“Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family”
Yesterday I suggested that we not communicate a negative view on life to today’s young people. I wondered if people from my generation and the one following ours have developed a pessimistic outlook on life by either letting today’s difficult economic conditions beat them down or by giving up on their dreams. I don’t know the answer but I do know that most people don’t realize how good they are and how good they can be.
I have spent a lot of time in recent years with folks who have struggled with the question “is this all there is” as it related to their lives, As I have often said it is not the medal we won or the mountain we climbed or some other notable event that defines us, it is what we do everyday that makes us special. The parent, the volunteer, the mentor, the highly dependable, the caring, the dedicated, the friendly, the good neighbor are the true heroes . We are like a mosaic made up of of behaviors and attitudes that display who we really are if we care enough to look. The tough part is we often don’t give ourselves enough credit nor do we place adequate value on what we do.
Trust me, a line in the newspaper, the receipt of a big title or making more money than the next guy pales by comparison to the memory that a loving child has of our time together as an example. Participation in a high profile event is of questionable value if it keeps us from viewing the sunsets while holding the hand of a loved one.
About three years ago Tina, one of the Daily readers sent me the following. Read it for places real value on the important things we often overlook in our rush to accomplish things that may not be very important at all.
Tequila and Salt
This should probably be taped to your bathroom mirror where one could read it every day. You may not realize it, but it’s 100% true.
1. There are at least two people in this world that you would die for.
2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.
3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.
4. A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don’t like you.
5. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.
6. You mean the world to someone.
7. You are special and unique.
8. Someone that you don’t even know exists loves you.
9. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.
10. When you think the world has turned its back on you take another look.
11. Always remember the compliments you received. Forget about the rude remarks.
Success: To laugh often and much, to win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends, to appreciate beauty, to find the best in others, to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded!
Ralph Waldo Emerson
A disappointed salesman of Coca-Cola returns from his Middle East assignment. A friend asked, "Why weren’t you successful with the Arabs ?"
The salesman explained, "When I got posted in the Middle East, I was very confident that I will makes a good sales pitch as Cola is virtually unknown there. But, I had a problem I didn’t know to speak Arabic. So, I planned to convey the message through 3 posters…First poster, a man crawling through the hot desert sand… totally exhausted and panting. Second, the man is drinking our Cola and Third, our man is now totally refreshed. Then these posters were pasted all over the place"
"That should have worked," said the friend.
The salesman replied, "Well, not only did I not speak Arabic, I also didn’t realize that Arabs read from right to left…"
"Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work." Thomas A. Edison
A harried driving instructor came home from work, kicked off his shoes, and fell into a chair. "I’m thinking of taking six or seven of my students to England," he said.
"What on earth for?" his wife asked.
"It might make them feel good to see what it’s like to drive on the left side of the road-legally."
Failure is the greatest opportunity I have to know who I really am.
John Killinger Author
It was election time and a politician decided to go out to the local reservation and try to get the Native American vote.
They were all assembled in the Council Hall to hear his speech. The politician had worked up to his finale, and the crowd was getting more and more excited.
"I promise better education opportunities for Native Americans!"
The crowd went wild, shouting "Hoya! Hoya!"
The politician was a bit puzzled by this native word, but was encouraged by their enthusiasm. So he continued on.
"I promise gambling reforms to allow a Casino on the Reservation!"
"Hoya! Hoya!" cried the crowd, stomping their feet.
"I promise more social reforms and job opportunities for Native Americans!"
The crowd reached a frenzied pitch shouting "Hoya! Hoya! Hoya!"
After the speech, the Politician was touring the Reservation, and saw a tremendous herd of cattle. Since he was raised on a ranch, and knew a bit about cattle, he asked the Chief if he could get closer to take a look at the cattle.
"Oh, sure…" the Chief said, "but just be careful not to step in the hoya."
The brighter you are, the more you have to learn.
Becky is having lunch with Hannah.
Becky says, "My Morris is just impossible. Absolutely nothing pleases him. Tell me, Hannah, is your Harold hard to please?"
Hannah shrugs and replies, "I wouldn’t know. I’ve never tried."
Sign outside the Red Horse Saloon: Cheap T-Bone Steaks, 99 cents….w/meat, $10.99.
"Mollie, how is your sister? I heard she is very ill."
"Sadie, my sister is impossible. I never told you but we have been on the outs for as far as I can remember. Last Tuesday, my son begged me to see her. So, let me tell you. When I stood next to her bed, she had the nerve to say, "Mollie, I just want to let you know that if I die you’re forgiven for all you’ve done to me. But, if I get well, things remain the same!"
There is only one success – to be able to spend your life in your own way.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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