“Habit is necessary; it is the habit of having habits, of turning a trail into a rut, that must be incessantly fought against if one is to remain alive.”
If you are like I am you hear a lot of folks complain about their lives. I hear things like “is this all there is,” or “I am just not enjoying my job anymore,” or “I just never have any fun,” the list goes on and on. The thing that concerns me is that so many just seem to accept their fate and live in the same old rut day after day.
I have been one of the fortunate ones to have lived an interesting and often challenging life. Looking back I don’t remember too many times that I found myself bogged down in unhappiness or self-pity. Of course it could be that my aging brain has forgotten those occasions but if that is the case it is only because the peaks were so much higher and more frequent than the valleys. I don’t know if it was luck, an inability to accept the status quo or what, all I know is that I wouldn’t change much. I do know I was often inpatient but when I was I seldom accepted my status but forged ahead looking for something better. I have said it before and I will say it again, if I can do it I am sure almost anybody can.
Here is an edited article I just got yesterday which is an antidote that rut dwellers might try.
Stuck In A Rut? Six Ways To Jumpstart Your Life Right Now
By Guerline Ridore, president of Success Strategies Unlimited,
You know how it feels to be stuck in a rut. You’re doing the same activities over and over, and you’re not happy. Being stuck in a rut is never fun. If you want your situation to change, you must change. Instead of complaining that there’s nothing you can do to make your life better, realize that there’s actually a lot you can do. You just have to get out there, take a risk, and do something. When you are not making any progress toward a particular goal and feel completely stuck, the key to making a big change is to make little changes. Use the following six guidelines to jumpstart your life out of a rut right now.
1. Think Big…and Small − You need motivation to change. Therefore, think of the new circumstances you want in your life. Envision the new job, the new office, or the new career. Now you have the motivation to actually do something. But don’t stop there. Once you decide what you want, you then need to make a plan to get there. Create a list of action steps that will move you closer to the vision you have for yourself. Realize that your action steps don’t have to be big or monumental leaps. They can be small baby steps that lead you to your goal. Always remember that small steps, done consistently, will get you where you want to go.
2. Be 100% Responsible − To get unstuck, you have to be 100% responsible for your actions. After all, you are the only person with the power to change your situation. Despite what you may think, your company, the marketplace, and even your family do not have the power to make changes for you. You are in control of your life and must be responsible for making changes. Therefore, don’t complain about your current situation. Sure, your complaints helped you realize that you were dissatisfied with something, but now that you’re aware of what you want or don’t want in life, stop complaining. Your constant negativity will only further drain you and won’t change your situation.
3. Express, Don’t Repress − As you work your way through your rut, don’t suppress your emotions. Instead, experience them fully. Rather than be depressed for weeks or even months, express the emotion you’re feeling. If you feel you need to cry or yell out in rage, then do so. After you’ve let the emotion out, let it be. Don’t dwell on it forever. Experience the emotion and then move on.
4. Take Inventory − Schedule time each day to review your past successes. Many times when people get stuck in a rut, they forget about all the great things they did in the past. They are concentrating on the present, which is not so good right now, and they can’t figure out how they’ll get past their current circumstance. However, when you look back at your past successes, you start building your confidence and your inner strength. You are reminded of all your wonderful capabilities and that you can be successful again, if only work toward your goal.
5. Expand Your Focus − It’s easy to want something, whether it’s a new career, a promotion, or even to lose weight. The work happens when you’re making that want a reality. This is when you need to shift your thinking from “wanting” to “having.” Why is a “having mindset” so important? Because when you focus on something in terms of “having,” your subconscious mind will go to work immediately to come up with a number of ways to get the item or circumstance.
6. Do Something − Many people who are stuck in a rut reply to every suggestion or request with the same answer: “Well…I’ll try.” It’s time to reject that answer. You need to either accept, decline, or counter the suggestion. The words “I’ll try” are not motivating and contain the seeds of defeat. The fact is that trying and thinking about doing something are a waste of time and energy. To get out of a rut, you must do something. Ultimately, the decision is up to you.
The truth is that our finest moments are most likely to occur when we are feeling deeply uncomfortable, unhappy, or unfulfilled. For it is only in such moments, propelled by our discomfort, that we are likely to step out of our ruts and start searching for different ways or truer answers.
M Scott Peck
A man was speeding down the highway, feeling secure in a gaggle of cars all traveling at the same speed. However, as they passed a speed trap, he got nailed with an infrared speed detector and was pulled over.
The officer handed him the citation, received his signature and was about to walk away when the man asked, “Officer, I know I was speeding, but I don’t think it’s fair – there were plenty of other cars around me who were going just as fast, so why did *I* get the ticket?”
“Ever go fishing?” the policeman suddenly asked the man.
“Ummm, yeah…” the startled man replied.
The officer grinned and added, “Ever catch *all* the fish?”
Shin: a device for finding furniture in the dark.
When a three-year-old opened a birthday gift from his grandmother, he discovered a water pistol.
He squealed with delight and headed for the nearest sink.
His Mother was not so pleased. She turned to Grandmom and said, “I’m surprised at you.
Don’t you remember how we used to drive you crazy with water guns?”
Grandmom smiled and then replied, “I remember.”
Two men were walking home after a Halloween party and decided to take a shortcut through the cemetery just for laughs. Right in the middle of the cemetery, they were startled by a tap-tap-tapping noise coming from the misty shadows.
Trembling with fear, they found an old man with a hammer and chisel, chipping away at one of the headstones.
“Holy cow, Mister,” one of them said after catching his breath. “You scared us half to death — we thought you were a ghost! What are you doing working here so late at night?”
“Those fools!” the old man grumbled. “They misspelled my name!”
As long as there are tests, there will be prayer in public schools
Two hunters went moose hunting every winter without success. Finally they came up with a foolproof plan. They got a very authentic cow moose costume and learned the mating call of a cow moose.
The plan was to hide in the costume, lure the bull, then come out of the costume and shoot the bull. They set themselves up on the edge of a clearing, donned their costume and began to give the moose love call.
Before long their call was answered as a bull came crashing out of the forest and into the clearing. When the bull was close enough, the guy in front said, ‘OK, lets get out and get him.’
After a moment that seemed like an eternity, the guy in the back shouted, ‘The zipper is stuck! What are we going to do!?’
The guy in the front says, ‘Well, I’m going to start nibbling grass, but you’d better brace yourself!’
“We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.”
Charles R. Swindoll
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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