“All seasons are beautiful for the person who carries happiness within.”
Today I will be starting a couple of days of pre-op eye drops in preparation for Thursday’s eye surgery. The operation is no big deal and the recovery should only be an inconvenience so it will not affect some other medical stuff later in the month. Since I don’t know if the drops are going to interfere with my driving I have decided to drop out for a few days and just relax. If I am good I will substitute time on my home treadmill instead of my daily YMCA activity.
I have been thinking about how so many people seem to elude personal happiness. I think to a large extent happiness is a matter of choice, we get to decide what is important in our lives and then appreciate the gifts we already have. As you know I am a big fan of the writings of Marc Chernoff and today I would like to share some of his thoughts on how we can enhance our ability to be happy.
Excerpts from an article entitled “Gifts You Deserve to Give Yourself”
An open mind in full acceptance of life’s changes.
Sometimes there are things in our lives that aren’t meant to stay. Sometimes the changes we don’t want are the changes we need to grow. Growth and change may be painful sometimes, but nothing in life is as painful as staying stuck where you don’t belong. The bottom line is that you can’t reach for anything new if you’re holding onto yesterday. You may think holding on makes you strong, but often it is letting go and starting anew in the present.
A meaningful path and purpose.
If your life is going to mean anything, you have to live it yourself. You have to choose the path that feels right to YOU, not the one that looks right to everyone else. It’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder you want to climb, than the top of the one you don’t. So don’t wait until you’re halfway up the wrong ladder to listen to your intuition. Every morning, ask yourself what is really important, and then find the courage, wisdom and willpower to build your day around your answer.
The time to do what truly matters.
Identify what’s most important to you. Prune nonessential commitments. Eliminate as much as you possibly can of everything else. No wasted time, no fluff, no regrets.
The space to BE, without needless worry.
If you think and you think and you think, you will think yourself right out of happiness a thousand times over, and never once into it. Worrying doesn’t take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace and potential. Stop over-thinking everything. Life is too short.
Permission to be imperfect as you grow.
You may not be where you want to be yet, but if you think about it, you’re no longer where you once were either. You have good reason to believe that you can trust yourself going forward. Not because you’ve always made the right choices, but because you survived the bad ones, and taken small steps in the right direction.
The freedom to express your whole truth.
The greatest and most gratifying experiences in life cannot be seen or touched. They must be felt with the heart from the inside out. There’s nothing more inspiring than the complexity and beauty of human, heartfelt feelings. Sadly though, many people let the fear of judgment numb and silence them. Their deepest thoughts and feelings often go unspoken, and thus barely understood.
“The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.”
A plane hit a patch of severe turbulence and the passengers were holding on tight as it rocked and reeled through the night. A little old lady turned to a minister who was sitting behind her and said, “You’re a man of God. Can’t you do something about this?”
He replied, “Sorry, I can’t. I’m in sales, not management.”
The human race is divided into two classes–those who go ahead and do something, and those who sit still and inquire, “Why wasn’t it done the other way?”
Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.
A man was celebrating his 80th birthday and his 50th wedding anniversary.
A reported asked, “Sir, how do you account for looking so fit?”
“Well,” the old-timer told him, “when we got married, my wife and I made an agreement that any time we saw an argument coming on, I would grab my hat and walk three times around the block. You’d be surprised what 50 years of outdoor exercise will do for your health!”
Meditation is not what you Think.
Bill has the typical observant wife. One evening after dinner, she handed him a bottle of ‘Rogaine’ hair restorer. Bill told her while he was indeed starting to thin out some, he didn’t really think he needed hair restorer yet.
She said, “Oh. It’s not for you, it’s for your secretary, she seems to be losing quite a bit of her hair on your jacket.”
One way to stop a runaway horse is to bet on him.
During a recent publicity outing, Jennifer sneaked off to visit a fortune teller of some local repute. In a dark and hazy room, peering into a crystal ball, the mystic delivered grave news. “There’s no easy way to say this, so I’ll just be blunt: Prepare yourself to be a widow. Your husband will die a violent and horrible death this year.”
Visibly shaken, Jennifer stared at the woman’s lined face, then at the single flickering candle, then down at her hands. She took a few deep breaths to compose herself. She simply had to know. She met the fortune teller’s gaze, steadied her voice, and asked her question: “Will I be acquitted?”
“Give me golf clubs, fresh air and a beautiful partner, and you can keep the clubs and the fresh air.”
I was out walking with my then 4 year old daughter. She picked up something off the ground and started to put it in her mouth. I asked her not to do that.
“Why?” she asked.
I replied, “Because it’s been lying outside and is dirty and probably has germs.” At this point, she looked at me with total admiration and said, “Wow ! How do you know all this stuff ? ”
“Uh,” I was thinking quickly, “Everyone knows this stuff, it’s on the Mommy test. You have to know it, or they don’t let you be a Mommy.”
“Oh.” she replied. We walked along in silence for 2 or 3 minutes, but she was evidently pondering this new information.
“I get it! ” she beamed. “Then if you flunk, you get to be the Daddy!”
“How we feel about ourselves, the joy we get from living, ultimately depends directly on how the mind filters and interprets everyday experiences. Whether we are happy depends on inner harmony, not on the controls we are able to exert over the great forces of the universe.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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