“We can go through our whole lives worrying about our future happiness, and totally miss where true peace lives- right here, right now.”
As I am sure you know by now I decided long ago that I was not going to dwell on those things that create anxiety and unhappiness. My life has been great ever since I decided I would focus on all the good that exists around me. I truly believe that happiness is largely a matter of choice. I am pleased that I am not alone in that belief, in fact I often find wisdom shared by others that reinforces the value of my deciding that happiness is always within my reach. Here is one of my favorite lists that I discovered on the Anxiety Network that is worth your consideration.
POSITIVE THOUGHTS TO DWELL ON
- If you pay attention to the darkness, you’ll never find the light.
- If you study and relive your past experiences, analyzing them, and “getting in touch with your feelings” you will only reinforce those feelings. If you want to get away from a problem, you should not focus on it. Focus on the good, the positive, the beautiful, the nice.
- A happy person is fully caught up in the moment –and is not thinking about the past or the future.
- Too much thinking and analyzing just makes any problem worse. Today is a wonderful day – live it in the present.
- There is so much in life I can’t control. But this is my life and I’ve decided to be happy. I can choose to be happy regardless of my other circumstances. It’s not “when I get a promotion, I’ll be happy…..” or “when I can speak in front of a small group of people, I’ll be happy…..” The focus should be on learning to be happy now. Tap into your inner peace and contentment in the way that works best for you.
- Happiness is a result of a decision to be happy. Your emotions and feelings are created by your thoughts. Unhappiness cannot exist on its own. It occurs because of thoughts, which can be changed.
- Your past thoughts are about events that are no longer real. That bad experience happened yesterday (in the past) and is over. It is gone and exists solely in your mind. Today is a new day, a better day, and worrying about the past just dooms us in the present. It’s how you process it now that makes a difference.
- Your automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) are only thoughts: they are not real. Your ANTS are not real. They do not tell you the truth.
- Our tendency is to think TOO MUCH and to paralyze ourselves with our ruminations. We have a choice: Realize what we’re doing to ourselves, get up, find a distraction, and do something interesting (positive).
- Happy people understand that to enjoy life you live it — you don’t think about it.
- Anticipatory anxiety killing you? Stop thinking about it, take that step, and just do it.
- Thoughts grow with attention. If you focus on negative thoughts, they will grow and grow and become larger. If you focus on your progress and the new thoughts you are learning, they will grow stronger and take “automatic” control.
- Even if you understand and know why you have a problem, this will not help you in solving it. Going over and over the reasons for your problem is like pouring salt in an open wound.
- The only factor making you unhappy is your own thoughts. Relax, release them, let them go.
- When you notice self-limiting and self-defeating thoughts playing over and over in your mind, say “STOP! I will not give you any more power over me! I have better things to do!!”
“All seasons are beautiful for the person who carries happiness within.”
Getting away from their high-stress jobs, a couple spends relaxing weekends in their motor home. When they found their peace and quiet disturbed by well-meaning, but unwelcome, visits from other campers, they devised a plan to assure themselves some privacy. Now, when they set up camp, they place this sign on the door of their RV: “Insurance agent. Ask about our term-life package.”
One of the many things nobody ever tells you about middle age is that it’s such a nice change from being young.
Dorothy Canfield Fisher ~
My six-year-old grandson called his mother from his friend Charlie’s house and confessed he had broken a lamp when he threw a football in their living room. “But, Mom,” he said, brightening, “you don’t have to worry about buying another one. Charlie’s mother said it was irreplaceable.”
When I get real bored, I like to drive down town and get a great parking spot, then sit in my car and count how many people ask me if I’m leaving.
An amateur photographer was invited to dinner with friends and took along a few pictures to show the hostess. She looked at the photos and commented “These are very good! You must have a good camera.”
He didn’t make any comment, but, as he was leaving to go home he said “That was a really delicious meal! You must have some very good pots.”
“When I die, I want to die like my grandmother who died peacefully in her sleep. Not screaming like all the passengers in her car.”
For months Bill had been Lynn’s devoted admirer. Now, at long last, he had collected up sufficient courage to ask her the most momentous of all questions. “There are quite a lot of advantages to being a bachelor,” Bill began, “but there comes a time when one longs for the companionship of another being, a being who will regard one as perfect, as an idol; whom one can treat as one’s absolute own; who will be kind and faithful when times are hard; who will share one’s joys and sorrows.”
To his delight, Bill saw a sympathetic gleam in Lynn’s eyes. Then she nodded in agreement. Finally, Lynn responded, “I think it’s a great idea! Can I help you choose which puppy to buy?”
I have to exercise in the morning before my brain figures out what I’m doing.
Speaking of exercise, my friend Judy sent us this program for those of us who are getting on in years a few years back. I thought I would let you, my friends, in on a little secret I’ve found for building my arm and shoulder muscles. You might wish to adopt this regimen – 3 days a week works well.
I started by standing and with a 5 pound potato sack in each hand, extend my arms straight out to my sides and hold them there as long as I can. After a few weeks I moved up to 10 pound potato sacks, then 50 pound potato sacks and finally I got to where I could lift a 100 pound potato sack in each hand and hold my arms straight out for more than a full minute!!
Next, I started putting a few potatoes in the sacks, but you may not want to continue at this level.
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has been opened for us.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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