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Archive for February, 2012

Well

“A day will never be any more than what you make of it. Practice being a “doer”!

Josh S. Hinds

You’ve heard me talk a lot lately about avoiding the trap of isolation which can result in permanent stagnation. I have discovered that many of us hold back not because of fear that we won’t find happiness but because we think we have no alternative but to continue as we have been, at least for now. I know I have harped a lot in the past about not waiting to do things for yourself until there is little time left to do even a few of the things on our wish lists. Some of us feel even more pain when we finally convince ourselves that we now have the time to take that long hike or climb that mountain only to find that we no longer are physically capable of doing so and our hopes then turn to regrets. I hope you remove things from your list by doing them and not by your health making them impossible to do.

I have been surprised at how well I have been able to maintain my dietary discipline. I am pleased with what I am doing but I am not a fanatic and so I reward myself now and then with a treat rather than waiting until I have forgotten how enjoyable some calorie rich food can be. So join me and take this anonymous author’s advice and don’t wait, just do it now.

 

Just Do It

Too many people put off something that brings them joy just because they haven’t thought about it, don’t have it on their schedule, didn’t know it was coming or are too rigid to depart from their routine.

I got to thinking one day about all those women on the Titanic who passed up dessert at dinner that fateful night in an effort to cut back… From then on, I’ve tried to be a little more flexible. How many women out there will eat at home because their husband didn’t suggest going out to dinner until after something had been thawed? Does the word “refrigeration” mean nothing to you? How often have your kids dropped in to talk and sat in silence while you watched ‘Jeopardy’ on television?

I cannot count the times I called my sister and said, “How about going to lunch in a half hour?” She would gasp and stammer, “I can’t. I have clothes on the line. My hair is dirty. I wish I had known yesterday, I had a late breakfast, It looks like rain.” And my personal favorite: “It’s Monday.” She died a few years ago. We never did have lunch together.

Because we cram so much into our lives, we tend to schedule our headaches. We live on a sparse diet of promises we make to ourselves when all the conditions are perfect! We’ll go back and visit the grandparents when we get Stevie toilet-trained. We’ll entertain when we replace the living-room carpet. We’ll go on a second honeymoon when we get two more kids out of college.

Life has a way of accelerating as we get older. The days get shorter, and the list of promises to ourselves gets longer. One morning, we awaken, and all we have to show for our lives is a litany of “I’m going to,” “I plan on,” and “Someday, when things are settled down a bit.”

When anyone calls my ‘seize the moment’ friend, she is open to adventure and available for trips. She keeps an open mind on new ideas. Her enthusiasm for life is contagious. You talk with her for five minutes, and you’re ready to trade your bad feet for a pair of Rollerblades and skip an elevator for a bungee cord.

My lips have not touched ice cream in 10 years. I love ice cream. It’s just that I might as well apply it directly to my stomach with a spatula and eliminate the digestive process. The other day, I stopped the car and bought a triple-decker. If my car had hit an iceberg on the way home, I would have died happy.

Now… Go on and have a nice day.  Do something you WANT to…… not something on your SHOULD DO list.

If you were going to die soon and had only one phone call you could make, who would you call and what would you say?  And why are you waiting?

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The big question is whether you are going to be able to say a hearty yes to your adventure”

Joseph Campbell

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More from the unofficial Catholic dictionary:

Egypt—the country which created the first form of writing: hieroglyphics—the basis for all medical prescriptions.

Envy— The sin Catholics commit when they think of non-Catholics who get to remain seated during their church services.

Eternity—The time between Communion and the end of Mass.

Evangelists, TV 1. Preachers with miraculous power—the ability to squeeze dollars out of the penniless.

Everlasting life— What a Catholic will need to understand all the changes since Vatican II.

Eye of the needle— The analogy that provides a strong incentive for rich men to breed tiny camels.

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What a pity human beings can’t exchange problems. Everyone knows exactly how to solve the other fellow’s.

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I hate smart sales clerks. I said to one, “What do you have in lingerie?” She said, “More than you’ll ever have!”

Cleaning your house before the kids have stopped growing is like shoveling the walk before it stops snowing.

The last thing my kids ever did to earn money was lose their baby teeth.

He is a typical husband. When I drive he complains about every telephone pole I hit. But does he ever compliment me on the ones I miss?

Once my husband said to me, “I’m going to have some coffee. Do you want me to put some hot water on for you?”  I thought that was the least he could do, considering I was giving birth!”

Phyllis Diller

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“It’s just to hot to wear clothes today,” said Jack as he stepped out of the shower.  “Honey, what do you think the neighbors would think if I mowed the lawn like this?”

“Probably that I married you for your money.”

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“There are two different kinds of people in this world: those who finish what they start, and”

Brad Ramsey

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The minister’s little six-year-old girl had been so naughty during the week, that her mother decided to give her the worst kind of punishment.  She told her she couldn’t go to the Sunday School Picnic on Saturday. When the day came, her mother felt she had been too harsh and changed her mind. When she told the little girl she could go to the picnic, the child’s reaction was one of gloom and unhappiness. “What’s the matter?  I thought you’d be glad to go to the picnic.” her mother said. “It’s too late!” the little girl said.  “I’ve already prayed for rain!”

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Originality is the art of concealing your sources.

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John was called into his bank to discuss his accounts.

“Your finances are in terrible shape,” the banker stated. “Your checking account is overdrawn, your loan is overdue.”

“Yes, I know.” said the man. “It’s my wife Jill, she is out of control.”

“Why do you allow your wife to spend more money than you have?” asked the banker.

“Frankly,” replied the man with a deep sigh, “because I’d rather argue with you than with her.”

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“To the degree we’re not living our dreams, our comfort zone has more control of us than we have over ourselves.”

Peter McWilliams

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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It’s working!

In order to change we must be sick and tired of being sick and tired.

Author Unknown

I have had a pretty good week, I hope you have as well. My weight loss continues apace and I have become use to hearing the pounds falling off, fourteen of them so far. I also got on my treadmill on the days that I did not have a cardiac rehab session. The thing that has amazed me the most is that I have had events in the evening for the last three nights which have cut into my sleep and yet I seemed to stay alert as well as survive. It has been a long time since I have been able to do this well, who knows what I might accomplish if the energy curve continues to rise.

OK now that I have reported on how pleased I am with my progress I need to admit I am somewhat mortified that I at the same time demonstrated my lack of intelligence. I knew I needed to lose weight, I knew that my months of sedentary living was taking its toll. Yes I have had some medical setbacks but instead of working my way out of some of the problems I used my maladies as an excuse for inaction. True I had little energy, but rather than do what I could I let the lack of activity feed my downward spiral. Like I said I know better and now what I need to do is burn into my memory how much better my current improvement is than how I was while I rationalized inaction. I should have dipped into my Ralph Marston wisdom file and followed this advice that he provided some time ago..

 

Your time to begin

The place to start is where you are. The way to start is by doing what you can, with what you know, using what you have. You may get it wrong at first. But if you wait until you’re sure you can get it perfect, you’ll never get it done.

The best learning comes from doing. The way to get the experience you seek is to get busy without hesitation. The longer you wait to get started, the more powerful your doubts will grow. Jump in right away, get  going, and those doubts won’t have a chance to take hold.

Time always moves forward whether you move forward or not. Your most effective strategy is to make use of each moment as soon as it arrives.

 

Marston said “But if you wait until you’re sure you can get it perfect, you’ll never get it done.” In my case I was waiting to work on feeling better until I felt better, how dumb is that.

Have you got something that you could do that will provide you some health and/or happiness dividends? If you do how about joining me and get to work today, like he said “you may get it wrong at first” but I guarantee you’ll never get it right if you don’t start. Now my dear friends I am off to enjoy a super weekend I hope you will do the same.

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Health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well-being, and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity.

World Health Organization

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We Were So Poor That We Could Only Afford…

Medicines called placebos

Five of the Ten Commandments

Bagel holes

Sunrise Or Sunset

Webster’s Extremely Abridged Dictionary

White Crayolas

Lipton Tea Bag strings

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There is only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.

Aldous Huxley

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My friend Ken sent me this Terrorist Alert some years ago:

We have just been notified by Security that there have been six suspected terrorists working out of our office.

Five of the six have been apprehended. Bin Sleepin, Bin Loafin, Bin Goofin, Bin Lunchin and Bin Drinkin have been taken into custody. Security advised us that they could find no one fitting the description of the sixth cell member, Bin Workin, at our office Security is confident that anyone who looks like he’s Bin Workin will be very easy to spot.

You are not a suspect at this time.

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Everyone thinks I’m psychotic, except for my friends deep inside the earth.”

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– Hello, that’s you, Abe?

– Yes, dis is Abe…

– It doesn’t sount like Abe

– Vell, dis is Abe all right.

– You’re positive it’s Abe?

– Absolutely.

– Vell, listen Abie, dis is Moe. Can you lend me fifty dollars?

– Ven Abe comes in, I’ll tell him you called…

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My mind not only wanders, sometimes it leaves completely.

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A member of the Country Club asked the lifeguard how he might go about teaching a young lady to swim.

“It takes considerable time and technique.” replied the guard. “First you must take her into the water, then place one arm about her waist, hold her tightly, then take her right arm and raise it very slowly…”

“This is certainly most helpful.” said the member. “I know that my sister will appreciate it.”

“Your sister?” said the lifeguard. “In that case, just push her into the deep end of the pool. She’ll learn in a hurry.”

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Now and then it’s good to pause in our pursuit of happiness and just be happy.

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An off-duty police officer, familiar with radar guns, drove through a school zone within the legal speed limit when the flash of a camera went off, taking a picture of his license plate.

The officer, thinking the radar was in error, drove by again; even more slowly.  Another flash.  He did it again for a third time, at an even slower speed.  Same result.

“This guy must have screwed up the settings,” the off-duty officer thought.

A few weeks later, when he received the violations in the mail, he discovered three traffic tickets: each for not wearing a seat belt!

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If I’d known I was going to live so long, I’d have taken better care of myself.

Leon Eldred

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Don’t let the wall hold you back!

No passion so effectually robs the mind of all its powers of acting and reasoning as fear.

EDMUND BURKE

I attended a great meeting yesterday where we discussed how we might help retirees have more fun in their lives even if they don’t live on a golf course or in a retirement community. As I thought about the conversations later I decided that what holds most of us back from much of life’s fun is a misguided lack of confidence sometimes bordering on fear. You know the feeling, it starts with a belief that “I probably can’t do it so why try”, or “What will people think if I fail or I am not good it.” I hate to think how many wins we have missed because we were unwilling to play. You know that wall that so often holds us back was not placed there by someone else, we built it and we can tear it down. Here is what I copied off a wise woman’s blog that I offer to you as demolition tools to help you to remove what might be holding you back

 

How to Overcome Fear + Live the Life You Deserve

  • Do something brand new. Be a beginner. Be open to the different and the difficult. Push yourself. Follow someone’s lead. Ask questions. Try. Fail. Try again. Fail again. Succeed.
  • Focus on what needs to be done. Take small calculated steps to get to your end goal. Don’t give your fear attention or energy. Let it die a slow death. Build your courage muscles one action step at a time.
  • Let go of what you don’t want and visualize what you do. Stop running negative images in your mind of bad things happening. Create the image of the outcome you want and dwell on it. Work towards it. Each time you feel fearful replace it with your image of success.
  • Take your fear to the gym. When you are stuck in fear and feel paralyzed by negativity, get active. Lift weights, run, or walk off your fear. Move physically. Motivate yourself with a play list of positive songs
  • Use affirmations and quotes. I write down positive quotes and affirmations on index cards and put them in my car, bathroom, bedroom and kitchen. It only takes a few minutes to see things differently and change my calm my emotions.
  • Release attack thoughts and negativity. We project our own negativity and fear when we get caught up in drama and become envious of the success of others. Somebody else’s success has nothing to do with yours. Focus on taking action on your own behalf. Choose to be happy for people who get what you want. Learn to say and mean, “Good for them.”
  • Change your perception and change your story. Stop doubting yourself. Become aware of the stories you tell yourself about your self-worth, intelligence, strengths, and possibilities. Own your greatness. Create stories that resonate with the beautiful person you are. No one else can do it for you.
  • Create new expectations. Expect to succeed. Tell yourself things are going well. Know that people want to help you. Spin new stories about the future. You have a choice. You can expect the best or the worst. Why wouldn’t you choose the best?
  • Replace fear with fun. Fear can lead to a work addiction. When you lack balance in your life it shows up in your relationships, business, and health. Carve out time to laugh and play. Get away from all electronics and get your fun meter running. Dance, hike, begin a new hobby, and laugh as often as possible.
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The alternative to facing your fears is that your fears will control you. Don’t miss out on opportunities. Don’t cheat the people who will benefit from your gifts. Live is meant to be lived out loud and in joy. This is your time. This is you life. Live it with gutsy, risk-taking, glory.

The author of the blog got this from Tess Marshall the founder of The Bold Life, where she inspires people to live a fearless life.

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The cave you fear to enter holds the treasure you seek.

JOSEPH CAMPBELL

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The shipwrecked mariner had spent several years on a deserted island. Then one morning he was thrilled to see a ship offshore and a smaller vessel pulling out toward him.

When the boat grounded on the beach, the officer in charge handed the marooned sailor a bundle of newspapers and told him, “The captain said to read through these and let us know if you still want to be rescued.”

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I had amnesia once or twice. I think.

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One night a wife found her husband standing over their newborn baby’s crib. Silently she watched him. As he stood looking down at the sleeping infant, she saw on his face a mixture of emotions; disbelief, doubt, delight, amazement, enchantment, and skepticism. Touched by this unusual display and the deep emotions it aroused, with eyes glistening she slipped her arms around her husband.

“A penny for your thoughts.” she whispered in his ear.

“It’s amazing!” he replied. “I just can’t see how anybody can make a crib like that for only $46.50!”

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TEAMWORK…means never having to take all the blame yourself.

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A stalwart Vermont farmer bought some land that was still just as it had been before the Pilgrims landed.  He dug up hundreds of stones and built a fence; cut down trees to create a clearing; built a house and a small barn; cleared land for pasture, dug a well and over several years just generally worked his fingers to the bone in creating a small, neat, productive farm.

Eventually his pastor came out for a visit and marveled rather fulsomely, and at great length, at all that “you and God have done together.”

“Eh,” the farmer said dubiously.  “Ya shoulda seen the place when God ran it on his own.”

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If you can stay calm, while all around you is chaos…then you probably haven’t completely understood the seriousness of the situation.

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The kid’s advice to the pastor:

Dear Pastor, I think a lot more people would come to your church if you moved it to Disneyland. Loreen. Age 9. Tacoma

Dear Pastor, I liked your sermon where you said that good health is more important than money but I still want a raise in my allowance. Sincerely, Eleanor. Age 12, Sarasota

Dear Pastor, Please pray for all the airline pilots. I am flying to California tomorrow. Laurie. Age 10, New York City

Dear Pastor, I hope to go to heaven some day but later than sooner. Love, Ellen, age 9. Athens

Dear Pastor, Please say a prayer for our Little League team. We need God’s help or a new pitcher. Thank you. Alexander. Age 10, Raleigh

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You call it caution. You call it common sense. You call it practicality. You call it playing the odds, but that’s only because you’re afraid to call it by its real name, and its real name is fear.

MICK FARREN

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

 Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

 

What do you think?

Modern cynics and skeptics… see no harm in paying those to whom they entrust the minds of their children a smaller wage than is paid to those to whom they entrust the care of their plumbing.

John F. Kennedy

 

Hi all, it is another one of those days for me. Last night I attended a reception held by one of my favorite professional theatre groups, The Actors Theatre of Indiana (ATI) where they announced the shows they will produce next season. If you live in Central Indiana do yourself a favor and go to http://www.actorstheatreofindiana.org/currentseason.php?DOC_INST=6 and signup to see their current production of Godspell. I saw the show last Sunday and I thought it was great. The studio theater where it is performed provides a unique intimate connection between the audience and the performers and in this case the results added a new and powerful dimension to the show. That was due in no small part to an outstanding cast that were allowed by the Los Angeles based director to add amazing strength to the performance by their facial expressions and gestures. So my friends give yourself the gift of a morality refresher course while having a memorable evening in the theatre.

Today I am off to exercise and then meeting with the Indiana Humanities Commission to see how we can spread some enrichment opportunities to our seniors. I am excited by the chance we have to bring some new cultural experiences to folks who always want to learn more.

With that being said I now have run out of time so here is what I published on February 15, 2005

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The dinner guests were sitting around the table discussing life. One man, a CEO, decided to explain the problem with education. He argued: “What’s a kid going to learn from someone who decided his best option in life was to become a teacher?” He reminded the other dinner guests that it’s true what they say about Teachers: “Those who can…do. Those who can’t, teach.”

To corroborate, he said to another guest: “You’re a teacher, Susan. Be honest. What do you make?”

Susan, who had a reputation of honesty and frankness, replied, “You want to know what I make? “I make kids work harder than they ever thought they could.” “I can make a C+ feel like a Congressional Medal of Honor and an A- feel like a slap in the face if the student did not do his or her very best.” “I can make kids sit through 40 minutes of study hall in absolute silence.” “I can make parents tremble in fear when I call home”

You want to know what I make?” “I make kids wonder.” “I make them question.” “I make them criticize.” “I make them apologize and mean it.” “I make them write.” “I make them read, read, read.” “I make them spell definitely beautiful, definitely beautiful, and definitely beautiful over and over and over again, until they will never misspell either one of those words again.” “I make them show all their work in math and hide it all on their final drafts in English.”

“I make them understand that if you have the brains, then follow your heart…and if someone ever tries to judge you by what you make, you pay them no attention.” You want to know what I make?” “I make a difference.”

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When I first read this I thought of the many times my youngest daughter bought hundreds of dollars worth of supplies for the classroom where she taught. I remembered how teachers have told me how angry parents get with the teacher if a child needs help and how they view the schools primary purpose is to be custodians and baby sitters. I thought about how so many of my generation have failed to support investing in education, ignoring the fact that these students will control their world tomorrow. I thought about how we have cut physical and health education at the very time there is an epidemic of childhood obesity in order to save money. We seem to be willing to pay billions later to support a population suffering from diabetes and heart disease, rather than spend little now.

I worry about children who are only exposed to reading, writing, and arithmetic, who are expert at passing tests, but miss the joy that can come from the art, music, literature, and the beauty of life.

The other day I was waited on by a middle school English teacher who had to work at the restaurant to make ends meet. Her goal is to be able to teach high school English Literature someday if only she can find a place to do it. I hope for the sake of those she would teach that she has the opportunity to use her gifts.

Our futures, yours and mine, are in the hands of these teachers of the next generation of citizens. Many make great personal sacrifices in order to do what they do, they deserve better. At a minimum they deserve our respect, gratitude, and most of all our support. So to those of you who are teachers, thanks for all you do, you may not hear it often but many do care.

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We must view young people not as empty bottles to be filled, but as candles to be lit.

Robert H. Shaffer

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Asked by his third-grade teacher to spell “straight.” The boy did so correctly.

“Now,” said the teacher, “what does it mean?”

“Without water.”

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“Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.”

Samuel Beckett

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Rabbi Bloom caught two of his rabbinical students gambling and drinking on Sabbath. Next day, Rabbi Bloom called them into his office and asked them what was going on. They immediately confessed to having given in to weakness and agreed that they deserved some form of punishment for their sin. Rabbi Bloom thought a lot about this and then came up with the answer. He bought two bags of dried peas from the delicatessen and told them, “Put these in your shoes and walk on them for a week to remind yourselves how hard life can be when you turn away from God.”

A few days later, the two students met each other in the street.  One had a pronounced limp and had dark circles under his eyes.  He looked very tired and weary.  On the other hand, the other was the same as he had been before. “Hey,” said the first.  “How is it that you are walking so easily? Didn’t you do as the Rabbi asked and put the peas in your shoes?”

“I did,” said the other.

“But I boiled mine first.”

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We’ve all heard “Laughter is the best medicine.”

Lately I’m not so sure. If that were really true, wouldn’t the medical profession have found a way by now to charge us for it?

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A man decides to take the opportunity while his wife is away to paint the toilet seat. The wife comes home sooner than expected, sits, and gets the seat stuck to her rear. She is understandably distraught about this and asks her husband to drive her to the doctor. She puts on a large overcoat so as to cover the stuck seat, and they go. When they get to the doctor’s, the man lifts his wife’s coat to show their predicament. The man asks, “Doctor, have you ever seen anything like this before?” “Well, yes,” the doctor replies, “but not framed like that.”

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Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.

Marie Curie

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

Happy Valentine’s Day and every other day too!

Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself

George Bernard Shaw

I had coffee with a friend yesterday morning that recently left her job. What I liked about our conversation was hearing that she viewed her leaving as a great opportunity to invest her time over the next few months to learning more about herself while cataloging her likes, dislikes, strengths and weaknesses in order to lay the foundation for a happy future.

My friend is at a midlife point and rather than view it as a crisis she looks at it as an opportunity for a new beginning. She wisely is planning not on a new career but rather on a balanced life that includes a new career as well as time for friends, family, service to others and participation in the things in life we so often miss. It may sound easy but in my experience the process requires patience, honest self-evaluation, research and a strong dose of realistic optimism, but boy is it worth it. Over the years I have spent many hours with folks in a similar situation and when they built their new life the results were fantastic. It is almost as if they had banked unused happiness that spilled out as soon as they found the right niche for themselves.

Some time ago Gretchen Rubin sent me a piece she had written as part of her Happiness Project. It was her sharing of something she found on how you can turn your resolutions into accomplishments. There are too many to list them all but here are some I really like, one or more can provide substantial personal enrichment.

 

Ray’s “Enjoy Life” List

  • Discover new places
  • Eat something new that you never otherwise would have tried
  • Go to a multi-cultural group or event.
  • Every day, pick something you believe strongly, and think about how you might be wrong.
  • Meet one new person each day by approaching them
  • Encounter someone by themselves and by being friendly, include them in your group
  • Think of the wisest person you know. Try to live each day as that person would live.
  • Notice your thoughts about stopping a task, and ignore them. Focus on the task at hand.
  • Go out of your way to become more involved in an organization you are already a part of
  • Get a good night’s sleep and eat a good breakfast, to give yourself more energy during the day.
  • Do a random act of kindness every day (a simple, small favor). Make it anonymous if possible.
  • Be a listening ear to a friend. Ask them how their day was and actually listen to the answer.
  • Notice when you treat someone based on a stereotype or pre-conception; resolve not to do it again.
  • When something upsets you, attempt to block it out of your mind and instead focus on the good things in your life.
  • Every day, thank someone for something that you might otherwise take for granted.
  • Notice your negative thoughts. Counter them with positive thoughts.
  • Every day, make someone smile or laugh.

It seems to me that too many of us live our lives just reacting to whatever is happening at the moment. We become so used to responding in the same old way that we end up in the proverbial rut. It really does not have to be that way, some of the things listed above can be stepping stones that you can use as you climb out of the doldrums while building a happier life.

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Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover

Mark Twain.

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Quotes from graveyard headstones:

I told you I was sick.

I’ve been down here all this time and all you can bring me is flowers?

Well, here I am.

I’d rather be sailing.

I can’t breath!

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I asked my psychiatrist if she thought I was crazy, she said “no”, so I let her up.

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He said:

Woman is a bundle of contradiction

She’s afraid of a wasp, Will scream at a mouse,

But will tackle her husband alone in the house.

She’ll take him for better, She’ll take him for worse

She’ll break open his head and then be his nurse.

But when he’s well and can get out of bed.

She’ll pick up the tea-pot and throw it at his head.

Beautiful, keen sighted and blind,

Crafty and cruel, simple and kind.

She’ll call him a king and then make him a clown.

Raise him on a pedestal, and then flatten him down.

She inspires him to deeds that ennoble man,

Or make him her lackey to carry her fan.

You fancy she’s is that, but she’s that

She plays like kitten and bites like cat

In the morning will she’ll sing,

But in the evening she’ll not

She always does the contrary to what she ought

Sour as vinegar, sweet as a rose

Kiss you one minute, then turn up her nose

She’ll win you in range, enchant you in silk

She is stronger than brandy, milder than milk

In fact revengeful, merry and sad, Hates you like poison,

But loves you like mad.

 

Happy Valentines day!

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The stockbroker’s secretary answered his phone one morning.  “I’m sorry,” she said, “Mr. Bradford’s on another line.”

“This is Mr. Ingram’s office,” the caller said.  “We’d like to know if he’s bullish or bearish right now.”

“He’s talking to his wife,” the secretary replied. “Right now I’d say he’s sheepish.”

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In the end, it’s not going to matter how many breaths you took, but how many moments took your breath away

Shing Xiong.

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

Don’t let them upset you!

It’s not what happens to you that determines how far you will go in life; it is how you handle what happens to you.

Zig Ziglar

 

I think I told you last week that I had been in a meeting with some smart people where we discussed a number of things. There were many areas of interest but all were centered on the human condition and how much control people exercise over their own lives. We talked about victimhood, everyday interpersonal conflicts, anger, societal polarization and as you can imagine even more.

As I listened to current solutions that while seeming to minimize the symptoms of discomfort and pain are often less than effective in eliminating the cause of so many peoples unhappiness. Too often it seems to me we feel we must alter the situation that creates the problem or find ways to convince others to change their behavior, when in reality we are better off in altering ourselves.

Most often we are victims because we think we are being mistreated or that we been stepped on. Some of us let an angry response lower us to the same level as those who have made us angry. In my mind the solution is maintaining a positive attitude. When you have the strength and self-image to rise above letting day to day events take you down your life changes. It is never a sign of weakness to rise above conflict where there are seldom any winners, rather it is a sign of strength. It is those who keep cooler heads who not only live happier lives, they also solve more problems, contribute more and are responsible for most of the good things around us.

Here is a piece that I got off the net that might help those who how would prefer harmony over perpetual unhappiness.

 

Develop your positive attitude!

Here are some ways to help you cultivate a positive attitude and ease in your life:

  • Listen to internal dialogue. Divide one or more sheets of paper into two columns and, for a few days, jot down in the left column all the negative thoughts that come into your head. Rewrite each thought in a positive way in the second column. Practice doing this in your mind until it becomes a habit. (For example, “I’ll never get this finished by the end of the day!” could become, “I will probably get most of this finished by the end of the day.”)
  • Learn to communicate. Not saying the things we feel can lead to a sense of frustration, hurt, anger or anxiety. If you find communicating difficult, or are afraid of arguments or bruised feelings, take a course in communicating effectively always having the intent of non-harm.
  • Get back to basics. Reconnect with old friends, take the dog for a walk, visit an art gallery or listen to your favorite music. Enjoy a long, relaxing bath, read a great book, tell your child a story, or ask an older relative to tell you one! The simplest things in life give us the most pleasure.
  • Help someone out. The simple act of helping others (humans, animals or Nature in general) helps us to feel joy. Pick up groceries for an aging neighbor, volunteer at your local hospital or read a book to someone with failing eyesight. If you are unsure of how to help out in your community, call your nearest volunteer center.
  • Find your spirituality. Research has shown that those who have developed their spirituality through associating with other spiritual individuals or having cooperative mindful beliefs live longer, more satisfying lives. The secret is practicing those beliefs, either through organized worship, or simple meditation (openness) in a quiet place.

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“A strong positive attitude will create more miracles than any wonder drug.”

Patricia Neal

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IF GOD HAD VOICE MAIL

Most of us have learned to live with “voice mail” as now a necessary part of our daily lives.  But have you ever wondered what it would be like if God decided to install ” voice mail”?

Imagine praying and hearing the following:

Thank you for calling Heaven. Please select one of the following options:

Press 1 for Requests

Press 2 for Thanksgiving

Press 3 for Complaints

Press 4 for all other inquiries

I am sorry, all of our angels and saints are busy helping other sinners right now. However, your prayer is important to us and we will answer it in the order it was received. Please stay on the line.

If you would like to speak to:

God, press 1

For Jesus, press 2

For the Holy Spirit, press 3

If you would like to hear King David sing a Psalm while you are holding, press 4.

To find a loved one that has been assigned to Heaven, press 5, then enter his or her Social Security Number, followed by the pound sign.  (If you get a negative response, please hang up and try area code 666.)

For reservations at Heaven, please enter J-O-H-N followed by the numbers 3-1-6.

For answers to nagging questions about dinosaurs, the age of the earth, life on other planets, and where Noah’s Ark is, please wait until you arrive.

Our computers show that you have already prayed once today. Please hang up and try again tomorrow.

This office is now closed for the weekend to observe a religious holiday. Please pray again on Monday after 9:30 a.m.

If you are calling after hours and need emergency assistance, please contact your local pastor.

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Artificial Intelligence is no match for Natural Stupidity.

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The kid said:

My young brother asked me what happens after we die. I told him we get buried under a bunch of dirt and worms eat our bodies. I guess I should have told him the truth–that most of us go to Hell and burn eternally–but I didn’t want to upset him.  –Age 10

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“I don’t have to attend every argument I’m invited to.”

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After she woke up, a woman told her husband, “I just dreamed that you gave me a pearl necklace for Valentine’s Day. What do you think it means?”

“You’ll know on Valentine’s Day.” he said.

On Valentine’s Day, the man came home with a small package and gave it to his wife. Delighted, she opened it – to find a book entitled….

“The Meaning Of Dreams.”

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I don’t want to express an opinion … I have friends in both places.

— Mark Twain (asked what he thought about the existence of heaven or hell.

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The businessman dragged himself home and barely made it to his chair before he dropped, exhausted.

His sympathetic wife was right there with a tall cool drink and a comforting word.

“My, you look tired,” she said.  “You must have had a hard day today. What happened to make you so exhausted?”

“It was terrible,” her husband said, “The computer broke down and all of us had to do our own thinking.”

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“Your attitude can take you forward or your attitude can take you down. The choice is always yours!”

Catherine Pulsifer

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

Have you found Joy?

I have enjoyed greatly the second blooming… suddenly you find that a whole new life has opened before you.

Agatha Christie

 

I was at a meeting a couple of days ago where some of our town’s smart people were talking about how they could help those of us who are up in years discover the joy available to us if we break out of the limitations we may face as we age. I know far too many people who gradually slip into unhappiness because they can no longer do the things they use to do. Let me tell you, no longer being able to do things you once thought were fun and not finding things that you can now do instead can quickly take one down.

The discomfort becomes even more pronounced when the environment changes as friends move away with few opportunities to do things with the old friends who remain. At the meeting I suggested that when there is nothing left on ones things to do list it is the time to make a new list. I have learned that when one is lonesome there is always someone just as lonesome not that far away who would love the opportunity to be your friend. The secret is to understand that they are not going to find you unless you are out and open to finding them. The good news is that I have seen senior organizations like OASIS here in Indianapolis, churches, study groups and the like build bridges between folks that have brought new friends together resulting in their sharing brighter days. As an example my wife’s closest friends these days are people she met as she walked a local mall for exercise.

What I don’t understand is why some people feel guilty if they enjoy life too much. It is especially troublesome when I realize that we are at an age where we don’t have to impress anyone nor let our children or others script our lives. I may not be able to throw my hat up in the air as high as I use to do but I find throwing it up in places I never would have before is really fun.

Here is a piece written by Ralph Marston that applies to you and everyone else no matter what your age. You might even want to venture out this weekend and mine for some joy.

 

Spread the joy

There’s no reason to feel the least bit guilty about enjoying life. If life were not to be enjoyed, then how would it be possible to enjoy anything?

You are here to see the beauty, and to enjoy it. You are here to feel the love, and to delight in it all.

You are here to be aware of how magnificent it is to be aware. You are here to experience what it means to exist.

There is great enjoyment to be found it life’s pleasures. There is also unique enjoyment to be found in the challenges and the difficulties, and in working your way through them.

Fully experience and enjoy the ups and downs that come from passionately following your purpose. Find real joy in an endless variety of situations, and truly know what it means to live.

The more you enjoy your own life, the more joy you have to give to all of life. Live, enjoy, and spread your magnificent joy far and wide.

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To me, old age is always 15 years older than I am.

Bernard M. Baruch

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As an act of charity, the wife of a local magistrate in a poor district of London invited a little girl from the area to tea. The girl sat down at the tea table, looked around, and then turned to her hostess. “I see you keep your house very clean,” she said. “Cleanliness is next to godliness, you know.”

The magistrate’s wife smiled at the girl and winked at her husband. The little girl went on, “Is your husband working?”

“Of course he is!” said the lady. “Why do you ask such a strange question?”

The girl continued. “And are you both keeping off the drink?”

“Why, what an impertinent little girl you are!” cried the lady. “When you are invited to tea, you should try to behave like a lady, my child.”

“Oh, but I am trying,” replied the little girl. “When ladies visit our house, they always ask these questions.”

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“I inherited a painting and a violin which turned out to be a Rembrandt and a Stradivarius. Unfortunately, Rembrandt made lousy violins and Stradivarius was a terrible painter.”

Tommy Cooper.

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CONSPIRACY, WE MUST STOP THIS

Have you ever noticed that when you’re of a certain age, everything seems uphill from where you are? Stairs are steeper. Groceries are heavier. And, everything is farther away. Yesterday I walked to the corner and I was dumbfounded to discover how long our street had become!

And, you know, people are less considerate now, especially the young ones. They speak in whispers all the time! If you ask them to speak up they just keep repeating themselves, endlessly mouthing the same silent message until they’re red in the face! What do they think I am, a lip reader?

I also think they are much younger than I was at the same age. On the other hand, people my own age are so much older than I am. I ran into an old friend the other day and she has aged so much that she didn’t even recognize me. I got to thinking about the poor dear while I was combing my hair this morning, and in doing so, I glanced at my own reflection……..Well, REALLY NOW ……… even mirrors are not made the way they used to be!

Another thing, everyone drives so fast today! You’re risking life and limb if you just happen to pull onto the freeway in front of them. All I can say is, their brakes must wear out awfully fast, the way I see them screech and swerve in my rear view mirror.

Clothing manufacturers are less civilized these days. Why else would they suddenly start labeling a size 10 or 12 dress as 18 or 20? Do they think no one notices that these things no longer fit around the waist, hips, thighs, and bosom? The people who make bathroom scales are pulling the same prank, but in reverse. Do they think I actually “believe” the number I see on that dial? HA! I would never let myself weigh that much! Just who do these people think they’re fooling?  I’d like to call up someone in authority to report what’s going on – but the telephone company is in on the conspiracy too: they’ve printed the phone books in such small type that no one could ever find a number in here!  All I can do is pass along this warning: Maturity is under attack!

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Show me a sane woman. I’ll cure her for you.

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A newsboy was standing on the corner with a stack of papers, yelling, “Read all about it.  Fifty people swindled!  Fifty people swindled!”

Curious, a man walked over, bought a paper, and checked the front page.  Finding nothing, the man said, “There’s nothing in here about fifty people being swindled.”

The newsboy ignored him and went on, calling out, “Read all about it. Fifty-one people swindled!”

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Schizophrenia beats being alone.

An elderly, wealthy woman in Florida was boring fellow beachcombers as she bragged on and on about her two remarkable grandchildren.

Unable to stand it any longer, a fellow sunbather interrupted her.

“Tell me, Mrs. Rosenwasser, how old are your grandsons?”

Mrs. Rosenwasser gave her a grateful smile and replied, “The doctor is four and the lawyer is six.”

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In spite of illness, in spite even of the archenemy sorrow, one can remain alive long past the usual date of disintegration if one is unafraid of change, insatiable in intellectual curiosity, interested in big things, and happy in small ways.

Edith Wharton

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@gmail.com. Back issues are posted at https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

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