If you judge people, you have no time to love them.
I had breakfast yesterday with a flight attendant friend. I always enjoy our conversations as she has had a wealth of experiences. During our conversations she mentioned the difficulties we all have with excessively judgmental people. You know the folks I am talking about, they are often quick to criticize while showing no restraint as they tell you what you need to do.
I don’t know about you but I have been wrong often enough to not impose my opinions or prejudices on someone else. I have found that I have the ability to share how I feel about something so that we can talk about whatever it is without being judgemental. By saying how I feel rather than how someone else should feel often leads us to clear up any misunderstanding or at least helping the other party to understand where I am coming from.
I am sorry but I think those who are quick to judge are often excessively righteous and almost arrogant. My friend and I agreed that avoiding the arrogant people around us made life better. But don’t get me wrong, I do appreciate people who help me understand when I am in error. Here is a short story that illustrates one of life’s realities; things are not always how they look.
Lesson Learned: Things Are Not Always Black or White
In life, a lesson learned in your past that you will never forget completely.
When I was in elementary school, I got into a major argument with a boy in my class. I have forgotten what the argument was about, but I have never forgotten the lesson learned that day.
I was convinced that “I” was right and “he” was wrong – and he was just as convinced that “I” was wrong and “he” was right. The teacher decided to teach us a very important lesson. She brought us up to the front of the class and placed him on one side of her desk and me on the other.
In the middle of her desk was a large, round object. I could clearly see that it was black. She asked the boy what color the object was. “White,” he answered. I couldn’t believe he said the object was white, when it was obviously black! Another argument started between my classmate and me, this time about the color of the object.
The teacher told me to go stand where the boy was standing and told him to come stand where I had been. We changed places, and now she asked me what the color of the object was. I had to answer, “White.” It was an object with two differently colored sides, and from his viewpoint it was white. Only from my side was it black.
My teacher taught me a very important lesson learned that day: You must stand in the other person’s shoes and look at the situation through their eyes in order to truly understand their perspective.
Nothing is more dangerous than an idea, when it’s the only one we have.
* Home is where you hang your @.
* The E-mail of the species is more deadly than the mail.
* A journey of a thousand sites begins with a single click.
* You can’t teach a new mouse old clicks.
* A chat has nine lives.
* What boots up must come down.
* A user and his leisure time are soon parted.
* Know what to expect before you connect.
It’s not the pace of life that concerns me, it’s the sudden stop at the end.
A minister decided to do something a little different one Sunday morning. He said, “Today, in church, I am going to say a single word and you are going to help me preach. “Whatever single word I say, I want you to sing whatever hymn comes to your mind.
The pastor shouted out, “Cross!” Immediately the congregation started singing, in unison, “The Old Rugged Cross.” The pastor hollered out, “Grace!” The congregation began to sing “Amazing Grace, how sweet the sound…” The pastor said, “Power.” The congregation sang “There Is Power in the Blood.”
The Pastor said, “Sex.” The congregation fell in total silence. Everyone was in shock. They all nervously began to look around at each other, afraid to say anything. Then all of a sudden, way from in the back of the church, a little old 87-year-old grandmother stood up and began to sing “Precious Memories.”
Wife to bill-paying husband: “I slashed expenses last month. Everything was charged on one credit card so that it will cost only one stamp to pay all of our bills.”
At the beginning of the grandparents’ class I teach, I ask participants if they would share the very first feelings they had when they learned they were going to be grandparents. Most people say they were happy and excited. During one class, however, an expectant grandmother blurted, “I just hated it! I finally knew for certain that my daughter was having sex.”
After the funeral the Rabbi said, “I don’t think you’ll ever find another man like your late husband Morris.” The widow replied, “So who’s looking for one?”
A cyclone hit a Kansas farmhouse just before dawn one morning. It tore off the roof, and picked up the beds on which the farmer and his wife slept were sleeping. By some miracle, the cyclone set them down unharmed the next county over.
The wife was sobbing uncontrollably. “Don’t be scared, Mary,” her husband said. “We’re not hurt.”
Mary continued to cry. “I’m not scared,” she said between sobs. “I’m happy… this is the first time in 14 years we’ve been out together.”
Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn’t.
Jill had applied for a job, and when she returned home, her mother asked how the interview went.
Jill replied, “Pretty good I think, but if I go to work there I won’t get a vacation unless I’m married.”
Her mother, of course, had never heard of such a thing and asked, “Is that what they told you?
Jill replied, “No, they didn’t tell me that, but on the application it said, “Vacation time may not be taken until you’ve had your first anniversary.”
Keep away from small people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.
An insurance salesman was getting nowhere in his efforts to sell a policy to a farmer. “Look at it this way.” he said finally. “How would your wife carry on if you should die?”
“Well…” drawled the weather-beaten man, “I don’t reckon that’d be any concern of mine — long as she behaves herself while I’m alive.”
I have learned more from my mistakes than from my successes.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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