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Good for him

“He who enjoys doing and enjoys what he has done is happy.”

 Johann Wolfgang vonGoethe

I was with a friend yesterday and learned that he had just accepted a position as an adjunct professor at a junior college. This is a real departure for my inventor, scientist, videographer, and jack of many trades pal. He has done some amazing things over the years but I wonder over the long run if any will be more amazing than this this adventure. He made the change even though it meant a huge cut in income, he did it because he wanted to do something for people. In some ways it is similar to my career change twenty or so years ago when I started working with Kiwanis International and UNICEF.

He is feeling good about what he is doing and like always is rising to the challenge. You see his students range from young unprepared to learn folks to those late in life who have lost their jobs and are working to develop marketable skills. In addition he has part time students that are employed and are studying to enhance their careers. I am not sure that I or most people I know would have the patience and fortitude to do the job, but I know my friend does because I have watched over the years the exuberance he brings to every task. He always seems to find a reason to enjoy every task. I think his secret is that he focuses in on the elements that will provide him a sense of accomplishment and thus satisfaction and enjoyment.

I found a piece offered by Ralph Marston that has the same sense to it, here is what he wrote:

 

Unconditional enjoyment

One of the most reliable ways to ruin your enjoyment of life is to put too many conditions on that enjoyment. You can put so much time and energy into getting the conditions just right, that there’s nothing left to enjoy. Instead of seeking and striving to enjoy life, just simply enjoy it. Enjoy the moment you’re in, without placing so many judgments or conditions on it.

Is it really so important that events and circumstances line up in exactly the way you wish? Of course it’s not. Often, life’s surprises can turn out to be pleasant surprises if you’ll simply let them. Make the choice to do less fighting against what comes, and more enjoying of what is.

Think of the time and effort you put into proving you’re right or getting your way. Visualize spending that time instead in unconditional, authentic enjoyment of the amazing life with which you’re blessed. Don’t work so hard to make enjoyment what you think it should be. Just relax and let your life be filled with the rich enjoyment of each special moment.

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Learn not only to find what you like, learn to like what you find.

Anthony J. D’Angelo

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You Know You’re Getting Older When…

Everything hurts and what doesn’t hurt, doesn’t work.

The gleam in your eyes is from the sun hitting your bifocals.

You feel like the night after, and you haven’t been anywhere.

Your little black book contains only names ending in M.D.

Your children begin to look middle aged.

A dripping faucet causes an uncontrollable bladder urge.

You know all the answers, but nobody asks you the questions.

You look forward to a dull evening.

You turn out the light for economic reasons rather than romantic ones.

Your knees buckle and your belt won’t.

You regret all those mistakes resisting temptation.

You just can’t stand people who are intolerant.

You burn the midnight oil until 9 pm.

Your pacemaker makes the garage door go up when you watch a pretty girl go by.

You have too much room in the house and not enough room in the medicine cabinet.

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Why is an alarm clock going “off” when it actually turns on?

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From hospital charts:

She has no rigors or shaking chills, but her husband states she was very hot in bed last night.

The pelvic exam will be done later on the floor.

Patient has two teenage children, but no other abnormalities.

The lab test indicated abnormal lover function.

Both breasts are equal and reactive to light and accommodation.

I saw your patient today, who is still under our car for physical therapy.

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“I generally avoid temptation unless I can’t resist it.”

Mae West

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The slave driver of the Roman ship stared down at his slaves and yelled.

“I’ve got good news and bad news. The good news is that you’ll be getting double rations tonight.”

The mumbling of the happy slaves was interrupted by the bellowing of the slave driver. “The bad news is that the commander’s son wants to water ski.”

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Here is a test to find out whether your mission in life is complete. If you’re alive, it isn’t.

Richard Bach

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A man was chosen for jury duty who very much wanted to be dismissed from serving. He tried every excuse he could think of but none of them worked.

On the day of the trial he decided to give it one more shot. As the trial was about to begin he asked if he could approach the bench.

“Your Honor,” he said, “I must be excused from this trial because I am prejudiced against the defendant. I took one look at the man in the blue suit with those beady eyes and that dishonest face and I said, ‘He’s a crook! He’s guilty, guilty, guilty.’ So, your Honor, I could not possibly stay on this jury!”

With a tired annoyance the judge replied, “Get back in the jury box. That man is his lawyer.”

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I doubt therefore I might be.

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A husband had just finished reading a new book entitled, ‘You Can Be THE Man of Your House.’

He stormed to his wife in the kitchen and announced, ‘From now on, you need to know that I am the man of this house and my word is Law.

You will prepare me a gourmet meal tonight, and when I’m finished eating my meal, you will serve me a sumptuous dessert. After dinner, you are going to go upstairs with me and we will have the kind of sex that I want.

Afterwards, you are going to draw me a bath so I can relax. You will wash my back and towel me dry and bring me my robe. Then, you will massage my feet and hands. Then tomorrow, guess who’s going to dress me and comb my hair?’

The wife replied, “The funeral director would be my first guess.”

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We are at our very best, and we are happiest, when we are fully engaged in work we enjoy on the journey toward the goal we’ve established for ourselves. It gives meaning to our time off and comfort to our sleep. It makes everything else in life so wonderful, so worthwhile.

Earl Nightingale

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Love yourself and live!

It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.

Author Unknown

 

I think I may have shared with you before with how sorry I am that so many people I know do not realize how good they really are. These are folks who depend on the judgment of others to tell them who they are and what is wrong and right about how they live their lives. Rather than again load you down with my thoughts I would like to share excerpts from an article written by Darlene Lancer that I think has great merit, I hope you will also.

 

Self-esteem

Most people determine their worth based upon other-esteem. They seek approval and validation from others, and their opinion of themselves isn’t very high unless they get it. True self-esteem isn’t based on what others think of you, since its Self-esteem. It’s basically what you think of yourself……Many people focus on their flaws and have trouble acknowledging their assets. Others have inflated, unrealistic opinions of themselves. Studies contend that narcissists have high self-esteem. I say they lack true self-esteem, because when a major loss occurs, their self-esteem can plummet, especially if it’s in areas that support their self-concept, such as beauty, public acclaim, or material success. The biggest obstacle to self-esteem is self-criticism.

Self-Acceptance

Unlike self-esteem which varies, self-acceptance is steady and unconditional. You accept yourself despite your flaws, failures, and limitations. You’re more self-forgiving and let go of self-judgment. Instead of comparing yourself to others, both positively and negatively, you appreciate your singular individuality. Self-acceptance works wonders. Once you start accepting yourself, you gradually stop worrying what others think and become more spontaneous and natural. Self-acceptance is what allows you to be authentic. You can finally relax, and allow more of the inner, real you to be seen. You’ll have no shame or fear of revealing yourself when you accept yourself unconditionally.

Self-Love

Whereas self-esteem is an evaluation and acceptance is an attitude, love combines both feeling and action. Contrary to what many believe, self-love is healthy. It’s neither selfish, nor self-indulgent, and neither egotism, nor narcissism. Actually, egotists and narcissists don’t love themselves at all. A “big ego” is compensation for lack of self-love. Most people think too little of themselves, not too much, and often falling in love is merely a compensation for inner emptiness, loneliness, and shame. No wonder most relationships fail (including those who stay together). Erich Fromm correctly pointed out that love is an art form that takes dedication and practice, not something you win or fall into. Rather, being able to love is a faculty to be developed. It entails effort and begins with learning to love yourself.

Compassion for yourself enables you to witness your feelings, thoughts, and actions with acceptance, caring, and understanding as you would when empathizing with another. Compassion is expressed with gentleness, tenderness, and generosity of spirit — quite the opposite of self-criticism, perfectionism, and pushing oneself. When most people are stressed, overwhelmed, or exhausted, they attempt to do even more, instead of caring for themselves. If you weren’t nurtured as a child, self-nurturing can be absorbed in therapy over time. You’ll learn to integrate the acceptance and empathy offered by your therapist. Self-compassion differs from self-pity, which is a judgment about your situation or feelings. Rather than acceptance and compassion, self-pity says, “It shouldn’t be this way.”

Perhaps you’ve concluded that learning self-love isn’t easy. Look at it this way. Throughout the day, you’re confronted with many opportunities to disregard or attune to your feelings, to judge or to honor them, to keep commitments and be responsible to yourself, and to act in accordance with your needs, values, and feelings. You have an opportunity to learn self-love all the time. Every time you talk yourself down, doubt yourself, exhaust yourself, dismiss your feelings or needs, or act against your values, you undermine your self-esteem. The reverse is also true. You might as well make healthier choices, because you and all your relationships will benefit.

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Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.

Eleanor Roosevelt

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Two friends met.  “You look sad, Fred, what’s the trouble?” asked the first friend.

“Domestic trouble.”

“But you always bragged that your wife is a pearl.”

“She still is.  It’s the mother-of-pearl that makes all the trouble.’

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“God give me patience….And make it quick!”

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Melvin was playing football very badly.

He tried to kick a goal and missed. Finally, He threw himself down on the bench and said in disgust, “Boy, I could just kick myself.”

The coach looked the other way. “Don’t bother,” he said, “you’d probably miss.”

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Is it possible to scream at the bottom of your lungs?

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Three elderly people were talking about what their grandchildren would be saying about them fifty years from now.

“I would like my grandchildren to say, ‘He was successful in business,'” declared the first man.

“Fifty years from now,” said the second, “I want them to say, ‘He was a loyal family man.'” Turning to the third one, a lady, he asked, “So what do you want them to say about you in fifty years?”

“Me?” the third one replied. “I want them to say, ‘She certainly looks good for her age.'”

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“I sometimes wonder if the manufacturers of foolproof items keep a fool or two on their payroll to test things.”

Alan Coren

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Ned was down on his luck in Las Vegas. He had gambled away all his money and had to borrow a dime from another gambler just to use the men’s room.

The stall happened to be open, so he used the dime in a slot machine and hit the jackpot. He took his winnings and went to the blackjack table and turned his small winnings into ten million dollars.

Wealthy beyond his wildest dreams, Ned went on the lecture circuit, where he told his incredible story. He told his audiences that he was eternally grateful to his benefactor, and if he ever found the man he would share his fortune with him.

After months of lectures, a man in the audience jumped up and said, “I’m that man. I was the one who gave you the dime.”

“You’re not the one I’m looking for. I’m looking for the guy who left the pay toilet stall door open!”

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Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.

Peter T. Mcintyre

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Thank you everyone

If I have done any deed worthy of remembrance, that deed will be my monument.

Agesilaus II

 

I have good news and bad news. The good news is that my heart exams have shown that my arterial blockage is only moderate so surgery is not indicated, my heart valve leakage is moderate so surgery is not recommended, my lungs are functional so there is nothing to be done, my anemia problem is moderate and so another iron infusion is not warranted at this time. Unfortunately with all that moderation I still have angina (chest pain) so this afternoon I am off to see a Pacemaker specialist to see if changing my Pacemaker settings will help. So unfortunately the search for a cure goes on, thankfully the nitro pills help when I do have an episode

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I was out of town yesterday and have a full load before my appointments so here is another reprint from the past.

Ray’s Daily September 14, 2004

I am certain that after the dust of centuries has passed over our cities, we, too, will be remembered not for victories or defeats in battle or in politics, but for our contribution to the human spirit.

John F. Kennedy

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The world is a little grayer today. We lost a good man Sunday. My friend Father Paul O’Brien, priest, teacher, humanitarian and friend to many passed on at too young an age. Father Paul spent his life in service to others, he taught thousands of young men and women as they prepared for college and beyond, he lived and worked with those in need in Central America, he offered a hand to the poor and infirm in one of Americas largest cities, but always he would return to Indianapolis and the school he helped start many years ago.

Many serve their fellow man, many care about the suffering of others, many have faith in the youth that will inherit the problems of the world, but few spend every waking hour doing what has to be done as Paul did. Not many know of all that Father Paul has given, he was humble, but even with that many have been inspired by him. We will miss the man and mourn the loss of a true humanitarian. Few will ever know all the good he has done, but his maker will. God speed Paul.

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Death comes to all

But great achievements raise a monument

Which shall endure until the sun grows old.

George Fabricius

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I am tempted to leave on a serious note, but as I know Father Paul loved life, he would expect us to spend our time in celebration rather than grief, so here is our daily. Enjoy, but do me a favor, thank someone today for the good you know they do, tomorrow may be too late.

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Heard at the senior center:

My supply of brain cells is finally down to a manageable size.

My secrets are safe with my friends because they can’t remember them either.

My joints are more accurate meteorologists than the national weather service.

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“If you listen when you hear and look when you see then you will never be deaf or blind to an opportunity.”

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Roger was fed up with his wife, so he packed up his stuff and moved into the garage. Although the couple seldom spoke, he continued to mow the lawn, take out the garbage, and fix the car, while she cooked the meals, vacuumed and did the laundry. Months later, Roger met his friend Don for drinks. “Things don’t seem to be working out any better,” Don remarked.

“Why don’t you just move out?” “Well, if you really want to know the truth,” Roger explained, “she makes such a good neighbor.”

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“Real friends are those who, when you feel you’ve made a fool of yourself, don’t feel you’ve done a permanent job.”

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She said: “I’ve got 3 TVs, cable, & a satellite dish; I have 3 phone lines in the house, a cell phone & one in the car, plus a pager.

I use 2 computers, 3 ISPs and a fax. I subscribe to two daily papers & one weekly one. I watch both the local & network news every evening.

And my kids have the nerve to tell me I’m out of touch!”

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“If you were arrested for being kind……..would there be enough evidence to convict you?”

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The banker had called the man in to talk about his account.

“Your financial affairs are in a big mess! Your wife constantly overdraws your account. She is behind in her charge accounts at the department store, and her check stubs are all added wrong. So…why don’t you talk to her about it?”

“Because….” said the man, “I would rather argue with you than with her.”

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“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain — and most fools do.”

Dale Carnegie

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The cruise ship docked at a Mexican port during a very high tide. Everyone on board was forced to use the ship’s narrow gangplank as a passageway to the dock far below. The staff stood motionless when a passenger in her 70s appeared at the top of the plank. There wasn’t room for anyone to assist her, so she edged along slowly and finally made it to the dock safely, to everyone’s relief. As she stepped down, she turned, looked back to the top of the gangplank and shouted, “It’s okay, Mother, you can come down now.”

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If you are what you do, then when you don’t you aren’t.

Wayne Dyer

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“Normal” is getting dressed in clothes that you buy for work, driving through traffic in a car that you are still paying for, in order to get to the job that you need so you can pay for the clothes, car and the house that you leave empty all day in order to afford to live in it. So why be normal??

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You must arrange in advance for pleasant memories.

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The customer in the Italian restaurant was so pleased that he asked to speak to the chef. The owner proudly led him into the kitchen and introduced him to the chef.

“Your veal parmigiana was superb,” the customer said. “I just spent a month in Italy, and yours is better than any I ever had over there.”

“Naturally,” the chef said. “Over there, they use domestic cheese. Ours is imported.”

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“At the end of your life, you will never regret not having passed one more test, not winning one more verdict, or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a friend, a child, or a parent.”

Barbara Bush

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@yahoo.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal and https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

It is worth the risk!

Supposing you have tried and failed again and again.  You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.

Mary Pickford

I ran across the following story recently and felt it was worth sharing with you. It reminded me of something I did many years ago when I worked for a company who was committed to “Backing the Innovator.” It dawned on me at the time that if we built a culture that only rewarded success and punished failure we stood a good chance of stifling creativity. I think Thomas Edison credited many of his success to the many failures that preceded them.

Once I realized that I could empower my workforce if I recognized the valiant attempts for improvement as much as, if not more than, the recognition of often easy success. Fortunately I had the ability to provide bonuses for outstanding performance so I started rewarding individuals and teams for their failing efforts. If the truth be known we had more successes that were built upon the lessons learned from our failures than we ever did from applying simple solutions to easy problems.

The culture we built thrived as we continued to be the creative leaders in making the changes needed in the rapid changing environment in which we worked. Our group was regularly proud of the fact that frequently our breakthroughs became enterprise wide standards.

So my friends please appreciate those that fail for they are the builders while so many others never fail as they are always on the sidelines waiting for a failure to result in a win, a win they can emulate. Here is the story I promised.

 

Celebrating Failure

The Ore-Ida frozen potato company celebrates anniversaries of failure (They’re the folks who make frozen cauliflower, broccoli, mushrooms, French fries, etc…. and they are famous for innovative, creative ideas.) What do they do when one of those ideas bomb?  Do they blame or fire somebody No, they throw a party! Literally.

A cannon is fired and everybody stops work to commemorate the “perfect failure.” together they rejoice in what they’ve learned. They talk about what will not work, reveling in the fact that no more time, energy, or money has to be spent on a thankless project.

You see, nothing in our lives is wasted. Not one thing that happens is without worth somewhere down the road. But we often miss it because we “travel the beaten path” and fail to open our eyes to the outlandish ways God wants to speak to us and love us and change us. We don’t recognize the value in celebrating the strange twists, the difficulties, the so-called failure, when we really should…. and could. We consider or flops or hard times a defeat, but in reality they are God’s greatest compliments. They’re transforming love gifts from a gracious heavenly Father. 

Lucy Swindoll

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Failure doesn’t mean you are a failure… it just means you haven’t succeeded yet.

Robert Schuller

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And God Created Dog and Cat

A newly discovered chapter in the Book of Genesis has provided the answer to ‘Where do pets come from?’

Adam said, ‘Lord, when I was in the garden, you walked with me every day. Now I do not see you anymore. I am lonesome here and it is difficult for me to remember how much you love me.’

And God said ‘No problem. I will create a companion for you that will be with you forever and who will be a reflection of my love for you so that you will love me even when you cannot see me. Regardless of how selfish or childish or unlovable you may be, this new companion will accept you as you are and will love you as I do, in spite of yourself.’ And God created a new animal to be a companion for Adam. And it was a good animal. And God was pleased. And the new animal was pleased to be with Adam and it wagged its tail.

And Adam said, ‘Lord, I have already named all the animals in the Kingdom and I cannot think of a name for this new animal.’

And God said, ‘No problem. Because I have created this new animal to be a reflection of my love for you his name will be a reflection of my own name, and you will call him Dog.’ And Dog lived with Adam and was a companion to him and loved him. And Adam was comforted. And God was pleased. And Dog was content and wagged his tail.

After a while, it came to pass that Adam’s guardian angel came to the Lord and said, ‘Lord, Adam has become filled with pride. He struts and preens like a peacock and he believes he is worthy of adoration. Dog has indeed taught him that he is loved, but perhaps too well.’

And the Lord said, ‘No problem. I will create for him a companion who will be with him forever and who will see him as he is. The companion will remind him of his limitations, so he will know that he is not always worthy of adoration.’

And God created Cat to be a companion to Adam. And Cat would not obey Adam. And when Adam gazed into Cat’s eyes, he was reminded that he was not the Supreme Being. And Adam learned humility.

And God was pleased. And Adam was greatly improved. And Dog was happy.

And Cat didn’t care one way or the other.

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I used to watch golf on TV during the weekend, but my doctor told me I needed more exercise …  so now I watch tennis.

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Rabbi Bloom had just accepted a junior role at a synagogue for his first posting. The senior Rabbi there, Rabbi Gold, was well loved by his congregation and considered to be very wise with a wicked sense of humor.

One day, not long after he joined, Rabbi Bloom said to Rabbi Gold, “You know I told you during my interview that I had won many prizes in the Yeshiva for my sermons? Well, I don’t think there is a subject in the world that I could not instantly find a Biblical text for and then incorporate it into a sermon.”

Rabbi Gold couldn’t help but decide to put him to the test. “Rabbi Bloom,” he said, “I want you to give my sermon next Shabbos. But there will be no need to prepare it in advance. Instead, when you get into the pulpit, you will find a sealed envelope and inside the envelope will be a single sheet of paper on which I will have written a one-word topic. I challenge you to find any kind of text that will fit.”

Rabbi Bloom thanked Rabbi Gold for the opportunity and said he looked forward to the challenge with relish. The day came. Rabbi Bloom walked up the stairs to the pulpit, opened the envelope, looked at the sheet of paper on which was written “constipation”, and started his sermon. “And Moses took the two tablets and went off down the mountain…..”

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Blessed is the person who is too busy to worry in the daytime and too sleepy to worry at night.

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While working at the mall, I saw an elderly couple holding hands while they were walking. As they approached, I commented on how romantic it was.

He replied, “We have been holding hands when we go out in public for over thirty years. I have to. If I let go, she shops.

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“The greatest barrier to success is the fear of failure.”

Sven Goran Eriksson

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@yahoo.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal and https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

Peace on earth, good will to all

Think not forever of yourselves, O Chiefs, nor of your own generation.

Think of continuing generations of our families, think of our grandchildren and of those yet unborn, whose faces are coming from beneath the ground.

T. S. Eliot

 

It is the 10th anniversary of the tragic event that cost more than 3000 lives and changed the world forever. Each year at this time I find it hard to switch to humor so I again this year would appreciate it if we instead decided to commit ourselves, not to retribution but rather in coming together to build rather than tear down, to joining together rather than splitting apart. We can ill afford to become so dogmatic that winning fights among ourselves become more important than solving the problems we face today. Those who died ten years ago are heroes no less than those who die on the battlefield, their memory should be used to build a nation of citizens working together to find common ground rather than one filled with anger and even hate that is a sure stepping stone to further tragedy.

What I have done below is reprinted some excerpts of previous Dailies that include thoughts that I felt were worth my revisiting.

 

September 11, 2003

We will never be the same as a result of the tragic events of two years ago. I am saddened that it now appears that the legacy of those who lost their lives is one of continued tragic events. We have seen the erosion of our traditional liberties, a concern recognized by both conservatives and liberals alike. We see the continued effect of an airline industry struggling for survival due in part to so many people being afraid to fly. We have entered into a war that now appears can only be won by buying victory with our citizen’s tax dollars. It now appears that Iraq will be the breeding ground for a much larger threat to our future, a whole new army of terrorists. I am afraid we have been the victims of leadership that overstated our problems and grossly underestimated the price of their policies, and there is no way to turn back. I wish the events of 9-11 had not been used to rationalize what has been done in haste.

I wish the legacy of those who died was our turning to each other during these difficult times as we redirect our energy to the building of a better world for future generations. Just imagine what could have been done for education, healthcare, infrastructure repair, and more if we did not have to spend even more than we have to stabilize Iraq. We might have seen a world where we built allies through a demonstration of our values, and not one where we have gone so far backwards that we now have to buy our friends.

It is not too late. Each of us can contribute to a living memorial to the 9/11 victims by helping to build the society in which they would have liked to have lived. Each of us, conservative, liberal, Christian, non-Christian, all of us, can in our small way build our personal memorial to the great loss we have experienced. If we do they will not have died in vain.

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September 11, 2009

Eight years ago today we shared in the horror of the loss of thousands of lives as terror descended on our nation in the form of violent action without regard to the innocence of the victims. The horror brought our country together and most of the rest of the world like never before. People in all walks of life shared in the pain of the loss of so many resulting in a great outpouring sympathy and patriotism, patriotism that was founded on our belief in the sanctity of life and the freedom of all. We as a people were one.

Over the recent past too many seem to have forgotten what we were and what we might be. The divisiveness that has been the result of the behavior of those who would rather tear us apart than find ways we can build together is frightening. It has gone so far that extremists have even called for violence. There are hate mongers both on the left and the right who have become anarchy pied pipers leading people to thoughtless action. History has taught us that when hate replaces reason society ends up paying a terrible price.

When so many of our fellow citizens lost their lives there was a resounding commitment to the principles that had put us in good stead for centuries. What happened? When did so many see anger, violence and hate as the solutions to our very real problems? And why do so many of us stand mute rather than tell all that enough is enough?

I would hope that my fellow citizens will take time today to reflect on what has been going around us. Do we not owe those who lost their lives on 9-11 through the acts of terrorism something better? I think we do and I hope you do too.

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United We Stand!

This is a story of a historic event,

And this is the way that it went.

An airplane crashed thru building one,

Next thing people know two was done.

Now both buildings down of the twin towers,

While people wait for hours and hours.

They watch the police and firefighters strive,

And see if their loved ones are still alive.

Now there are two lights where the towers once stood,

And they shine very bright thru the neighborhood.

This event did not break apart the U.S.A.,

Because we are closer and closer to each other every day.

Author Unknown

I don’t know who wrote the poem and I am led to believe it was written some time ago. Please join me in doing all we can to make the last line real for if we continue to be torn apart we may not ever be able to come back together.

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No one would be foolish enough to choose war over peace in peace sons bury their fathers, but in war fathers bury their sons.

Croesus of Lydia

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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Robert Frost was right, it does!

Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it.

Jacques Prévert

 

My doctors turned out to be not nearly as thrilled as I have been with the fact that my Nitroglycerin pills are able to quickly bring me relief from chest pain. It turns out that too much Nitro use is not a good thing, I am not sure if it is because you become an explosive risk or something else. In any case I was back on the test route on Wednesday when I went to the hospital for a Cardiac Echo check to see if my leaky heart valve is the problem. Then I was called into my main cardiologist’s office early yesterday morning to check my Pacemaker and review my situation. Sometime today he will call me to see if the combination of the Cardiac Echo test and a second reading of my recent Cardiac Catheter scan indicate that I need some significant heart surgery. We are slowly running out of choices so if one of you has been sticking pins in a voodoo doll I would appreciate your telling me what I have to do to get you to stop.

Ok, what is the good news? I guess it is that we continue to make progress and hopefully we will find a root cause. I did share with my docs that I wanted to participate in the treatment decision and that I preferred a magic potion to heart surgery. I did not have the courage to add that I thought I had contributed enough to the medical economy. Seriously though, I am really fortunate to be on Medicare with a supplement as this year so far the bills have been in the tens of thousands. With Medicare discounting the reimbursement by huge amounts I am fortunate that I have some of the top Doc’s in the Midwest working on my case.

I also keep getting feedback from our Daily readers. Yesterday I had positive comments on the Multiply and WordPress sites, that is in addition to what I had from readers who are on one of the many distribution lists. Hearing from them coupled with some new subscribers (potential friends) is great therapy and I do appreciate it.

Now if I can only get back to being able to participate in some of the projects I am offered I’ll be even happier. I guess sometimes I suffer from premature elation, but thinking you are doing better than you may be doing, is better than wallowing in gloom.

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Nobody really cares if you’re miserable, so you might as well be happy.

Cynthia Nelms

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Why do we?

We will work hard on a farm so we can move into town where we can make more money so we can move back to the farm.

We have more TV sets and watch more TV than any other country in the world, yet no TV sets are manufactured in the US.

We have more time saving appliances and devices than ever before in history and never have time to do anything.

We insist on strict enforcement of traffic laws but are highly offended should we get ticketed for a violation.

We’re highly offended by any reference to sex on TV during the times kids are watching, but never notice the violence, mayhem and murder.

We have more food to eat than any other country in the world and more diets to help keep us from eating it.

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“Everybody is Ignorant, just on different subjects.”

Will Rogers

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Stumpy prepared a pasta dish for a dinner party he was giving. In his haste, however, he forgot to refrigerate the spaghetti sauce, and it sat on the counter all day. He was worried about spoilage, but it was too late to cook up another batch. He called the local Poison Control Center and voiced his concern. They advised Stumpy to boil the sauce again. That night, the phone rang during dinner, and a guest volunteered to answer it. Stumpy’s face dropped as the guest called out, “It’s the Poison Control Center. They want to know how the spaghetti sauce turned out.”

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“You Non-Conformists Are All Alike”

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Two men were boasting to each other about their old army days. “Why, my outfit was so well drilled,” declared one, “that when they presented arms all you could hear was slap, slap, click.”

“Very good,” conceded the other, “but when my company presented arms you’d just hear slap, slap, jingle.”

“What was the jingle?” asked the first.

“Oh,” replied the other offhand, “just our medals.”

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Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.

Bernice Johnson Reagon

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A new bride who was a bit embarrassed to be known as a honeymooner.  So when she and her husband pulled up to the hotel, she asked him if there was any way that they could make it appear that they had been married a long time.

He responded, “Sure.  You carry the suitcases!”

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In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.

Robert Frost

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A man traveling in southern Indiana was headed for the Kentucky border…when he saw a large sign… “LAST CHANCE FOR $3.50 GAS!!!”

He still had more than a quarter of a tank left, but figured he’d better take advantage of this opportunity to fill-up his tank.

As he was getting his change from the attendant, he asked, “How much is gas in Kentucky?”

The attendant replied, “$3.25…”

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“Nice guys finish last, but we get to sleep in.”

Evan Davis

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An American stood in London looking at a large building. A British boy walked by and stood beside the American.

“You know,” said the American, “in the States we have that kind of building too, but they are four times higher.”

“Really?” replied the boy. “How sad. That is a mental hospital.”

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The happy have whole days, and those they choose.

The unhappy have but hours, and those they lose.

Colley Cibber

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@yahoo.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal and https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

Time for an autumn mind cleaning

With an unquiet mind, neither exercise, nor diet, nor physick can be of much use.

Samuel Johnson

Yesterday I suggested we would all be better off if we slowed down some and invested more time in enjoying our lives. What I find interesting as I think about why so many of us put off enjoying ourselves is how many of us are convinced we are too busy. Finally it dawned on me that as often as not it is our mind that is busy, cluttered with thoughts that keep us from doing what we might otherwise do if we were not so distracted.

People who have learned to mediate seem to have the ability to focus, prioritize and then get things done on a timely basis. I know the principles of meditation and have even had some success on occasion but more often than not a pesky thought would intrude and like the devil lead me astray. But at least I have learned that mind clutter can be debilitating.

So what is the solution? Mind clutter cleanup is one answer. Here are some tips on how to do that authored by coaching psychologist Avril Allen.

De-cluttering the mind tips:

• Decide to experiment with slowing your mind down however scary it feels. Give yourself a time limit for this. In this way you reassure a part of your mind that you will not become a vegetable and will resume everyday thinking at a certain time or day. You have to be strategic with the psyche and negotiate or the thinking brain will fear redundancy!

• Worry a lot — but again, within strict time limits. This is a cognitive psychology method which can work well. Decide to take time to do nothing but worry — this can be 5-15 minutes a day, but I suggest you take no longer than 20 minutes for this. Then stop! Tell yourself that you have done all the worrying you are going to do for today. In this way you are taming your mind, much as you would a wayward pet causing havoc in your home. Your brain is a wonderful tool but like technology, it is there to serve you, not to rule you, and is much too powerful to leave un-tamed.

• Find a picture, a metaphor which appeals to you for letting your thoughts go by. Images of thoughts as leaves in the wind or on a river; clouds changing as they pass by in the sky representing the essence of the deeper, more essential mind work for me because I relate to wild life and nature so strongly, but you may imagine traffic passing by as you stand on a bridge over a motorway or whatever works for you.

• Then smell the roses. Watch the real leaves and clouds moving on the breeze…focus on the sensations in your body you normally do not take time to notice — variations from place to place of warmth and coolness; heaviness or lightness; tensions — but be gently aware of them and do not struggle with them, just keep your awareness moving through your sensations. Pulses and rhythms, the dance of the blood in your veins. There will be areas in the body that feel good, we often do not notice them. In other words, experience Now.

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To a mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders.

Chuang Tzŭ

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After the church service, a little boy told the pastor, “When I grow up, I’m going to give you some  money.”

“Well, thank you,” the pastor replied, “but why?”

“Because my daddy says you’re one of the poorest preachers we’ve ever had.”

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Family planning: The art of spacing your children the proper distance apart to keep you on the edge of financial disaster

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The woman was always frequenting small antique shops, but regardless of what she saw there, she always complained about something.  The quality was poor, the prices too high, or the selection was limited. The shop owners took it in stride, but one day, while ranting and raving, she yelled at the clerk, “Why is it I never manage to get what I ask for in your shop?”

The clerk simply smiled and replied, “Possibly, ma’am, because we’re too polite.”

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“Whoever said you can’t buy happiness forgot about puppies.”

Gene Hill

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While teaching children about world religions, a teacher asked her students to bring a symbol of their family’s faith to class. The next day, she asked each student to come forward and share the symbol with the class.

The 1st child said, “I’m Muslim, and this is my prayer rug.”

The 2nd child said, “I’m Jewish, and this is my family’s menorah.”

The 3rd child said, “I’m Roman Catholic, and this is my Mom’s rosary.”

The 4th child said, “I’m Greek Orthodox, and this is an icon of my patron saint.”

The 5th child said, “I’m Southern Baptist, and this is my casserole dish.”

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I know so little that it astonishes me how many people know even less.

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My daughter-in-law, pregnant with her second child, was certain she wanted an epidural for pain management during childbirth.  Her doctor asked her at which stage of labor she wanted the epidural administered.

Her response:  “Just meet me in the parking lot!”

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Life’s tragedy is that we get old too soon and wise too late.

Benjamin Franklin

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My phone bill was past due and I needed to change my service, so I had to visit the local office. The line wasn’t clearly formed, and there was an old man with a cane nearby me. It was unclear as to who was next. When we got to the front of the line, the man gestured to me and said, “After you.”

I smiled at him and said, “No, please, after you. I have all day.”

The he said, “No. You go ahead. My doctor says I have at least six months.”

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Your only obligation in this or any other lifetime is to be true to yourself.

Richard Bach

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He told me: As a high school football coach, I’m aware that student athletes tend to focus too much on sports. Bob, a fellow coach, was talking about one such player, who called him at home one night. When his wife informed the kid that Bob wasn’t home, he became frantic and said he had to speak to the coach right away.

“Just calm down, and I’ll have him call you as soon as he gets home,” the coach’s wife told him. “What’s your number?”

The flustered kid replied, “Three.”

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Pour some water into a tub and stir it up.  Now try as hard as you can to calm the water with your hands; you will succeed in agitating it further.  Let it stand undisturbed a while, and it will calm down by itself.  The human brain works much the same way.

Koichi Tohei

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@yahoo.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal and https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

Pity those that wait!

Just living is not enough.  One must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower.

Hans Christian Anderson

I wonder sometimes if some of us even know what happiness is. It seems like many of us find it easier to accept day-to-day boredom and even unhappiness while convincing ourselves that we can look for real happiness tomorrow. Is it fear or procrastination that we use to excuse ourselves from discovering and holding on to happiness each day?

I have had far too many friends in my lifetime that only saw happiness in their dreams of the future and yet never took the time to find it until there were no tomorrows left. Like I have said in the past please don’t be the one trying to hold up the coffin lid shouting “Wait, wait, I haven’t started yet.”

I feel truly fortunate that I seem to be able to experience happiness almost every day. I only wish that I had not been too busy in my early years to appreciate how much there really is to be happy about.

Please don’t talk yourself out of being happy. Rather invest some time in finding out what might make you happier now.

I thought about happiness today out of a feeling of gratitude for what appears to be my recent health and stamina improvement. In any case don’t wait, take a chance on happiness and come out and play once in a while.

Here is something that I like that I may have shared with you before, possibly in a different form.

Happiness is the Way

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we are frustrated that the kids aren’t old enough and we’ll be more content when they are. After that we’re frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage. We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire. The truth is, there’s no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It’s best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D Souza. He said: “For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin – real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life”.

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time and remember that time waits for no one.

So stop waiting until you finish school, until you go back to school, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until fall, until winter, until you are off welfare, until the first or fifteenth, until your song comes on, until you’ve had a drink, until you’ve sobered up, until you die, until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination. Work like you don’t need money, Love like you’ve never been hurt, And dance like no one’s watching.

Author Unknown

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I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world.  This makes it hard to plan the day.

Elwyn Brooks White

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My wife and I were having lunch at a fashionable eatery in Annapolis when we noticed what looked like a familiar face at the next table. Screwing up my courage, I asked,

“Excuse me. Aren’t you Marlin Fitzwater, the former White House press secretary?”

“Yes, I am,” he acknowledged, and graciously interrupted his lunch to talk to us.

As we were leaving the restaurant, I remarked to the blonde hostess,

“Do you know you have Marlin Fitzwater on the terrace?”

“I don’t know about that,” she replied, “but we have Perrier and Evian at the bar.”

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“Man never made any material as resilient as the human spirit.”

Bern Williams

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A nurse at my hospital received a call from an anxious woman. “I’m diabetic and I’m afraid I’ve had too much sugar today,” she said.

“Are you light-headed?” the nurse asked.

“No,” the caller answered, “I’m a brunette.”

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I was waiting in line at my county clerk’s office one afternoon and noticed a hand-lettered sign that read, “Any child left unattended will be given a free kitten.”

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I sat there waiting for my new doctor to make his way through the file that contained my very extensive medical history.

After he finished all seventeen pages, he looked at me and said, “Ray, you look better in person than you do on paper.”

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Nobody can be just like me. Even I have trouble doing it.

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Definitions

Twenty Something  — The cost of a sitter for Saturday night.

Fancy Restaurant  — One that serves cold soup on purpose.

College  — The four year period when parents are permitted access to the telephone.

Hors D’oeuvres  — A sandwich cut into 20 pieces.

Kissing  —  A means of getting two people so close together that they can’t see anything wrong with each other.

Emergency Numbers  — Police station, Fire Department and Places that deliver.

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Love truth, but pardon error.

Voltaire

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The elderly priest, speaking to the younger priest, said, “It was a good idea you had to replace the first four pews with plush bucket theater seats. It worked like a charm. The front of the church fills first”.

The young priest nodded, and the old priest continued, “And you told me a little more beat to the music would bring young people back to church, so I suppose the rock ‘n roll gospel choir you brought in was another good idea. We are packed in to the balcony.”

“Thank you, Father,” answered the young priest. “I am pleased that you are open to the new ideas of youth.”

“Well,” said the elderly priest, “I’m afraid you’ve gone too far with the drive-thru confessional.”

“But, Father,” protested the young priest, “my confessions have nearly doubled since I began that!”

“I know, son,” replied the elderly priest, “but the flashing neon sign, ‘Toot n’ Tell or Go To Hell’ cannot stay on the church roof!”

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Who will tell whether one happy moment of love or the joy of breathing or walking on a bright morning and smelling the fresh air, is not worth all the suffering and effort which life implies.

Erich Fromm

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@yahoo.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal and https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

I hope you are as happy as I am!

“The happiest people don’t have the best of everything. They just make the best of everything.”

 

I hope things are going as well for you as they have suddenly started going for me. I have had a leisurely holiday weekend, for you who are not in the US yesterday was a national holiday, but that’s not all. On Friday I visited my primary physician and reported that my recent problems appeared to be by accompanied a rapid rise in blood pressure so she prescribed Nitroglycerine Pills for me to place under my tongue when I have chest pain. While it is too early to tell for sure I did have a minor bout on Saturday and used a pill, within thirty seconds the discomfort disappeared. If this works I should be able to get back at it and quit spending most of my time resting.

I also got a replacement cell phone in less than 48 hours which was an upgraded Blackberry Torch that has only been on the market for a few weeks, so now I am using a fast 4g network on a phone with a new wiz bang operating system. And if that was not enough our torrid record breaking temperatures plummeted to normal levels yesterday.

There was one more thing, those of you who know me well know that I love to visit our local farmers markets every chance I get. If you live in Indianapolis you will find me most every Saturday at the Broad Ripple Farmers Market. I pick up great, straight from the field, sweet corn and produce, as well as outstanding bake goods.

This year the market has been even better for I have made friends with Chef Allyson Milender who owns Happy Everything catering. Allyson is a member of the family who owned the legendary Atlas Supermarket that closed some years ago. Atlas was a special place with a great selection of food products, fantastic meats and best of all a wide variety of homemade dishes. People would come from all over the city to purchase what they had to offer. David Letterman’s first job was working at Atlas.

These days my new friend Chef Allyson prepares a selection of offerings made as they were at Atlas so long ago for sale at the market. This week I bought a container of Deviled Egg Salad and one of Atlas Tuna Salad. That evening I sliced a Indiana Heritage tomato, placed the slices on some locally grown leaf lettuce, drizzled on a little olive oil and topped them with a scoop of the egg salad and a scoop of the tuna. My dinner was fantastic, so thanks Allyson you did it again.

If you happen to make the market on a Saturday, it is open 8 AM until noon in back of Broad Ripple High School, stop by the Happy Everything booth and tell Allyson I said hi.

Ah, life is good!

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Each morning when I open my eyes I say to myself: I, not events, have the power to make me happy or unhappy today. I can choose which it shall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn’t arrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I’m going to be happy in it.

Groucho Marx

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A man who’s known in his small town as a carouser stops his minister on the street one day. “Say, reverend,” says the dissolute fellow, “can you tell me what the cause of gout is?” The minister sees the question as a good opportunity to teach the man a lesson.

“Gout is caused by the intemperate consumption of alcoholic beverages, by gluttony, and by even worse transgressions that I won’t even speak of,” the minister says. “But I will tell you that it is visited upon those who have departed from the way of the Lord and now follow the tortured path of the most abominable sin.” The minister pauses, then asks, “How long have you had this gout?”

“Oh, I don’t have gout,” the man says. “I was asking because someone told me the bishop has just been diagnosed with it.”

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My friends tell me that I refuse to grow up, but I know they’re just jealous because they don’t have pajamas with feet.

Tom Sims

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Military wisdom

  • “Aim towards the Enemy” – Instruction printed on US Rocket Launcher
  • When the pin is pulled, Mr. Grenade is not our friend.
  • A slipping gear could let your M203 grenade launcher fire when you least expect it. That would make you quite unpopular in what’s left of your unit.” – Army’s magazine of preventive maintenance.
  • Try to look unimportant; they may be low on ammo.
  • If the enemy is in range, so are you.
  • It is generally inadvisable to eject directly over the area you just bombed.
  • Tracers work both ways.
  • If your attack is going too well, you have walked into an ambush.
  • Never tell the Platoon Sergeant you have nothing to do.
  • Don’t draw fire; it irritates the people around you.

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Why is it that rain drops but snow falls?

~~~

She said:

If you’re a bear, you get to hibernate. You do nothing but sleep for six months. I could deal with that.

Before you hibernate, you’re supposed to eat yourself stupid. I could deal with that, too.

If you’re a bear, you birth your children (who are the size of walnuts) while you’re sleeping and wake to partially grown, cute cuddly cubs. I could definitely deal with that.

If you’re a mama bear, everyone knows you mean business. You swat anyone who bothers your cubs. If your cubs get out of line, you swat them too. I could deal with that.

If you’re a bear, your mate EXPECTS you to wake up growling. He EXPECTS that you will have hairy legs and excess body fat.

Yup….. I wanna be a bear.

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Whenever I feel blue, I start breathing again.

Larry Baum

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A professor was giving a big test one day to his students. He handed out all of the tests and went back to his desk to wait.

Once the test was over the students all handed the tests back in. The professor noticed that one of the students had attached a $100 bill to his test with a note saying “A dollar per point.”

The next class the professor handed the graded tests back out. This student got back his test, his test grade, and $64 change.

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I smile when I see you, I smile when I talk to you, I smile when you touch me, I smile when you’re near me, I smile when you look at me, I smile when I think of you, I smile for you. But the one time I’m truly happy is when I make YOU smile back.

~~~

Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies. The editor is somewhat senile.

This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can request to be added by e-mailing me at raykiwsp@yahoo.com. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal and https://raykiwsp.wordpress.com/ currently there are about 2000 readers from around the world.

Why do we?

It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there’s nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized.

Wayne Dyer

 

Yesterday morning I had a brief conversation with a friend who commented on how I appeared to be stress free even though I have been somewhat challenged of late. Between the multiple loss of cell phones, canceled big time cruises, and on-going medical problems he expressed surprise (he called it admiration), that it all did not seem to bother me that much and that I always handled my temporary setbacks with a sense of humor. I did not share with him that I think my wife believes I am too dumb to worry.

The reality is that I have had a lifetime of practice overcoming the challenges that life throws in our path. I wish it had not taken so long to understand that worry hinders more than it helps, that almost all problems are temporary and that the world little notices our failures as it continues on its merry way. In my experience huge problems when put into perspective are seldom as big as they seem. I find that it important to understand that something’s happen that are beyond our control so it is better to accept reality, go with the flow and then do what you can to minimize their impact.

I am glad that I can fall asleep while I am awaiting surgery or an incursive test. The folks around me seem to respond better when they discover that I find no need to panic, in fact often things go better when my demeanor helps rather than hinders the corrective actions. I know I’ve said it before but I’ll say it again, I am glad that my slowness to panic almost always means I don’t worry until it is too late to do so. I know I make sound easier than it usually is for most folks so here excerpts from something Cheryl Gochnauer, the author of “Stay-at-Home Handbook” wrote a few years back that may help.

 

Today really is the first day of the rest of your life. Not happy with the way it’s going so far? Let’s look at ways to defuse some tension and overcome common aggravations.

Take stock. “Stress affects people very profoundly, in all aspects of their existence,” says Jane Murray, a family physician at Sastun Center of Integrative Healthcare in Overland Park, Kansas. “Sit and assess your situation. Where are the stressors coming from? Which triggers could you either do something about changing or respond to differently?” Once you identify the culprits, move to Step Two, which is:

Choose your response. “If you think about it,” Murray says, “you really can. Don’t take everything as if it’s a personal affront to you. There’s a phrase I love: Pain is inevitable — suffering is optional. We can choose how we’re going to respond to things that hit us.”

Devote more pillow time. “Proper sleep is important,” advises Kenton Kaufman, a solo family practitioner in Excelsior Springs, Missouri. “Make sure it is restful and recovering.”

Workout to relax. “Exercise has been shown to reduce stress,” Kaufman notes. Simply walking soothes both mind and body, especially if you’re outside focusing on nature, instead of deadlines.

Stop and smell the roast.  “People eat so fast,” Murray notes. “Chew each bite until you can’t tell what the food is anymore; you’ve just done the first phase of digestion very effectively. You’re eating less and you’re savoring it more. Mom was right; don’t wolf down your food.”

Focus on others. “No matter what their financial circumstances or income, if people share of their time or their money with others, they feel better about their own situation,” Foreman says.

Feed your spirit. Religion can help when life seems out of control. “Prayer or meditation is a good way to deactivate stress on daily basis,” says Kaufman.

I want to be alone. “Schedule 15 minutes each day to listen to favorite music, read or meditate,” Kaufman suggests. “Withdraw from the daily activities like kids and work and get a little personal time.” Murray agrees. “Don’t get into the spiral of being too busy to help yourself.”

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Stress is an ignorant state. It believes that everything is an emergency

Natalie Goldberg

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A nun is sitting with her Mother Superior chatting. “I used some horrible language this week and feel absolutely terrible about it.”

“When did you use this awful language?” asks the elder.

“Well, I was golfing and hit an incredible drive that looked like it was going to go over 280 yards, but it struck a phone line that was hanging over the fairway and fell straight down to the ground after going only about 10 yards.”

“Is that when you swore?”

“No, Mother,” says the nun. “After that, a squirrel ran out of the bushes and grabbed my ball in its mouth and began to run away.”

“Is THAT when you swore?” asks the Mother Superior again.

“Well, no.” says the nun. “You see, as the squirrel was running, an eagle came down out of the sky, grabbed the squirrel in his talons and began to fly away!”

“Is THAT when you swore?” asks the amazed elder nun.

“No, not yet. As the eagle carried the squirrel away in its claws, it flew near the green and the squirrel dropped my ball.”

“Did you swear THEN?” asked Mother Superior, becoming impatient.

“No, because the ball fell on a big rock, bounced over the sand trap, rolled onto the green, and stopped about six inches from the hole.”

The two nuns were silent for a moment. Then Mother Superior sighed and said, “You missed the &#$&@*% putt, didn’t you?”

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I like long walks, especially when they are taken by people who annoy me.

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“Hello, phone company? I told you my last name is Sweady, but you have it listed in the phone book as Cyirwu.”

“I’m sorry, sir. I can’t understand how such a mistake happened. I’ll fix it so that it’ll be correct the next time we publish the directory. Now, how do you spell your name?”

“Just like I told you the last time. It’s S as in sea, W as in why, E as in eye, A as in are, D as in double-u and Y as in you.”

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You know your children are growing up when they stop asking you where they came from and refuse to tell you where they’re going.

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The police recently busted a man selling ‘secret formula’ tablets he claimed gave eternal youth. When going through their files they noticed it was the fifth time he was caught for committing this same criminal medical fraud. He had earlier been arrested in 1794, 1856, 1928 and 1983………..

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A three-year-old went with his dad to see a litter of kittens. On returning home, he breathlessly informed his mother there were two boy kittens and two girl kittens. “Daddy picked them up and looked underneath,” he replied. “I think it’s printed on the bottom.”

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I’m not saying our new receptionist is dumb, but this is how she filled out her insurance forms:

Date of Birth: January 12, 1978

Weight: 6 pounds, 10 ounces

Height: 20 inches

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“Nobody stands taller than those willing to stand corrected.”

William L. Safire

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“After having dug to a depth of 10 feet last year, New York scientists found traces of copper wire dating back 100 years and came to the conclusion that their ancestors already had a telephone network more than 100 years ago.”

Not to be outdone by the New Yorkers in the weeks that followed, an archaeologist in California dug to a depth of 20 feet and shortly afterwards, headlines in the LA Times newspaper read: “California archaeologists have found traces of 200-year-old copper wire and have concluded that their ancestors already had an advanced high-tech communications network a hundred years earlier than the New Yorkers.”

One week later, The Leesburg News, a local newspaper in Central Florida, reported the following: “After digging as deep as 30 feet in his pasture, near Travelers Rest, Lake County Florida, Bubba Mitchell (no relation of mine), a self-taught archaeologist, reported that he found absolutely nothing. Bubba has, therefore, concluded that 300 years ago, Central Florida had already gone wireless.”

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A penny saved has not been spent.

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Some men in a pickup truck drove into a lumberyard. One of the men walked in the office and said, “We need some four-by-twos.”

The clerk asked, “You mean two-by-fours, don’t you?”

The man said, “I’ll go check,” and went back to the truck. He returned and said, “Yeah, I meant two-by-four.”

“All right. How long do you need them?”

The customer paused for a minute and said, “I’d better go check.”

After a while, the customer returned to the office and said, “A long time. We’re gonna build a house.”

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If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.

Marcus Aurelius

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Stay well, do good work, and have fun.

Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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