I have learned that sometimes “sorry” is not enough. Sometimes you actually have to change.
I hope you had as good a weekend as I had planned on having. Unfortunately, or maybe fortunately mine was not so hot. You see someone told me that a person I have liked and respected was upset with something I said recently. I didn’t even realize that I was creating unhappiness by my flippant comments.
I try to concentrate my efforts on helping people enjoy their lives so you can imagine how bad I have felt since learning how a thoughtless remark of mine had caused unhappiness. What is even more of a concern that I was not sensitive enough to realize what I had done. Sadly I didn’t even remember what I said.
Even though my weekend has been filled with remorse it would be even worse if I had not learned how my acquaintance felt. The greatest thing in my life is the friends I have made. The most tragic things in my life are the friends I have lost especially those who departed because of something I may have done or not done. I can ride with my health problems and other things that happen, what I have trouble with is when I upset someone else. I am waiting for the stress to subside but it has not so far. Maybe some of these tips will help.
How to Deal with Stress: Tips That Work
by Henrik Edberg
Don’t make mountains out of molehills. – One of the best ways to make your day and life easier, lighter and less stressful is to not build mountains out of molehills. To not create extra drama, overthink or create a problem out of something that doesn’t matter much. Or just out of air.
Spend 80% of your time focusing on a solution. – And only 20% of your time on dwelling on your non-molehill issue or problem. Instead of taking a common path and doing it the other way around. You’ll live a much more action-filled life and feel less pessimistic and powerless if you do.
Ask instead of guessing. – Reading minds is very hard. Misunderstandings will be plentiful if you try to do it. So communicate instead. You’ll have a lot less unnecessary conflicts, negativity and waste less of your and other people’s time.
Stay on track by asking yourself questions every day. – One good way to find clarity, to not get behind on work and to actually do what matters each day is to ask yourself questions regularly. Questions like: What is the most important thing I can do right now? And: Is doing this bringing me closer to my goal? Get to done with something that stressed or bothers you. An unfinished task that is tumbling around in the back of your mind can cause quite a bit of stress and negativity within. So if you know you have one of those then ask yourself:
If it does not get done then there is a day tomorrow too. – Sometimes life interferes or you have a bad day. And you don’t get done what you had planned or hoped for. The best way – in my experience – to handle this is to simply and kindly tell yourself that there will be a day tomorrow too and you can do it then. Beating yourself up or getting angry will only add stress that will suck the energy, self-confidence and motivation out of you. And life is too short for that.
Talk it out with someone. – This can be a great relief and vent to have when you are in a stressed situation. Let your stress and the issue that it comes from out into the light and let someone close to you see it too. Just letting it out can often help you to decrease the stress quite a bit and when you say it out loud then it also becomes easier to see if you are making a mountain out of a molehill.
You said you never wanted to see me hurt. Did you close your eyes then when I cried?
Down in the south, there are many churches known as “answer back” churches. When the preacher says something, the congregation naturally replies. One Sunday, a preacher was speaking on what it would take for the church to become better.
He said “If this church is to become better, it must take up it’s bed, and walk.”
The congregation said “Let it walk, Preacher, let it walk.”
Encouraged by their response, he went further. “If this church is going to become better, it will have to throw aside it’s hindrances and run!”
The congregation replied, “Let it run, preacher, let it run!”
Now really into his message, he spoke stronger. “If this church really wants to become great, it will have to take up it’s wings and fly!”
“Let it fly, Preacher, let it fly!” the congregation shouts.
The Preacher gets louder. “If this church is going to fly, it will cost money!”
The congregation replied. “Let it walk, Preacher, let it walk.”
At times, it is better to keep your mouth shut and let people wonder if you’re a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.
James G. Sinclair
There was a history professor and a psychology professor sitting on a deck at a nudist colony. The history professor asked the psychology professor, “Have you read Marx?”
The psychology professor replied, “Yes, I think they are from the wicker chairs.”
“Surrender to what is, let go of what was, have faith in what will be. ”
My wife has not spoken to me in three days. I think it has something to do with what happened on Sunday night when she thought she heard a noise downstairs.
She nudged me and whispered, “Wake up, wake up!”
“What’s the matter?” I asked.
“There are burglars in the kitchen. I think they’re eating the pork casserole I made tonight.”
“That’ll teach them!” I replied.
A mother may hope that her daughter will get a better husband that she did, but she knows her son will never get as good a wife as his father did.
Father O’Malley answers the phone: “Hello, is this Father O’Malley?”
“This is the IRS. Can you help us?”
“Do you know a Ted Houlihan?”
“Is he a member of your congregation?”
“Did he donate $10,000 to the church?”
It takes a second to make a mistake, but a lifetime to try and forget it was your fault.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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