“I would rather walk with a friend in the dark, than alone in the light.”
One thing you will learn as you grow older is the importance of building friendships. In fact there is little in life that is more valuable than the people who have given us the gift of their friendship. They smooth the seas when times get rough, they provide solace during the dark days and often they accompany us to places we would have missed without their guidance.
I know I regret the years when my priorities where focused more on material success than personal enjoyment. But fortunately in the late sixties I took on a job that allowed me to spend more time with my family and to appreciate the good people I met. The highlights of my life over the last 50 years have been those experiences I have shared with others. To this day it is the people I have met and who I get to know and often spend time with that provide me with a happy life. That includes folks like you.
Sadly too many of us age and find our friends drifting away leaving behind only memories and loneliness. Too many times it is our unwillingness to get out and about where there are many folks who would love to be our friends if we would let them. The greatest reward of membership in OASIS, our local premiere senior organization is the friends we make there. Trust me there are new best friends out there just waiting for you to find them.
Here is an abridged article by Cherie Burdach that can help you be discovered as someone worth knowing.
Ways to Make a Great First Impression
By Cherie Burbach
You know the old saying, you never get a second chance to make a first impression. That’s especially true when it comes to meeting potential new friends. Turn someone off the first time you meet them and they may never feel comfortable getting to know you as a friend again.
Even after you get past the first impression, you need to show the very best version of yourself as you continue to get to know them. New friendships can be derailed easily because the other person doesn’t know how to put all your quirks and unique habits in perspective yet. To make a new friendship flow more easily, here are a few tips.
Project Body Language That Invites Conversation
Let people know you’re interested in making friends with your body language. Make eye contact, smile, and stand erect with your arms at your side. Don’t cross your arms or look down at the floor, because this does not encourage conversation. With open body language, you’ll automatically invite people into your personal space.
Be a Great Listener
Listen to people. Too often, when we meet someone new we listen to them just long enough until we think of something we want to say. Rather than fully hearing someone, we’re getting tidbits here and there. Not fully listening means that you’re not letting the bond develop between you and your new friend.
Look for things you like in people, and tell them. Let people know you appreciate them and then let others know as well. If you use this approach each time you meet people, you’ll automatically attract more friends to you then if you were gossiping about them instead.
Invite Conversation While Waiting in Line
If you’re stuck somewhere in line, at the doctor’s office, or the like, use the time to chat with other people. Too often we just get frustrated when there is a delay and we don’t enjoy the opportunity that has been presented us. Be positive and make the best of it. You may win a friend in the process. Here are some ice breakers when you’re making small talk with strangers.
Approach the Quiet and Shy People in a Group
Pay attention to the shy folks who don’t say much. There are always a few people in every social gathering that just seem to hang back and silently watch others. They may be introverted or just shy, and as a result they’re probably not getting the same attention as the more vocal people in the room. If you see someone like this, seek them out and say hello. They’ll be glad you did.
Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You, too? Thought I was the only one.”
- S. Lewis
A elderly man from Minsk was having trouble getting on the train to Pinsk. His arms held at right angles to his body. The hands extending in front of him were separated by several inches of air. Moishele, also traveling to Pinsk, helped the man on the train and kept an eye on him throughout the journey. The hands never moved, and on helping the man out of the carriage Moishele couldn’t resist asking what ailment the man must have for his arms being so rigid.
“Oh, nothing is wrong my boy. My wife wants a pair of shoes and this is her size.”
In theory, there is no difference between theory and practice. But, in practice, there is.
The teacher said, “Now class, we know their are 60 seconds in a minute, 60 minutes in an hour, 24 hours in a day, and 365 days in a year, so who can tell me how many seconds there are in a year?”
All the kids looked baffled by the question except Little Johnny, who raised his hand and waved it excitedly. The teacher said, “Johnny, how many seconds are there in a year?”
Little Johnny said, “Twelve . . . January second, February second, March second . . .”
It was such a small town that we didn’t even have a village idiot. We had to take turns.
When the office printer´s type began to grow faint, the office manager called a local repair shop where a friendly man informed him that the printer probably needed only to be cleaned. Because the store charged $50 for such cleanings, he said, the manager might try reading the printer’s manual and doing the job himself.
Pleasantly surprised by his candor, the office manager asked, “Does your boss know that you discourage business?”
“Actually it’s my boss´s idea,” the employee replied. “We usually make more money on repairs if we let people try to fix things themselves first.”
A celebrity is a person who works hard all his life to become well known, then wears dark glasses to avoid being recognized.
During court one day, the judge quietly passed the clerk a note reading: “Blind on right side, may be falling. Please call someone.” Understandably alarmed, the clerk called for help before whispering to the judge that paramedics were on their way.
Puzzled, the judge pointed to a sagging Venetian blind on the right side of the room and explained, “I was thinking someone from maintenance!”
Never shall I forget the times I spent with you; continue to be my friend, as you will always find me yours.
Ludwig van Beethoven
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