“Failure isn’t fatal, but failure to change might be”
One of the great things that comes from a long life is learning that failures happen and they only linger if we let them. I have long learned to view failures as temporary obstacles and beneficial learning experiences. I think you have heard me before when I have reported that when things go wrong the first thing going through my mind if that the world did not end and life will go on.
If we spent less time worrying about what someone else may think and more time on getting back up and moving on we all would be better off. Of course the other thing that age gives us is the understanding that much of what we once thought is important really isn’t. I appreciate those who judge themselves on how well they live their lives rather than keeping a scorecard of their missteps.
Here is an article written by Henrik Edberg of the Positivity Blog that I think is worth considering.
Sometimes we fail.
It is not fun. But it happens. So what can you do then? Let me quickly share three steps that help me.
- Just be with what you are feeling.
When you fail it will most often hurt. Oftentimes a bit, sometimes quite a bit. And that is OK. Don’t try to paint it over with a smile.
I have found in my own life that it works better to just be with what I am thinking and feeling. To try to accept it, to let it in and to hurt for a while instead of trying to reject it all and to keep it away. Because when you let it in and accept it will go faster and in the long run less be painful to process what has happened. If you reject how you really feel then those emotions will pop up at unexpected times later on and can make you moody, pessimistic, angry or sad.
Just being with your feelings and accepting them is however not a license to start feeling sorry for yourself or going deep into the victim role for the next two weeks or months though.
- Remind yourself that failure is a temporary thing.
When you have failed it is very easy to start thinking that you will always keep failing in this area of your life. It is easy to start thinking that you are indeed a failure. Don’t fall for such a destructive self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead, remind yourself that just because you failed today or yesterday does not mean that you will fail the next time.
The truth is that this won’t last for the rest of your life if you keep taking action and it does not label you as some kind of failure. Seeing what is negative as a temporary thing instead of something permanent is an essential key to an optimistic attitude and to living a life of fully exploring your own potential.
- Find the constructive path forward. The previous steps help me to move from the initial hurt to rekindling my positivity. In this final step more fuel is added to the fire of optimism and action is taken to start moving forward again.
What I have found to work really well to do that is to ask myself a few questions like:
- What is one thing I can learn from what has happened?
- What is one thing I want to do differently the next time?
- What is one small step I can take to more forward today?
And then to take action on the answers I get.
Failure is only the opportunity to begin again more intelligently.
Recently in Traffic Court a man who received an expensive parking ticket testified that a uniformed Policeman had given his OK for the man to park there. The Judge asked the man if he would recognize the Officer if he ever saw him again, and the man replied that he would.
The Judge then said, “Good. When you see the Officer again, tell him he owes you $57. Next…”
I love giving homemade gifts. Which of my children would you like?
The Japanese eat very little fat and suffer fewer heart attacks than the British or Americans.
The Mexicans east a lot of fat and suffer fewer heart attacks than the British or Americans.
The Japanese drink very little red wine and suffer fewer heart attacks than the British or Americans.
The Italians drink excessive amounts of red wine and suffer fewer heart attacks than the British or Americans.
The Germans drink a lot of beer and eat lots of fatty food and suffer fewer heart attacks than the British or Americans
Conclusion: Eat, drink and be merry. Speaking English is what kills
Can’t sleep? Try counting your blessings.
“Sometimes when I reflect back on all the beer I drink, I feel ashamed. Then I look into the glass and think about the workers in the brewery and all of their hopes and dreams. If I didn’t drink this beer, they might be out of work and their dreams would be shattered. Then I say to myself, “It is better that I drink this beer and let their dreams come true than be selfish and worry about my liver.”
Does the name Pavlov ring a bell?
The Founding Fathers were sitting around a table sometime in 1776, working on the constitution. It had been a long day.
Father1: Whew! It’s getting rather warm in here, isn’t it?
Father2: Shall I open the window?
Father1: No, that’s alright. I’ll just take off my jacket, and roll up my sleeves.
Father2: Hey, that’s a good idea. Why don’t we include that in the constitution?
Father1: What? That we’re allowed to take our jackets off and roll up our sleeves while at work?
Father2: Yeah, but that doesn’t sound very smooth. How about “Everyone shall have the right to bare arms?”
She said: If the shoe fits……buy a pair in every color.
As a high school football coach, I’m aware that student athletes tend to focus too much on sports. Bob, a fellow coach, was talking about one such player, who called him at home one night. When his wife informed the kid that Bob wasn’t home, he became frantic and said he had to speak to the coach right away.
“Just calm down, and I’ll have him call you as soon as he gets home,” the coach’s wife told him. “What’s your number?”
The flustered kid replied, “Three.”
“Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay, not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end. Failure is something we can avoid only by saying nothing, doing nothing, and being nothing.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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