If you don’t like something change it; if you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.
I recently had conversations with two different friends who are burdened with a combination of grief over the loss of a loved one, job frustration, unsatisfactory relationships and a whole bunch of negative situations. They both are carrying huge burdens built up by the events of the past. Both are really special people with all kinds of love in their hearts that is currently being caged in by their inability to offload the past.
They, like so many of us, spend so much time trying to rewrite history while trying to determine who is to blame for our plight that we don’t have energy to move on, so we stop and don’t take advantage of the opportunities that the future offers. It is one thing to carry on when the burden we carry has value, it is quite another to load ourselves up with only monuments to an unsatisfactory past. Instead of looking back and reliving our agonies we need to bury our burdens and view the funeral as our opportunity to find happiness. I know one thing we will never find happiness if we just sit down and give up. I know that setting past problems behind us can be one of the greatest therapies that life offers, too often fear prevents us from appreciating who we are and what we might do, unfortunately succumbing to that fear assures that our lives will never get better.
Like I told one of my friends, we need to be like Mary Richards on the Mary Tyler Moore show when she threw her cap up in the air on the streets of Minneapolis and told the world to watch out she was on her way.
Here is an article I picked up recently that I feel tells it like it is. Please don’t be afraid to view the chance to begin again as an opportunity to make the rest of your life great. And if your life is already great take advantage of the opportunity to make it even better by offloading any of your unnecessary burdens.
Don’t Be Afraid
Here we are, afraid of losing what we have all the time, holding on to it so tight that not a soul can touch it. We think by hiding it from the world, it’s hidden and it’s ours. Nothing is. Nothing ever will be. For, nothing ever was.
If you think there is anything that you have, that’s yours, be it money, a house, a job, or a girlfriend… it’s nothing but an illusion. It’ll all disappear… in one blow. One blow, my man.
Here we are, so insecure that we are afraid of re-starting our lives, so we just carry on trying to sort out the current mess. The thought that we should give it all up and just start all over – with nothing – might cross our minds some time, sure, but we get scared and we push away anything that scares us.
There is nothing I can ever achieve or gain that I cannot lose, in a matter of seconds. You have never gained enough to not be able to lose it all, in just a few minutes. What you think is yours, was never yours and will never be yours. Whatever you make here, you leave here. You came naked and you’re going to go back naked.
So what are you afraid of?
Let all be lost. Let them take away everything. As long as you have your heart beating strong, as long as you have your nostrils working fine, as long as the blood flows in your veins, you will live, you will breathe and you can get it all back… again and again. For, if you can do it once, you can damn well do it again. It’s just a game we play – Life.
The sun shines and warms and lights us and we have no curiosity to know why this is so; but we ask the reason of all evil, of pain, and hunger, and mosquitoes and silly people.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
She said: After shopping at a busy store, another woman and I happened to leave at the same time, only to be faced with the daunting task of finding our cars in the crowded parking lot. Just then my car horn beeped, and I was able to locate my vehicle easily.
Wow,” the woman said. “I sure could use a gadget like that to help me find my car.”
“Actually,” I replied, “that’s my husband.”
If you want to build a ship, don’t drum up the men to gather wood, divide the work, and give orders. Instead, teach them to yearn for the vast and endless sea.
Antoine de Saint-Exupery
You’re in trouble if:
Your accountants letter of resignation is postmarked Zurich.
You have to hitch hike to the bank to make your car payment.
The little league puts you on waivers.
Your suggestion box starts ticking.
Your secretary tells you the FBI is on line 1, the DA is on line 2, and CBS is on line 3.
You see your stockbroker hitchhiking out of town.
You see the captain running toward the railing wearing a life jacket.
They pay your wages out of petty cash.
“He has all the virtues I dislike and none of the vices I admire.”
A customer called the airline’s reservation office to pay for his ticket with a credit card. The reservation specialist asked him, “Would you please spell the name as it appears on the card, sir?” The customer carefully replied, “V-I-S-A.”
Our policy is to always blame the computer.
The young woman looked up from her hospital bed at the handsome doctor and said breathlessly, “They tell me, doctor, that you’re a real lady killer.” The doctor smiled, “Maybe so. But the jury threw the case out of court due to lack of evidence”
Mom, I’ll always love you, but I’ll never forgive you for cleaning my face with spit on a hanky.
A small social club was trying to organize a baseball team. They could only muster eight players, but finally found a ninth to play. In desperation, they called on a new member, an Englishman, to join their team. During their first game, the Englishman came to bat. On the first pitch, he knocked the ball out of the park. “Run!” his teammates cried. “For God’s sake, run!” The Brit turned and stared at them icily. “I jolly well shan’t run,” he replied. “Why should I? I’m perfectly willing to buy you chaps another ball.”
Life is a shipwreck but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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