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“All of life is a journey which paths we take, what we look back on, and what we look forward to is up to us. We determine our destination, what kind of road we will take to get there, and how happy we are when we get there.”




As I said yesterday I will be on the run again today. I even get to stay busy all weekend including distributing coffee and doughnuts with Salvation Army Doughnut Girls to veterans at an American Legion convention. But before I rush off I thought I would again pull up a few of the life tips a reader sent me and share them with you.

More Life Lessons from Ray’s Daily Readers

No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission. – Isn’t that the truth? No one makes us get angry or upset, they only do so if we let them. In my case I do my best to choose not to let them. That does not mean I don’t take criticism seriously, I do. It just means I don’t react angrily but rather consider what I was told and decide if their right and if the are I take responsibility, but if their not I move on. I have also found that it is disarming to the critic when you agree with them when they are right.

Success stops when you do. – It is not just success that stops, everything stops. I feel sad when I see folks who have chosen to end their lives years before their funerals. Give up and you stagnate, keep going and you live.

I’ve learned that ultimately ‘takers’ lose and ‘givers’ win.I find this to be true more and more each day. One of the life’s great rewards is that people care about givers and ignore takers to the point that takers have a lonesome existence.

Life’s precious moments don’t have value, unless they are shared. – I don’t totally agree for every precious moment is a memory that is a real treasure. However I think moments are magnified many times over when they are shared.

If you don’t start, it’s certain you won’t arrive. – Far too many people’s “I’ll do it tomorrow” plans end up being buried with them. I find that the best answer to the “If only I would of” wish, is to do it and find out what is there. The grass more often than not is less green on the other side but going there and finding out makes our current grass seem much sweeter.

Life is a journey…. Not a destination. Enjoy the trip! – Too many are so compulsively focused on the destination that they miss all the rewards that lay along the path. It is like the child that constantly asks “Are we there yet” while missing the beautiful scenery that exists just outside their window.


“Every day you may make progress. Every step may be fruitful. Yet there will stretch out before you an ever-lengthening, ever-ascending, ever-improving path. You know you will never get to the end of the journey. But this, so far from discouraging, only adds to the joy and glory of the climb.”

Winston Churchill


A life insurance agent was speaking to a would-be client:

"Don’t let me frighten you into making a hasty decision. Sleep on it tonight. If you wake in the morning, give me a call then and let me know."


I hope they don’t raise the standard of living any higher, I can’t afford it now.


"Your honor," a defense attorney began, "I have a series of witnesses that can testify that Mr. Johnson was nowhere near the scene of the crime when it occurred."

The judge looked at the defense table and said, "This is the third time you’ve been in this court room this week, and I’m getting sick of hearing your lies."

The defendant stood up with a confused expression and said, "Your honour, you must be mistaken.  I’ve never been here in my life."

Waving his finger, the judge replied, "I was referring to your lawyer."


Better to understand a little than to misunderstand a lot.


Manny was almost 29 years old.  Most of his friends had already gotten married, and Manny just bounced from one relationship to the next. Finally a friend asked him,  "What’s the matter, are you looking for the perfect woman?  Are you THAT particular?  Can’t you find anyone who suits you?"

"No," Manny replied.  "I meet a lot of nice girls, but as soon as I bring them home to meet my parents, my mother doesn’t like them.  So I keep on looking!"

"Listen," his friend suggested, “Why don’t you find a girl who’s just like your dear ole Mother?"

Many weeks past before Manny and his friend got together again. "So Manny.  Did you find the perfect girl yet.  One that’s just like your Mother?"

Manny shrugged his shoulders, "Yes I found one just like Mom.

My mother loved her, they became great friends."

"Excellent!!!  So,….  Are you and this girl engaged, yet?"

"I’m afraid not.  My Father can’t stand her!"


Life isn’t about how to survive the storm, but how to dance in the rain.


My wife went to high school around this time; I guess she did not take home economics.

The following is from a 1950’s Home Economics textbook intended for the High School girls, teaching how to prepare for married life.

1. Have dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal – on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him, and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.

3. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys, paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too.

4. Prepare the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces if they are small, comb their hair, and if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part.

5. Minimize the noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer, dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad to see him.

6. Some DON’TS: Don’t greet him with problems or complaints. Don’t complain if he’s late for dinner. Count this as minor compared with what he might have gone through that day.

7. Make him comfortable: Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft, soothing and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax and unwind.

8. Listen to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

9. Make the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner or to other places of entertainment; instead try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his need to be home and relax.

10. The Goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your husband can relax.


“Life is not a journey to the grave with intentions of arriving safely in a pretty well-preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out and loudly proclaiming … WOW! What a ride!”


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.


Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies.

The editor is somewhat senile.


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