Time is what we want most, but… what we use worst.
I recently realized again that I will have to quit sleeping entirely and live for at least another 100 years in order to read all the books I have accumulated, see all the films I have collected, accept all the opportunities for service offered, meet family and life obligations while allowing a little time for travel and recreation. Yes I know, dumb behavior in action, I have so many things hanging that I get frustrated and bogged down which results in my falling even further behind.
I was with a friend the other day who suffered from the same “yes” disease that I have often have in the past. He is smart, a real talent in many areas and has much to offer so of course he is always asked to help or serve. The problem is that he finds himself saying yes way too often and so his commitments and obligations build to the point he can’t keep up, much less finding the time to do things he would like do and even some things he should do. We made a pact that morning that we would not say yes when we should be saying no. We don’t do anyone any favors when they think we can deliver when we can’t. So we are going to tell the askers that we care too much about what they want to let them down.
Anyway time keeps marching on and more often than not it moves much faster than we can and that’s not good. Here is an excerpt from an article by success coach Dennis Kelley that provides some good advice on how we can make more effective use of the time we do have.
Time is the great equalizer. No matter how important or rich or famous you are, you still get the same amount of time as everyone else. It’s not how much time we get; it’s what we do with our time that matters. We cannot manage time, the best we can do is develop the skill not to let time manage us. Trying to manage time will just cause you more stress because the minutes and hours will continue to tick away regardless of whether you are doing things you should be doing or not.
The way to change this is to learn priority management. It is the priorities you set in your life that dictate how your precious time will be utilized.
When something is trying to take your time, ask yourself, “Does this help me move closer to my goals and my vision?” If the answer is “yes,” then you should invest the time and do it with passion and purpose. If the answer is “no,” then you should not invest any time in it. It really is that simple.
Notice that I used the term “invest” instead of “spend” your time. It is important to recognize the difference between these. Normally when we talk about time, we use the consumption term “spend” when we should be talking in terms of “investing” our time, meaning that we are getting a payback when we do something.
The payback may be as simple as making your family happy or improving your health. It may be improving your knowledge or increasing the profits of your business. Time must repay you by getting you closer to your ultimate dream of success. Otherwise, if you just spend your time, you will never get that time back and will find yourself getting no closer to where you want to be.
It is completely up to you how to invest your time, but let me give you this advice: Be absolutely BRUTAL with your time!
It’s your life and your time. Don’t let time manage you. Don’t let others take control of your time either. Others will want to interrupt you or impose their priorities on you. Learn how to avoid these situations or minimize their impact on your time. Those who stayed focused and stick to the plan they have developed are the ones who accomplish the most. Stay focused on how you choose to invest your time for the best payoff.
You must be brutal in how you ration out your time because no one else will do it for you. Take control of your priority management, and you will be amazed at how much progress you will make toward fulfilling your life mission!
Time is the coin of your life. It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent. Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you.
The lawyer’s son wanted to follow in his father’s footsteps, so he went to law school and graduated with honors. Then he went home to join his father’s firm. At the end of his first day at work, he rushed into his father’s office and said, "Father, father! In one day I broke the Smith case that you’ve been working on for so long!"
His father yelled, "You idiot! We’ve been living on the funding of that case for ten years!"
I have my standards. They may be low, but I have them.
As he lay on his deathbed he spoke, "Sara, I want you should know before I die that Ginsburg the tailor owes me $200, and Morris the butcher owes me $50, and Klein next door owes me $300."
His wife turned to the children and said, "What a wonderful man your father is. Even when he’s dying he’s got the brains to realize who owes him money."
The old man continued, "And Sara I want you to also know that I owe the landlord a hundred dollars."
To which his wife cried, "Oh oh, now he’s getting delirious!"
If ignorance is bliss, why aren’t more people happy?
A very religious couple was touring the Holy Land during the Christmas season and decided it would be very meaningful to them to spend Christmas Eve in Bethlehem, the birth place of Jesus. Arriving there, they searched high and low for a room, but none was available at any price. Finally, they pulled up in front of the Sheraton-Bethlehem and the husband got out of the car, telling his wife: "Stay here, sweetie.
Let me see if I can do something for us." He approached the desk and the clerk told him there were no rooms. "Sorry, sir. It’s Christmas Eve, our busiest time." No matter how much the man offered to pay, the clerk said he had nothing. Finally, the man told the clerk, "I bet if I told you my name was Joseph, that the woman waiting in the car was called Mary, and that she had a newborn infant, you’d find us a room." "Well," stammered the clerk, "I– I suppose so." "Okay," said the man. "I guarantee you, they’re not coming tonight, so we’ll take their room."
"My doctor said I was paranoid… well, he didn’t actually say it, but I could tell he was thinking it."
Bidding at a local auction was proceeding furiously when the auctioneer suddenly announced, "A gentleman in this room has lost a wallet containing $10,000. If it is returned, he will pay a reward of $2,000."
There was a moment’s silence, and then from the back of the room came the cry, "Two thousand five hundred!"
"You can say any foolish thing to a dog, and the dog will give you this look that says, "My God, you’re right! I never would’ve thought of that!"
A chap who frequently left the office to play golf instructed his secretary to tell all callers that he was away from his desk.
After he left the office, a member of his foursome forgot which course they were playing that day, and called for information.
The loyal girl would only reply that her boss was away from his desk.
"Just tell me, "the golfer persisted, "Is he twenty miles away from his desk, or thirty miles."
Catch, then, O catch the transient hour; Improve each moment as it flies!
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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