“We’ve got everything we need right here, and everything we need is enough.”
I hope your weekend went well, mine did. I think one of the reasons it did was there were no unhappy people sharing their woes and asking for the secret of happiness. When I tell folks who spend their days in anger or regret that in my mind happiness is mostly a matter of choice they usually don’t believe me. I wish there was a magic potion or spell that would lift their burdens but I don’t know of any.
What struck me today is that we all would benefit by getting a little happiness training. Just like my current strength training where the more I exercise the stronger I get, I suspect that the more we practice happiness the happier we will be. With that thought in mind I went to the net and found the following on Wikipedia that outlines some happiness exercises we can add to our daily lives. I love being happy and I love being with happy people. I’ll try and do my part, I hope you will too.
How to Be Happy
So happiness – isn’t that the thing that all of us strive to find and keep? Nobody is happy all of the time, but some people are definitely more fulfilled than others. Studies on what makes people happy reveal that it doesn’t have much to do with material goods or high achievement; it seems to whittle down to your outlook on life, and the quality of your relationships with the people around you.
Be optimistic. In the 1970s, researchers followed people who’d won the lottery and found that a year after they’d hit the jackpot, they were no happier than the people who didn’t. They called it hedonic adaptation, which suggests that we each have a baseline level of happiness. No matter what happens, good or bad, the effect on our happiness is only temporary and we tend to rebound to our baseline level. Some people have a higher baseline happiness level than others, and that can be attributed in part to genetics, but it’s also largely influenced by how you think. Only improving your attitude towards life will increase your happiness permanently. Here are some excellent starting points for doing that:
Stay close to friends and family: Or move to where other members are- so you can see them more. We live in a mobile society, where people follow jobs around the country and sometimes around the world. We do this because we think increases in salary will make us happier, but the fact is that our relationships with our friends and family have a far greater impact on our happiness than our jobs do.
Have deep, meaningful conversations. A study by a psychologist at the University of Arizona has shown that spending less time participating in small talk and more time having deep, meaningful conversations can lead to an increased feeling of happiness.
Find happiness in the job you have now: Many people expect the right job or the right career to dramatically change their level of happiness, but happiness research makes it clear that your level of optimism and the quality of your relationships eclipse the satisfaction you gain from your job. If you have a positive outlook, you will make the best of any job, and if you have good relationships with people, you won’t depend on your job to give your life a greater sense of meaning. You’ll find it in your interactions with the people you care about. Now that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t aspire towards a job that will make you happier; it means you should understand that the capacity of your job to make you happy is quite small in comparison to your outlook on life and your relationships with people.
Smile: Science suggests that when you smile, whether you feel happy or not, your mood will be elevated. So smile all the time! In addition, having enough money to pay the bills allows you to focus your energies on more productive aspects of your life, such as the pursuit of happiness as opposed to keeping the ‘wolves from the door’.
Forgive: In a study of college students, it was found that an attitude of forgiveness contributed to better cardiovascular health. You could say that forgiveness literally heals your heart. While it is unknown how forgiveness directly affects your heart, the study suggests that it may lower the perception of stress.
Make friends who share your interests or faith: If church itself is not your thing, consider finding something else you’re deeply passionate about and making friends who you can connect with regularly based on that.
“Of all the means to insure happiness throughout the whole life, by far the most important is the acquisition of friends.”
Bernie was unfortunate enough to be hit by a 10 ton truck and landed up in hospital in intensive care. His best friend Morris came to visit him. Bernie struggles to tell Morris, “My wife Sadie visits me three times a day. She’s so good to me. Every day, she reads to me at the bedside.”
“What does she read?”
“My life insurance policy.”
“A computer lets you make more mistakes faster than any invention in human history — with the possible exceptions of handguns and tequila.”
With only two tellers working at the bank, the line I was standing in was moving very slowly. As I waited, I began to fill in my withdrawal slip. Not sure of the date, I turned and asked the woman behind me. “It’s the fifth,” she replied. From the back of the line a man advised, “Don’t write it in yet!”
“I feel so miserable without you, it’s almost like having you here.”
A doctor was awakened at four in the morning by a caller who demanded to know how much he charged for a house call.
“Twenty-five dollars,” muttered the sleepy physician.
“How much is an office visit?” demanded the caller.
“Okay, Doc,” said the caller. “I’ll meet you in your office in fifteen minutes.”
Lord, if I can’t be skinny, let all my friends be fat.
My boss’ wife Sherry was exasperated with her younger sister, who bought an unreliable car and called for a ride every time it broke down. One day Sherry got yet another one of those calls. “What happened this time?” she asked.
“My brakes went out,” her sister said. “Can you come to get me?” “Where are you?” Sherry asked. “I’m in the drugstore,” her sister responded. “And where’s the car?” “It’s in here with me.”
“His mother should have thrown him away and kept the stork.”
A DC-10 had an exceedingly long rollout after landing with his approach speed a little high. San Jose Tower: “American 751 heavy, turn right at the end of the runway, if able. If not able, take the Guadalupe exit off Highway 101 and make a right at the light to return to the airport.”
A woman sees a beautiful tennis bracelet in a jewelry store window. She goes in and asks the clerk if a small deposit will hold it until her husband does something unforgivable.
“I’ve pursued dreams and achieved them, but I don’t think anybody should think their life is incomplete if they don’t follow some dream. Happiness doesn’t come from achievements, or money, or any sort of treasure. Happiness is a frame of mind, not a destination. It’s appreciating what you’ve got and building relationships with those around you.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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