“The more fun you have, the greater your value to yourself and to your society.
The more fun you share with others, the more fun you have.”
Yippee, today I get to breakout of my forced hibernation after spending for days looking out upon a frozen and frigid landscape. I think I am suffering from a combination of being stir crazy while having a severe case of cabin fever.
The first thing this morning is a trip to my primary doc so she can probe and test to see if I am still borderline magnificent and that any problems are just mental. After that, watch out, I’m planning on having some therapeutic fun, I don’t know what yet, but I’ll think of something. Maybe I’ll follow Gretchen Rubin’s suggestions that I have added below.
Having fun sounds easy, but it’s not. Take the time to do some real self-reflection. As you ask yourself, “How can I have more fun?” keep two things in mind:
1. Be honest about what’s actually fun for you. It’s a Secret of Adulthood: just because something is fun for someone else doesn’t mean it’s fun for you, and vice versa. Wine-tasting, skiing, baking bread, reading mysteries—I personally do not enjoy any of these “fun” activities. They’re fun for some people; not for me. Don’t try to be self-improving, and don’t plan a “fun” event based on what other people would enjoy. Make time for something that’s fun for YOU.
2. Do have real fun. I often feel so overwhelmed by tasks that I think, “The most fun would be to cross some items off my to-do list. I’d feel so much better if I could get something accomplished.” In fact, though, I just make myself feel trapped and drained. If I take time to do something that’s truly fun for me (re-read All the King’s Men for the fourth time, call my sister), I feel better able to tackle that to-do list.
I’m going to break a lifelong vow here – never to quote Dr. Seuss for a nugget of life philosophy. When I was reading The Cat in the Hat to my younger daughter, these five lines hit me so hard I simply can’t resist.
Look at me!
Look at me!
Look at me NOW!
It is fun to have fun
But you have to know how.
So very true. You do have to know how to have fun — and it takes serious reflection.
In case Dr. Seuss isn’t convincing, I’ll also invoke Samuel Butler:
“One can bring no greater reproach against a man than to say that he does not set sufficient value upon pleasure, and there is no greater sign of a fool than the thinking that he can tell at once and easily what it is that pleases him. To know this is not easy, and how to extend our knowledge of it is the highest and most neglected of all arts and branches of education.”
It’s the game of life. Do I win or do I lose? One day they’re gonna shut the game down. I gotta have as much fun and go around the board as many times as I can before it’s my turn to leave.
Murphy’s Laws of Genealogy
1. The public ceremony in which your distinguished ancestor participated and at which the platform collapsed under him turned out to be his hanging.
2. When at last after much hard work you have evolved the mystery that you have been working on for two years, your aunt says, “I could have told you that.”
3. You search ten years for your grandmother’s maiden name to eventually find it on a letter in a box in the attic.
4. You never asked your father about his family when he was alive because you weren’t interested in genealogy then.
5. The will you need is in the safe on board the Titanic.
6. Copies of old newspapers have holes occurring only on the surnames.
7. John, son of Thomas the immigrant whom your relatives claim as the family progenitor, died on board ship at the age of 10.
8. Your great grandfather’s newspaper obituary states that he died leaving no issue of record.
9. Another genealogist has just insulted the keeper of the vital records you need.
10. The relative who had all the family photographs gave them all to her daughter who has no interest in genealogy and no inclination to share.
11. The only record you find for your great grandfather is that his property was sold at a sheriff’s sale of insolvency.
12. The one document that would supply the missing link in your dead end line has been lost due to fire, flood, or war.
13. The town clerk to whom you wrote for the information sends you a long handwritten letter which is totally illegible.
14. The spelling of your European ancestor’s name bears no relationship to its current spelling or pronunciation.
15. None of the pictures in your recently deceased grandmother’s photo album have names written on them.
16. No one in your family tree ever did anything noteworthy, owned property, was sued or was named in a will.
17. You learn that your great aunt’s executor just sold her life’s collection of family genealogical materials to a flea market dealer “Somewhere in New York City.”
18. Ink fades and paper deteriorates at a rate inversely proportional to the value of the data recorded.
19. The 37 volume, 16,000 page history of your county of origin isn’t indexed.
20. You finally find your great grandparents’ wedding record and discover that the bride’s father was named John Smith.
My psychiatrist says I’m manic-depressive ……I have mixed feelings about that.
It’s every airplane passenger’s nightmare: Getting stuck near a crying baby.
I was manning the ticket counter at a busy airport when the sound of a sobbing infant filled the air. As the next passenger stepped up to the desk, he glanced up to the tot and rolled his eyes.
“Don’t worry,” I said to him cheerfully. “Chances are that baby won’t be on your flight.”
Head shaking, he grimly replied, “Oh, I bet he will. That’s my son.”
You can tell more about a person by what he says about others than you can by what others say about him.
Two Jewish ladies who were neighbors in New York met unexpectedly in Miami one winter.
“Why Shirley” one of them said, “I had no idea you were here”
“So listen Ruthie” said Shirley “now that we met I just must tell you, I am having an affair!”
“How wonderful” said Ruthie, “who is doing the catering?”
“Live life fully while you’re here. Experience everything. Take care of yourself and your friends. Have fun, be crazy, be weird. Go out and screw up! You’re going to anyway, so you might as well enjoy the process. Take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes: find the cause of your problem and eliminate it. Don’t try to be perfect; just be an excellent example of being human.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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