He has achieved success who has worked well, laughed often, and loved much.
I had an enjoyable hour yesterday with some folks from my generation as we participated in a discussion on how we might avoid stagnation and not let fear of taking risks hold us back. These were my kind of people who believe that we all have an opportunity to enrich our lives no matter what our age. These are individuals who are not letting age hold them back; in fact they showed a more realistic view of the real opportunities life has to offer than many younger people I know.
I recently found the following article on WickiHow outlining how to feel good about yourself that reflects a lot of what I heard yesterday. I have edited it somewhat to fit the Daily.
Feel Good About Yourself
Feeling truly good about yourself means loving the person you are — inside and out. If you want to feel good about yourself, it starts with changing your attitude. After that, you can work on creating a lifestyle that makes you feel valuable, loved, and fulfilled.
Changing Your Perspective
Don’t waste your time comparing yourself to others. It will only lower your confidence and bring you down. There’s no one out there just like you, who has grown up with your experiences and who has your talents. You may feel like everyone around you has it better off than you do. The problem is, you probably tend to focus on your weaknesses over your strengths, and may not even realize all of the things you have going for you. You may be wishing you were more like a friend, who has so much confidence, while she has been wishing to have your brains or sense of humor all along.
Develop your confidence. Confidence is the key to feeling good about yourself and to loving the person you are and will become.
- Find something to really excel at, or work on excelling in something you already love. You’ll feel better about yourself if you’re good at something!
- Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself instead of putting you down.
- When you’re entering an unknown situation, focus on the best thing that can possibly happen instead of what can go wrong.
Take pride in your strengths. Surely there must be something you can feel good about! Take the time to sit down and make a list of all of the things you love about yourself. Think of qualities like your compassion, your sense of humor, your strength, or your ability to work hard at anything you do. The longer and more sincere the list, the better. Some qualities you can include are: loving, studious, hardworking, friendly, strong, clever, sharp, easygoing, and fun.
Don’t be down on yourself for having bad days. Sometimes you just have to live with the bad feelings and just know they’ll pass. If you feel seriously sad, be sure to talk to someone who cares about you. People think that, to feel good about themselves, they have to feel amazing 100% of the time. This is just impossible. If you’re having a bad day, especially if it’s after a string of great days, then don’t be hard on yourself and know that this too will pass.
Work on developing a positive attitude. Developing a positive attitude is just as much a decision as something you’re born with. You can work on recognizing when your thoughts are overly negative and turn them around to lead yourself to a healthier mindset.
- For every negative thought that crosses your mind, fight it with at least two or three positive thoughts.
- Practice talking about yourself positively to your friends. You’ll find that your optimism is contagious, and that you’ll feel better about yourself just by talking about it out loud.
Stop caring about what people think. Have you been hurt by words? Remember this: People who insult others usually do it to make themselves be powerful. Know what that means? They’re probably insecure. They are the ones who lack confidence, so try not to bend into the pressure to return their jabs with an insult. Ask yourself if the people who hurt you are worth impressing. Soon enough, you’ll see that they are only an obstacle to your happiness, not a means toward it.
This time, like all times, is a very good one, if we but know what to do with it.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
She said: We were taking six children on a camping trip. I drove the lead car with our gear, and my husband followed in the station wagon. At a tollbooth, I realized that we hadn’t divided the cash supply, and my husband didn’t have any money. I paid a double toll, explaining to the woman attendant, “I’m paying for the car behind me. He has all those children and no money.”
Without cracking a smile, she replied, “Good! Keep him that way.”
Among the most effective labor-saving devices is the neighbor who hasn’t returned your garden tools.
I called to make airline reservations and was put on hold. After several minutes of taped music, a recorded voice came on: “If you have been waiting longer than ten minutes, press eight. This will not speed up your call, but it will give you something to do while you wait.”
At the rate changes are occurring everywhere, anyone nostalgic for the “good old days” is yearning for last week.
There was a tailor named Mendel and he was worried about his business. Mendel was down to his last $50 and was torn between buying a sign and getting food for his family. Mendel decided to pray. “Dear God,” he said, “I don’t know what to do. If I buy a sign it may bring in business, but I need to buy groceries for my family…and if the sign doesn’t bring in sales, we will starve.”
God replied, “Mendel, buy the sign. Don’t worry, your family won’t starve.”
So, Mendel bought the sign and business took off. The tailor fed his family and all was well. However, as time passed it became evident that Mendel couldn’t keep up with orders all by himself. He contemplated hiring on a helper, but wondered if he could afford it. So, he asked God if getting help would be a prudent move.
“Go ahead,” God tells Mendel, “hire some help, you’ll do okay.”
And so Mendel did. And business took off beyond his wildest dreams. After a time, the tailor decided to move to a larger site that would accommodate the growing demands of his business. As he surveyed certain locations, he found a perfect storefront, but the rental price was really steep. “God,” Mendel again prayed, “I found the perfect place to relocate my business. But the cost of the lease worries me. I don’t want to get in over my head.”
“Go ahead and a get a lease on the store, Mendel,” said God. “Trust me, you’ll be okay–I haven’t steered you wrong yet, have I?”
So Mendel signed a lease on the 5th Avenue store and profits from his business went through the roof. Out of heartfelt gratitude, Mendel proposed to the Almighty that he dedicate the store to Him. “How do you like the name “Yaweh and Mendel,” the tailor asked.
“Nah,” God said. “Let’s go with ‘Lord and Taylor.'”
Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
Our dog, Longie, suddenly began barking daily at 4 a.m. Irritated and sleepy, my husband, Larry, searched the back yard for what might have disturbed this otherwise placid animal. For three days he found nothing amiss. Then the dog woke up the neighborhood at 3 a.m. with frantic barking. When Larry looked out the window, he discovered someone throwing pebbles to land near Longie.
Larry hurried outside and found the culprit. Crouching on the other side of the fence was our quiet neighbor, the last man you’d suspect of wrongdoing. My husband demanded to know what he was doing.
“My mother-in-law is visiting,” the embarrassed neighbor explained. “If she loses her beauty sleep another night, she says she’ll leave.”
“There comes a time when you have to stand up and shout: This is me damn it! I look the way I look, think the way I think, feel the way I feel, love the way I love! I am a whole complex package. Take me… or leave me. Accept me – or walk away! Do not try to make me feel like less of a person, just because I don’t fit your idea of who I should be and don’t try to change me to fit your mold. If I need to change, I alone will make that decision. When you are strong enough to love yourself 100%, good and bad – you will be amazed at the opportunities that life presents you.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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