I am more and more convinced that our happiness or our unhappiness depends far more on the way we meet the events of life than on the nature of those events themselves.
Wilhelm von Humboldt
I think some of my friends focus too much on what is wrong in their eyes instead of what is right. I find that if you dwell on the negatives in your life you are never going to be very happy. It is amazing how the same landscape can look welcoming or not depending on what you look for.
Those who can accept their lives as they are versus believing there is a rainbow waiting over the hill holds the key to their happiness. The problem with chasing the rainbow is there is always another hill to climb and seldom does it hide a rainbow.
Here is a piece I picked up from WikiHow that I agree with:
How to Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself
We all occasionally feel down in the dumps, but we can’t let that stop us from enjoying life or fulfilling our goals. If you are feeling sorry for yourself, follow these steps.
1 Talk to a friend or someone who cares about you. Even if you do not agree with their advice, giving voice to your problems brings them up from your subconscious and allows you to examine them. When you keep everything inside, sometimes you don’t even realize what is bothering you.
2 Remember that everything is relative. Your neighbor may be feeling sorry for himself while looking at you, thinking that you are the luckiest person in the world. You may be feeling sorry for yourself because someone else has more money or looks better than you. If we stop and think about what we have, it is always enough.
3 Consider life in a third world country. Imagine if someone there could see you right now sitting at a computer reading this. They might marvel at the wonders of modern technology and think that you are the luckiest person in the world. They may be struggling for enough food and water just to survive.
4 Life can overwhelm us. We need to fix some problems in our lives, or we need to get something done. Realize that there will always be problems no matter what, and you never will finish your “To Do” list. Resolve to take care of at least one thing on your “To Do” list every day, and it will give you a feeling of satisfaction.
5 Remind yourself to live in the moment and stop thinking about the future or past. What we think about creates our tomorrow. If we think about the past, we stay stuck there. If we think about the future, we will never really live it because the future becomes now.
6 Look around you and realize all that you have. Relish the moment and stop feeling sorry for yourself. Enjoy life!
To pursue a goal which is by definition unattainable is to condemn oneself to a state of perpetual unhappiness.
At a golf course, four men approached the sixteenth tee. The straight fairway ran along a road and bike path fenced off on the left. The first golfer teed off and hooked the ball in that direction. The ball went over the fence, and bounced off the bike path onto the road, where it hit the tire of a moving bus, and was knocked back on to the fairway.
As they all stood in silent amazement, one man finally asked him, “How on earth did you do that?”
He shrugged his shoulders, and said, “You have to know the bus schedule.”
To forgive heals the wound, to forget heals the scar.
A minister was completing a Temperance sermon. With great emphasis he said, “If I had all the beer in the world, I’d take it and pour it into the river.” With even greater emphasis he said, “And if I had all the wine in the world, I’d take it and pour it into the river.” And then finally, shaking his fist in the air, he said, “And if I had all the whiskey in the world, I’d take it and pour it into the river.”
Sermon complete, he sat down. The song leader stood very cautiously and announced – with a tiny smile, “For our closing song, Let us sing Hymn #365, ‘Shall We Gather at the River’
The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love and to let it come in.
A golfer who was well into his golden years had a lifelong ambition to play one hole at Pebble Beach, California, the way the pros do it. The pros drive the ball out over the water onto the green that is on a spit of land that just out off the coast. It was something he had tried hundreds of times without success. His ball always fell short, into the water. Because of this he never used a new ball on this particular hole. He always picked out one that had a cut or a nick.
One year he went out to Pebble Beach to try again. When he came to the fateful hole, he teed up an old cut ball and said a silent prayer. Before he hit it, however, a powerful voice from above said, “WAIT. REPLACE THAT OLD BALL WITH A BRAND NEW BALL.”
He complied, with some slight misgiving, despite the fact that the Lord seemed to be implying that He was going to let him finally achieve his lifelong ambition. As he stepped up to the tee once more, the voice came down again, “WAIT. STEP BACK. TAKE A PRACTICE SWING.”
So he stepped back and took a practice swing. The voice boomed out again:, “TAKE ANOTHER PRACTICE SWING.” He did. Silence followed. Then the voice spoke out again, “PUT THE OLD BALL BACK.”
You can’t change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying about the future.
Our 13 year old niece spent last night with us. When we dropped her off at home, my sister-in-law asked how she behaved. “She was an angel,” I informed her. “Really?” she questioned. “Yes, really. A perfect angel.”
I assured her. “I just don’t understand. Whenever she is with you she is well behaved. Whenever she is at home, she is a monster. She misbehaves for everyone else. In fact, the teachers at her school drew straws to see who would be stuck with her in their class. How come she always behaves for you?” My sister in law asked. “I don’t know. I guess I just have a way with children. I also try to educate them as well. A child is never to young to learn.” I answered. “What do you mean. What did you teach her?” She inquired. “Well, for instance, children need to learn about death and dying so they better understand this process. I explained this concept very carefully to her.” I informed my sister-in-law. “Really? You explained this to her at 13?”
She asked dumbfounded. “Well actually she was much younger when I explained this. She now understands death perfectly. Which is good, because it makes threatening her with it, much more effective.”
Spring is wonderful. It makes you feel young enough to do all the things you’re old enough, to know you can’t.
Karen: On the cover of a women’s magazine, I saw the title: “Men’s Secret Fear About Their Working Wives.” I decided to get a first-hand account. I asked my ex, “What’s your innermost fear about my working?”
Michelle: What did he say?
Karen: He said, “That you’ll quit.”
It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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