Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain – and most fools do.
I think one of the greatest contributors to unhappiness is the concentration some folks have on finding fault. These are the people that are the constant complainers. They seem to thrive on their unhappiness with most things and try to infect everyone else with their negativism. One person even accused me of liking a flower garden so much was because I did not see the weeds, at the time I felt bad because the obviously could not see the flowers.
I recently read an article by Jon Gordon that I wish my unhappy complainer friends would read and follow. He recommends a no complaint’s period that might provide people time to find the happiness the miss by always finding fault.
Here are excerpts from the article that lays out his recommendations:
5 Things to Do Instead of Complain
This week I want to encourage you to go on a complaining fast. Not because it will make everyone around you happier, although it will, but because it will help you experience more joy, peace, success, positive relationships and better teamwork. Try it for just 21 days.
Believe me; I know a lot about complaining. I use to be a professional complainer and found that it not only sabotages your own happiness and success but the success of your team and family. I realized we complain for two main reasons. 1. We feel powerless. 2. It’s a habit. I decided to break the habit and when I stopped complaining I started to create the life that I wanted. Let’s face it, if you are complaining, you’re not leading.
To help you break out of a “complaining” rut here are five things you can do instead of complain. These tips will help you realize you are not powerless. You have the power to choose your beliefs and actions. And in your focus on the positive instead of the negative you’ll find the faith, strength and confidence to take on life’s challenges and identify the solutions to your complaints.
1. Practice Gratitude. Research shows that when we count three blessings a day, we get a measurable boost in happiness that uplifts and energizes us. It’s also physiologically impossible to be stressed and thankful at the same time. Two thoughts cannot occupy our mind at the same time. If you are focusing on gratitude, you can’t be negative.
2. Praise Others. Instead of complaining about what others are doing wrong, start focusing on what they are doing right. Praise them and watch as they create more success as a result.
3. Focus on Success. Start a success journal. Each night before you go to bed, write down the one great thing about your day. The one great conversation, accomplishment, or win that you are most proud of. Focus on your success, and you’ll look forward to creating more success tomorrow.
4. Let Go. Focus on the things that you have the power to change, and let go of the things that are beyond your control. You’ll be amazed that when you stop trying to control everything, it all somehow works out. Surrender is the answer.
5. Pray. Scientific research shows that daily prayer reduces stress; boosts positive energy; and promotes health, vitality, and longevity. When you are faced with the urge to complain or you are feeling stressed to the max, stop, be still, plug-in to the ultimate power, and recharge.
“What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.”
*When using a public campground, a tuba placed on your picnic table will keep the campsites on either side vacant.
*When smoking a fish, never inhale.
*The best backpacks are named for national parks or mountain ranges.
*Steer clear of parks named for landfills.
*While the Swiss Army Knife has been popular for years, the Swiss Navy Knife has remained largely unheralded. Its single blade functions as a tiny canoe paddle.
*Modern rain suits made of fabrics that “breathe” enable campers to stay dry in a downpour. Rain suits that sneeze, cough, and belch, however, have been proven to add absolutely nothing to the wilderness experience.
*You can compress the diameter of your rolled up sleeping bag by running over it with your car.
“The best inheritance a parent can give his children is a few minutes of his time each day.”
Orlando A. Battista
Joe Lipschitz who told a judge that he wanted to legally change his name.
His Honor’s response: “Golly, fellow, with a name like that, no wonder you want to change it. What do you want to change it to?”
Replies the man, “Sam Lipschitz.”
“Growing up, my mom always claimed to feel bad when a bird would slam head-first into our living room window. If she REALLY felt bad, though, she’d have moved the bird feeder outside.”
Sitting in the bar George asked his 40-year-old buddy Johnny, “How come you aren’t married?”
Johnny: “I haven’t found the right woman yet.”
George: “So what are you looking for?”
Johnny: “Oh she’s got to be real pretty, – a good cook and house- keeper, and she’s got to know how to handle money, a really nice and pleasant personality is a must -and money, she’s got to have money…and a home, a nice big house, is what she has to have.”
George: “A woman like that would be crazy to marry YOU.”
Johnny: “Oh, it’s okay if she is crazy.”
Two can live as cheaply as one, for half as long.
A pastor, known for his lengthy sermons, noticed a man get up and leave during the middle of his message. The man returned just before the conclusion of the service. Afterwards the pastor asked the man where he had gone.
“I went to get a haircut,” was the reply.
“But,” said the pastor, “why didn’t you do that before the service?”
“Because,” the gentleman said, “I didn’t need one then.”
It’s never crowded along the extra mile.
A man was showing his friend a new set of matched golf clubs he had just bought. “Doctor’s orders,” the man told his friend. “My wife and I have been gaining too much weight and we went to see the doctor about it. He said we needed more exercise, so I joined the country club and bought myself this set of golf clubs.”
“What about your wife?” the friend asked. “What did you buy her?”
“A new lawn mower,” the golfer said.
Do not listen to those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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