“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”
My day of fun yesterday was a success; I enjoyed the day, stayed out of trouble and had a good time. I think the best part was that it was fret free in part because I avoided any place where I might run into angry people. It is pretty sad that so many who are frustrated and don’t know what to do turn to irrational anger and even aggressive behavior as they lash out against the unknown. I feel for them and wish I could help but I seldom can.
Over the years I have found that when I got angry the only person hurt was me. I know I told you before that one of the compliments I received many years ago that has stuck with me ever since was that I had learned to lose gracefully. The comment was made by a respected business leader and he made it while reflecting on how often we were able to get things done because we did not burn our bridges when things did not go right. You probably have seen how those that lose their self-control lose respect and often never get a chance to recover. I know it is sometimes not easy, but counting to ten and not falling into the trap of irate behavior provides the opportunity to reexamine what is happening while not allowing things to escalate to the point of no recovery.
In my case staying calm is not only more fun it is better for my health. And you know what most everything that might make me angry just is not worth it. That does not mean that I won’t do everything in my power to change what needs to be changed or to try to fix what is broken, but I will do what I can with as much wisdom that I can muster without destroying myself in the process.
I copied the following advice from the Positive Thoughts web site and wish more people followed its advice.
Make today a breeze not a battle.
”Never fight. Wisdom never fights, it waits patiently, speaks positively, releases easily, sees benefit in everything and envisions a future of abundance…knowing that all needs will be met at the right moment, in the right way. If you think life is a struggle you will always be struggling, If you think life is a breeze, your attitudes and actions will convey lightness and easiness. And that’s what attracts everything you need, and much more. Make today a breeze not a battle.”
Try not to worry. Try to look at what you’re going through as a challenge rather than an obstacle, a time to develop patience. To achieve more objectivity, detach yourself from the struggle. Have confidence in yourself, and realize that you can change your attitude even if you can’t change the circumstances.
Look closely at your troubles. Don’t let them cause you to give up.
Befriend them and learn from them. Feel them lose their power over you. Allow them to teach you what you want to know and move on. Try not to be afraid.
You’re a survivor. You’re going to handle this. You’re going to find strength you didn’t know you had and grace to deal with whatever comes along. Pretty soon , you’ll be on the other side , and it’s just a matter of time until you will look back on this time in your life and draw strength from the knowledge that even though the road was rocky , you persevered and carried on.
Consider how much more you often suffer from your anger and grief, than from those very things for which you are angry and grieved.
There is this atheist swimming in the ocean. All of a sudden he sees a shark in the water, so he starts swimming furiously towards his boat. As he looks back, he sees the shark turn and head towards him. He’s scared to death, and as he sees the jaws of the great white beast open, revealing its horrific teeth, the atheist screams, “Oh God! Save me!”
In an instant, time is frozen and a bright light shines down from above. The man is motionless in the water when he hears the voice of God say, “You are an atheist. Why do you call upon me when you do not believe in me?”
Confused, and knowing he can’t lie, the man replies, “Well, that’s true I don’t believe in you, but how about the shark? Can you make the shark believe in you?”
The Lord replies, “As you wish,” and the light retracts back into the heavens. The man feels the water move once again. As the atheist looks back, he can see the jaws of the shark start to close down on him, when all of sudden the shark stops and pulls back.
Shocked, the man watches as the huge beast closes its eyes, bows its head and says, “Thank you Lord for this food for which I am about to receive…”
I am playing all the right notes, but not necessarily in the right order.
One of these days we’ll get the church bulletin right.
– The Scouts are saving aluminum cans, bottles and other items to be recycled. Proceeds will be used to cripple children.
– Low Self Esteem Support Group will meet Thursday at 7 PM. Please use the back door.
– The eighth-graders will be presenting Shakespeare’s Hamlet in the Church basement Friday at 7 PM. The Congregation is invited to attend this tragedy.
– Thursday night Potluck Supper. Prayer and medication to follow.
– At the evening service tonight, the sermon topic will be “What Is Hell?” Come early and listen to our choir practice.
Standing in the middle of the road is dangerous; you get knocked down by traffic from both sides.
A minister waited in line to have his car filled with gas just before a long holiday weekend. The attendant worked quickly, but there were many cars ahead of him in front of the service station. Finally, the attendant motioned him toward a vacant pump. “Reverend,” said the young man, sorry about the delay. It seems as if everyone waits until the last minute to get ready for a long trip. The minister chuckled, “I know what you mean. It’s the same in my business.”
How is it one careless match can start a forest fire, but it takes a whole box to start a campfire?
A travel agent looked up from his desk to see an older lady and an older gentleman peering in the shop window at the posters showing the glamorous destinations around the world.
The agent had had a good week and the dejected couple looking in the window gave him a rare feeling of generosity. He called them into his shop and said, “I know that on your pension you could never hope to have a holiday, so I am sending you off to a fabulous resort at my expense, and I won’t take no for an answer.”
He took them inside and asked his secretary to write two flight tickets and book a room in a five star hotel. Every time the couple tried to say something, the travel agent hushed them and said no thanks was necessary. He just wanted to do something nice for them.
About a month later the little lady came in to his shop. “And how did you like your holiday?” he asked eagerly.
“The flight was exciting and the room was lovely,” she said. “I’ve come to thank you. But, one thing puzzled me. Who was that old guy I had to share the room with?”
He who angers you conquers you.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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