“We don’t see the things the way they are. We see things the way WE are.”
I met with a college student recently who expressed concern that he and too many of his friends where being told by their parents and others that they should enjoy college because once they graduated the fun will stop. Fortunately my young friend said he at least was not buying it, while he was unsure of the future he was putting together an education that he would use as a platform to build a life that had meaning and enjoyment. It would be too easy to put his thoughts aside as being those of a youthful unrealistic idealist. Rather I see him as someone who has the right idea, the setting of goals that include living a full and enriched life.
As I thought about our conversation I wondered about the parents he told me about, not just his own but also those of his friends. Have they become pessimistic because of the current trying times or had they given up on their dreams some time ago resulting in their lives loosing color and vibrancy. Have these folks decided that what happened to them is destined to happen to their offspring as well? I hope not for I have the privilege of knowing people of all ages that regularly contribute to their own happiness and the happiness of others. I honestly feel one of the worst things we can possibly do is to talk the citizens of tomorrow out of their dreams.
In fact rather than spending our time trying to dissuade others from their dreams why not just renew our own and what better time is there to do that than the beginning of a new decade. If you‘re ready to start on the road to renewal you can begin with these tips from life coach Jon Gordon.
20 Tips for a Positive New Year
1. Stay Positive. You can listen to the cynics and doubters and believe that success is impossible or you can know that with faith and an optimistic attitude all things are possible.
2. When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement: My purpose is_______________________.
3. Take a morning walk of gratitude. It will create a fertile mind ready for success.
4. Instead of being disappointed about where you are think optimistically about where you are going.
5. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a college kid with a maxed out charge card.
6. Transform adversity into success by deciding that change is not your enemy but your friend. In the challenge discover the opportunity.
7. Make a difference in the lives of others.
8. Believe that everything happens for a reason and expect good things to come out of challenging experiences.
9. Don’t waste your precious energy on gossip, energy vampires, issues of the past, negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
10. Mentor someone and be mentored by someone.
11. Live with the 3 E’s. Energy, Enthusiasm, Empathy.
12. Remember there’s no substitute for hard work.
13. Zoom Focus. Each day when you wake up in the morning ask: “What are the three most important things I need to do today that will help me create the success I desire?” Then tune out all the distractions and focus on these actions.
14. Instead of complaining focus on solutions. It’s the key to innovation.
15. Read more books than you did in 2009.
16. Learn from mistakes and let them teach you to make positive changes.
17. Focus on Get to vs Have to. Each day focus on what you get to do, not what you have to do. Life is a gift not an obligation.
18. Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements:
– I am thankful for __________.
– Today I accomplished____________.
19. Smile and laugh more. They are natural anti-depressants.
20. Enjoy the ride. You only have one ride through life so make the most of it and enjoy it.
“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
Dr Wayne Dyer
An elderly woman from Brooklyn decided to prepare her will and make her final requests.
She told her rabbi she had two final requests. First, she wanted to be cremated, and second, she wanted her ashes scattered over Bloomingdales.
"Bloomingdales!" the rabbi exclaimed. "Why Bloomingdales?"
"Then I’ll be sure my daughters visit me twice a week."
If you find in your heart to care for somebody else, you will have succeeded.
A few years ago readers of the late William Safire’s "On Language" column in THE NEW YORK TIMES MAGAZINE were asked to give sports-related definitions for common words:
Superficial: A really good referee
Beleaguered: Stuck in the semi pros
Hermit: Girl’s baseball glove
Saturnine: Baseball team that plays on weekends
Truncate: Tailgate party given by a compact-car owner
Wrinkle: A small hockey arena
Haiku: Signal to center from a Japanese quarterback
One discovers a friend by chance, and cannot but feel regret that 20 or 30 years of life may have been spent without the least knowledge of him.
Charles Dudley Warner
Jane says that there are seven stages to the married cold
Stage 1: Sugar Dumpling, I’ve really been worried about my baby girl. That’s a bad sniffle, and there’s no telling about these things with all the strep that’s going around. I’m going to put you in the hospital for a general check-up and a good rest. I know the food’s terrible, but I’m going to bring you dinner every night from Rosini’s. I have it all arranged with the floor supervisor.
Stage 2: Listen, Darling, I don’t like the sound of that cough. I’m going to call Doc Miller to rush over here. Now you go to bed like a good girl just for Papa.
Stage 3: Maybe you’d better lie down, Honey. Nothing like a little rest when you feel lousy. I’ll bring you something. Do we have any canned soup?
Stage 4: Now look, Dear, be sensible. After you’ve fed the kids, and gotten the dishes done, and the floor mopped, you’d better lie down for a while.
Stage 5: Why don’t you take a couple of aspirins?
Stage 6: Why don’t you just gargle or something instead of sitting around barking like a seal all evening?
Stage 7: Would you stop coughing on me? Are you trying to give me pneumonia?
The person who says it cannot be done should not interrupt the person doing it.
The first car load of Boy Scouts had left my house minutes earlier, bound for our three day wilderness trip. As I backed my own van load of Scouts out of my garage, I noticed a pair of hiking boots on the back steps, so I stopped to retrieve them.
An hour later, we caught up with the first car, which was parked at a highway rest stop. Seeing me pull up, my assistant Scout leader rolled down his window. "Your wife just called on my cell phone," he said. "She asked if you knew anything about the plumber’s boots that were on your back steps."
“If a child is to keep alive his inborn sense of wonder, he needs the companionship of at least one adult who can share it, rediscovering with him the joy, excitement and mystery of the world we live in.”
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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