Often people attempt to live their lives backwards; they try to have more things, or more money, in order to do more of what they want, so they will be happier. The way it actually works is the reverse. You must first be who you really are, then do what you need to do, in order to have what you want.
As I think I told you I had a full day yesterday and this morning I am off to an early annual meeting at a major downtown hotel so I am again going to have to revert to a reprint from the past so I thought I would share one I wrote six years ago that still holds meaning for me.
Ray’s Daily first published March 25, 2005
I have noticed that mid-life is a floating date. I had my first mid-life crisis/opportunity, probably forty years ago. I have had many since; no longer do I view them as a crisis but rather as a great opportunity for redirection and life enrichment. I still think of them as a chance for a better life even at my age. The difference is that the older I get the more freedom I find to do whatever I want.
A week or so ago I got a letter from a friend who is the president of her and her husbands successful business. She told me she had decided to sell the business take a three month sabbatical and begin her next life. I am so glad that she has chosen to take care of herself and not stay trapped in what she has done so well for so long. She has much to gain and much to offer, I will enjoy watching as she thrives in the years ahead.
Each of us has the opportunity to make changes in our lives, sometimes just small short term changes, while others can result in new careers and adventures that we never dreamed possible. Every minute that goes by, each day, each month, each year, delays our opportunity to choose something that will make us happy. I know many who go through mid-life reassessment and decide that they are exactly where they want to be, what is great is that they then know they want to be where they are and why. Unfortunately too many feel so trapped that they view any change as an unacceptable risk, in my mind that is tragic.
One last thought, another friend e-mailed me the other day and shared the fact that she had been so conditioned over her lifetime that she was reluctant to take even the smallest risk. Please don’t let that happen. Often we rationalize our behavior as being something we cannot change, but you know what, we really can if we want to. So don’t be afraid to smile at a stranger and it really is ok to hold hands in public, let yourself go once in awhile, it is good training for the next time you get to decide to change something in your life.
Turn your midlife crisis to your own advantage by making it a time for renewal of your body and mind, rather than stand by helplessly and watch them decline.
Jane E. Brody
A husband was with his wife when she decided to buy something for their daughter-in-law at an exclusive lingerie shop. Inside, the husband was feeling very out of place when a beautiful clerk asked if she could help him.
In a cocky manner, he asked, “Where are all the men’s clothes?”
In a demure voice the clerk replied, “All of these clothes are for men, sir.”
The best exercise for reducing is to move the head slowly from right to left when offered a second helping at the dinner table.
She said: At the checkout counter of the department store where I was a cashier, customers frequently asked me under what circumstances items were returnable. One woman who came through my line must have been aware of store policy. She pointed to the lacy red-and-black negligee she was about to purchase. “May I bring this back if it doesn’t work?” she asked.
She also said: Home computers are the perfect thing for women who don’t feel that men provide them with enough frustration.
I never knew this…..
TRUE Newspaper Headlines
* Study Finds Sex, Pregnancy Link-Cornell Daily Sun, December 7, 1995
* Survey Finds Dirtier Subways After Cleaning Jobs Were Cut-The New York Times, November 22
* Alcohol ads promote drinking.-The Hartford Courant, November 18
* Official: Only rain will cure drought.-The Herald-News, Westpost, Massachusetts
* Teen-age girls often have babies fathered by men.-The Sunday Oregonian, September 24
* Dirty-Air Cities Far Deadlier Than Clean Ones, Study Shows.-The New York Times, March 10
* Scientists see quakes in L.A. future.-The Oregonian, January 28
* Free Advice: Bundle up when out in the cold.-Lexington Herald-Leader, January 26
* Bible church’s focus is the Bible.-Saint Augustine Record, Florida, December 3, 1994
* Discoveries: Older blacks have edge in longevity.-The Chicago Tribune, March 5
* Lack of brains hinders research.-The Columbus Dispatch, April 16
* Fish lurk in streams.-Rochester, New York, Democrat & Chronicle, January 29
The trouble with jogging is that, by the time you realize you’re not in shape for it, it’s too far to walk back.
The Sunday after Christmas, the Sunday School teacher told her students about an angel appearing to Joseph in a dream, warning him about danger to the baby Jesus and telling him how to escape from it.
After the story time, the students were given an opportunity to draw a picture about the story. Most of the pictures were predictable, but Larry’s had an odd element in it.
“Larry, I see Joseph and Mary with the baby Jesus on a donkey, but what is that following the donkey?
“It’s the flea, teacher.”
“Flea…? Ah…what flea?” asked the teacher.
To which the boy faithfully repeated the Bible verse:
“Take Mary and Jesus and flea to Egypt. There’s Mary; there’s Jesus; and there’s the flea.”
There is in the worst of fortune the best of chances for a happy change.
A group of elderly Jewish men meet every Wednesday for coffee and a chat. They drink their coffee and then sit for hours discussing the world situation. Usually, their discussion is very negative.
One day, Aaron surprises his friends by announcing, loud and clear, “You know what? I’ve now become an optimist.”
Everyone is totally shocked and all conversation dries up. But then Sam notices something isn’t quite right and he says to Aaron, “Hold on a minute, if you’re an optimist, why are you looking so worried?”
Aaron replies, “Do you think it’s easy being an optimist?”
Henny Youngman remarked once that, in his will, he is leaving his body to Julia Roberts. “If she can’t wait, she can have it now,” he added.
Dorothy & Dana, two blondes, ventured into the woods to bring home a Christmas tree. They were determined not to leave until they found the right tree. They walked for hours in the snow, examining every tree they found. As the afternoon turned into evening, the temperature dropped ten degrees and the wind began to blow. Still no tree.
Finally, Dana piped up: “Listen Dorothy, I really think we’d better take the next tree we see, whether it has lights and decorations on it or not!”
You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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