“If each man or woman could understand that every other human life is as full of sorrows, or joys, or base temptations, of heartaches and of remorse as his own . . . how much kinder, how much gentler he would be.”
William Allen White
You have often heard me say that I do the best I can and this is as good as I get, you can take me or leave me, it is up to you. I really do meant it, where I have a problem is with disapproval and the loss of a friend I become concerned that I may have let them down. It is not that I feel like I should be something I’m not, but rather I wonder if there was something I might have done to retain the friendship. This past year there was a couple of people I with who I totally lost contact and miss without understanding what happened. Fortunately I have an abundance of other friends and contacts that I also hold in high regard.
I don’t have any guilt feelings since I know many times things do not work out to our liking and it is then that we must make important choices. We can try to be something we are not, go into a hole and hide or make a far better choice by taking stock and deciding if there is something we should consider changing and if not then moving on. I am still grateful to my two missing friends for all we had before the splits. Life goes on and we owe it to ourselves to enjoy it so I won’t let their loss get me down.
If you have trouble dealing with disapproval you might follow the advice I got from Ralph Marston awhile ago, here is what he suggested:
If you give in to the disapproval of others, you’ll simply encourage them to disapprove even more. If you fight against their disapproval, that will also cause their disapproval to grow stronger.
Your most effective response is to gently accept the disapproval, then let it go and move forward. That strategy will dilute and dispense with the resistance you encounter faster than anything else.
Stop needing the approval of others, and you’ll receive more approval and support than ever. Live each moment from your own inspiration, not from your desire to look good in the eyes of others.
You can be exceptionally kind, loving, giving and respectful without being a slave to the opinions of others. Accept that other people will disapprove of some things you do, and you’ll free yourself to do truly magnificent things.
Your great value does not derive from the approval of others. You are entirely worthy and able to give much to life, regardless of what anyone else may think.
Graciously and enthusiastically accept that others will disapprove, no matter what you do. And delight in the freedom of doing whatever you know is right for you.
“Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you. Love me and I may be forced to love you.”
William Arthur Ward
A Jewish man and a Chinese man were conversing. The Jewish man commented upon what a wise people the Chinese are. “Yes,” replied the Chinese, “Our culture is over 4,000 years old. But, you Jews are a very wise people, too.”
The Jewish man replied, “Yes, our culture is over 5,000 years old.”
The Chinese man was incredulous, “That’s impossible,” he replied. “Where did your people eat for a thousand years?
I read this article that said the typical symptoms of stress are eating too much, impulse buying, and driving too fast. Are they kidding? That’s my idea of a perfect day.
The Good News, Canada has offered to help the U.S. in the war on terrorism! They Have pledged 2 battleships, 6000 troops and 10 fighter jets.
The Bad News, with the current exchange rate, that comes out to 2 canoes, a mountie and a couple of flying squirrels.
Jewish Marriage advice “Don’t marry a beautiful person. They may leave you.
Of course, an ugly person may leave you too. But who cares?”
At a diner, I was standing in line to pay my bill behind two women who handed the young waitress a credit card. After swiping the card, she loudly called out to her manager, “Mr. Allen, what do I do if it says ‘reject’?”
As the women’s faces reddened and customers turned to look, Mr. Allen, also the cook, calmly walked out from the kitchen. “Well,” he answered, the first thing you do is shout it out loud enough to embarrass the customer, who might have been thinking about leaving you a tip.”
A lot of people mistake a short memory for a clear conscience.
The sad thing is that I can relate to some of the following:
Three old guys were out walking.
First one says. “Windy isn’t it? ”
Second one says, “No its Thursday”!!
Third one says. “So am I. Lets go get a beer”
A man is telling a friend about his recent divorce.
“Yeah, she divorced me for her religious reasons. She worshipped money and I didn’t have any.”
Two old guys were sitting in the park, talking, when the subject turned to getting older. The
first guy said “Women have all the luck when it comes to getting older.”
“What do you mean?” asked the second guy.
“Well,” replied the first. “I can barely remember the last time I got aroused in bed, but my wife is healthier than ever!”
“Healthier? How is that?” his buddy wondered.
“Years ago, when we were younger, almost every night before bed she’d get these terrible headaches.” he answered. “Now that we’re older, she hasn’t had a headache in years.”
I’ll believe psychics when one phones me, just in the nick of time, yelling, “Duck!”
Safety is a major concern at the manufacturing company where I work. So, I’m constantly preaching caution to the workers I supervise. “Does anyone know,” I asked a few guys, “what the speed limit is in our parking lot?”
The long silence that followed was interrupted when one of them piped up. “That depends. Do you mean coming in to work or leaving?”
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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