The past is exactly that the past. You can’t change it so why sit there and dwell on it like you can? You gotta move on. Work on the future you….
I often wonder how many folks miss much of the great things in life because they get bogged down in what to then is a never changing presence. For them the world changes, they change but they are so locked into their routine that they are pretty much destined to a boring and often boring life. I would hate to think what my life would have been if all I did when I first retired was to walk away living only in memories of the past. I discovered I could do things I never thought I ever could or would.
Not too long ago Marc Hack wrote an article where he outlined reasons for moving on. Here are some of what he wrote:
It happens to you slowly as you grow. You discover more about who you are and what you want, and then you realize that there are changes you need to make. The lifestyle you’ve been living no longer fits. The people you’ve known forever no longer see things the way you do. So you cherish all the great memories, but find yourself moving on. Here are some reasons it’s time…
You can learn from your history, but you can’t live in it. – You can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full to embrace the present. Sometimes we avoid experiencing where we are because we have developed a belief, based on past experiences, that it is not where we should be or want to be. But the truth is, where you are now is exactly where you need to be to get to where you want to go tomorrow.
Some things aren’t meant to be. – Everything from your past does not belong in your present. To hold onto relationships and circumstances that have already moved on without you is to stay stuck in a place and time that no longer exists.
Life is shorter than is often seems. – While you are complaining about all the little problems in your life, somebody is desperately fighting for their right to live. You own every minute that you pass through, and that it is up to you to make the best use of each one of them. Because someday, suddenly, there will be no more minutes.
Holding on to pain is self abuse. – Your past has given you the strength and wisdom you have today, so celebrate it. Don’t let it haunt you. Replaying a painful memory over and over in your head is a form of self abuse. Make peace with yourself and your past.
Some things are out of your control. – No matter what happens, no matter the outcome, you’re going to be just fine. Let the things you can’t control, happen. Allow the universe to bless you in surprising and joyful ways. What if, instead of pushing so hard to make life happen, you decided to let go a little and allow life to happen to you? What if, instead of trying to always be in control, you sometimes surrendered control to something bigger than yourself? What if, instead of working so hard to figure out every last answer, you allowed yourself to be guided to the solution in perfect timing?
Moving on creates positive change. – You may blame everyone else and think, “Poor me! Why do all these crappy things keep happening to me?” But the only thing those scenarios all have in common is YOU. And this is good news, because it means YOU alone have the power to change things, or change the way you think about things. There is something very powerful and liberating about surrendering to change and embracing it – this is where personal growth and evolution reside.
New opportunities are out there waiting for you. – Enter new relationships and new situations, knowing that you are venturing into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to experience something or meet someone that just might change your life forever.
The world needs you to let your light shine. – The powers above added one more day in your life today, not necessarily because you need it, but because the world still needs you to let your light shine.
Maybe letting go is the first step to moving on. It maybe be hard but it’ll fix your heart.
John went to the doctor because he had bulging eyes and a persistent ringing in his ears. The doctor looked him over and suggested removing his tonsils. The tonsillectomy resulted in no improvement, so John consulted a dentist who suggested that removing his teeth might eliminate the problem. All of John’s teeth were extracted but still his eyes bulged out and the annoying ringing in his ears continued.
A third doctor told him bluntly, “You have six months to live.”
Feeling doomed and gloomy, John decided to treat himself right while he still had time, so he bought a flashy car, hired a chauffeur and a gardener, and got himself measured by a tailor for some new suits. To go along with the new suits, he decided that even his shirts would be made to order.
“Okay,” said the shirt maker, “let’s get your measurements. Hmm, thirty-four sleeve, sixteen collar.”
“No, I wear a fifteen collar” John told him.
“Sixteen collar,” the shirt maker repeated, measuring again.
“But I’ve always worn a fifteen collar,” said John.
“Listen,” said the shirt maker, “I’m telling you right now—if you keep on wearing a tight fifteen collar, your eyes will bulge out and you’ll have ringing in your ears.”
“If love is the answer, could you please rephrase the question?”
An honest seven-year-old admitted calmly to her parents that Billy Brown had kissed her after class.
“How did that happen?,” gasped her mother.
“It wasn’t easy,” admitted the young lady, “but 3 girls helped me catch him.”
Q. What’s a Jewish girl’s idea of natural childbirth? A. Absolutely no make up.
The top toothbrush salesman at the company was asked by his boss how he managed to sell so many brushes.
He replied, “It’s easy!” and he pulled out his card table, setting his display of brushes on top.
He told his boss, “I lay the brushes out like this, and then I put out some potato chips and dip to draw in the customers.” He laid out his chips and dip.
“That’s a very innovative approach,” his boss said, as he took one of the chips, dipped it, and stuck it in his mouth. “Yuck, this tastes terrible!”
The salesman replied “IT IS? Want to buy a toothbrush?”
Don’t use a big word where a diminutive one will suffice.
One day, a young girl is walking through a park when she hears a faint “Help me, help me”.
She looks around and follows the quiet voice to a bush near the path. Looking under the bush she spies a little green frog trapped under a log. The girl moves the log and picks up the frog. “Oh, thank you, thank you” says the frog, “Take me home and put me on your pillow and in the morning I’ll be a handsome Prince.”
So the girl takes the frog home and puts him on the pillow and there in the morning is a handsome prince.
You don’t believe that?
Neither did her mother!
Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have – life itself.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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