“How did it get so late so soon?”
Good morning everyone. I hope your week is going well and that it gets even better as it rolls on. Mine is unusually full with the big event today being a visit to my friendly dentist for some needed repairs and then I will spend the rest of the day over eating since I will be fasting after midnight in preparation for a TEE at the hospital. What is a TEE you ask, here is all I know about it.
A transesophageal echo (TEE) test is a type of echo test in which the ultrasound transducer, positioned on an endoscope, is guided down the patient’s throat into the esophagus (the “food pipe” leading from the mouth into the stomach). An endoscope is a long, thin, flexible instrument that is about ½ inch in diameter. The TEE test provides a close look at the heart’s valves and chambers, without interference from the ribs or lungs.
I think I would prefer real food, but it should go well and only take a few hours in the hospital. On Friday my hematologist gets to put in her two cents by checking on my always-too-low hemoglobin. I can do whatever I want the rest of the time but with my regular nap time, exercise and a few meetings there is little time left. So I will continue to say no to opportunities that I wish I could accept.
As the years go by I have found that making the right choices in what I agree to do makes my life more manageable. Here are excerpts from an article recently penned by Eric Ungs the founder of the Unless You Care Project that might help you chose when to say no.
Questions To Ask Yourself Before Saying Yes
I don’t believe in work-life balance. I look at it as a blend, it’s all life. The big thing I learned, thus far, is that it’s not about being involved with everything, but rather involving yourself with the right things. For me to say yes to things, I now prioritize those commitments, projects and opportunities. In doing so, I ask myself these 5 questions before saying yes:
Where can I add the most value?
With time being my most prized resource, I want to make sure that what I am committing to is something I can add value to. Something that I can leave my mark on and make a difference to those involved; either now or down the road.
Where can I gain the most?
This is where I get selfish. When thinking about what I want to commit to I look at the projects where I would gain the most. Meaning, I never want to be the smartest person in the room. So I’m continuously seeking opportunities where I can learn the most about the things I want to learn more about.
This question may sound one-sided but I always commit to adding value first. This is a “givers-gain” mindset. Give to something where I can add the most value while gaining tremendous knowledge in the areas I lack from people way smarter than me.
What kind of people will I be surrounding myself with?
The people we surround ourselves with affects us tremendously. They affect our drive, motivation, beliefs, energy. They ultimately affect our output, as a person, as our work, as our art; both good and bad. I want to be around the people who I aspire to be myself. I want to surround myself with highly motivated, energetic, intelligent, like-minded people.
Is it something that makes me feel good?
This is where I align commitment with passion, purpose and my heart. This feeling will drive a lot of the other things going on in my life. It will affect the other people I am closest to. If it becomes just another task on my checklist, not only will I begin to feel the wear, but those around me will sense it and feel it as well.
Am I able to commit 100%?
When I say yes to something, I mean it. I want to give it my best 100% of the time. I want to give it my undivided attention and the attention that it needs and deserves; and ultimately, the attention that I promised. When I noticed myself saying yes to everything I began to see the quality and productivity go down. I was spreading myself too thin.
We are wired to be able to think we can do it all. We may be able to, some make it work really well, but I can almost certainly say something is being sacrificed. For most of us, we need to learn to say no.
“Efficiency is doing things right; effectiveness is doing the right things.”
Politicians have a constant need to be diplomatic. Witness this candidate for the Senate who traveled to a small town community to address the single church there. Unfortunately, he had forgotten to ask which denomination so that when it was time for his speech, he inquired in this way: “My brethren, all. I must tell you that my great Grandfather was Presbyterian (absolute silence); but my Grandmother was an Episcopalian (more silence); I must tell you that my other Grandfather was a Christian Scientist (deep silence); while my other Grandmother was Methodist (continued silence). But I must tell you that I had an aunt who was a Baptist through and through (loud cheers!) and I have always considered my aunt’s path to be the right one!”
“If you think education is expensive, try ignorance!”
A preacher of the old school was describing the events of Judgement Day and, of course, he used Biblical phraseology whenever he could. “Oh, my friends,” he intoned, “imagine the suffering of the sinners as they find themselves cast into the outer darkness, removed from the presence of the Lord and given to eternal flames. My friends, at such a time there will be weeping, wailing and a great gnashing of teeth!” At this point, one of the elders of the congregation interrupted to say, “But Reverend, what if one of those hopeless sinners has no teeth?”
The preacher crashed his fist on the pulpit, “My friends, the Lord is not put out by details. Rest assured… teeth will be provided!”
My Dog Can Lick Anyone
A little girl from Minneapolis came home from Sunday school with a frown on her face. “I’m not going back there anymore,” she announced with finality. “I don’t like the Bible they keep teaching us.”
“Why not?” asked her astonished mother.
“Because,” said the little girl, “that Bible is always talking about St. Paul, and it never once mentions Minneapolis.”
Happiness: The result of being too busy to be miserable.
A guy goes to the psychiatrist. “Doctor,” says the guy, “I feel as if I’m two different people! Two totally different personalities. Do you think I need help? Can you help me? Am I doing the right thing seeing a psychiatrist?”
“Whoah! Whoah! Whoah!” says the doc. “Please, one at a time.”
I must have told you a zillion times, don’t exaggerate!
They say marriage is a contract. No, it’s not. Contracts come with warrantees. When something goes wrong, you can take it back to the manufacturer. If your husband starts acting up, you can’t take him back to his mama’s house. “I don’t know; he just stopped working. He’s just laying around making a funny noise.”
“The essence of self-discipline is to do the important thing rather than the urgent thing.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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