Change your life today. Don’t gamble on the future, act now, without delay.
Simone de Beauvoir
One of my problems recently has been what should I do now that I have had to back off much of my traditional activities, at least until my health stabilizes and I get back to what is probably going to be my new normal. I know laying around is not the answer. I believe that the speed we age is directly proportional to the amount of inactivity we let creep into our lives. The surest way to stagnate is to drop out and rest.
A few years ago I suggested that one of our great Indiana organizations offer a course to seniors on “What to do when there is nothing left to do on your things to do list.” These days I again realize how important it is to stay active so now I get to start the process of finding what I can do and again get out and about.
Here is a piece written by Jim M. Allen and published on the SelfGrowth blog that provides some good ideas for people needing to make choices like I must.
What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do
When you don’t know what to do, it’s very easy to end up in a “Now what?” rut. That is, a very non-productive cycle of asking “Now what?” over and over and over because the only answer you have is, “I don’t know.” If this is familiar to you, I encourage you to escape the “Now what?” rut by considering the following:
IT’S O.K. NOT TO KNOW
Many people get stuck right off the bat by beating themselves up for not having an immediate answer or for not foreseeing each and every problem they encounter. Nobody can know everything, and nobody can foresee everything, so don’t spend a lot of time on this.
PAUSE, DON’T STOP
Take time to reflect on the situation at hand, to discover what the real problem is and what possible solutions might resolve it. But don’t spend so much time thinking things over that you lose momentum. So pause, but don’t stop, and press on with what you need to do. (Remember your science lessons: Bodies at rest tend to stay at rest. . . .)
DO WHAT YOU’D DO IF YOU DID KNOW WHAT TO DO
Whenever someone tells me, “I don’t know what to do” I ask them what they would do if they did know what to do. It seems like a silly question, but most of the time I find that they can answer the question! Sometimes we are so focused on the problem that we lose sight of the fact that we really do know a solution to it. Asking this question pushes us to focus on the solving things.
There are times when you really, truly, just don’t have a clue about what to do. In these cases, doing anything is better than doing nothing. So,guess… go to lunch… turn Left… flip a coin… Taking some action not only keeps you moving, it changes your perspective on the problem, and helps you stay motivated.
Seek out possible solutions from people you know. Go to you family, your friends, your co-workers, or your personal success coach. Get their input, try on some of their ideas… you may find one that fits! (And even if you don’t, you’ll feel better knowing that you spent your time and effort productively.)
“You can dance in the storm. Don’t wait for the rain to be over before because it might take too long. You can do it now. Wherever you are, right now, you can start, right now; this very moment.”
You may have heard about this new bride who was a bit embarrassed to be known as a honeymooner. So when she and her husband pulled up to the hotel, she asked him if there was any way that they could make it appear that they had been married a long time.
He responded, “Sure. You carry the suitcases!”
And remember: life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes.
A man goes to a shrink and says, “Doctor, you’ve got to help me. My beautiful wife is unfaithful to me. Every Friday night, she goes to Larry’s Bar and picks up men. In fact, she sleeps with anybody who asks her! I’m going crazy. What do you think I should do?”
“Relax,” says the doctor, “take a deep breath and calm down. Now, tell me, where exactly is Larry’s Bar?”
Things are going to get a lot worse before they get worse.
A bachelor asked the computer to find him the perfect mate. He entered, “I want a companion who is small and cute, loves water sports and enjoys group activities.”
The computer generated the answer, “Marry a penguin.”
Constant change is here to stay.
Benefits of getting older…
No one expects you to run into a burning building.
People no longer view you as a hypochondriac.
There’s nothing left to learn the hard way.
Things you buy now won’t wear out.
You can eat dinner at 4:00.
You have a party and the neighbors don’t even realize it.
You no longer think of speed limits as a challenge.
Your investment in health insurance is finally beginning to pay off.
Your joints are more accurate than the National Weather Service.
Your secrets are safe with your friends because they can’t remember them either.
“If you want to be loved, be lovable.”
During the party, Becky was introduced to Dr. Selnick. “Oh doctor”, says Becky, sidling up to him, “I’m so glad to meet you. You see I have this problem. Every time I raise my arm above my head, I get a pain in my right side.”
“I’m sorry”, says Dr. Selnick, “I’m afraid I can’t help you. I happen to be a doctor of Economics.”
“Well, in that case”, says Becky, “tell me, should I sell my IBM shares now?”
Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be.
Jack has died. His lawyer is standing before the family and reads out Jack’s Last Will and Testament.
“To my dear wife Esther, I leave the house, 50 acres of land, and 1 million dollars.
To my son Barry, I leave my Big Lexus and the Jaguar.
To my daughter Suzy, I leave my yacht and $250,000.
And to my brother-in-law Jeff, who always insisted that health is better than wealth, I leave my sun lamp.”
Life is inherently risky. There is only one big risk you should avoid at all costs, and that is the risk of doing nothing.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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