"The future is not a result of choices among alternative paths offered by the present, but a place that is created–created first in the mind and will, created next in activity…. The paths are not to be found, but made, and the activity of making them, changes both the maker and the destination."
As the years go by I have learned that life is filled with unexpected twists and turns. Economic conditions change requiring adjustments in purchasing plans, vacations, and expensive entertainments. Health issues arise that limit our ability to perform as well as we had in the past. Life partners require more attention and in some cases pass on. Job loss, moves, children leaving the nest and so much more can throw us off stride. When we encounter roadblocks and detours some of us just stop and wait for the road to reopen which most times is a futile exercise, others find a different road and move on.
I often spend time with friends who are locked down allowing memories of past accomplishments that can no longer be replicated to block them from moving forward. They often sit in pain believing that their only hope is a miracle that will restore them to what they once were. What concerns me is that they miss so much that they could be doing that often would give them as much pleasure as other activities did in the past. One of the great gifts that life gives us is a lot more things to see, do and learn about than we could absorb in a hundred life times much less one.
I have had enough health and professional challenges to learn that taking a path I have never walked before provides exciting new opportunities, new friendships and added experiences that add to my capabilities. My heroes are the people who remember the good from the past, work to understand what they might do and then expand their horizons. I told a friend the other day that the limits his health has placed on his ability to perform athletically has freed up hours that I would love to have since I could use them to follow other pursuits that would add new meaning to my life.
I actually believe the blind can see; they see through the eyes of others who have left them great novels, reports of the wonders of the world and a wealth of knowledge. They have learned that their limitations open alternative ways to cope that can make up for what was missed. In fact in some respect the sightless see more than those who have isolated themselves within the walls of doing the same thing day, after day, after day…..
Bottom line some of us allow ourselves to be pushed into a rut by events and others of us just live in a rut all the time. Here is something that Michael Bungay Stanier wrote that may help if you if you would like to join with those of us who have decided to follow the yellow brick road to new adventures.
4 steps to find a new groove
Too often our ‘revealed preferences’ reveal a life that’s less than we imagine for ourselves. Follow this exercise and see if you can find a new groove.
1. Scan your life and pick a general area where you feel you’ve got into a comfortable rut. There’s plenty of places to look: your role at work; a regular commitment you have to perform; your relationship with your partner, your boss, your kids, your parents; your idea of fun; how you maintain your heath; what you eat; your physical environment. Yep, it’s the whole life, full enchilada scan.
2. Now that you’ve picked one of those areas, dig a little deeper. First step is to pick out what you really like, the things you don’t want to change. You might consider not changing: parts of your behavior; the people involved; the location; the ‘things’ – whatever ‘stuff’ is involved.
3. Now you’re clear on what you want to keep the same, can you see one thing that you’d like to change? One person, one behavior, one element of the mix that you’d like to be new?
4. Pick an action: get rid of it entirely; add something to it; remove something; rearrange it to a different position; do it in a different order; bring in something new; break the rules.
I’m not really asking you to rearrange your entire world here. But perhaps it’s time to step out onto a new path.
"Where the old tracks are lost, new country is revealed with its wonders."
A young boy came to Sunday School late. His teacher knew that he was usually very prompt and asked him if anything was wrong.
The boy replied no, that he was going fishing but his dad told him that he needed to go to church. The teacher was very impressed and asked the boy if his dad had explained to him why it was more important to go to church than to go fishing.
To which the boy replied, yes he did, dad said he didn’t have enough bait for both of us.
See no evil, hear no evil, date no evil.
FATAL THINGS TO SAY IF YOUR WIFE IS PREGNANT
"I finished the Oreos."
"Not to imply anything, but I don’t think the kid weighs forty pounds."
"Y’know, looking at her, you’d never guess that Pamela Lee had a baby."
"I sure hope your thighs aren’t gonna stay like that!"
"Well, couldn’t they induce labour? The 25th is the Super Bowl."
"Are your ankles supposed to look like that?"
"Get your own ice cream."
"In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life. It goes on."
Jolene had been wanting new kitchen cabinets for a long time, but her husband insisted they were an extravagance. She went to visit her Mother for two weeks, and when she returned, she was overjoyed to find that beautiful new cabinets had been installed.
A few days later a neighbor came over to visit and after admiring the new cabinets, the neighbor added, "All of us were so glad that the fire your husband had while you were gone was confined to the kitchen."
True friends are those who really know you but love you anyway.
"So," the woman asked the detective she had hired, "did you trail my husband?"
"Yes ma’am. I did. I followed him to a bar, to an out of the way restaurant and then to an apartment."
A big smile crossed the woman’s face, "Aha!! Then I’ve got him!" she said, gloating." Is there any doubt what he was doing?"
"No ma’am." replied the sleuth, "It’s pretty clear that he was following you!"
"Everybody needs his memories. They keep the wolf of insignificance from the door."
Early in their marriage, the old professor did something really stupid. Doesn’t matter what it was, for the sake of this story, just trust me… it was stupid.
Mrs. Perfesser chewed him out for it. Knowing it was really dumb, he sensibly apologized, and they made up. However, from time to time, Mrs. Professor reminds him what a dolt he had been on that occasion.
"Honey," the old professor finally said one day, "why do you keep bringing that up? I thought your policy was ‘forgive and forget’?"
"It is," said Mrs. Professor. "I just don’t want you to forget that I’ve forgiven and forgotten."
You’re only young once, but you can be immature forever.
Miss Figpot was quizzing her third-grade students on their spelling words. She asked Little Johnny to spell "straight." Johnny did so without error.
"Now," said the teacher, "what does it mean?"
Johnny replied, "Without water."
It is not a lucky word, this "impossible"; no good comes of those who have it so often in their mouth.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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