It’s amazing how one person can make you feel so special even though they live so far away.
Each week I get notified that new readers are picking up Ray’s Daily. This is its fifteenth year and it keeps gaining readership. I never really know how many readers there are as it is distributed in a number of different ways. I do hear from some folks occasionally when they comment on something they read or on an action they took because of an idea they got from the Daily. Others send me things they believe I would like and I do appreciate hearing form them.
The Daily is posted on WordPress where it is widely read with many folks who subscribe as followers. I have only recently learned the details of the readership. For example the majority of the readers are from the USA which was no surprise. I did not expect however that the second most readers are from Italy, followed by India, the UK and Canada. In total it has been read by people in over 140 countries including Zimbabwe, Cameroon, Gibraltar, the Isle of Man and Madagascar.
I have been surprised that something I started so many years ago as way to stay in touch with friends has grown to what it is today. Even if we have never met I still think of every reader as a long distance friend.
I think we all benefit when we nurture friendships no matter the distances involved. I am sure not everyone wants to publish their own Daily but if you have some friends that you don’t want to drift away you might try these ideas that were published on the East and Blog.
Tips for Maintaining Long-Distance Friendships
SET CALENDAR REMINDERS
When you get off the phone with someone, set a calendar reminder in your phone (with an alert) for your next call. You won’t suddenly turn in to every day talkers, but maybe skip ahead 4 weeks and add the reminder. It’ll help keep 6 months from going by accidentally.
EMBRACE SNAIL MAIL
Nothing reminds someone that you miss them like a handwritten card. My favorite place to find cute, quality cards is T.J. Maxx or Marshalls. One trick is to pre-address and stamp several cards at once. Then later all you have to do is write a quick note, stuff it, seal it, and pop it in the mail.
HAVE YOUR NEXT VISIT IN MIND
When my bestie Kaylin and I see each other, we make it a point to make a guesstimate on when we’ll see each other next.
TEXT THE LITTLE THINGS, EVEN IF YOU THINK THEY’RE DUMB
If something makes you think of a friend or a funny memory you shared together, send them a quick text. If something ridiculous happens to you, send a quick text.
ACCEPT THAT THINGS HAVE CHANGED
For a long time I felt guilty about not maintaining as many friendships as I thought I would. The thing is, there are many friends who I haven’t figured out how to fit in to my new life. We’ve never gotten in to the groove of being daily texters. It’s simply not possible to keep dozens of people up to date on day-to-day life. So those are the marathon phone call friends. But sometimes, they’re the people you look back on fondly on the occasion that you think of them.
Losing touch doesn’t have to mean you weren’t great friends. Perhaps your friendship with each other served a purpose during a certain point in your life (say, college) and now you have other people filling that purpose. It isn’t that you didn’t love each other. It’s not that the whole friendship is a failure. It evolved. And sometimes people evolve away from each other.
Strangers are just friends waiting to happen.
A guy once wandered into a Jewish restaurant and ordered roast chicken. It arrived complete with potatoes and a few sundries, and the diner looked at it without much favor. He said to the waiter, “Don’t I get a green vegetable?”
And the waiter said, “And what color is the pickle? Purple?”
Good judgment comes from experience, and often experience comes from bad judgment.
Rita Mae Brown
A Mom and Dad went to a restaurant one evening. Dad was about halfway finishing his meal when took a hard look at the potato.
He called the waitress and said, “This potato is bad.”
The waitress picked it up, smacked it, and put it back on the plate, then said, “If that potato causes any more trouble just let me know.”
“Conscience is the inner voice that warns us somebody is looking.”
Henry Louis Mencken
One day, a mechanical engineer, electrical engineer, chemical engineer, and computer engineer were driving down the street in the same car when it broke down.
The mechanical engineer said, “I think a rod broke.”
The chemical engineer said, “The way it sputtered at the end, I think it’s not getting enough gas.”
The electrical engineer said, “I think there was a spark and something’s wrong with the electrical system.”
All three turned to the computer engineer and said, “What do you think?”
The computer engineer said, “I think we should all get out and then get back in.”
“The world is full of willing people, some willing to work, the rest willing to let them.”
Coming through the door after school one day, Little Johnny hollers out, “Okay, everyone in the house, please be advised that I, Little Johnny, have on this date made a complete fool of myself in sex education class by repeating stories concerning storks as told to me by certain parties residing in this house!”
A mother may hope that her daughter will get a better husband that she did, but she knows her son will never get as good a wife as his father did.
A Sunday school teacher was teaching her class about the difference between right and wrong.
“All right children, let’s take another example,” she said. “If I were to get into a man’s pocket and take his billfold with all his money, what would I be?”
Little Johnny raises his hand, and with a confident smile, he blurts out, “you’d be his wife!”
“There is magic in long-distance friendships. They let you relate to other human beings in a way that goes beyond being physically together and is often more profound.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.
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