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“The more you overthink the less you will understand.”

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don't overthink

I really haven’t done much the last four or five days. Some of my lingering maladies ganged up on me and kept me spending most of my time taking it easy. I even missed a couple of days at the gym because of having some difficulty doing my routines. I am going to try again in an hour or so and hopefully it will help me get back to normal.

In the meantime I ran across an article that I strongly agree with. It is too long to share with you in total but I hope what follows will be clear enough for you to recognize its value. It is from the Positivity Blog and you can see the complete article at http://www.positivityblog.com/index.php/2013/11/20/how-to-stop-overthinking/ .

 

How to Stop Overthinking Everything: 9 Simple Habits

Henrik Edberg

What is holding people back from the life that they truly want to live? I’d say that one very common and destructive thing is that they think too much. They overthink every little problem until it becomes bigger and scarier and it actually is. Overthink positive things until they don’t look so positive anymore. Or overanalyze and deconstruct things and so the happiness that comes from just enjoying something in the moment disappears.

In this article I would like to share 9 habits that have helped me in a big, big way to become a simpler and smarter thinker and to live a happier and less fearful life.

1. Put things into a wider perspective. It is very easy to fall into the trap of overthinking minor things in life. So when you are thinking and thinking about something ask yourself: Will this matter in 5 years? Or even in 5 weeks?

2. Set short time-limits for decisions. If you do not have a time-limit for when you must make a decision and take action then you can just keep turning your thoughts around and around and view them from all angles in your mind for a very long time. So learn to become better at making decisions and to spring into action by setting deadlines in your daily life. No matter if it is a small or bigger decision.

3. Become a person of action. When you know how to get started with taking action consistently each day then you’ll procrastinate less by overthinking. Setting deadlines is one thing that have helped me to become much more of person of action. Taking small steps forward and only focusing on getting one small step done at a time is another habit that have worked really well.

4. Realize that you cannot control everything. Trying to think things through 50 times can be a way to try to control everything. To cover every eventuality so you do not risk making a mistake, fail or looking like a fool. But those things are a part of living a life where you truly stretch your comfort zone. Everyone who you may admire and have lived a life that inspires you has failed. They have made mistakes.

5. Say stop in situation where you know you cannot think straight. So I follow up my “no, no…” phrase and I say to myself that I will think this situation or issue through when I know that my mind will work much better.

6. Do not get lost in vague fears. Another trap that I have fallen into many times that have spurred on overthinking is that I have gotten lost in vague fears about a situation in my life. And so my mind running wild has created disaster scenarios about what could happen if I do something. So I have learned to ask myself: honestly, what is the worst that could happen?

7. Work out. This might sound a bit odd. But in my experience working out – especially with lifting weights – can help me to let go of inner tensions and worries.

8. Spend more of your time in the present moment. By being in the present moment in your everyday life rather than in the past or a possible future in your mind you can replace more and more of the time you usually spend on overthinking things with just being here right now instead.

9. Spend more of your time with people who do not overthink things. Find ways to spend more of your time and attention with the people and sources that have a positive effect on your thinking and less on the influences that tends to strengthen your overthinking habit.

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“The world is full of people who will help you manufacture tornados in order to blow out a match.”

Shaun Hick

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Dear John,

I have been unable to sleep since I broke off our engagement. Won’t you forgive and forget? Your absence is breaking my heart. I was a fool, nobody can take your place. I love you. All my love,

Belinda. xxxxoooxxxx

P.S. Congratulations on winning this week’s lottery.

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I don’t do drugs. I get the same effect just standing up fast.

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Jamie asked his dad to explain the difference between irritation, aggravation, and frustration.

His father picked up the phone and dialed a number at random. When the phone was answered, he asked, “Can I speak to Rolf, please?”

“No! There’s no one named Rolf here,” replies the person who answered the phone.

The father hung up. “That, my boy, is irritation.”

He picked up the phone again, dialed the same number, then asked for Rolf a second time. “No, there’s no one here called Rolf. Go away. If you call again I’m calling the cops,” the person said.

The father hung up and said, “That’s aggravation.”

“Then what’s frustration?” asked Jamie. The father picked up the phone and dialed the same number a third time.

“Hello, this is Rolf. Have I received any phone calls?”

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Everybody lies, but it doesn’t matter since nobody listens.

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Cassie walked into a gift shop that sold religious items. Near the cash register she saw a display of caps with WWJD printed on all of them.  She was puzzled over what the letters could mean, but couldn’t figure it out, so she asked the clerk.

The clerk replied that the letters stood for What Would Jesus Do, and was meant to inspire people to not make rash decisions, but rather to imagine what Jesus would do in the same situation.

Cassie thought a moment and then replied, “Well, I don’t think Jesus would pay $17.95 for one of these caps.”

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A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.

Erin Majors

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Donald Ogden Stewart, the writer, had a son away at prep school.  When the boy reached the age of fourteen, Stewart wrote him the following letter:

“Dear son, now that you have reached the magic age of fourteen, the time has come to tell you about the bees and flowers.  There is a male and a female bee, although I haven’t the slightest idea which is which. As for the flowers – we get ours from the Plaza Florist, Inc.

Well, that takes care of that. Write soon,

Affectionately,

Father

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Sometimes we need to stop analyzing the past, stop planning the future, stop trying to figure out precisely how we feel, stop deciding with our mind what we want our heart to feel, and sometimes we just have to go with “whatever happens, happens.”

Anonymous

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

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