Every man should be born again on the first day of January. Start with a fresh page. Take up one hole more in the buckle if necessary, or let down one, according to circumstances; but on the first of January let every man gird himself once more, with his face to the front, and take no interest in the things that were and are past.
Henry Ward Beecher
I think I hear the drums that accompany the marchers who will lead the New Year in and will soon take the old year out. Truthfully I am not sorry to see it go, it took its toll on far too many folks and many have not much to show for what they have gone through. Fortunately many will find some benefit from learning that most of us really don’t need all the things we thought we did and that we can live simpler and often happier lives. Shame on us if we revert back to our old ways when the economy loosens up.
Anyway it is time to start to make those dreaded New Year’s resolutions. If you are like I am you will want to take the process more seriously this year and set goals that you will lay the foundation for a better and more stable life in the years ahead.
Awhile ago I stumbled across a blog someone put up which focused on the fact that money is not everything. I tried to find his full name but all I could find was the name Trent. I think his thoughts are worth considering. Here is an edited version of what he said.
Three and a half years ago, I was in a desperate debt situation. I had let money become the most important thing in my life. It drove all of my choices and decisions. It chose my career for me. It chose my specific job for me. It chose how I spent my free time – I did expensive things to escape from the debts and the pressure-filled work, usually with a device on my hip that chained me to that job. I was desperate and unhappy. Today, I realize something much more compelling. Money is not the most important thing in life. In fact, in a healthy life, money often follows behind many other elements in your life. If you put your energy and time into other things more important than money, money will follow.
Here are fifteen things I’ve found that are more important than money.
Experiences – Hug someone. Kiss someone. Write someone a letter telling them how you feel. Run (or walk) a marathon. Spend all day making an exquisite meal and eat it by candlelight. The rush you get from experiencing something amazing is one of the best parts of being human, and most of the time the financial cost is minimal.
Wisdom – If you think you know the answer, you’re far from wise. Keep learning. Wisdom comes from knowing how little you actually know. Spend some time learning something new, perhaps even becoming skilled at something. You’ll surprise yourself at what you gain, often far beyond the mere knowledge you hoped to attain.
Marriage – Accepting another person wholly and intimately into your life is utterly life-changing. Opening up every part of yourself to another person is constantly challenging, but constantly powerful in how it changes you and makes you strive to be a better person.
Friendships – The regular companionship and camaraderie of people you care about and share interests with is continually life-affirming. Friendships don’t revolve around the things you have or the activities you can afford – they revolve around people and shared experiences.
Physical health – Health can’t be bought, but it can be helped by the personal choices we make. Exercise. Eating better. Making choices that are less sedentary. Getting involved with activities that get us movingMoney pales in comparison to the value of the physical health needed to enjoy life.
Mental health – On the flip side of the physical coin is mental health. Expressing our feelings in a healthy way. Finding people to talk to and relate our problems. Addressing the issues that bother us. Seeking Again, money is insignificant compared to the value of mental balance.
Personal passions – What activities make you feel truly excited and fulfilled? Those things are the spice of life – every one of us wins by digging into our passions. The best part? Quite often, seeking out and following your passions often means that money will follow in the wake.
Communication – The ability to express our thoughts and feelings to a receptive audience is truly invaluable. it enables us to share elements of our inner world with others, something that can’t be achieved by all of the material wealth on this planet.
Self-reliance – Money comes, money goes. The ability to survive and even thrive with no money means that money becomes significantly less important. The ability to do things yourself reduces the need you have for money to solve your problems.
Security – If we channel our efforts into creating a safe and secure environment where we’re protected from our failures, we create a situation where our fortunes are much less tied to our ability to put money in our pocket. If we put effort into security now, we have true safety later, a type of safety that can’t be broken by ordinary material needs.
Helping others – For most people, the action of helping others provides a great deal of personal joy and satisfaction, something that cannot be replaced by any sort of material item.
Personal growth – Every single person has countless opportunities to improve as a person – their behavior, their beliefs, and so forth. Working to grow as a person only improves you and rarely costs anything.
Thankfulness – When you move from desiring the things that you do not have to being thankful for the things that you do have, your perspective on the world changes drastically.
Hobbies – If you can discover personally fulfilling activities to fill your time, you introduce happiness into your life. Many people fall into routines by default, never asking if their choices introduce authentic happiness, then they try to chase a sense of happiness by purchasing things. Try new things, and dig into the things you genuinely enjoy. Often, it’s the simplest that bring us the greatest personal satisfaction.
Spirituality – Does our life have a purpose? Do we have a spirit? Is there something greater than we can comprehend all around us? Digging into these questions through reading, contemplation, meditation, and prayer can bring an incredible sense of calm, peace, and even joy that can be difficult to find in other avenues – and impossible to find with money.
I know this is a much longer piece than I usually use to lead the Daily but since we are about to start anew I wanted us to consider our choices.
Then sing, young hearts that are full of cheer, with never a thought of sorrow; the old goes out, but the glad young year comes merrily in tomorrow.
A first-grade teacher was overseeing her students as they experimented with their desk computers. One boy sat staring at the screen, unsure how to get the computer going.
The teacher walked over and read what was on his screen. In her most reassuring voice, she said, "The computer wants to know what your name is," then she walked over to the next child.
The boy leaned toward the screen and whispered, "My name is David."
"Grown-ups never understand anything for themselves, and it is tiresome for children to be always and forever explaining things to them."
The Little Prince
She told me:
Okay, Okay, it all makes sense now…I never looked at it this way before:
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"Isn’t it interesting that the same people who laugh at science fiction listen to weather forecasts and economists?"
Kelvin Throop III
A couple was celebrating their golden wedding anniversary. Their domestic tranquility had long been the talk of the town, "What a peaceful and loving couple." A local newspaper reporter was inquiring as to the secret of their long and happy marriage. "Well, it dates back to our honeymoon," explained the man. "We visited the Grand Canyon and took a trip down to the bottom of the canyon on a mule pack. We hadn’t gone too far when my wife’s mule stumbled. My wife quietly said, ‘That’s once!’ We proceeded a little further and the mule stumbled again. Once more my wife quietly said, ‘That’s twice.’ We hadn’t gone a half-mile when the mule stumbled the third time. My wife quietly removed a revolver from her purse and shot the mule dead.
I started an angry protest over her treatment of the mule, when she looked at me, and quietly said, ‘That’s once.’ And we lived happily ever after."
Youth is when you’re allowed to stay up late on New Year’s Eve.
Middle age is when you’re forced to.
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