“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
I was in a group discussion the other day that focused on how happiness can be so elusive for many people. This morning a friend commented on what he thought was my apparent positive focus even when I am facing some what appears to be a big problem. In reality I don’t think my outlook is necessarily driven by excessive optimism as much as not focusing on negative possibilities. In my experience the bad things we worry about seldom happen so why let them drag us down.
Here are excerpts from an article written by Angel Chernoff on why so many of us struggle with the effort to be happy. I thought it was worth our consideration this morning.
Reasons You Struggle with Happiness
If you’ve been struggling to find happiness there’s a good chance…
You let envy get the best of you.
When you feel envious, tell yourself not to feel envious. Be blatant and direct. Tell the ‘why not me?’ voice in your head to quiet down and tell the ‘don’t be silly’ voice to speak up. It really is this simple. You actually prevent envy by addressing it directly and stopping it dead in its tracks.
When you feel flustered because someone has received the very thing you want, force yourself to remember how much you have already been given. Remember that there’s plenty for everyone, and that everyone gets one dose at a time.
You don’t DO enough.
A significant majority of your anxiety and unhappiness likely stems from a subconscious disappointment in yourself for the great ideas and dreams that have been forever abandoned in your mind. Although you will sometimes regret the things you carelessly say and do without thinking, you will never regret these things as much as the words and deeds you leave unspoken and undone. Positive growth only occurs when you stretch yourself. What you think has to affect what you say and do.
You’ve let too many problems fester.
Unresolved problems can quickly suck the life out of you. Yet when you resolve just one small problem, you immediately inject a powerful dose of positive energy into everything else you’re involved in.
Instead of burdening yourself with problems, let them to inspire you to make changes. Instead of wasting your energy worrying, invest your energy in doing. Sure, some problems facing you may take a fair amount of time to resolve, but the steps for doing so are still small and manageable. It’s just a matter of starting.
You hold all your feelings hostage.
Anything that’s true in your mind – feelings, fears, etc. – is mentionable to a good friend, and anything that’s mentionable can be more manageable. When you can talk about how you feel, your thoughts become less overwhelming and scary, and more understood. The good friends you trust with these important talks ultimately help you realize that you’re not alone in this world.
You’ve been ignoring an inner calling.
Passion is a funny thing. No matter how hard you try, you can’t block your inner spirit from the ideas that move you at your core. Trying to do so is an exercise in futility. It’s like tearing your mind and heart away from each other and expecting to feel healthy inside. Honestly, when it comes to your passions you just have to go for it. Don’t get lost in apprehension. Give yourself a chance.
You choose to be negative.
Whenever you find yourself falling short on temper and grim with words, whenever you feel yourself slipping into a damp, drizzly November rain in your mind, it’s time to catch yourself before you fall flat on your face. Pull yourself away from the thoughts that make you feel bad – the ones that add zero value to your growth; see how doing so changes your life. You don’t need these negative thoughts; all they have ever given you is a false self that suffers for no reason.
“Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.”
Norman Vincent Peale
Three women were sitting around and bragging about their children. The first one says, “You know, my son graduated first in his class from Stanford. He’s now a doctor, making $250,000 a year in Chicago.” The second woman says, “You know my son graduated first in his class from Harvard. He’s now a lawyer, making half a million dollars a year and lives in Los Angeles.”
The last woman says, “You know my son; he never did too well in school. He never went to any university, but he now makes one million dollars a year in New York working as a sports repairman.”
The other two women ask, “What is a sports repairman?”
The woman then replies, “Oh, he fixes games… you know, hockey games, football games, baseball games….”
Craig said that on the first day of school, a first grader handed his teacher a note from his mother. The note read, “The opinions expressed by this child are not necessarily those of his parents.”
Paddy was in America. He was patiently waiting, and watching the traffic cop on a busy street crossing. The cop stopped the flow of traffic and shouted, “Okay pedestrians”. Then he’d allow the traffic to pass. He’d done this several times, and Paddy still stood on the sidewalk. After the cop had shouted “Pedestrians” for the tenth time, Paddy went over to him and said, “Is it not about time ye let the Catholics across?”
“Weiler’s Law” Nothing is impossible for the man who doesn’t have to do it himself.
Murphy approached Mulligan’s bar. On the step outside he was accosted by a nun, Sister Marie, who said: ‘Surely a fine man like yourself is not going into this den of iniquity? Surely you’re not going to waste your hard-earned cash on the devil’s brew. Why don’t you go home and feed and clothe your wife and children?’
‘Hang on, Sisters,’ spluttered Murphy. ‘How can you condemn alcohol out of hand? Surely it’s wrong to form such a rash judgment when you’ve never tasted the stuff?’
‘Very well,’ said Sister Marie. Till taste it just to prove my point. Obviously I can’t go into the pub, so why don’t you bring me some gin. Oh, and just to camouflage my intent, maybe you should bring it in a cup not a glass!’
‘OK,’ said Murphy and into the bar he breezed.
‘I’ll have a large gin,’ he said to the barman. ‘And can you put it in a cup?’
‘My God,’ said the barman, ‘that nun’s not outside again is she?’
If Wal-Mart is lowering prices every day, how come nothing is free yet?
The closest to perfection a person ever comes is when he fills out a job application.
“Say, Jim,” Steve said to his pal, “how do you like your new job?”
“It’s the worst job I ever had.”
“How long have you been there?”
“About three months.”
“Why don’t you quit?”
“No way. This is the first time in 20 years that I’ve looked forward to going home.”
“Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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