“One day your life will flash before your eyes. Make sure it’s worth watching”
I was at a dinner party the other night chatting with an educator and expressed my concerns that it seemed like too many young people defined success almost exclusively as being able to accumulate wealth. My fear is that in the rush to earn more so that one can buy more often provides little time for the non-material joys that exist for those who define success as being able to live a well-rounded life. There is a lot to be said for earning what is needed to live a comfortable life while enjoying, family, friends and more.
I had copied a piece by someone who realized what real success is and took action to achieve it in his life. Unfortunately I cannot find the original article and am sorry I cannot give the author the credit he deserves. Here is what he wrote:
What Is Success?
What is success, really? What does the word success bring to your mind? I am sure many would answer along the lines of lots of money, big house, new car, designer clothes, five star restaurants and all that. And sure enough, those are signs of success on the material level. Nothing wrong in reaching for those – as long as you feel joy in the process.
It has been interesting to see how my own idea of success has evolved through the years. When I was young, I was eagerly reaching for material success. I chose my jobs accordingly and so of course ended up in sales. And sure enough I did earn some pretty good pay checks.
But then a nagging feeling started to grow. I began to realize selling was not what I wanted to do all my life. After all I was often forced to sell products I knew did not really fit the customer. You know how sales meetings go: all that matters is the amount of money you made. The values were hard. Eventually I became very unhappy.
And so I became to realize that even with big pay checks I did not feel successful. That is when my search for success turned inwards. I quit sales and chose another profession – this time helping people. The feeling of relief and belonging was great – and suddenly my life felt successful again. Even though I earned less, I was much more content.
I started to paint again. I love horses so at first it was horse portraits only. Then abstracts – and then other subjects. And then I returned to my old love – writing. And positive thinking. These two are what this website is all about.
I realized I felt the most successful when I loved what I did, never mind the money. And so for my own part I define success by the feeling of contentment. Joy, happiness. These emotions can be triggered by many things. Painting, writing. Playing with a small child. Handling a difficult case at work well.
So what is success for you? Do you let others define what is your success ? Are you reaching for that big house just to impress others? Or have you learned yet to listen to yourself and what feels good within? Try to learn to listen to your own feelings – and you may be surprised at what you find. I know I was – but I am also much happier for it.
And always remember – what is success for you may not be success in someone else´s mind. But you are not here to live anyone else´s life but your own. It is not your obligation to please others with your life – only yourself. Because only if you are happy yourself, can you spread happiness to others. You cannot give what you do not have.
So be true to yourself and follow your own joyful path to your own definition of success.
“In all of living, have much fun and laughter. Life is to be enjoyed, not just endured.”
Gordon B. Hinckley
A man said to his wife one day, “I don’t know how you can be so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time.” The wife responded, “Allow me to explain it to you. God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me; God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!”
Success never rests. On your worst days, be good. And on your best days, be great. And on every other day, get better.
If you are close enough to read this, I am close enough to slam on my brakes and sue you.
Honk if you love peace and quiet.
Go on, I’ll see you at the next traffic light.
I may be slow but I’m ahead of you!
The math teacher posed this problem, “A wealthy man dies and leaves ten million dollars. One-fifth is to go to his wife, one-fifth is to go to his son, one-sixth to his butler, and the rest to charity. Now, what does each get?”
The savvy student answered, “A lawyer!”
“How soon ‘not now’ becomes ‘never.’”
At his wife’s insistence, Goldberg finally went to his doctor for a check up.
“You look terrible,” said the doctor. “Do you drink?”
“Why yes, plenty.” said Goldberg.
“I start every day with a bottle of schnapps.”
“And with that cough,” the doctor continued, “you probably are a smoker.”
“You bet,” said Goldberg, “Three packs a day for me.”
“Look Mr. Goldberg,” the doctor said. “You are not a healthy man. You’re going to have to give up smoking and drinking right away, and that’s an order. And before you go, that’ll be $50 for my advice.”
Goldberg replies, “So who’s taking it?”
One nice thing about egotists: They don’t talk about other people!
A factory owner said to a store owner, “Thank you, Mr. Smith, for your patronage. I wish I had twenty customers like you.”
“Gosh, it’s nice to hear that, but I’m kind of surprised,” admitted Smith. “You know that I argue every bill and always pay late.”
The factory owner said, “I’d still like twenty customers like you. The problem is, I have two hundred.”
Why is “bra” singular and “panties” plural?
“Look at ME!” boasted the fit old man to a group of young people. “Every morning I do fifty push-ups, fifty sit-ups and walk two miles. I’m fit as a fiddle! And you want to know why? I don’t smoke, I don’t drink, I don’t stay up late, and I don’t chase after women!”
He smiled at them, teeth white, eyes glittering, “And tomorrow, I’m going to celebrate my 95th birthday!”
“Oh, really?” drawled one of the young onlookers, “How?”
The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experience.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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