“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
I have been involved with a number of organizations lately that are dependent on the support of outsiders to make their good works possible. The difficulty that they often face is their inability to communicate the value of what they do to others in such a way that motivates them to offer their support. In my view the problem is often one of focusing in on what they do rather than how they benefit the people and the broader community. But equally important is working so hard on the reason they deserve support that they end up either producing a sterile and stilted response or use up so much time that submission deadlines are missed. Sometimes we focus so much on the technical requirements for a grant request that we dilute the main message of why we are good at what we do and how we successfully change people’s lives for the better.
I know I have talked before about the danger of too much commitment to perfection, in fact I find that achieving perceived perfection can be a turn-off. I told an executive friend years ago that her absolutely perfect, never even a hair out of place, image scared people away and a broken heel once in while would let people know she was just like the rest of us. So I guess what I am saying is learn how to share your heart and your goodwill never hiding it behind platitudes and flowery phrases.
I read an article recently by Swedish author Henrik Edberg where he shared his views on the dangers of perfectionism, here is what he wrote:
Aiming for perfection.
Does life has to be perfect before you are happy? Do you have to behave in a perfect way and get perfect results to be happy?
Then happiness will not be easy to find. Setting the bar for your performance at an inhuman level usually leads to low self-esteem and feeling like you are not good enough even though you may have had a lot of good or excellent results. You and what you do is never enough good enough except maybe once in a while when feels like something goes just perfect.
How to overcome this habit:
Three things that helped me to kick the perfectionism habit and become more relaxed:
Go for good enough. Aiming for perfection usually winds up in a project or something else never being finished. So go for good enough instead. Don’t use it as an excuse to slack off. But simply realize that there is something called good enough and when you are there then you are finished with whatever you are doing.
Have a deadline. I set deadlines every time that start with a new premium guide. Because about a year ago, when I was working on my second e-book, I realized that just working on it and releasing it when it was done would not work. Because I could always find stuff to add to it. So I had to set a deadline. Setting a deadline gave me a kick in the butt and it is generally good way to help you to let go of a need to polish things a bit too much.
Realize what it costs you when you buy into myths of perfection. This was a very powerful reason for me to let go of perfectionism and one I tell myself still if I find thoughts of perfection pop up in my mind. By watching too many movies, listening to too many songs and just taking in what the world is telling you it is very easy to be lulled into dreams of perfection. It sounds so good and wonderful and you want it. But in real life it clashes with reality and tends to cause much suffering and stress within you and in the people around you. It can harm or possibly lead you to end relationships, jobs, projects etc. just because your expectations are out of this world. I find it very helpful to remind myself of this simple fact.
Besides all that the result is usually simpler and more understandable and thus better than the so called perfect document that in reality is less perfect if it does not accomplish the desired result.
Efficiency is doing things right; effectiveness is doing the right things.
A young woman was having a physical examination and was very embarrassed because of a weight problem. As she removed her last bit of clothing, she blushed. “I’m so ashamed, Doctor,” she said, “I guess I let myself go.”
The physician was checking hers eyes and ears. “Don’t feel ashamed, Miss. You don’t look that bad.”
“Do you really think so, Doctor?” she asked.
The doctor held a tongue depressor in front of her face and said, “Of course. Now just open your mouth and say “Moo!”
All the Best things in Life
Are not Things at all
“Jack, will you still love me when my hair is grey?” asks Rachel.
“Of course,” says Jack. “I’ve loved you through blonde, brunette, red and every other color. Why not grey?”
Courage does not always roar. Sometimes, it is the quietest voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow”.
Irving walked into a lawyer’s office and inquired about the lawyer’s rates.
“$150 for three questions,” replied the lawyer.
“Isn’t that awfully steep?” asked Morris.
“Yes,” the lawyer replied, “and what was your third question?”
Life is a paradise for those who love many things with a passion.
Old Jacob Johnson, a raging hypochondriac, was convinced that the pain on his left side was appendicitis. Mrs Johnson explained that his appendix is on the right.
“So, aha! THAT’s why it hurts so much….” said Jacob.
“My appendix is on the wrong side!”
Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius — and a lot of courage — to move in the opposite direction.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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