“When you do nothing, you feel overwhelmed and powerless. But when you get involved, you feel the sense of hope and accomplishment that comes from knowing you are working to make things better.”
In looking back over the past month or so and my health situation I reflected on how close I came to using my problems as an excuse for me to avoid opportunities to help others. I am glad I didn’t succumb to the temptation of staying back and letting others try to do what needed to be done. Thankfully I realized that there never has been a time in my memory when those that can’t need those of us who can.
I didn’t do much, but I did get to participate in my Kiwanis Club’s Clothe-a-Child program and was rewarded by the smiles and hugs I got from a single mother and her nine year old son as we got him some new clothes to keep him warm this winter. Also I did not do anything really special but I did get to spend three days taking phone call in donations from folks who cared enough to contribute to the Salvation Army’s Christmas fund and to share their good hearts with me for a few minutes while on the phone.
A good friend wrote me yesterday and expressed concern that I had tried to do too much too fast. While I was prepared to back off if I couldn’t perform I did not let myself quit before I even started and as I shared with my friend it turned out that the time spent was the best possible therapy I could have.
Why is it that so many of us take the easy way out and excuse ourselves from opportunity to help others when the rewards we receive when we do do are so great? Fortunately I think I have got to the point where the fear of not doing what I can outweighs my fear of doing what I can. The wise Don Marston wrote almost ten years ago that even if we can come up with an excuse we shouldn’t avoid our opportunities, here is what he wrote:
You can always find a good excuse not to take action. But what would you rather have — good excuses or the real, satisfying fruits of achievement? There is always some person or some circumstance you can blame when you fail to live up to your possibilities. But what good will that do you?
The next time you find yourself looking for a good excuse, stop and ask yourself why. Keeping up appearances is easy. All it gets you, though, is a good superficial appearance. Wouldn’t you rather go for real substance?
There are many very good, very understandable reasons why you cannot be the best you can be. Pay them no heed. Make the commitment to succeed in spite of the excuses, rather than to fail because of them. It’s your choice.
There are plenty of things to stop you. Go ahead and do it anyway. Instead of amassing a large collection of excuses, build yourself a life that’s rich in meaning and accomplishment.
If I have been of service, if I have glimpsed more of the nature and essence of ultimate good, if I am inspired to reach wider horizons of thought and action, if I am at peace with myself, it has been a successful day.
Here are some more words for you to use in your conversations today.
Lactomangulation (lak’ to man gyu lay’ shun) n. Manhandling the ‘open here’ spout on a milk container so badly that one has to resort to the ‘illegal’ side.
Peppier (pehp ee ay’) n. The waiter at a fancy restaurant whose sole purpose seems to be walking around asking diners if they want ground pepper.
Telecrastination (tel e kras tin ay’ shun) n. The act of always letting the phone ring at least twice before you pick it up, even when you’re only six inches away.
Hypochondriacs are just like fishermen, because neither have to catch anything to be happy.
A site foreman had ten very lazy men working for him, so one day he decided to trick them into doing some work for a change.
"I’ve got a really easy job today for the laziest one among you," he announced. "Will the laziest man please put his hand up?"
Nine hands went up.
"Why didn’t you put your hand up?" he asked the tenth man. "Too much trouble," came the reply.
Marriage changes passion … suddenly you’re in bed with a relative.
A woman goes to a bank and meets with a loan officer.
"I want a loan," she tells him. "I’m going to divorce my husband."
"Oh, we don’t give loans for divorces," says the loan officer. "We do make loans for automobiles, businesses, home improvements …"
The woman interrupts. "Well, getting rid of him would certainly be a home improvement!"
The happiness of life is made up of minute fractions–the little, soon-forgotten charities of a kiss or smile, a kind look or heartfelt compliment.
Samuel Taylor Coleridge
A little boy had been pawing over a stationer’s stock of greeting cards for some time when a clerk asked, "Just what is it you’re looking for? A birthday greeting, message to a sick friend, Anniversary or a congratulations to your mom and dad?"
The boy shook his head and answered, "Got any like a blank report card?"
She said, “I haven’t found Mr. Right, but I have found Mr. Cheap, Mr. Sleazy, and Mr. Wrong.”
An 85-year-old widow went on a blind date with a 90-year-old man. When she returned to her daughter’s house later that night, she seemed upset.
"What happened, Mother?" the daughter asked.
"I had to slap his face three times!"
"You mean he got fresh?"
"No," she answered…
"I thought he was dead!"
"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds."
My wife said:
Women are honest, loyal, and forgiving. They are smart, knowing that knowledge is power.
But they still know how to use their softer side to make a point. Women want to be the best for their family, their friends, and themselves.
Their hearts break when a friend dies. They have sorrow at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.
A woman can make a romantic evening unforgettable.
Women come in all sizes, in all colors and shapes. They live in homes, apartments and cabins. They drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what makes the world spin! Women do more than just give birth. They bring joy and hope. They give compassion and ideals.
They give moral support to their family and friends. And all they want back is a hug, a smile and for you to do the same to people you come in contact with.
Men are good at lifting heavy stuff and killing spiders.
At my age, forget all the health food. I need all the preservatives I can get
"Happiness is the only good. The time to be happy is now.
The place to be happy is here. The way to be happy is to make others so."
Robert G. Ingersoll
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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