Ray's Daily

A diamond with a flaw is worth more than a pebble without imperfections

Chinese Proverb

I am glad I made peace long ago with the fact I am far from perfect. I have made more than my fair share of mistakes, blunders and errors in my lifetime. Few purposely and unfortunately early in life the regrets often lingered far too long. Most of my mistakes I would have done differently if I could but life does not permit do-overs so the most I could do was make apologies when appropriate, learn from the event and move on.

In truth far too many folks get so loaded down with memories of their missteps that they don’t have the energy to move forward. In truth it is often not really the memories of past mistakes that keep us from forging ahead, rather it is our fear of making another mistake. What we need to realize is that we all make mistakes and we will again but we don’t have to let them get to us.

Here is something I found on the Positively Present blog that offers us tips on how we can pick ourselves up and keep moving.

Like it or not, we’re all flawed. Not a single one of us is perfect. And that’s one of the great things about life. We all have so many wonderful things to offer — and, yet, we’re not always so wonderful. Not only do we have flaws, but each of us struggles with feeling flawed (which is, perhaps, a flaw in and of itself).

How to Fall in Love with Your Flaws

Decide if there’s something you can do about it. — First and foremost, you have to decide if the flaw that troubles you is something you can actually do something about. Some flaws — like a bad temper or wicked impatience — should not be accepted, but should instead be worked on. Loving your flaws is not the same thing as throwing up your hands and saying, “Oh well! That’s just the way I am!” about a characteristic that’s negatively impacting you and your life. Ask yourself: Does the flaw negatively impact others? Does it impact the amount of positive energy I’m giving off into the world? Is there anything I can do to change it?

Determine if you actually are going to do something about it. — If you’ve determined that a flaw is, in fact, something you can (and should) change, now it’s time to be brutally honest with yourself. You can change it, but will you? Just because you can change a flaw, doesn’t mean you necessarily should (take, for example, a less-than-perfect nose or a sarcastic wit). Only you know (and you will know, deep down) whether or not the flaw that bugs you is something you really need to change — and if it’s something you actually will change. If you know it needs to be changed and you’re going to put in the effort, awesome! Go for it! If it’s something you can’t or won’t change…

Imagine it from an objective point of view. — Often our flaws are magnified by our own perception. We’re so close to our flaws that they seem so much larger to us. In your mind, take a step back from the flaws you see and try to imagine what they would look like from an outsider’s perspective. The things you see as horrible or offensive might not look so bad when you try seeing them from an outsider’s point of view. When it comes to flaws, we imagine ours to be much bigger than others’. Consider your flaw and contemplate how you would react to it if you spotted it on someone else.

Accept it for exactly what it is. — Finally — and most importantly — you must accept your flaw for exactly what it is. Having imagined what it would look like from the outside, now it’s time to take that concept one step further and simply accept it for what it is. Strip that flaw of all societal standards and internal judgments. Don’t compare it to others or rate it on a scale of good/bad. Your flaw is what it is. Accept it for what it is and realize that it is a part of you. If it is something you cannot (or will not) change, acceptance is the only option for truly loving yourself (all of yourself). Your flaws make you who you are, so embrace them!

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I rather go on in life being me and imperfect, than striving to be what someone else wants.

Author Unknown

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A guy once wandered into a Jewish restaurant and ordered roast chicken. It arrived complete with potatoes and a few sundries, and the diner looked at it without much favor. He said to the waiter, “Don’t I get a green vegetable?”

And the waiter said, “And what color is the pickle? Purple?”

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Good judgment comes from experience, and often experience comes from bad judgment.

Rita Mae Brown

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A Mom and Dad went to a restaurant one evening. Dad was about halfway finishing his meal when took a hard look at the potato. He called the waitress and said, “This potato is bad.”

The waitress picked it up, smacked it, and put it back on the plate, then said, “If that potato causes any more trouble just let me know.”

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“Conscience is the inner voice that warns us somebody is looking.”

Henry Louis Mencken

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I have a spelling checker,

It came with my PC;

It plainly marks four my revue,

Mistakes I cannot sea.

I’ve run this poem threw it,

I’m sure your please to no,

Its letter perfect in it’s weigh,

My checker tolled me sew.

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“I like life. It’s something to do.”

Ronnie Shakes

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One day, a mechanical engineer, electrical engineer, chemical engineer, and computer engineer were driving down the street in the same car when it broke down.

The mechanical engineer said, “I think a rod broke.”

The chemical engineer said, “The way it sputtered at the end, I think it’s not getting enough gas.”

The electrical engineer said, “I think there was a spark and something’s wrong with the electrical system.”

All three turned to the computer engineer and said, “What do you think?”

The computer engineer said, “I think we should all get out and then get back in.”

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“The world is full of willing people, some willing to work, the rest willing to let them.”

Robert Frost

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Coming through the door after school one day, Little Johnny hollers out, “Okay, everyone in the house, please be advised that I, Little Johnny, have on this date made a complete fool of myself in sex education class by repeating stories concerning storks as told to me by certain parties residing in this house!”

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A mother may hope that her daughter will get a better husband that she did, but she knows her son will never get as good a wife as his father did.

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A Sunday school teacher was teaching her class about the difference between right and wrong. “All right children, let’s take another example,” she said. “If I were to get into a man’s pocket and take his billfold with all his money, what would I be?”

Little Johnny raises his hand, and with a confident smile, he blurts out, “you’d be his wife!”

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I’ve seen better days, but I’ve also seen worse. I don’t have everything that I want, but I do have all I need. I woke up with some aches and pains, but I woke up. My life may not be perfect, but I am blessed.

Author Unknown

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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