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Avoid Regrets

“As you grow older, you’ll find the only things you regret are the things you didn’t do.”

Zachary Scott

 No regrets

Yesterday was better since I was able to at least get some cardio exercise done. My body quit on me before I finished but progress is progress. Today it will be better.

Yesterday I wrote about overthinking which often takes us down a path we would be better off avoiding. The concept reminded me of something Angel Chernoff wrote about avoiding those traps that keep us bogged down. It is a fairly long piece that she wrote some time ago. Because of its length I am just going to share her tips for not getting diverted and bogged down when there are things to do.

 5 Regrets You Don’t Want to Have at the End the Day

Over the course of our blog’s eight-year lifespan, Marc and I have received several thousand emails from readers who either have regrets or are fearful that they are leading a life that will ultimately lead to regret.  As we’ve read and responded to each of these emails over the years, it became clear to us that most people struggle with the exact same regrets.  In this email, I want to share five of these regrets with you – the ones that seem, by a long shot, to be the most popular among our readers – and examine some ideas on how to avoid their grief.

Waiting until tomorrow, again. – The trouble is, you always think you have more time than you do.  But one day you will wake up and there won’t be any more time to work on the things you’ve always wanted to do.  And at that point you either will have achieved the goals you set for yourself, or you will have a list of excuses for why you haven’t.  Don’t do this to yourself.  If it’s important to you, START TODAY.

Taking no risks, and making no progress. – Living is risky business.  Every decision, every interaction, every step, every time you get out of bed in the morning, you take a small risk.  To truly live is to know you’re getting up and taking that risk, and to trust yourself to take it.  To not get out of bed, clutching to illusions of safety, is to die slowly without ever having truly lived.  It’s better to have a life full of small failures that you learned from, rather than a lifetime filled with the regrets of never trying.

Resisting reality instead of owning it and working on it. – You’re choosing, all day, every day.  If you’re struggling at a job you don’t love, look at it this way: you’re choosing to make a living to pay your mortgage, support your family, and fuel your dreams.  Don’t resist it; own it – that’s where your power is.  If you’re in a relationship that’s causing you pain, you’re choosing to be in it.  Maybe staying will lead to essential growth or a breakthrough or a deeper understanding of love.  Or not.  But you’re choosing to be in or out, right now.  Whichever you choose, own it – that’s where your power is.

Holding on to the same old grudge. – Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, on the other hand, is for those who are confident enough to stand on their own two legs and move on.  In order to move on, you must know why you felt the way you did, and why you no longer need to feel that way.  It’s about accepting the past, letting it be, and pushing your spirit forward with good intentions.

Wasting too much time wanting everyone to like you. – Don’t take things too personally, even if it seems personal.  Rarely do people do things because of you; they do things because of them.  You honestly can’t change how people treat you or what they say about you.  All you can do is change how you react and who you choose to be around.

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“Live with intention. Walk to the edge. Listen hard. Practice wellness. Play with abandon. Laugh. Choose with no regret. Appreciate your friends. Continue to learn. Do what you love. Live as if this is all there is.”

Mary Anne Radmacher

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She said:

If you don’t like my standards of cooking…lower your standards.

You may touch the dust in this house…but please don’t write in it!

A messy kitchen is a happy kitchen, and my kitchen is delirious.

If we are what we eat, then I’m easy, fast, and cheap.

A balanced diet is a cookie in each hand.

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“With girls I don’t get no respect. I had a blind date. I waited two hours on the corner. A girl walked by. I said ‘Are you Louise?’ She said, ‘Are you Rodney?’ I said, ‘Yeah.’ She said, ‘I’m not Louise.'”

Rodney Dangerfield

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A counselor was helping his kids put their stuff away on their first morning in Summer Camp. He was surprised to see one of the youngsters had an umbrella. The counselor asked, “Why did you bring an umbrella to camp?”

The kid answered, “Did you ever have a mother?”

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“I was out on a date recently and the guy took me horseback riding. That was kind of fun, until we ran out of quarters.”

 Susie Loucks

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A defendant was on trial for murder. There was strong evidence indicating guilt, but there was no corpse. In the defense’s closing statement the lawyer, knowing that his client would probably be convicted, decided to try a trick:

“Ladies and gentlemen of the jury, I have a surprise for you all,” the lawyer said as he looked at his watch. “Within one minute, the person presumed dead in this case will walk into this courtroom!”

He looked toward the courtroom door. The jurors, somewhat stunned, all looked, eagerly. A minute passed. Nothing happened.

Finally, the lawyer said, “Actually, I made up the previous statement. But you all looked on with anticipation. I therefore put it to you that there is reasonable doubt in this case as to whether anyone was killed and insist that you return a verdict of not guilty.”

With that, the jury retired to deliberate. But after only a few minutes, they came back and pronounced a verdict of guilty.

“But how?” the lawyer asked. “You must have had some doubt, I saw all of you stare at the door.”

“Oh, yes,” the jury foreman replied: “We all looked — but your client didn’t!”

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The majority of HMO plans I’ve seen can be likened to hospital gowns; you only think you’re covered.

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A businessman boarded a plane to find, sitting next to him, an elegant woman wearing the largest, most stunning diamond ring he had ever seen. He asked her about it.

“This is the Klopman diamond,” she said. “It is beautiful, but there is a terrible curse that goes with it.”

“What’s the curse?” the man asked.

“Mr. Klopman.” answered the woman.

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Middle age is when you have two temptations – and choose the one that will get you home earlier.

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“New Rules To Clean Up NYC”

Fake Rolex salesmen must offer fake warranty information.

Only 7 Starbucks per block are allowed.

Change meaning of middle finger gesture to: “lookin’ good, neighbor.”

Women’s Rights Groups have won a court action to rename the famous street “Broadway” to “His and Her Way.”

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“Of all the words of mice and men, the saddest are, “It might have been.”

Kurt Vonnegut

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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