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Be Independent

Don’t become something just because someone else wants you to, or because it’s easy; you won’t be happy. You have to do what you really, really, really, really want to do, even if it scares the hell out of you.

Kristen Wiig

! 0000000 be you

Since our Independence Day holiday is on Saturday this year millions of employees are not working today. Many have left town to go on vacation or to enjoy a long weekend. I am going to follow their lead and take the day off as well. For those of you who are not in the US or who have to work today here is a past Daily to fill some of your time while the rest of have fun.

Ray’s Daily first published on July 3, 2012

I had lunch with a longtime friend yesterday who was distraught because so many people were telling her that she needed to decide precisely what she wanted to do with her life. She had almost convinced herself that she was failing because she was not happy with what others wanted her to do. I was shocked that these folks had taken her to the point where she was questioning her own worth.

Now this is really a good person with a big heart who is researching where she might be able to do herself and others the most good. She has been unhappy in the past working in roles that required her to do things that were of little value and often even against her principles. That notwithstanding people were actually telling her she should search for more of the same, you see their definition of success and hers were different, they valued others by what they received in income and title and she believed that success comes from the value of the work.

Thankfully her discomfort was so high that she rebelled and decided it was her life, her dreams and her responsibility. I am so glad that she has decided not to be like most everyone else but rather to be someone special, her own unique self. It is our differences that make us great not our sameness. I like the following poem, I hope you do too.


In all the world, there is no one exactly like me.

There are persons who have some parts like me,

But no one adds up exactly like me.

Therefore, everything that comes out of me

Is authentically mine because I alone choose it.

I own everything about me

My body, including everything it does;

My mind, including all its thoughts and ideas;

My eyes, including the images of all they behold;

My feelings, whatever they may be…

Anger, joy, frustration, love, disappointment, excitement

My mouth, and all the words that come out of it

Polite, sweet or rough, correct or incorrect;

My voice, loud or soft.

And all my actions, whether they be to others or to myself.

I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears.

I own all my triumphs and successes,

All my failures and mistakes.

Because I own all of me I can become intimately acquainted with me.

By doing so I can love me and be friendly with me in all parts.

I can then make it possible for all of me to work in my best interests.

I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me,

And other aspects that I do not know.

But as long as I am friendly and loving to myself,

I can courageously and hopefully, look for solutions to the puzzles

And for ways to find out more about me.

However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think

And feel at a given moment in time is me.

This is authentic and represents where I am in that moment in time.

When I review later how I looked and sounded, what I said and did,

And how I thought and felt, some parts may turn out to be unfitting.

I can discard that which is unfitting, and keep that which proved fitting,

And invent something new for that which I discarded.

I can see, hear, feel, think, say and do.

I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive,

And to make sense and order out of the world of people

And things outside of me.

I own me, and therefore I can engineer me.

I am me and I am okay.

Virginia Satir


I walked into my sister’s kitchen and found my nephew, Mitch, having a snack.

“Where’s your mother?” I asked.

“She said she was going to take a shower. Just a second and I’ll see.”

Mitch went to the kitchen tap and turned the hot water on full blast.

An indignant yell came from above.

Mitch calmly turned off the tap and said, “Yep, she’s in the shower.”


“Treasure the love you have received above all. It will survive long after your gold and good health have vanished.”



A man walked into the produce section of a Florida Publix supermarket and asked to buy a half head of lettuce. The boy working in that department told him that they only sold whole heads of lettuce. The man was insistent that the boy ask his manager about the matter.

Walking into the back room, the boy said to the manager, “Some a**@#$*e wants to buy a half head of lettuce.” As he finished his sentence, he turned to find the man standing right behind him, so he….added, “And this gentleman kindly offered to buy the other half.”

The manager approved the deal and the man went on his way. Later the manager said to the boy, “I was impressed with the way you got yourself out of that situation earlier. We like people who think on their feet here. Where are you from, son?” ”

Kentucky, sir.” the boy replied.

“Well, why did you leave Kentucky?” the manager asked. The boy said, “Sir, there’s nothing but prostitutes and basketball players up there.”

“Really?” said the manager, “My wife is from Kentucky.”

“No kidding?”, replied the boy, “Who’d she play for?”


The most daring thing is to be yourself and to do exactly what you want to do at that point in time and not to be worried with what other people are doing or what’s popular.

Wiz Khalifa


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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