worry about table manners, and if you gain weight, it’s someone else’s fault.
  9. It doesn’t take much to make you happy. You’re always excited to see the same old people. All they have to do is leave the room for five minutes and come back.
  10. Every garbage can looks like a cold buffet to you.


Commonsense and good nature will do a lot to make the pilgrimage of life not too difficult.

Somerset Maugham


An astronomer is on an expedition to Africa to observe a total eclipse of the sun. He’s captured by cannibals. The eclipse is due the next day around noon. To gain his freedom he plans to pose as a god and threaten to extinguish the sun if he’s not released, but his timing has to be perfect. So, in the few words of the cannibals’ primitive tongue that he knows, he asks his guard when they plan to kill him.

The guard’s answer is, “Tradition has it that captives are to be killed when the sun reaches the highest point in the sky on the day after their capture so that they may be cooked and ready to be served for the evening meal.”

“Great,” the astronomer replies.

The guard continues. “But because everyone’s so excited about it, in your case we’re going to wait until after the eclipse.”


Far and away the best prize that life has to offer is the chance to work hard at work worth doing.

Theodore Roosevelt


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Action Required

Opportunities are like sunrises. If you wait too long, you miss them.

William Arthur Ward

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I have been struggling a little lately as I have had to adjust to a less active life style. Some has been due to aging and some due to my unwillingness to commit to activities that I may not be able to do.

As an example I have not really done much for my Kiwanis Club lately and have even been tempted to give up my membership after nearly four decades since I don’t feel I am doing enough. I stay though because first I would miss my friends there and secondly it would leave a big hole in my weekly activities if I left.

What I need to do is take some action to do things that I can do and not procrastinate. Wouldn’t you know it yesterday someone sent me the following, I think I know why they did.

The Five Biggest Obstacles to Taking Action

By David Riklan

One of my favorite quotes comes from Will Rogers, who used to say, “Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there”.

BUT, there’s a big challenge with “Taking Action,” and probably with all of the steps to success. Everybody knows you have to take action to get things done. That’s no secret. So we all know it, but most of us don’t do it.

We all know that we have to exercise regularly to stay in shape, but most of us don’t do it. I want to share with you an unbelievable number. Federal statistics say about 60 percent of American adults are not regularly active, and about 25 percent are totally inactive. They don’t do anything at all. Think about it. We all know that if we read more, we’ll learn more, but we don’t do it. We know that we need to take action, but we’re not doing it. Why not? There are a few reasons. Think about which ones are stopping you.


  1. The first is fear: fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of success.
  2. Another reason is plain laziness. Sometimes, it’s easier to sit and turn on the TV.
  3. One more reason is complacency. If you think that life is good enough and adequate, why change and risk it getting worse?
  4. Another reason is bad habits. If we are in the habit of doing nothing, we’ll keep doing nothing.
  5. A final reason is despair. Many people are of the mindset that they’ve already tried to take action before and it didn’t work. Why should I do it now?

So, we all know that we need to take action. What’s stopping you? Fear, laziness, complacency, bad habits or despair? Now, I am going to ask you to take a minute to write down what’s stopping you from taking action. You can write it down on a piece of paper or comment at the bottom of this article.

Take a moment to write them down and read them.


Fear seems like a very legitimate reason to stop action. Many people have all sorts of fears, and many times these fears stop us in out tracks. Almost all of us have fears, and some are rational fears, such as going into a high crime rate neighborhood late at night by yourself. That’s a fairly rational fear. You should be afraid to do that. And some aren’t quite as rational. We know which ones these are.

There is a simple process that you can follow that often helps dealing with fear. When fear is stopping your action, take a cognitive approach.


QUESTION # 1: What is the worst possible outcome of your action, in this situation? What do you really fear? Maybe you’ll lose your job, or lose the woman or man of your dreams. Maybe the presentation won’t go well, or maybe you’re afraid that you will just look bad. Take a hard look at your fear. Is it justified? It is rational? Can you live with the outcome?

QUESTION # 2: Ask yourself what you can achieve by taking this action. What are the benefits? What is the best possible outcome?

QUESTION # 3: Now, the final step. Ask yourself the following question: Does the benefit outweigh the risk? If the answer is an overwhelming no, then don’t do it. If the answer is yes, take the action. Move ahead.

Now, give yourself a few minutes to think about this process as it applies to your own fears. What do you fear? What’s the worst thing that can happen? What’s the best thing? Does the benefit outweigh the risk? Think about for a minute. Now write down the answers to these questions and read them.


As a follow-up, I am asking everybody to think about one specific action that you are going to take after reading this to improve your life, and then take it. If you do nothing else, at least do this.


You don’t drown by falling in water. You drown by staying there.


Fathers Of 1900 vs Fathers Today

In 1900, fathers prayed their children would learn English. Today, fathers pray their children will speak English.

In 1900, if a father put a roof over his family’s head, he was a success. Today, it takes a roof, deck, pool, and 4-car garage. And that’s just the vacation home.

In 1900, fathers could count on children to join the family business. Today, fathers pray their kids will soon come home from college long enough to teach them how to work the computer.

In 1900, fathers shook their children awake and said, “Wake up, it’s time to do the milking and chores before school.” Today, kids shake their fathers awake at 4 a.m. shouting, “Wake up, it’s time for hockey practice.”

In 1900, a father came home from work to find his wife and children at the supper table. Today, a father comes home to a note. “Jimmy’s at baseball, Cindy’s at gymnastics, I’m at gym, Pizza in fridge.”

In 1900, a father gave a pencil box for Christmas, and the kid was all smiles. Today, a father spends $800 at Toys ‘R’ Us, and the kid screams, “I wanted PlayStation!”


Someday we’re going to look back at all of this and tape over it.


A distinguished clergyman and a friend were playing golf.  It was a very close match, and at the last hole the clergyman teed up, addressed the ball, and swung his driver with great force.  The ball, instead of sailing down the fairway, merely rolled off the tee and settled slowly some twelve feet away. The clergyman frowned, glared, and bit his lip, but said nothing. His opponent regarded him for a moment, and then remarked:  “Father, that is the most profane silence I have ever witnessed.”


“Half of the world’s misery comes from ignorance. The other half comes from intelligence.”



The unhappy bill collector made a personal trip to speak to a man concerning a series of long overdue bills and offer some advice to the guy on managing money. “Why do you let that wife of yours spend so much more money than the two of you make without objecting?” the collector asked.

“Because,” the husband replied. “I’d rather argue with you than with her.”


One’s destination is never a place but rather a new way of looking at things.

Henry Miller


After the revival had concluded, the three pastors were discussing the results with one another.

The Methodist minister said, “The revival worked out great for us!  We gained four new families.”

The Baptist preacher said, “We did better than that!  We gained six new families.”

The Presbyterian pastor said, “Well, we did even better than that!  We got rid of our ten biggest trouble makers!”


”Don’t fear failure so much that you refuse to try new things. The saddest summary of a life contains three descriptions: could have, might have, and should have.”


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

Words fail me but I do care

“So it’s true, when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love.”

E.A. Bucchianeri

! Grief

As the years have gone by I have learned that I am not very good at providing solace to those who are grieving either from the loss of a loved one or a personal tragedy. I just can’t seem to find words that convey how much I grieve with them over their pain. Every tear they shed falls upon my heart and I find that the best I can do is just be there, holding a hand or providing a shoulder to lean on. It has always seemed to me that there are no words adequate to assist in the healing process, only time does that.

Here is a list that I saved some years ago written by author Omer Washington that includes some of the lessons he has learned in his lifetime

I’ve learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I’ve learned that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.

I’ve learned that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I’ve learned that you should never ruin an apology with an excuse.

I’ve learned that you shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do.

I’ve learned that it’s taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I’ve learned that we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I’ve learned that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I’ve learned that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones to help you get back up.

I’ve learned that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I’ve learned that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I’ve learned that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many birthdays you’ve celebrated.

I’ve learned that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you are to learn to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

I’ve learned that a rich person is not the one who has the most, but is one who needs the least.

I’ve learned that we don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I’ve learned that two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I’ve learned that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I’ve learned that the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

I’ve learned that it’s hard to determine where to draw the line between being nice and not hurting people’s feelings, and standing up for what you believe.

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, and people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.


“If there’s a thing I’ve learned in my life it’s to not be afraid of the responsibility that comes with caring for other people. What we do for love: those things endure. Even if the people you do them for don’t”

Cassandra Clare


Kids rules for life:

Never tell your mom her diet’s not working.” – Michael, age 14

“Don’t pick on your sister when she’s holding a baseball bat.” – Joel, age 12

“When you get a bad grade in school, show it to your mom when she’s on the phone.” – Alyesha, age 13

“Never try to baptize a cat.” – Laura, age 13


If you must choose between two evils, pick the one you’ve never tried before.


A husband and his wife advertised for a live-in maid to cook and do the housework.  A likely-looking girl came in from the country, and they hired her. She worked out fine, was a good cook, was polite, and kept the house neat. One day, after about six months, she came in and said she would have to quit.

“But why?” asked the disappointed wife.

She hemmed and hawed and said she didn’t want to say, but the wife was persistent, so finally she said, “Well, on my day off a couple of months ago I met this good-looking fellow from over in the next county, and well, I’m pregnant.”

The wife said, “Look, we don’t want to lose you.  My husband and I don’t have any children, and we’ll adopt your baby if you will stay.”    She talked to her husband; he agreed, and the maid said she would stay.  The baby came, they adopted it, and all went well.

After several months though, the maid came in again and said that she would have to quit.  The wife questioned her, found out that she was pregnant again, talked to her husband, and offered to adopt the baby if she would stay.  She agreed, had the baby, they adopted it, and life went on as usual.

In a few months, however, she again said she would have to leave. Same thing. She was pregnant.  They made the same offer, she agreed, and they adopted the third baby.  She worked for a week or two, but then said, “I am definitely leaving this time.”

“Don’t tell me you’re pregnant again?” asked the lady of the house.

“No,” she said, “there are just too many kids here to pick up after.”


”In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life. It goes on.”

Robert Frost


She said:

I’m not as dumb as you look.

I’m not fat just horizontally disproportionate.

I’m not loafing. I work so fast I’m always finished

I’m not opinionated, I’m just always right!

I’m not paranoid! Which of my enemies told you that?


The argument you just won with your wife isn’t over yet.


It’s 3:00 A.M. and Goldie wakes up to see her husband pacing the floor. “Morris, why can’t you sleep?” she asks him.

“You know our next door neighbor, Sam. I borrowed $1000 from him, and it’s due tomorrow morning and I don’t have the money..

I don’t know what I’m going to do.” Morris replies.

Goldie gets out of bed and opens the window. “Sam,” she shouts, and several times more, “Sam, Sam.” Finally a very groggy Sam opens the window opposite her and yells back, “What, what is it…it’s 3 AM, what do you want?”

Goldie says, “You know the $1000 my husband owes you? He doesn’t have it.”

She then slams the window shut and turns to Morris and says, now you go to sleep and let Sam pace the floor.”


The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing… not healing, not curing… that is a friend who cares.

Henri Nouwen


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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The greatest gift you can give is your friendship

Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light.

Helen Keller

! friends

Yesterday morning, as I often do on Thursday’s, I met a former colleague at 6 AM for coffee. I learned that he is in the process of adjusting to the loss of a long term relationship that has been very important to him. You see both my friend and the person he lost are retired and filled much of their days sharing experiences and companionship. Now that it is over there is a big gap in his life.

He did share with me that for many years he and three of his friends from his college years have gotten together for a few days annually to share their thoughts and dreams. These hours together provide the benefits that come only from sharing with caring friends, but they only come for him once a year for they all live in other cities.

My friend realizes that there is little value in agonizing over his recent loss, what it is time for is to build new friendships. He like many of us can’t hide away waiting for something good to happen as the friends waiting to find us will never do so if we are hidden away. My friend has a lot to offer the friends he will make, I just hope he does not have to wait too long to enjoy what his future friends have to offer him.

Here is an abridged friendship story that I like, I think you will too.

What Is A Friend?

Author Unknown

In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who would go to a party thrown by a senior so you wouldn’t wind up being the only freshman there. In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch. In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn’t be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick [or Drew] or Susan, and found you a date to the prom. In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college/university, assured you that you would get into that college/university, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go.

At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you. The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn’t deal with your parents, assured you that now that you and Nick or you and Susan were back together, you could make it through anything, helped you pack up for university and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind, and finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to give you reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years, and most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved.

Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you’re scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly loves you!

There’s never a wrong time to pick up a phone or send a message telling your friends how much you miss them or how much you love them. You know who you are, pass it on to someone who you want to remind. And thank you for being a friend.


A friend knows the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails.

Donna Roberts


The results of a computerized survey indicate the perfect Rabbi preaches exactly fifteen minutes. He condemns sins but never upsets anyone. He works from 8:00 AM until midnight and is also a janitor. He makes $50 a week, wears good clothes, buys good books, drives a good car, and gives about $50 weekly to the poor. He is 28 years old and has preached 30 years. He has a burning desire to work with teenagers and spends all of his time with senior citizens. The perfect Rabbi smiles all the time with a straight face because he has a sense of humor that keeps him seriously dedicated to his work. He makes 15 calls daily on congregation families, shut-ins and the hospitalized, and is always in his office when needed. If your Rabbi does not measure up, simply send this letter to six other synagogues that are tired of their Rabbi, too. Then bundle up your Rabbi and send him to the synagogue on the top of the list. In one week, you will receive 1,643 Rabbis and one of them will be perfect. Have faith in this procedure. One congregation broke the chain and got its old Rabbi back in less than three weeks.


I hung a camouflaged vest in the closet last winter but now I can’t find it.



A Kentucky Phone Company was going to hire a team of telephone pole installers, and the boss had to choose between a team of two rednecks and a team of two Irish guys? So the boss met with both teams and said: “Here’s what we’ll do. Each team will install poles out on the new road for a day. The team that installs the most phone poles gets the job”.

Both teams headed right out. At end of the shift, Pat and Mike, the Irish guys, came back and the boss asked them how many they had installed. They said that it was tough going, but they’d put in twelve.

Forty-five minutes later, Bubba and Duke, the redneck guys came back and they were totally exhausted. The boss asked, “Well, how many poles did you guys install?

“Bubba, the team leader wiped his brow and sighed, “Duke and me, we got three in.” The boss gasped, “Three? Those two Irish guys put in twelve!” “Yeah,” said Bubba, “but you should see how much they left stickin’ out of the ground!”


“Never go to your high school reunion pregnant or they will think that is all you have done since you graduated.”

Erma Bombeck


There is a folk belief that if you bury a statue of St. Joseph on a piece of property, it will be sold more quickly.  I took the St. Joseph from my Nativity scene and buried it near my front door.  A few days later a woman made me an offer on the house.  Since she had to sell her home too, I suggested she enlist the help of the saint as well.  After a month of burying the statue all over her lawn, she had no nibbles and, in disgust, put the statue out with the trash.

A week later she opened her local paper and read:  “Town Sells Landfill to Private Developer.”


Some wives have such good memories that they can even remember things that never happened.


The cruise ship docked at a Mexican port during a very high tide. Everyone on board was forced to use the ship’s narrow gangplank as a passageway to the dock far below. The staff stood motionless when a passenger in her 70s appeared at the top of the plank. There wasn’t room for anyone to assist her, so she edged along slowly and finally made it to the dock safely, to everyone’s relief. As she stepped down, she turned, looked back to the top of the gangplank and shouted, “It’s okay, Mother, you can come down now.”


In everyone’s life, at some time, our inner fire goes out. It is then burst into flame by an encounter with another human being. We should all be thankful for those people who rekindle the inner spirit.

Albert Schweitzer


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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It was twelve years ago

Happiness held is the seed; Happiness shared is the flower.

John Harrigan

! Shared Hppiness

Here I go again, running behind with a series of early meetings this morning. So lets you and I go back and see what was going on in my world twelve years ago.

Ray’s Daily first published on October 8, 2003

I have often thought that it is the things we share together that brighten our lives. It may be the sunset we see together, or a book we both enjoyed, or our just spending time together getting through the day. I recently read something by Anthony de Mello, SJ that I think says it very well. he wrote:

A newly married couple said, “What shall we do to make our love endure?”

Said the Master, “Love other things together.”

I still believe that shared experiences are best; they are the fields where we grow the ties that bind.


Men of the noblest dispositions think themselves happiest when others share their happiness with them.

Barry Duncan


Thanks to Andy Rooney for the following:

As I grow in age, I value women who are over 40 most of all. Here are just a few reasons why:

  • An over 40 woman will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, “What are you thinking?” She doesn’t care what you think.
  • If an over 40 woman doesn’t want to watch the game, she doesn’t sit around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And it’s usually something more interesting.
  • An over 40 woman knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants, and from whom. Few women past the age of 40 give a darn what you might think about her or what she’s doing.
  • An over 40 woman usually has had her fill of “meaningful relationships” and commitment. The last thing she wants in her life is another dopey, clingy, whiny, dependent lover.
  • Over 40 women are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won’t hesitate to shoot you if they think they can get away with it.
  • Over 40 women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it’s like to be unappreciated.
  • An over 40 woman has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn’t trust the guy with other women. A woman over 40 could care less if you’re attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won’t betray her.
  • Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to an over 40 woman. They always know.
  • An over 40 woman looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women.
  • Over 40 women are forthright and honest. They’ll tell you right off you are a jerk if you are acting like one. You don’t ever have to wonder where you stand with her.
  • Yes, we praise over 40 women for a multitude of reasons. Unfortunately, it’s not reciprocal. For every stunning, smart, well-coiffed hot woman of 40+, there is a bald, paunchy relic in yellow pants making a fool of himself with some 22-year-old waitress.

Ladies, I apologize.


A friend is one who comes in when the whole world has gone out.


When my cousin, Tom, was at the police academy, prior to joining Chicago’s finest, one of his instructors asked him during an oral exam, “What would you do if you had to arrest your own mother?”

He immediately replied, with conviction,  “Call for backup.”


When you have accumulated sufficient knowledge to get by, you’re too old to remember it.


Recently we called a business phone number and heard the following:  If you are calling from a touch-tone phone, press one now.  If you are calling from a rotary phone, hang up and call back from a touch-tone phone.


Three monkeys sat in a coconut tree

discussing things meant to be.

Said one to the others, now listen you two,

there’s a rumor going round that can’t be true,

that man descended from our noble race

the very idea is  a great disgrace.

No monkey has ever deserted his wife

starved her babies and ruined her life

and you’ve never known a mother monk

to leave her babies with others to bunk,

or pass from one onto another

till they scarcely  know who is their mother.

Here’s another thing a monkey won’t do

go out at night and get on a stew

or use a gun or club or knife

to take some other monkey’s life

yes, man descended, the ornery cuss

but brother, he didn’t descend from us.


There was a woman who spent some months serving God in Kenya.  On her final visit to a remote township she attended a medical clinic.  As the Maasai women there began to sing together, she found herself deeply moved by their hauntingly beautiful harmonies.  She wanted to always remember this moment and try to share it with friends when she arrived home. With tears flowing down her cheeks, she turned to her friend and asked, “Can you please tell me the translation of the words to this song?” Her friend looked at her an solemnly replied, “If you boil the water, you won’t get dysentery.”


“A day without laughter is a day wasted.”

Charlie Chaplin


When the new patient was settled comfortably on the couch, the  psychiatrist began his therapy session.  “I’m not aware of your  problem,” the doctor said.  “So perhaps, you should start at the very beginning.”

“Of course,” replied the patient.  “In the beginning, I created the Heavens and the Earth…”


Many individuals have, like uncut diamonds, shining qualities beneath a rough exterior.

Decimus Junius Juvenalis (c. 60-127 a.d.)


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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No time for regrets

If today was perfect there would be no need for tomorrow.


Good morning. I hope you’re having a good day. I expect I will even though I have another trip to my dentist and a few other distractions. We have been talking a lot lately about not getting bogged down in the past. The late and great Yogi Berra said one time “that it is never over until it is over;” the great thing about the past is that it is over. Once we make peace with the fact that we can’t change history we find ourselves free to create a new history day by day. So my friends leave regrets behind and enjoy today’s fresh start.

Here is a story for you by Larry Harp that I hope you like.

Leaving the City of Regret

I had not really planned on taking a trip this time of year, and yet I found myself packing rather hurriedly. This trip was going to be unpleasant and I knew in advance that no real good would come of it. I’m talking about my annual “Guilt Trip.” I got tickets to fly there on Wish I Had airlines. It was an extremely short flight. I got my baggage, which I could not check. I chose to carry it myself all the way. It was weighted down with a thousand memories of what might have been. No one greeted me as I entered the terminal to the Regret City International Airport. I say international because people from all over the world come to this dismal town.

As I checked into the Last Resort Hotel, I noticed that they would be hosting the year’s most important event, the Annual Pity Party. I wasn’t going to miss that great social occasion. Many of the towns leading citizens would be there.

First, there would be the Done family, you know, Should Have, Would Have and Could Have. Then came the I Had family. You probably know ol’ Wish and his clan. Of course, the Opportunities would be present, Missed and Lost. The biggest family would be the Yesterday’s. There are far too many of them to count, but each one would have a very sad story to share. Then Shattered Dreams would surely make and appearance. And It’s Their Fault would regale us with stories (excuses) about how things had failed in his life, and each story would be loudly applauded by Don’t Blame Me and I Couldn’t Help It.

Well, to make a long story short, I went to this depressing party knowing that there would be no real benefit in doing so. And, as usual, I became very depressed. But as I thought about all of the stories of failures brought back from the past, it occurred to me that all of this trip and subsequent “pity party” could be cancelled by ME! I started to truly realize that I did not have to be there. I didn’t have to be depressed. One thing kept going through my mind, I CAN’T CHANGE YESTERDAY, BUT I DO HAVE THE POWER TO MAKE TODAY A WONDERFUL DAY. I can be happy, joyous, fulfilled, encouraged, as well as encouraging. Knowing this, I left the City of Regret immediately and left no forwarding address. Am I sorry for mistakes I’ve made in the past? YES! But there is no physical way to undo them.

So, if you’re planning a trip back to the City of Regret, please cancel all your reservations now. Instead, take a trip to a place called, Starting Again. I liked it so much that I have now taken up permanent residence there. My neighbors, the I Forgive Myselfs and the New Starts are so very helpful. By the way, you don’t have to carry around heavy baggage, because the load is lifted from your shoulders upon arrival. God bless you in finding this great town. If you can find it — it’s in your own heart — please look me up. I live on I Can Do It street.


If your problem has a solution then…why worry about it? If your problem doesn’t have a solution then…why worry about it?

Chinese Proverb


A Secretary’s Rules For Their Boss

  1. Never give me work in the morning. Always wait until 4:00 and then bring it to me. The challenge of a deadline is refreshing.
  2. If it is really a rush job, run in and interrupt me every 10 minutes to inquire how it is going. That helps. Even better, hover behind me, and advise me at every keystroke.
  3. Always leave without telling anyone where you are going. It gives me a chance to be creative when someone asks where you are.
  4. If my arms are full of papers, boxes, books or supplies, do not open the door for me. I need to learn how to function as a paraplegic and opening doors with no arms is good training in case I should ever be injured and lose all use of my limbs.
  5. If you give me more than one job to do, do not tell me which is priority. I am psychic.
  6. Do your best to keep me late. I adore this office and really have nowhere to go or anything to do. I have no life beyond work.
  7. If a job I do pleases you, keep it a secret. If that gets out, it could mean a promotion.
  8. If you do not like my work, tell everyone. I like my name to be popular in conversations. I was born to be whipped.
  9. If you have special instructions for a job, do not write them down. In fact, save them until the job is almost done. No use confusing me with useful information.
  10. Never introduce me to the people you are with. I have no right to know anything. In the corporate food chain, I am plankton. When you refer to them later, my shrewd deductions will identify them.
  11. Be nice to me only when the job I am doing for you could really change your life and send you straight to manager’s hell.
  12. Tell me all your little problems. No one else has any and it is nice to know someone is less fortunate. I especially like the story about having to pay so many taxes on the bonus check you received for being such a good manager.
  13. Wait until my yearly review and THEN tell me what my goals SHOULD have been. Give me a mediocre performance rating with a cost of living increase. I am not here for the money anyway.


As a child my family’s menu consisted of two choices: take it or leave it.

Buddy Hackett


Esther wanted a divorce from Irving. The judge asked, “What fault do you find with your husband?”

“Your Honor, he’s a liar, a brute, a thief and a brainless idiot.”

“That’s very serious,” exclaimed his Honor, “Can you prove all that?”

“Prove it? Why everybody knows it.”

“If you knew all this, then why did you marry him?”

“I didn’t know it before I married him.”

Irving shouted out, “She did too!”


The best thing about the Future is that it only comes one day at a time!


Despite his best sales pitch, a life-insurance salesman was unable to get a couple to sign up for a policy. “I certainly don’t want to frighten you into a decision,” he announced, standing up to leave. “Please sleep on it tonight, and if you wake up in the morning, let me know what you think.”


“To those who can dream there is no such place as far away.”


The devout cowboy lost his favorite Bible while he was mending fences out on the range. Three weeks later, a cow walked up to him carrying the Bible in its mouth. The cowboy couldn’t believe his eyes. He took the precious book out of the cow’s mouth, raised his eyes heavenward and exclaimed, “It’s a miracle!”

“Not really,” said the cow. “Your name is written inside the cover.”


Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be.

Grandma Moses


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Thanks for everything

Gratitude can transform common days into thanksgivings, turn routine jobs into joy, and change ordinary opportunities into blessings.

William Arthur Ward


I am going to share an article with you that got me thinking about all the people and things in my life that make it as good as it is. As I spent time developing a mental list of what they are it kept growing and I realized that I just take for granted most of what is right in my life. I also became aware that I seldom express much gratitude to those who enrich my days.

So my friends I just want to let you know I am grateful that we get to touch bases now and then. I am especially fortunate to have the family I have and those who have befriended me over the years. I thank you all.

Here is the article that shares Dani DiPirro’s view on the value we will find in our gratefulness.

Six Ways Gratitude is Useful

Gratitude. That’s a word a word you’re probably quite familiar with, but did you know that gratitude is more than just a nice thing to express? It’s actually has quite a few uses. Here are some of the ways you can use gratitude:

  • Use gratitude to combat a bad mood. Whenever you’re feeling upset or angry or frustrated or down, think about the things you’re grateful for and you’ll feel more positive about your life. No matter how deep the funk you’re in, focusing your attention on thankfulness is a great way to counteract a bad mood.
  • Use gratitude to live in the moment. When you’re struggling to live in the moment (and who isn’t sometimes!), use grateful thoughts to bring yourself back to the present. It’s easy to get caught up thinking about the past or worrying about the future, but when you take note of all the things you have to be grateful for, it’s easier to stay present.
  • Use gratitude to enhance relationships. Nothing makes a relationship better than when you are truly grateful for the other person. All relationships have ups and downs, but if you act and speak with gratitude in mind, you’ll be more appreciative of others and strengthen your relationships with them.
  • Use gratitude to motivate yourself. You might face moments when you find it extremely hard to stay motivated. Those tough spots are great times to gravitate toward gratitude. Once you start thinking about all of the things you’re thankful for—including your own abilities—you’ll find yourself feeling more inspired.
  • Use gratitude to overcome hurdles. No matter what you’re facing, when you focus on what you’re grateful for, difficulties have a way of becoming more manageable. Gratitude isn’t a cure-all, but it truly does help to put problems in perspective.
  • Use gratitude to improve your health. Being grateful can actually improve your physical health. Thankful thoughts can offset stress by making you feel more positive and more present. And the less stressed you are, the healthier you’ll be.


Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.

Denis Waitley


She says this is what he really means:

“I can’t find it.”  MEANS: It didn’t fall into my outstretched hands, so I am completely clueless.

“That’s women’s work.” MEANS: It’s difficult, dirty, and thankless.

“Will you marry me?” MEANS: Both of my roommates have moved out, I can’t find the washer, and there’s no milk left.

“It’s a guy thing.” MEANS: There’s no rational thought pattern connected with it, and you have no chance at all of making it logical.

“Can I help with dinner?” MEANS: Why isn’t it already on the table?

“It would take too long to explain.” MEANS: I have no idea how it works.

“I’m getting more exercise lately.” MEANS: The batteries in the remote are dead.

“We’re going to be late.” MEANS: I have a legitimate reason for driving like a maniac.

“Take a break, honey, you’re working too hard.” MEANS: I can’t hear the game over the vacuum cleaner.

“That’s interesting dear.” MEANS: Are you still talking?

“It’s really a good movie.” MEANS: It’s got guns, knives, fast cars, and half clothed women.


A Doctor’s secretary called an old farmer out my way and said: “Your check came back.”

The old man replied, “So did my arthritis.”


Bob is a favorite conductor among commuters on the Long Island Rail Road.  He has great rapport with the regulars, but occasionally runs into a problem rider.  One passenger, for instance, seemed irritated at having to hand over his ticket to be punched.

“Where are you going today?” Bob asked, smiling.

“Well, what does the ticket say?” replied the traveler sarcastically.   “Um, it says you’re on the wrong train,” Bob informed him.

“What am I supposed to do now?” asked the flustered passenger.

Returning the punched card, Bob replied calmly, “Ask the ticket.”


“If a word in the dictionary were misspelled, how would we know?”

Steven Wright


In case any of you are still thinking about picking a vacation spot, be aware of the following advertising lingo:

Old world charm ~ No bath

Tropical ~ Rainy

Majestic setting ~ A long way from town

Options galore ~ Nothing is included in the itinerary

Secluded hideaway ~ Impossible to find or get to

Explore on your own ~ Pay for it yourself

No extra fees ~ No extras

Nominal fee ~ Outrageous charge

Gentle breezes ~ Occasional Gale-force winds

Light and airy ~ No air conditioning

Picturesque ~ Theme park nearby

Open bar ~ Free ice cubes


The really happy man is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.


A man walks into a dentist’s office and says, “Excuse me, can you help me. I think I’m a moth.”

Dentist: “You don’t need a dentist. You need a psychiatrist.”

Man: “Yes, I know.”

Dentist: “So why did you come in here?”

Man: “The light was on…”


Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.

Melody Beattie


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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It will you know

It is only possible to live happily ever after on a day to day basis.

Margaret Bonnano


As we begin another day and another week I am thinking about the many friends and relatives that are facing some trials and tribulations. Some have health problems, others face wealth or employment issues, while still others deal with some disappointment in their lives. It is hard for many of us at times like that to stay optimistic and sustain hope that tomorrow will bring a better day.

While we can never promise miracles we can promise that tomorrow will be different than today. The good news is that as often as not the new day will provide solutions that are the beginning of a brighter future. The secret is to avoid becoming so anchored in despair that we miss the chance to start our way back to happiness.

Here is a story that holds in it a truth that we all share, it is just unfortunate that many of us forget what it is.

And This Too Shall Pass

Author Unknown

One day Solomon decided to humble Benaiah ben Yehoyada, his most trusted minister. He said to him, “Benaiah, there is a certain ring that I want you to bring to me. I wish to wear it for Sukkot which gives you six months to find it.”

“If it exists anywhere on earth, your majesty,” replied Benaiah, “I will find it and bring it to you, but what makes the ring so special?”

“It has magic powers,” answered the king. “If a happy man looks at it, he becomes sad, and if a sad man looks at it, he becomes happy.” Solomon knew that no such ring existed in the world, but he wished to give his minister a little taste of humility. Spring passed and then summer, and still Benaiah had no idea where he could find the ring. On the night before Sukkot, he decided to take a walk in one of he poorest quarters of Jerusalem. He passed by a merchant who had begun to set out the day’s wares on a shabby carpet. “Have you by any chance heard of a magic ring that makes the happy wearer forget his joy and the broken-hearted wearer forget his sorrows?” asked Benaiah.

He watched the grandfather take a plain gold ring from his carpet and engrave something on it. When Benaiah read the words on the ring, his face broke out in a wide smile. That night the entire city welcomed in the holiday of Sukkot with great festivity. “Well, my friend,” said Solomon, “have you found what I sent you after?” All the ministers laughed and Solomon himself smiled.

To everyone’s surprise, Benaiah held up a small gold ring and declared, “Here it is, your majesty!” As soon as Solomon read the inscription, the smile vanished from his face. The jeweler had written three Hebrew letters on the gold band: “gimel, zayin, yud”, which began the words “Gam zeh ya’avor” — “This too shall pass.”

At that moment Solomon realized that all his wisdom and fabulous wealth and tremendous power were but fleeting things, for one day he would be nothing but dust.


The summit of happiness is reached when a person is ready to be what he is.

Desiderius Erasmus


Things I learned at the hospital:

  • Little is a medical term that is not defined the same as in Webster’s dictionary, for example “this may be a little uncomfortable,” “this may sting a little,” “you may feel a little burning sensation,” and “there may be a little post-op pain.”
  • All staff meetings are held outside of open hospital room doors between the hours of 1 AM and 4 AM.
  • A requirement not to leave the hospital bed for eight hours is a highly effective Diuretic but having to pee in a little plastic bottle while lying in bed is an art and not a science.
  • Hospital food has one great attribute; it makes everything you eat after having one seem so much better.


It’s hard to make a comeback when you haven’t been anywhere.


The Buffalo Theory

A herd of buffalo can move only as fast as the slowest buffalo. When the herd is hunted, it is the slowest and weakest ones at the back that are killed first. This natural selection is good for the herd as a whole, because the general speed and health of the whole group keeps improving by the regular killing of the weakest members.

In much the same way, the human brain can only operate as fast as the slowest brain cells.  Excessive intake of alcohol, we all know, kills brain cells, but naturally it attacks the slowest and weakest brain cells first. In this way, regular consumption of beer eliminates the weaker brain cells, making the brain a faster and more efficient machine.

That’s why you always feel smarter after a few beers


The only thing wrong with a perfect drive to work is that you end up at work.


Two elderly, excited Southern women were sitting together in the front pew of church listening to a fiery preacher. When this preacher condemned the sin of stealing, these two ladies cried out at the tops of their lungs, “AMEN, BROTHER!”

When the preacher condemned the sin of lust, they yelled again, “PREACH IT, REVEREND!”

And when the preacher condemned the sin of lying, they jumped to their feet and screamed, “RIGHT ON, BROTHER! TELL IT LIKE IT IS…AMEN!”

But when the preacher condemned the sin of gossip, the two got very quiet, and one turned to the other and said, “He’s quit preaching and now he’s meddlin’.”


“I tell ya, a lot of people are in bad shape. A guy stopped me in the street the other day. He told me he hasn’t eaten in five days. I told him, I said, ‘I wish I had your will power.'”

Rodney Dangerfield


Two young boys were spending the night at their grandparents. At bedtime, the two boys kneeled down beside their beds to say their prayers. Suddenly, the youngest boy began praying at the top of his lungs, “I PRAY FOR A NEW BICYCLE. I PRAY FOR A NEW NINTENDO. I PRAY FOR A NEW VCR…”

His older brother leaned over, nudged his younger brother, and said, “Why are you shouting your prayers? God isn’t deaf.”

The little brother replied, “No, but Grandma is!”


When authorities warn you of the sinfulness of sex, there is an important lesson to be learned. Do not have sex with the authorities.


On the first day of college, the Dean addresses the students, pointing out some of the rules.

“The female dormitory will be out-of-bounds for all male students, so too the male dormitory to the female students. Anybody caught breaking this rule will be fined $20 the first time.  Anybody caught breaking this rule the second time will be fined $60. Being caught a third time will incur a hefty fine of $180.

“Are there any questions?”

At this, a male student in the crowd inquires, “Er…  How much for a season pass?”


Happiness is a complex path that becomes easy only as we walk it. 

Andrea Polard


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

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