“I had the blues because I had no shoes until upon the street, I met a man who had no feet.”
Have you noticed how many people are in a funk these days? It is not easy rising above all the issues we face so we can stay happy. I don’t know how to ignore our problems but I do know that slipping into depression is not a solution, in fact doing so only makes problems seem more important than they need to be. I find that it takes less energy and effort to face our issues and move on. We must not let the weight of our problems become an anchor that drags us down and holds us in place.
We can be blues beaters if we chose to be. If you don’t know how you might find the advice offered by life coach Jacquie Hale a few years ago to be helpful. Here is an edited version of what she wrote
What To Do When You’re Feeling Blue
Everyone has an occasional time of feeling down. Regardless of the frequency or the cause, and whether or not you are on medication, you can lift yourself out of the doldrums with a few techniques. I suggest that those who encounter such distressed feelings have a few of these antidotes ready for quick access.
Appreciate the Good Stuff
Acknowledging the good and beautiful in your life is a great daily practice. Making a list of what you appreciate can lighten your mood instantaneously. You can do it by yourself, or better yet, call a friend and inspire each other. Make the sky your limit! Appreciate the person who cuts your hair exactly as you like, the school crossing guard who volunteers even during a torrential downpour, politicians whose values match yours, your boss, your spouse, your kids, your co-workers, and don’t forget–appreciate yourself for all the things you accomplish!
Eliminate the Negative
If your discouraged moods are significant or frequent, it might serve you to stop interacting with negative people. This may require a big effort and great ingenuity on your part. It may be that ultimately you would be doing yourself and the other people a favor by being truthful. You might say, “I’m having trouble keeping a positive outlook these days, and when you are always finding fault people, I start to feel down. So, I’m going to skip our weekly coffee klatch for a while.”
If the weather or the short days are bringing you down, try to block the outside views and fill your space with as much light as possible. You might even get full spectrum light bulbs for your living and work space where you spend the most significant part of your day.
When you find yourself in the downward spiral of negative self talk, do something startling such as splashing cold water in your face or slamming your hand on a table and declaring, “Stop!”
A fine way to distract yourself is to put on some favorite music and dance for a while. Some people find great release in planning and cooking a meal, baking cookies, or putting up a batch of jam. Others get lost in a complicated puzzle or computer problem. Keep a list activities you enjoy so that all you have to do is look at the list for a distraction when you’re dragging along so low that ideas are hard to come by.
Have a ready library of uplifting media. This might include favorite movies, TV programs, music, poetry, or books. You might remember a particularly wonderful event or create one in your mind. This kind of virtual vacation can brighten a very dull day.
You don’t have to run marathons to get the positive effects of exercise, you can feel revived and uplifted with as little as 20 minutes of brisk walking. Better yet, you can combine two of these techniques at once by putting on music you like and dancing.
Be of Service
Nothing takes you out of the blues as much as helping someone else. On the spur of the moment, you might call a neighbor and offer to take her kids to a movie or do the grocery shopping. You could cook dinner for a friend or take dessert to a colleague. Pick some service that interests you and it’s likely to make you happy, even if you have to drag yourself out the door to do it.
Challenge Negative Thoughts
If you have an Inner Critic that is giving you grief, start making a list of all the things this critic says about you. Then look at each statement and ask these questions:
• Is this true?
• How do I know it is true?
• How do I act because I believe this is true?
• How would I act if I didn’t believe this was true?
Have a Buddy
It’s wonderful to have someone who will support you when you are feeling down. You are ultimately responsible for your own happiness. Actually, no one knows better than you what satisfies you or makes you happy. You can help yourself far more than you think by being proactive. Some day when you are feeling particularly good, go through this list and create your own Antidote for the Blues Kit.
“Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow.”
Things I learned at the hospital:
- Little is a medical term that is not defined the same as in Webster’s dictionary, for example “this may be a little uncomfortable,” “this may sting a little,” “you may feel a little burning sensation,” and “there may be a little post-op pain.”
- All staff meetings are held outside of open hospital room doors between the hours of 1 AM and 4 AM.
- A requirement not to leave the hospital bed for eight hours is a highly effective Diuretic but having to pee in a little plastic bottle while lying in bed is an art and not a science.
- Hospital food has one great attribute; it makes everything you eat after having one seem so much better.
It’s hard to make a comeback when you haven’t been anywhere.
Two elderly, excited Southern women were sitting together in the front pew of church listening to a fiery preacher. When this preacher condemned the sin of stealing, these two ladies cried out at the tops of their lungs, “AMEN, BROTHER!”
When the preacher condemned the sin of lust, they yelled again, “PREACH IT, REVEREND!”
And when the preacher condemned the sin of lying, they jumped to their feet and screamed, “RIGHT ON, BROTHER! TELL IT LIKE IT IS…AMEN!”
But when the preacher condemned the sin of gossip, the two got very quiet, and one turned to the other and said, “He’s quit preaching and now he’s meddlin’.”
“I tell ya, a lot of people are in bad shape. A guy stopped me in the street the other day. He told me he hasn’t eaten in five days.
I told him, I said, ‘I wish I had your will power.'”
Two young boys were spending the night at their grandparents. At bedtime, the two boys kneeled down beside their beds to say their prayers. Suddenly, the youngest boy began praying at the top of his lungs, “I PRAY FOR A NEW BICYCLE. I PRAY FOR A NEW NINTENDO. I PRAY FOR A NEW VCR…”
His older brother leaned over, nudged his younger brother, and said, “Why are you shouting your prayers? God isn’t deaf.”
The little brother replied, “No, but Grandma is!”
When authorities warn you of the sinfulness of sex, there is an important lesson to be learned. Do not have sex with the authorities.
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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