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Archive for January, 2015

I hear music

Music was my refuge. I could crawl into the space between the notes and curl my back to loneliness.

Maya Angelou

 ! Benny Goodman

I am sorry but the weather has been so cold here that my brain froze so today we will go back to a Daily written on a less frigid day.

 Ray’s Daily first published on January 09, 2012

 After spending five days homebound with a severe cold I am about to break out. Tomorrow morning I will cure my cabin fever by having breakfast with someone truly interesting, the archivist of what I believe to be Americas best repository of popular music that includes thousands of pieces of sheet music, old recordings, memorabilia and books covering 20th Century’s great American popular music. I have yet to leave the music of the past and have a streaming radio next to my bed where I dose off each night to the music I love.

My friend has the responsibility of cataloging and managing this huge and growing collection of something of great value. If you would like to know about the collection and Michael Feinstein Great American Songbook Foundation you can do so at http://www.thecenterfortheperformingarts.org/Great-American-Songbook-Inititative.aspx. Here in part is a description of what is included in its collections.

 

The “Great American Songbook”, sometimes referred to as “American Standards”, is the uniquely American collection of popular music from Broadway and Hollywood musicals prevalent from the 1920s to 1960s. Familiar composers include George Gershwin, Irving Berlin, Jerome Kern, Cole Porter, Harold Arlen, and Richard Rodgers. Singers include Frank Sinatra, Al Jolson, Louis Armstrong, Billie Holiday, Judy Garland, Bing Crosby, Ella Fitzgerald, Mel Torme and so many others.

This timeless music offered hope of better days during the Great Depression, built morale during two world wars, helped build social bridges within our culture, and whistled beside us during economic growth. We defended our country, raised families, and built a nation to these songs.

The songwriters of the Great American Songbook translated positive values and an optimistic spirit into the soundtrack of American life. These values are as true and applicable today as they ever have been. Through our work, we hope to educate today’s youth about the relevance of the Great American Songbook and its connection to current popular music.

 

All I can say is what a great way to start the rest of my feel-good breakout activities, breakfast with someone with a fascinating job who lives amongst the memories of the good times and bad times of the past. Much of my lifetime was lived in a more audio world without TV, we found warmth, solace and comfort in music that provided hope during some of the most difficult periods of the 20th century. I am glad that Glenn Miller, Benny Goodman and their contemporaries have left behind their music that continues to brighten my life as time marches on. By the way, one of the great byproducts of doing the Daily every day is what I often find along the way. Today I struck gold, if you are like I am and love the music of the past you have got to visit http://songbook1.wordpress.com/, the music of the past at your fingertips, what a great gift.

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True music must repeat the thought and inspirations of the people and the time. My people are Americans and my time is today.

George Gershwin

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Flying Rules

  1. Every takeoff is optional. Every landing is mandatory.
  2. If you push the stick forward, the houses get bigger. If you pull the stick back, they get smaller. That is, unless you keep pulling the stick all the way back, then they get bigger again.
  3. Flying isn’t dangerous. Crashing is what’s dangerous.
  4. It’s always better to be down here wishing you were up there than up there wishing you were down here.
  5. The ONLY time you have too much fuel is when you’re on fire.
  6. The propeller is just a big fan in front of the plane used to keep the pilot cool. When it stops, you can actually watch the pilot start sweating.
  7. When in doubt, hold on to your altitude. No one has ever collided with the sky.
  8. A ‘good’ landing is one from which you can walk away. A ‘great’ landing is one after which they can use the plane again.
  9. Learn from the mistakes of others. You won’t live long enough to make all of them yourself.
  10. You know you’ve landed with the wheels up if it takes full power to taxi to the ramp.
  11. The probability of survival is inversely proportional to the angle of arrival. Large angle of arrival, small probability of survival and vice versa.
  12. Never let an aircraft take you somewhere your brain didn’t get to five minutes earlier.
  13. Stay out of clouds. The silver lining everyone keeps talking about might be another airplane going in the opposite direction. Reliable sources also report that mountains have been known to hide out in clouds.
  14. Always try to keep the number of landings you make equal to the number of take offs you’ve made.
  15. There are three simple rules for making a smooth landing. Unfortunately no one knows what they are.
  16. You start with a bag full of luck and an empty bag of experience. The trick is to fill the bag of experience before you empty the bag of luck.
  17. Helicopters can’t fly; they’re just so ugly the earth repels them.
  18. If all you can see out of the window is ground that’s going round and round and all you can hear is commotion coming from the passenger compartment, things are not at all as they should be.
  19. In the ongoing battle between objects made of aluminum going hundreds of miles per hour and the ground going zero miles per hour, the ground has yet to lose.
  20. Good judgment comes from experience. Unfortunately, the experience usually comes from bad judgment.
  21. It’s always a good idea to keep the pointy end going forward as much as possible.
  22. Keep looking around. There’s always something you’ve missed.
  23. Remember, gravity is not just a good idea. It’s the law. And it’s not subject to repeal.
  24. The four most useless things to a pilot are the altitude above you, runway behind you, gas back at the airport, and a tenth of a second ago.
  25. There are old pilots and there are bold pilots. There are, however, no old, bold pilots.

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“The healthiest people are often those who laugh at themselves. No wonder, laughter is the best medicine.”

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A medieval astrologer prophesied to a king that his favorite mistress would soon die.  Sure enough, the woman died a short time later.  The king was outraged at the astrologer, certain that his prophecy had brought about the woman’s death.  He summoned the astrologer and commanded him: “Tell me when you will die!”

The astrologer realized that the king was planning to kill him immediately, no matter what answer he gave.  “I do not know when I will die,” he answered finally.  “I only know that whenever I die, the king will die three days later….”

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Joy, sorrow, tears, lamentation, laughter — to all these music gives voice, but in such a way that we are transported from the world of unrest to a world of peace, and see reality in a new way, as if we were sitting by a mountain lake and contemplating hills and woods and clouds in the tranquil and fathomless water.

Albert Schweitzer

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

I appreciate your correcting my mistakes

“Self-righteousness belongs to the narrow-minded.”

Toba Beta

 ! 1 the-truth

As I have grown older I have come to realize the value of being wrong. Over the years I suspect that I like so many others spent so much time trying to prove I was right I did not adequately consider an alternative where the truth often laid. Why is it that so many of our egos seem to drive us to trying to prove to others that we are infallible when in reality our failure to accept that we are wrong demonstrates to others that we are not.

Being open minded and learning that we are wrong brings us to what is right, always a much better place to be. A friend many years ago paid me what to this day was a great compliment, he said I lost gracefully. Being wrong is not a bad thing; it is only when we feel the need to defend our error. I think the quickest way to lose respect is letting your ego destroy your credibility.

Here is an article that is food for thought, I hope you find it of value

“Do I want to be “right”–or do I want to be happy?”

One of the most important questions you can ever ask yourself is, “Do I want to be “right”–or do I want to be happy?”  Many times, the two are mutually exclusive!

Being right, defending our positions, takes an enormous amount of mental energy and often alienates us from the people in our lives.  Needing to be right–or needing someone else to be wrong–encourages others to become defensive, and puts pressure on us to keep defending.  Yet, many of us (me, too, at times) spend a great deal of time and energy attempting to prove (or point out) that we are right–and/or others are wrong.  Many people, consciously or unconsciously, believe that it’s somehow their job to show others how their positions, statements, and points of view are incorrect, and that in doing so, the person they are correcting is going to somehow appreciate it, or at least learn something.  Wrong!

Think about it.  Have you ever been corrected by someone and said to the person who was trying to be right, “Thank you so much for showing me that I’m wrong and you’re right.  Now I see it.  Boy, you’re great!”  Or, has anyone you know ever thanked you (or even agreed with you) when you corrected them, or made yourself “right” at their expense?  Of course not.  The truth is, all of us hate to be corrected.  We all want our positions to be respected and understood by others.  Being listened to and heard is one of the greatest desires of the human heart.  And those who learn to listen are the most loved and respected.  Those who are in the habit of correcting others are often resented and avoided.

It’s not that it’s never appropriate to be right–sometimes you genuinely need to be or want to be.  Perhaps there are certain philosophical positions that you don’t want to budge on such as when you hear a racist comment.  Here, it’s important to speak your mind.  Usually, however, it’s just your ego creeping in and ruining an otherwise peaceful encounter–a habit of wanting or needing to be right. A wonderful, heartfelt strategy for becoming more peaceful and loving is to practice allowing others the joy of being right–give them the glory.  Stop correcting.  As hard as it may be to change this habit, it’s worth any effort and practice it takes.  When someone says, “I really feel it’s important to. . . ” rather than jumping in and saying, “No, it’s more important to. . . ” or any of the hundreds of other forms of conversational editing, simply let it go and allow their statement to stand.  The people in your life will become less defensive and more loving.  They will appreciate you more than you could ever have dreamed possible, even if they don’t exactly know why.  You’ll discover the joy of participating in and witnessing other people’s happiness, which is far more rewarding than a battle of egos.  You don’t have to sacrifice your deepest philosophical truths or most heartfelt opinions, but, starting today, let others be “right,” most of the time!

Richard Carlson

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The truth hurts, but believing the lie makes you look FOOLISH, and you’ll still end up getting hurt.

Sonya Parker

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I am having trouble losing weight using this new diet.

RULES OF EATING — THE BRONX DIETER’S CREED

(1)  Never eat on an empty stomach.

(2)  Never leave the table hungry.

(3)  When traveling, never leave a country hungry.

(4)  Enjoy your food.

(5)  Enjoy your companion’s food.

(6)  Really taste your food.  It may take several portions to accomplish this, especially if subtly seasoned.

(7)  Really feel your food.  Texture is important.  Compare, for example, the texture of a turnip to that of a brownie.  Which feels better against your cheeks?

(8)  Never eat between snacks, unless it’s a meal.

(9)  Don’t feel you must finish everything on your plate.  You can always eat it later.

(10) Avoid any wine with a childproof cap.

(11) Avoid blue food

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Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

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My grocery cart’s wheel was making a horrible scraping sound as I rolled it through the supermarket.

When I finished my shopping, I saw a cartless woman and offered it up, explaining, “It makes an awful noise, but it works.”

“That’s okay,” she said, taking it. “I have a husband at home just like that.”

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Two fish are in a tank. One says to the other, “Do you know how to drive this thing?”

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Nine signs you are on a No Frill Airline

  1. You can’t board the plane unless you have the exact change.
  2. Before you take off, the stewardess tells you to fasten your Velcro.
  3. The Captain asks all the passengers to chip in a little for gas.
  4. When they pull the steps away, the plane starts rocking.
  5. The Captain yells at the ground crew to get the cows off the runway.
  6. You ask the Captain how often their planes crash and he says, “Just once.”
  7. No movie. Don’t need one. Your life keeps flashing before your eyes.
  8. You see a man with a gun, but he’s demanding to be let off the plane.
  9. All the planes have both a bathroom and a chapel.

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Tact is rubbing out another’s mistake instead of rubbing it in.

Farmer’s Almanac

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A little girl asked her mother, “How did the human race come about?”

The Mother answered, “God made Adam and Eve; they had children and, so all mankind was made.”

A few days later, the little girl asked her father the same question. The father answered, “Many years ago there were monkeys, and we developed from them.”

The confused girl returns to her mother and says, “Mom, how is it possible that you told me that the human race was created by God, and Papa says we developed from monkeys?”

The Mother answers, “Well, dear, it is very simple. I told you about the origin of my side of the family, and your father told you about his side.”

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“Facts do not cease to exist because they are ignored.”

Aldous Huxley

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

What we do everyday matters more than what we do once in a while

We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.

Aristotle

 ! good habits

We had our first real winter snow yesterday and now we are basking in artic like temperatures. The snow yesterday was not all that bad, five inches or so, but it was enough for my wife to convince me I should skip going to the gym and reschedule a much delayed breakfast meeting. After living for a few years in Minnesota I find todays frigid temperatures somewhat balmy compared to life in the Twin Cities.

Part of my idle time yesterday was thinking about what I could share with you this morning. We communicate often enough that you already know me pretty well and know I am a big fan of bestselling author Gretchen Rubin. In recent years she has shared her personal philosophy which is focused on the art of happiness. Her writings are especially warm reads on cold days so I thought I would share this piece of hers written some time ago.

Here’s My Habits Manifesto. What’s Yours?

Writing a personal manifesto is a great exercise for clarifying your thinking — and it’s also a creative, absorbing process. I’ve written my Twelve Personal Commandments, and I also collect Secrets of Adulthood, which aren’t manifestos, but related to the same impulse.

As I’ve been writing Better Than Before, my book about how we make and break habits, I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about habit-formation. I decided I should write my manifesto for habits. Voila, here’s my Habits Manifesto.

  • What we do every day matters more than what we do once in a while.
  • Make it easy to do right and hard to go wrong.
  • Focus on actions, not outcomes.
  • By giving something up, we may gain.
  • Things often get harder before they get easier.
  • When we give more to ourselves, we can ask more from ourselves.
  • We’re not very different from other people, but those differences are very important.
  • It’s easier to change our surroundings than ourselves.
  • We can’t make people change, but when we change, others may change.
  • We should make sure the things we do to feel better don’t make us feel worse.
  • We manage what we monitor.
  • Once we’re ready to begin, begin now.

Have you ever written your own manifesto? If you wrote a manifesto for habits, what would you add (or subtract)?

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Times of transition are strenuous, but I love them. They are an opportunity to purge, rethink priorities, and be intentional about new habits. We can make our new normal any way we want.

Kristin Armstrong

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A harried driving instructor came home from work, kicked off his shoes, and fell into a chair. “I’m thinking of taking six or seven of my students to England,” he said.

“What on earth for?” his wife asked.

“It might make them feel good to see what it’s like to drive on the left side of the road-legally.”

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Failure is the greatest opportunity I have to know who I really am.

John Killinger

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It was election time and a politician decided to go out to the local reservation and try to get the Native American vote. They were all assembled in the Council Hall to hear his speech.  The politician had worked up to his finale, and the crowd was getting more and more excited. “I promise better education opportunities for Native Americans!”

The crowd went wild, shouting “Hoya!  Hoya!”

The politician was a bit puzzled by this native word, but was encouraged by their enthusiasm. So he continued on. “I promise gambling reforms to allow a Casino on the Reservation!”

“Hoya!  Hoya!” cried the crowd, stomping their feet.

“I promise more social reforms and job opportunities for Native Americans!”

The crowd reached a frenzied pitch shouting “Hoya! Hoya!  Hoya!”

After the speech, the Politician was touring the Reservation, and saw a tremendous herd of cattle.  Since he was raised on a ranch, and knew a bit about cattle, he asked the Chief if he could get closer to take a look at the cattle.

“Oh, sure…” the Chief said, “but just be careful not to step in the hoya.”

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The brighter you are, the more you have to learn.

Don Herold

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Becky is having lunch with Hannah. Becky says, “My Morris is just impossible. Absolutely nothing pleases him. Tell me, Hannah, is your Harold hard to please?”

Hannah shrugs and replies, “I wouldn’t know. I’ve never tried.”

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All my life, I always wanted to be somebody. Now I see that I should have been more specific.

Jane Wagner

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A customer sent an order to a distributor for a large amount of goods totaling a great deal of money. The distributor, noticing that the previous bill hadn’t been paid, instructed the collections manager to contact the customer. The collections manager made the call and left a voice-mail for them saying, “We can’t ship your new order until you pay for the last one.”

The next day the collections manager received a collect phone call from the customer who said, “Please cancel the order. We can’t wait that long.”

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Sign outside the Red Horse Saloon:  Cheap T-Bone Steaks, 99 cents….w/meat, $10.99.

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“Mollie, how is your sister?  I heard she is very ill.”

“Sadie, my sister is impossible.  I never told you but we have been on the outs for as far as I can remember.  Last Tuesday, my son begged me to see her.  So, let me tell you.  When I stood next to her bed, she had the nerve to say, “Mollie, I just want to let you know that if I die you’re forgiven for all you’ve done to me.  But, if I get well, things remain the same!”

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“Sow a thought, and you reap an act;

Sow an act, and you reap a habit;

Sow a habit, and you reap a character;

Sow a character, and you reap a destiny.”

Samuel Smiles

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

They need us all

“May all nurture their children and grandchildren properly and be blessed with 100 years of healthy life.”

Rig Veda

 ! Baby

It seems to me that the children of today are being forced to carry heavy burdens. Jobs for the young are scarce, college graduates leave with staggering debt, society has not provided a place other than the streets for far too many kids, and there are predators out there offering drugs and gang membership to far too many.

There are exceptions but not nearly enough. Too many adults seem to believe that it is up to society to nurture and almost raise their kids. Some have little choice having to work multiple jobs just to keep the family fed and housed, but far too many others seem to be too busy to invest time in caring for their families. For many the family meal has disappeared, family get-togethers are nonexistent and the children often are left to fend for themselves.

I hope the day comes when my generation and my children’s generation recognize that the kids being raised today will control the years ahead. If we don’t invest in them now we will pay a terrible price later. Kids should not have to raise themselves.

I wish all adults would read the following piece and then make sure they do what they can for the adults of tomorrow.

When you thought I wasn’t looking

A message every adult should read, because children are watching you and doing as you do, not as you say.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you hang my first painting on the refrigerator and I immediately wanted to paint another one.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I saw you feed a stray cat, and I learned that it was good to be kind to animals.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you make my favourite cake for me and I learned that the little things can be the special things in life.

When you thought I wasn’t looking I heard you say a prayer, and I knew there is a God I could always talk to and I learned to trust in God.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you make a meal and take it to a friend who was sick, and I learned that we all have to help take care of each other.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you give of your time and money to help people who had nothing and I learned that those who have something should give to those who don’t.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw you take care of our house and everyone in it and I learned we have to take care of what we are given.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw how you handled your responsibilities, even when you didn’t feel good and I learned that I would have to be responsible when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw tears come from your eyes and I learned that sometimes things hurt, but it’s alright to cry.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I saw that you cared and I wanted to be everything that I could be.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I learned most of life’s lessons that I need to know to be a good and productive person when I grow up.

When you thought I wasn’t looking, I looked at you and wanted to say, ‘Thanks for all the things I saw when you thought I wasn’t looking.’

Each of us (parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle, teacher or friend) influence the life of a child. How will you touch the life of someone today?

Written by a former child

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“Be the one who nurtures and builds. Be the one who has an understanding and a forgiving heart one who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them.”

Marvin J. Ashton

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An elderly woman from Brooklyn decided to prepare her will and make her final requests. She told her rabbi she had two final requests. First, she wanted to be cremated, and second, she wanted her ashes scattered over Bloomingdales.

“Bloomingdales!” the rabbi exclaimed. “Why Bloomingdales?”

“Then I’ll be sure my daughters visit me twice a week.”

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If you find in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded.

Maya Angelou

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Years ago readers of William Safire’s “On Language” column in THE NEW YORK TIMES MAGAZINE were asked to give sports-related definitions for common words:

Superficial:  A really good referee

Beleaguered:  Stuck in the semi pros

Hermit:  Girl’s baseball glove

Saturnine:  Baseball team that plays on weekends

Truncate:  Tailgate party given by a compact-car owner

Wrinkle:  A small hockey arena

Haiku:  Signal to center from a Japanese quarterback

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One discovers a friend by chance, and cannot but feel regret that 20 or 30 years of life may have been spent without the least knowledge of him.

Charles Dudley Warner

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Jane says that there are seven stages to the married cold

Stage 1: Sugar Dumpling, I’ve really been worried about my baby girl. That’s a bad sniffle, and there’s no telling about these things with all the strep that’s going around. I’m going to put you in the hospital for a general check-up and a good rest. I know the food’s terrible, but I’m going to bring you dinner every night from Rosini’s. I have it all arranged with the floor supervisor.

Stage 2: Listen, Darling, I don’t like the sound of that cough. I’m going to call Doc Miller to rush over here. Now you go to bed like a good girl just for Papa.

Stage 3: Maybe you’d better lie down, Honey. Nothing like a little rest when you feel lousy. I’ll bring you something. Do we have any canned soup?

Stage 4: Now look, Dear, be sensible. After you’ve fed the kids, and gotten the dishes done, and the floor mopped, you’d better lie down for a while.

Stage 5: Why don’t you take a couple of aspirins?

Stage 6: Why don’t you just gargle or something instead of sitting around barking like a seal all evening?

Stage 7: Would you stop coughing on me? Are you trying to give me pneumonia?

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You Know Your kids Have Grown Up When: Your Daughter Begins To Put On Lipstick! Or Your Son Starts To Wipe It Off.

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A man mentioned to his landlord about the tenants in the apartment over his. “Many a night they stamp on the floor and shout till midnight.”

When the landlord asked if it bothered him, he replied, “Not really, as I usually stay up and practice my trumpet till about that time most every night anyway.”

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“Children nurtured in kindness learn the value of understanding. Children taught to be self-sufficient, to respect others, to value education and to build life up rather than to tear it down will become adults capable of leading us to a brighter future. For (as Karl Menninger noted) what’s done to children, they will do to society.”

Steve Goodier

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

A Second Chance

“Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment.”

Jim Rohn

! Every-Accomplishment

Now we really start 2015. Most everyone is back to work and reality is setting back in. It is time to revisit our resolutions to either reaffirm our commitment to fulfill them or to evaluate and if necessary revise them so that we have a realistic expectation of achievement this year.

I think this year I kept mine modest so that there was no reason to let myself off the hook. So expect to end the year feeling good about what I have done.

I got the following article the other day and can’t remember who I go it from but it is worth reading if you are serious about your New Year’s resolutions.

7 Mistakes people make in setting New Year’s Resolutions

And how to avoid them so you can finally keep yours

As another year wraps up and a new one begins, you may be saying to yourself that this year will be different. To be sure that you set and keep your resolutions this year, avoid falling into the trap of making these seven common mistakes when it comes to creating New Year’s Resolutions.

  1. Creating goals that are too big – There is nothing wrong with setting big goals, but it is important to be realistic. If you are struggling to run a ten minute mile right now and you expect to average four minute miles by the end of the year, you might be setting yourself up for failure. One of the rules for smart goal setting involves creating goals that are achievable. If you truly believe that you can achieve something, you will be more likely to go after it.
  2. Making resolutions that are too general – Did that holiday eating add a few extra pounds to your waistline that you would like to lose? Be careful not to set the resolution of just “losing weight,” and be clear about exactly how much weight you would like to lose. When you create goals that are specific and measurable, they become a lot easier to achieve.
  3. Being a perfectionist – Perhaps you have been there: You set out to do something consistently whether it is exercising or eating better, you mess up, and then give up all together. Instead of being rigid when it comes to keeping your resolutions and giving up all together if you do not get it perfect, be flexible with yourself. Recognize that you are human, that you make mistakes, and be as consistent as possible with whatever you need to do despite maybe not getting it right 100% of the time.
  4. Giving up too soon – You know what they say about gyms being full of people the first week of January and then clearing out by February? People give up on achieving their goals too soon. Sticking to any new behavior that is not yet habitual can be challenging. Habits take weeks of practice and consistency to stick. Do not give up on your resolution before the habit has even had a chance to form. The first few weeks could be the hardest. Once you have it stuck as a part of your routine, it will hopefully be a new habit that is there to stay.
  5. Not believing in yourself – This could be the biggest source of failure of all time, whether it is about achieving a New Year’s Resolution or any kind of goal that you set. You have to believe in yourself that you can accomplish what you set out to achieve, otherwise, there is little point in going after it.
  6. Not having any accountability – As independent as we might like to think we are, we are more interconnected than anything else. We are social animals, and public accountability can make a big difference. Whether you select a few close friends to tell your resolutions to or make a public broadcast about them, the accountability factor from others can help you stay accountable to yourself.
  7. Forgetting why you made the resolution in the first place – What is the point of keeping a new habit if you lose touch with your big why behind it? Many people fail to keep resolutions simply because they forgot the reason why they created them in the first place. You can avoid this mistake by reminding yourself of the reason why you came up with this resolution on a regular basis. Keep an image of what you are going after in your imagination, and you will be more likely to stick to your resolution.

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“There is a real magic in enthusiasm. It spells the difference between mediocrity and accomplishment.”

Norman Vincent Peale

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It was the first day of school; many new teachers and even more new students, filled the building quickly. As the principal made his rounds to check in on each class, he heard a terrible commotion coming from one of the classrooms down the hall. He quickly rushed down the corridor, opened the door where he heard the noise coming from, & walked in. Right away he spotted one boy, taller than the others, who seemed to be making the most noise.  Despite the boy’s reluctance to move, the principal seized the lad, dragged him to the hall, and told him to wait there until he was excused. No and’s, if’s, or but’s about it! Returning to the classroom, the principal restored order and then proceeded to lecture the class for half an hour about the importance of good behavior.

“Now,” he said,” are there any questions before I leave?”

“One girl stood up timidly.  “Please sir,” she asked, “May we have our teacher back?”

“Well, I don’t see why not.”  Looking around the class, he says, “And…just…. where… exactly… is your teacher?”

“He’s the one out in the hall, sir.”

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Live your life so that when you die, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

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Two men sank into adjacent train seats after a long day in the city. One asked the other, “Your son go back to college yet?”

“Two days ago.”

“Hmm. Mine’s a senior this year, so it’s almost over. In May, he’ll be an engineer.”

“What’s your boy going to be when he gets out of college?”

“At the rate he’s going, I’d say he’ll be about thirty.”

“No, I mean what’s he taking in college?”

“He’s taking every penny I make.”

“Well, has sending him to college done anything at all?”

“Sure has! It’s totally cured his mother of bragging about him!”

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Don’t borrow trouble.  Be patient and you’ll soon have some of your own.

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A new man is brought into Prison Cell 102. Already there is a long-time resident who looks 100 years old. The new man looks at the old-timer inquiringly. The old-timer says,

“Look at me. I’m old and worn out. You’d never believe that I used to live the life of Riley. I wintered on the Riviera, had a boat, four fine cars, the most beautiful women, and I ate in all the best restaurants of France.”

The new man asked, “What happened?”

“One day Riley reported his credit cards missing!”

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I joined a health club last year, spent about 400 bucks. Haven’t lost a pound. Apparently you have to go there.

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Linda was driving her old beat up car on the Highway with her 7 year old son. She tried to keep up with traffic but they were flying by her. After getting caught in a large group of cars flying down the road, she looked at her speedometer to see she was doing 15 miles over the speed limit. Slowing down, she moved over to the side and got out of the clump that soon left her behind.

Linda looked up and saw the flashing lights of a police car. She waited for the officer to come up to her car. As he did he said, “Ma’am do you know why I pulled you over?”

Her son piped up from the back seat, “I do… because you couldn’t catch the other cars!”

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“One part at a time, one day at a time, we can accomplish any goal we set for ourselves.”

Karen Casey

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Ready, Set, Go!

“Isn’t it nice to think that tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet?”

L.M. Montgomery

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I really like 2015, I have had no medical problems so far this year. I had a good New Year’s day yesterday after having prepared and devoured a corn beef brisket which has become a family tradition. I plan on a day of leisure today once I finish my morning 5 AM workout at the YMCA.

The weekend is looking good as well. Tomorrow evening we will be with my oldest daughter and her family for quiet celebration and then Sunday we are brunching with old friends at a favorite restaurant. The weather will be tolerable and not as nasty as it might be this time of year, I am grateful for that because I really don’t like stunt driving on snow and ice.

Monday my world comes back alive, the holidays are over, idle days will be replaced with action packed sessions geared to getting a good start on the new year. I am glad of that for retirement provides me more than enough idle time even during the normal work weeks and too much of it is detrimental to my mental health. I anticipate a good year ahead not requiring more of me than doing a little better job on my weight management and the quality of my exercise routines while doing what I can for those I care about.

What about you? Is 2015 going to be a breakthrough year for you? I hope so. If you’re looking for a strategy you might find the following ideas from Angel Chernoff helpful.

5 Ways to Start the Year You Want

  1. Take a month to reflect and recharge. – If you find your mid-month or mid-year routines spinning your wheels, take one month and simply reflect on what you’ve done in the past few months – what’s working, what isn’t, potential changes that need to be implemented, etc. Recharge your focus so that you can take on the months ahead.
  2. Theme your months. – Another clever way to ensure that you can start the year you want anytime you want is to apply a theme to each month of the year. For example, if you have a project or goal that you’ve been dying to work on, take a month of the year to make it your primary focus.  This isn’t to say that you have to completely ignore everything that’s unrelated to what you’re trying to achieve during that month.  Instead, by aligning that month with your specific project or goal, and making it the focal point, or theme, you are more likely to put forth the time and effort necessary to make significant progress on it.
  3. Classify days for heavy-lifting and light-lifting. – Use your days accordingly. There are some days where you’re going to be able to spend a significant amount of time on your goal or project, and there will be days where you simply won’t be able to at all.  I use a system of ‘heavy-lifting’ and ‘light-lifting’ days to help me make measured progress on my goals and projects.  By taking the days that I know I’m going to be able to spend the bulk of my time on my goal or project, I allow myself some emotional support for those days where I can’t – and don’t feel bad about taking those days off in the process. The key is to evaluate and plan your schedule enough to know which days are for heavy lifting and which days aren’t.  It’s going to be different for everyone, but by classifying both types of days it helps you prioritize and emotionally separate the various kinds of work you “should be doing.”  This prevents you from neglecting what you need to do for the sake of what you want to do, or from trying to do too much at once.
  1. Capture and curate. – Being busy and being productive are two totally different things. For instance, rocking in a rocking chair can keep you busy, but it’s not going to get you anywhere. It’s all about figuring out how you can deliver the greatest positive impact on your projects and goals in a set amount of time. Obviously you can’t do everything and still be productive; trying to do so is futile.  This is where capturing and curating come into play.  You should spend at least two weeks capturing and tracking your daily tasks on an hourly basis, or as often as you can through each day.  It’s a challenging habit to adopt, but once you’ve spent some time doing it, you can then begin the selective process of curating those tasks.  This involves reprioritizing, reordering, expanding, and eliminating tasks so that you really spend your time getting the right things done, instead of simply being busy just for the sake of appearing to be productive.
  1. Manage your time realistically – Even after curating your tasks and time effectively, you’ll still have to give yourself the freedom to let some things go. Some of what you tracked is not immediately important and will have to go on the back burner, and some of it will have to drop off your radar altogether.

The key to having the year you want anytime you want is to accept the limited amount of time you have to do something really, really great.  The value of quality over quantity is essential when it comes to how you manage your time, which in turn is essential to your long-term happiness and success.  Better to do one amazing thing than ten mediocre things. 

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“The future begins today.”

Wayne Gerard Trotman

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“Jewish Wisdom”

  • If you don’t eat, it will kill your mother and grandmother.
  • Anything worth saying is worth repeating a thousand times.
  • Never leave a restaurant empty-handed.
  • According to Jewish dietary law, pork and shellfish may be eaten only in Chinese restaurants.
  • If you’re going to whisper at the movies, make sure it’s loud enough for everyone else to hear.
  • No meal is complete without leftovers.
  • Laugh now, but one day you’ll be driving a big Cadillac and eating dinner at four in the afternoon.

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“If not actually disgruntled, he was far from being gruntled.”

  1. G. Wodehouse

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A lady is having a bad day at the roulette tables in ‘Vegas. She’s down to her last $50. Exasperated, she exclaims, “What rotten luck! What in the world should I do now?” A man standing next to her, trying to calm her down, suggests, “I don’t know… why don’t you play your age?” He walks away. Moments later, his attention is grabbed by a great commotion at the roulette table. Maybe she won! He rushes back to the table and pushes his way through the crowd. The lady is lying limp on the floor, with the table operator kneeling over her. The man is stunned. He asks, “What happened? Is she all right?” The operator replies, “I don’t know. She put all her money on 29, and 36 came up. Then she just fainted!”

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A Sunday School teacher asked her class, “Does anyone here know what we mean by sins of omission?”

A small girl replied, “Aren’t those the sins we should have committed, but didn’t?”

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Master Sergeant Benwah was a thirty-year Army veteran now assigned to a training battalion and tough as nails. He seemed to have no thought whatsoever about how others responded to his cut-and-dried military manner.

One day he assembled the training battalion and announced, “Private Strader, take one step forward.” Private Strader took one step forward, and the sergeant bellowed, “Private Strader. Report to the chaplain; your mother just died.” Strader just crumbled and fainted dead away from shock.

Later that day, the battalion commander chewed out the master sergeant: “You’re going to have to learn something about TACT. You just can’t yell at a man and tell him his mother just died. The next time you’re called on for this duty, you’d better do it in a more compassionate way.”

It just so happened that the very next day, another soldier’s mother died, and the MSGT assembled the troops again. “All you whose mother is living” he shouted, “take one step forward. NOT SO FAST, TAYLOR!”

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I have to exercise early in the morning, before my brain figures out what I’m doing.

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An older gentleman had an appointment to see the urologist who shared offices with several other doctors. The waiting room was filled with patients. As he approached the receptionist’s desk, he noticed that the receptionist was a large unfriendly woman who looked like a Sumo wrestler. He gave her his name.

In a very loud voice, the receptionist said, “YES, I HAVE YOUR NAME HERE – YOU WANT TO SEE THE DOCTOR ABOUT IMPOTENCE, RIGHT?”

All the patients in the waiting room snapped their heads around to look at the very embarrassed man. He recovered quickly, and in an equally loud voice replied, “NO, I’VE COME TO INQUIRE ABOUT A SEX CHANGE OPERATION, BUT I DON’T WANT THE SAME DOCTOR THAT DID YOURS.”

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“And now we welcome the new year, full of things that have never been”

Rainer Maria Rilke

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are more than 2000 readers from around the world.

 

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