There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.
W. Clement Stone
The more I observe the world around me the more I think many unhappy people expect the worst and it becomes their reality. If you go out each day expecting the worst I am sure you will find and in the process over look what’s right in the world. I again agree with Stone as I usually do, attitude does make a huge difference. If you look ahead to having a good day you are much less likely to let a small disappointment block your path.
I have again taken the liberty of editing one of Mark Chernoff’s articles due to space limitations. The article was entitled “How to Quiet the Negative Voice Inside You.” Here is what he wrote:
Why do we think negatively when we know better?
Because thinking negatively, expecting “the worst,” seeing the downside of positive situations, and even downright expecting failure, all convey a kind of backwards-thinking, emotional insurance policy. It goes something like, “If I expect a tragedy, then I won’t be disappointed when it takes place.” And since negative thinking leads to negative actions, or no action at all in many cases, by thinking negatively we create a self-fulfilling prediction for ourselves.
Of course, none of this is what we truly want or need in our lives. So how can we stop talking ourselves into these thinking traps? Let’s take a look at four powerful ways to quiet the negative, inner voice that leads us astray:
1. Start focusing on the grey area between the extremes. − Life simply isn’t black or white – 100% of this or 100% of that – all or nothing. Thinking in extremes like this is a fast way to misery, because negative thinking tends to view any situation that’s less than perfect as being extremely bad.
Since 99.9% of all situations in life are less than perfect, black and white thinking tends to make us focus on the negative – the drama, the failures, and the worst case scenarios. Sure catastrophes occur on occasion, but contrary to what you many see on the evening news, most of life occurs in a grey area between the extremes of bliss and devastation.
2. Stop looking for negative signs from others. − Too often we jump to conclusions, only to cause ourselves and others unnecessary worry, hurt, and anger. If someone says one thing, don’t assume they mean something else. If they say nothing at all, don’t assume their silence has some hidden, negative connotation. Thinking negatively will inevitably lead you to interpret everything another person does as being negative, especially when you are uncertain about what the other person is thinking.
Assigning meaning to a situation before you have the whole story makes you more likely to believe that the uncertainty you feel (based on lack of knowing) is a negative sign. On the flip-side, holding off on assigning meaning to an incomplete story is a primary key to overcoming negative thinking. When you think more positively, or simply more clearly about the facts, you’ll be able to evaluate all possible reasons you can think of, not just the negative ones.
3. Evaluate and eliminate unreasonable rules and expectations. − You must deal with the world the way it is, not the way you expect it to be. Life is under no obligation to give you exactly what you expect. In fact, whatever it is you’re seeking will rarely ever come in the form you’re expecting, but that doesn’t make it any less wonderful. The bottom line is that you must see and accept things as they are instead of as you hoped, wished, or expected them to be. Just because it didn’t turn out like you had envisioned, doesn’t mean it isn’t exactly what you need to get to where you ultimately want to go
Think positive. Life is good. Too many people miss the silver lining because they’re expecting pure gold. Positive thinking isn’t about expecting the best to always happen, but accepting that whatever happens is the best for the moment. So keep smiling and keep staying true to your heart. Someday, the negative voice inside you will have nothing left to say.
“An attitude of positive expectation is the mark of the superior personality.”
From the original Hollywood Squares:
Q: Do female frogs croak? A: Paul Lynde: If you hold their little heads under water long enough.
Q: If you’re going to make a parachute jump, you should be at least how high? A: Charley Weaver: Three days of steady drinking should do it.
Q: True or false – a pea can last as long as 5,000 years. A: George Gobel: Boy it sure seems that way sometimes.
Q: You’ve been having trouble going to sleep. Are you probably a man or a woman? A: Don Knotts: That’s what’s been keeping me awake.
Q: According to Cosmo, if you meet a stranger at a party and you think he’s really attractive, is it all right to come out directly and ask him if he’s married? A: Rose Marie: No, wait until morning.
“Never trust your tongue when your heart is bitter.”
Samuel J. Hurwitt
Midlife is when the growth of the hair on our legs slows down. This gives us plenty of time to care for our newly acquired mustache.
Midlife is when you bounce (a lot), but you don’t bounce back. It’s more like splat!
Midlife is when you realize that, if you were a dog, you would need a control top flea collar.
Midlife brings the wisdom that life throws you curves and that you’re now sitting on your biggest ones.
Midlife can bring out your angry, bitter side. You look at your latte-swilling, beeper-wearing know-it-all teenager and think, “For this I have stretch marks?”
Midlife is when your memory really starts to go: the only thing you still retain is water.
“It’s amazing that the amount of news that happens in the world every day always just exactly fits the newspaper.”
A kind-hearted fellow was walking through Central Park in New York and was astonished to see an old man, fishing rod in hand, fishing over a beautiful bed of lilies. “Tch, Tch!” said the passerby to himself. “What a sad sight. That poor old man is fishing over a bed of flowers. I’ll see if I can help.”
So the kind fellow walked up to the old man and asked, “What are you doing, my friend?”
“Fishin’, eh. Well how would you like to come have a drink with me?”
The old man stood up, put his rod away and followed the kind stranger to the corner bar. He ordered a large glass of beer and a fine cigar.
His host, the kind fellow, felt good about helping the old man, and he asked, “Tell me, old friend, how many did you catch this morning?”
The old fellow took a long drag on the cigar, blew a careful smoke ring and replied, “You are the 6th today, sir!”
“Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity.”
An unmarried girl who worked in a busy office arrived one morning and began passing out big cigars and candy, both tied with blue ribbons. When asked what the occasion was, she proudly displayed a new diamond solitaire ring on her third finger, left hand, and announced…
“It’s a boy, six feet tall and 190 pounds!”
“Happiness is an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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