“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
One of the things that bother me is how many people seem to think less of themselves then they should. Even people with talent sometimes seem to feel that they don’t measure up. The question is measure up to what? It seems like too many of us let others or our culture convince us that we are unworthy because we have not reached someone else’s lofty goal. What is so sad is that these good people are great at being themselves but they don’t see the value in what they do.
What about you? Do you know how good you are? Do you appreciate all that is good in what do? I hope you do. If you need some reinforcement here are excerpts from a piece written by Laura G. Jones. I found it on the Think Simple Now blog.
How to Accept Yourself Fully
It’s Not The End Of The World
Put yourself in the situation of your fear being true. The first step of what you dreaded has happened. What now? If you really think about it, you may just realize that it’s not that big of a deal.
You live and let live. You just move on. You won’t die. You won’t turn into a werewolf. You won’t pick up drugs. You’ll be just fine. You might even learn a thing or two from it.
Anxiety and worry focus on a narrow perspective. They turn a potential event into a major threat by blowing up the negative consequences. You have to work to see the whole picture, but once you do, you see the inner Photoshop in action and are able to let it go.
People Want To Like You
Contrary to my inner ramblings, no one was really out to hate and humiliate me. Au contraire. People feel lonely. They are looking for a pleasant encounter — someone to like. As much as hating and yelling can be cathartic, doing that is not pleasant by any meaning of the word. The people you’re interacting with are people who have something or another in common with you — whether it be that you simply take the same train to work, are both looking for a match (e.g., company — employee) or are in some way connected to you (professor, boss). Also, they feel lonely too. They want to be liked.
As long as you treat them with respect, love, and trust, they don’t give a rat’s booty about what shortcomings you have.
You’re Using The Wrong Mirror
Don’t you just hate those extra magnifying mirrors that show you every pore and zit on your face? All they do is point out every little imperfect detail about your face. When you criticize yourself, the default mirror you’re looking at yourself with is that ginormous super-mirror that shows off every little imperfection. You see everything that you don’t like within yourself, and you cringe, because others don’t seem to have those things.
But what you’re really doing is comparing apples to oranges, because you can’t look at others with that mirror. You see them with a much bigger mirror, one that makes those imperfections much smaller and showcases their positive qualities just as much. So switch the mirror you look at yourself with. Take some perspective. See yourself for who you really are.
Keep a long, open list of reasons why you’re not a fraud — in all facets of your life. With evidence.
Actually notice when you do something well, and don’t be afraid to pat yourself on your back — loving yourself does not lead to cockiness or a loss of friends. When you catch yourself being stuck in worry and anxiety, pull out the notebooks, or even a sheet of paper. Write down everything that is good and amazing about yourself — it’s only fair to balance out the mirrors.
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Bernie had a fight with Rachel, his wife, and went to the movies to cool off. Later that evening, he decided to phone home to see what the situation was and maybe even apologize.
“Hello, darling,” he said, “what are you making for dinner?”
“What am I making for dinner? After all the horrible things you said to me earlier, you want to know what I am making for dinner?? Poison, that’s what I’m making, poison.”
Bernie replies, “Okay then, just make one portion, I’m not coming home.”
How can you add one to infinity?
There was a knock at the door. It was a small boy, about five years old. Something of his had found its way into my garage, he said, and he wanted it back. Upon opening the garage door, I noticed two additions: a baseball and a broken window sporting a baseball-sized hole.
“How do you suppose this ball got in here?” I asked the boy.
Taking one look at the ball, one look at the window, and one look at me, the boy exclaimed, “Wow! I must have thrown it right through that hole!”
I didn’t believe in reincarnation the last time, either.
A big-city counterfeiter decided the best place to pass off his phony $18 bills would be in some small hick Texas town. So, he got into his new wheels and off he went. He found a tiny town with a single store. He entered the store and handed one of the bogus bills to the man behind the counter. “Can you change this for me, please?” he said.
The store clerk looked at the $18 bill a short time, then smiled and told the man, “Ah reckon so, Mister. Ya want 2 nines or 3 sixes?”
If you really want the last word in an argument, try saying, “I guess you’re right.”
She said: We’ve been letting our six-year-old go to sleep listening to the radio, and I’m beginning to wonder if it’s a good idea. Last night he said his prayers and wound up with: And God bless Mommy and Daddy and Sister. Amen and FM!
I am a mental tourist. My mind wanders.
The detective was interviewing the man whose clothing shop had just been burglarized.
“It’s bad,” said the proprietor, “but it’s not as bad as it could have been if he’d robbed me yesterday.”
“Why is that?” the detective asked.
“Because today everything was on sale.”
I don’t have a solution but I really admire the problem.
She said: I was teaching a life-skills class to my high school students one day, and we were discussing the various terms one might encounter in a restaurant. I asked, “What does ‘a la carte’ mean?”
“It means,” one student answered, “you’re in the wrong restaurant.”
“If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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