“Sometimes it’s the smallest decisions that can change your life forever.”
Decisions, decisions, decisions − if you are like so many of us you are faced with more and more decisions each year. For some of us they are like a stone hanging over our head that grows larger the longer we avoid making a choice and doing whatever we decided to do. Still others of us waste no time, we either go immediately with our gut or we fall back on that old flip a coin technique. Even worse are those of us who never make any decision, we just let others make them for us.
The sad part is that if we don’t look at our life alternatives and start to make choices we miss one opportunity after another. We don’t have to rush into everything without at least looking where we leap nor do we have to spend so much time deliberating, researching and planning that we risk missing opportunity. Fortunately we just need to decide and then do something, the great thing is that in most cases even if we take a wrong turn we can retrace our steps and follow a different path. Sure some decisions require faith and courage, but the joy that can come from moving ahead is well worth the effort.
Here is some decision making tips offered by Kathy Gates is a Professional Life Coach in Scottsdale Arizona that you may find worth your time, that is if you decide to read what she says.
What’s the alternative to making decisions? Allowing someone else, or circumstances, to make them for you. And that is giving up control of your life. That’s giving up all power to your life to other people or circumstance. And that will make you miserable.
It reminds me of walking through a wonderful food buffet where you could have anything you want — 0 calories! — and allowing someone else to decide what you took on your plate. Unacceptable! So when faced with decision anxiety, is the alternative — giving up all control to others or circumstance — the preferred method? Definitely not. No matter how difficult the decision, making it yourself gives you some modicum of control.
To reduce anxiety for your decisions:
1. Stop looking for a prediction of the future.
There’s a difference in making a decision and looking for a prediction. There is likely to be a risk in most any decision more complicated than deciding on a type of dessert. Things change, people change, ideas change, desires change. The decision is made on what you know, what you believe, what direction you want to go in. The future cannot be predicted. Don’t let that stop you.
2. Be as informed as possible before making a decision.
Do what you need to do, but try to be realistic about it. For example, if you tried to read every article on decision anxiety, you’d be 100 years old before you finished — not much help, there, huh. So if you find yourself procrastinating, give yourself a time limit –“I will read 50 different articles, and talk to 10 people, and decide by 5:00 pm on Thursday.”
3. Realize that very few things are set in stone.
Maybe you have lots of things you want to do in your life, and you just seem to make a decision on what to do or how to do them all. This is “analysis-paralysis”. Instead, remind yourself that focusing on one thing right now doesn’t mean that you’re giving up others. It simply means that you have decided to get started on one project, with the realization that you can do the others at any time you choose.
4. Remind yourself of successful decisions.
One of my clients didn’t believe that she could make any good decisions until we started her keeping a list of the many good decisions she made every day. Sure some were small, but throughout her life, she began to realize that she had made many more good decisions than bad ones.
Easier decision making is really about valuing yourself and your own opinions. Believe in your ability, and trust your instincts. Appreciate your input into your decisions, and understand and accept that every single decision you make might not be perfect. Learn from it, expect the best from yourself, and you’ll get the best.
“A wise man makes his own decisions, an ignorant man follows public opinion”
The Kids said:
It sure would be nice if we got a day off for the president’s birthday, like they do for the queen. Of course, then we would have a lot of people voting for a candidate born on July 3 or December 26, just for the long weekends. –Age 8
As you make your way through this hectic world of ours, set aside a few minutes each day. At the end of the year, you’ll have a couple of days saved up. –Age 7
If all those psychics know the winning lottery numbers, why are they all still working?
A father noticed that his son was spending way too much time playing computer games. In an effort to motivate the boy into focusing more attention on his schoolwork, the father said to his son, “When Abe Lincoln was your age, he was studying books by the light of the fireplace.”
The son replied, “When Lincoln was your age, he was The President of The United States.”
Nothing is fool-proof to a sufficiently talented fool.
While driving in Pennsylvania, a family caught up to an Amish carriage.
The owner of the carriage obviously had a sense of humor, because attached to the back of the carriage was a hand printed sign…
“Energy efficient vehicle. Runs on oats and grass. Caution: Do not step on exhaust.”
The butler entered the room, a solemn procession of one.
P. G. Wodehouse
A Mothers fantasy:
10. To be able to eat a whole candy bar (alone).
9. To have my 14 year-old daughter answer a question without rolling her eyes in that “Why is this person my mother?” way.
8. Five pounds of chocolate that won’t add twenty
7. A shower without a child peeking through the curtain with a “Hi Ya Mom!” just as I put a razor to my ankle.
6. A full time cleaning person who looks like Brad Pitt
5. For my teenager to announce “Hey, Mom! I got a full scholarship and a job all in the same day!”
4. A grocery store that doesn’t have candy/gum/cheap toys displayed at the checkout line.
3. To have a family meal without a discussion about bodily secretions.
2. To be able to step on a plane with my toddlers and NOT have someone moan, “Oh no! Why me…!”
And the #1 thing that I REALLY want for Mother’s Day is….. Four words: Fisher Price Play Prison
“The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers. You can do anything you decide to do. You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure , the process is its own reward.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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