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Life is better the second time around!

Slaves are anyone who refuses to free themselves from the doldrums of their jobs

Arthur Tugman




Yesterday a friend and I talked about the mid-life changes that are being made everyday by more people than ever before. While it is true that most have been unplanned fortunately when it does happen there is a choice; people can either invest in a life that may well be better than they ever dreamed possible or they can sink into despair waiting to be rescued. I suggested to my friend that these opportunities for rebirth provide us what we never had when we lived our first lives. Then people taught us what they thought we needed to know. We got on a path suggested by others and diligently followed it, seldom asking ourselves if this was really what we wanted to do. Far too many of us watched out the window thinking we were passing through the world when most often it was really the world passing us by. Soon days turned into months, months into years and time never stopped, nor did many of us pause to ask if life had more to offer. Too many of us waited until it was too late to do anything different.

Fortunately, like the cat, we have the ability to have more than one life, in my case I have had three so far, each better than the last. I was not smart enough when my first career ended to realize what a great opportunity I had been given. Happily I soon found that great things could be had just around the corner or just over the hill. I became a great believer in following Robert Frost’s path less taken, for I found that the path leads to places few have been and where you find the most fertile fields.

I often wonder if I really am wise enough to suggest something that will be of worth to others. So if you are in the process of rebirth you might find some of the ideas of life coach Michael Masterson more helpful than what I might offer. Here are a few of his suggestions for pulling yourself up out of whatever rut you might find yourself:

……there is no reason to ever be in a slump. It’s true. And here’s better news: Getting yourself out of a funk is relatively easy to do.

1. Recognize that you are very low in energy . . . and energy is what you need.  Imagine that inside your brain there is a motivation panel. The panel contains dozens of fuses, each one a conductor of energy. When you hit a slump, many of these fuses have blown. Blown fuses – any sort of negative, self-deprecating or self-limiting thoughts – must be removed before they can be replaced with good ones. To take out your blown fuses:

•Recognize that your slump will pass. (It passed before, didn’t it?)

•Try not to be mad at yourself. (After all, this is basically a biochemical problem.)

•Remind yourself how lucky you are. (Think Christopher Reeve.)

•If you are worried about a particular problem, imagine the worst outcome and then figure out how you will survive it. This will neutralize the anxiety.

2. Do something – anything – that gives you a little charge. The idea is to think/say/do a number of things that you’ve found through experience charge you up a little. Some things that work for me might work for you. Try these:

•Put on some music. Loud. Choose something that will "pump you up," as they say. This morning’s selection for me was "Help Me Rhonda" by the Beach Boys. Very therapeutic.

•Dance. (Make sure no one is looking.)

•If you can’t force yourself to dance, do some kind of wild exercises. Frantic jumping jacks. Leapfrogging across the carpet. (Do this in private too.)

•Stand in front of a mirror and smile. Smile one hundred times. Did you know that the physical act of smiling releases endorphins? You won’t believe it until you try it. Go ahead.

If you do enough of this stuff . . . and you’ve really rid yourself of your blown fuses . . . you are ready for the third step (which is really the key to the entire process).

3. Complete a worthwhile task – something useful that has value to you.

The trick is to have a ready inventory of meaningful tasks that need doing. If you are a busy person, this won’t be a problem. The tasks you have set aside in inventory should be relatively small in scope – you should be able to complete them in a few hours at most.


If you are like I am you’ll find the landscape at the top edge of the rut is fertile and full of exciting opportunity.



Age is all imagination. Ignore years and they’ll ignore you.

Ella Wheeler-Wilcox


Martin was a slow worker and found it difficult to hold down a job. After a visit to the job centre he was offered work at the local Zoo. When he arrived for his first day, the keeper aware of his reputation told him to take care of the tortoise section. Later, the keeper dropped by to see how Martin was getting on and found him standing by an empty enclosure.

"Where are the tortoises?" he asked him.

"I can’t believe it" said Martin "I just opened the door and then…..Whooooosh!"


Happiness is too easy to lose – next time I find some, I’m going to hide it.


In a high school science quiz, there was the question, "When water becomes ice, which of its physical properties increases?"

Everyone answered, "Its volume increases."  Except one wise guy who wrote, "When water becomes ice, its price increases."


It’s no use having a good memory unless you have something good to remember.


Nine year old Joey was asked by his mother what he had learned at Sunday school.

"Well, Mom, our teacher told us how God sent Moses behind enemy lines on a rescue mission to lead the Israelites out of Egypt. "When he got to the Red Sea, he had his engineers build a pontoon bridge and all the people walked across safely. "Then he used his walkie-talkie to radio headquarters for reinforcements. They sent bombers to blow up the bridge and all the Israelites were saved."

"Now, Joey, is that really what your teacher taught you?" his mother asked.

"Well, no. But if I told it the way the teacher did, you’d never believe it!"


A student was asked to list the 10 Commandments in any order.

His answer? "3, 6, 1, 8, 4, 5, 9, 2, 10, 7".


To pass the time while our plane was being de-iced, the flight attendants played a trivia game with the passengers.  They asked us to guess the total number of years the three of them had worked for the airlines.

After an attendant collected our estimates, we heard the announcement: "The correct answer is 26 years.  For the two people who came closest with 28 years, we have prizes.  And for the passenger in seat 12F who guessed 85 years, would you please step off the plane once we are airborne?"


Any intelligent fool can make things bigger and more complex.

It takes a touch of genius – and a lot of courage to move in the opposite direction.


It was October and the Indians on a remote reservation asked their new Chief if the coming winter was going to be cold or mild?

Since he was a Chief in a modern society, he had never been taught the old secrets. When he looked at the sky he couldn’t tell what the winter was going to be like. Nevertheless, to be on the safe side, he told his tribe that the winter was indeed going to be cold and that the members of the village should collect firewood to be prepared. But being a practical leader, after several days he got an idea. He went to a phone booth, called the National Weather Service and asked, "Is the coming winter going to be cold?"

"It looks like this winter is going to be quite cold," the meteorologist at the weather service responded.

So the Chief went back to his people and told them to collect even more firewood in order to be prepared. A week later he called the National Weather Service again. "Does it still look like it is going to be a very cold winter?"

"Yes," the man at National Weather Service again replied, "it’s going to be a very cold winter."

The Chief again went back to his people and ordered them to collect every scrap of firewood they could find. Two weeks later the Chief called the National Weather Service again. "Are you absolutely sure that the winter is going to be very cold?"

"Absolutely, " the man replied. "It’s looking more and more like it is going to be one of the coldest winters ever."

"How can you be so sure?" the Chief asked.

The weatherman replied, "The Indians are collecting firewood like crazy."


Use what talent you possess: the woods would be very silent if no birds sang except those that sang best.

Henry Van Dyke


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.


Ray Mitchell

 Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies.

The editor is somewhat senile.


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Words Matter

“Thoughts and words create our future experience."

Louise Hay




During periods of challenge in life I find that far too many just give into bad times, they do not just fear the worst, they expect it. If you ask them about alternatives they will often tell you that there aren’t any. Often these are the folks that spend all of their waking hours in a gray world filled with drab experiences. Frequently these are people who tell you why you should be as unhappy as they are don’t listen to them! If one path is blocked explore and find an alternate, if you can no longer compete with others, compete with yourself and find rewards in the process of building a new you.

One thing I am sure of, if you quit before you start there will be nothing for you at the finish line. If you’re sure you are destined for a life of failure I am sure you’ll be right. Sadly failure for many is mainly the result of self fulfilling prophesy.

I was talking to a friend the other morning when the subject of luck came up. I suggested that what is luck in the eyes of many is really the result of someone who expects positive things to happen, people who are ready to climb aboard when they see the signs of something better. Others spend so much time looking for what is wrong that they have little time to see what might be right.

Here is what one of my favorite French Canadians, Marie-Pier Charron sent me years ago that reminds us what damage negativism can do.


So you’d like to grow beyond your limits? Here’s my tip: stop talking about them so much!

Verbalizing our fears and our weaknesses certainly is therapeutic and, sometimes, essential. Putting them into words can help us make peace with them (which is very constructive, since it’s much easier to change what we accept). But are you ready for the next step?

Every time we repeat “I don’t have good self-esteem”, “I’m afraid of public-speaking”, “I hate doing the laundry” or “I’m not good with numbers”, we anchor these fragments of reality deeper into our lives, into our identity. Even if they seem inoffensive, the words we repeatedly use condition our subconscious mind, they influence our self-image… and our actions.

Since words can be powerful change agents, I invite you to select them wisely. Speak like the person you choose to be!

If you’d really like to be a good cook, for example, stop saying – even as a joke – that you can’t even boil water. If you aspire to be in shape and shed a few pounds, stop repeating that you hate exercising. Get out of your own way…

Ray, what words do you regularly use to talk about yourself or your life? Do they elevate you, or do they make you stagnate – or shrink, even? And which words and sentences are you ready to remove from your repertoire? You are welcome if you’d like to share them with me!


P.S.: I just found this great quote by Lucille Ball, and I’d like to share it with you: "Learn the art of taking care of yourself and remember that there is a very fine distinction between being selfish and taking care of yourself. If you take care of yourself, others won’t have to".


We must learn to reawaken and keep ourselves awake, not by mechanical aid, but by an infinite expectation of the dawn.

Henry David Thoreau:


A group of elderly Jewish men meet every Wednesday for a coffee and a chat. They drink their coffee and then sit for hours discussing the world situation. Usually, their discussion is very negative.

One day, Moishe surprises his friends by announcing, loud and clear, "You know what? I’ve now become an optimist."

Everyone is totally shocked and all conversation dries up.

But then Sam notices something isn’t quite right and he says to Moishe, "Hold on a minute, if you’re an optimist, why are you looking so worried?"

Moishe replies, "Do you think its easy being an optimist?"


You know you’re into middle age when you realize that caution is the only thing you care to exercise.


A passenger jet was suffering through a severe thunderstorm. As the passengers were being bounced around by the turbulence a young woman turned to a minister sitting next to her and with a nervous laugh asks, "Reverend, you’re a man of God, can’t you do something about this storm?"

To which he replies, "Lady, I’m in sales, not management."


"If it wasn’t for pick-pockets and frisking at airports I’d have no sex life at all."

Rodney Dangerfield


My friend, the manager of a grocery store, nabbed a shoplifter in the act.  He was escorting the suspect to the office in the front, near the cash registers, when the shoplifter broke from his grip and tried to run away.

After a scuffle, my friend pinned him against the wall and looked up to see a number of surprised customers staring at him.

"Everything’s fine, Folks," he reassured them.  "This guy just tried to go through the express line with more than nine items."


"The main fault we, as human beings have, is the preoccupation with the faults of others."


The mother of a problem child was advised by a psychiatrist: "You are far too upset and worried

about your son. I suggest you take tranquilizers regularly."

On her next visit the psychiatrist asked, "Have the tranquilizers calmed you down?"

"Yes" the mother answered.

"And how is your son now?" he asked.

"Who cares?" she replied.


In the frozen foods department of our local grocery store, I noticed a man shopping with his son. As I walked by, he checked something off his list, and I heard him whisper conspiratorially to the child, "You know, if we really mess this up, we’ll never have to do it again."


Too bad the only people who know how to run the country are busy driving cabs and cutting hair.


An Australian travel writer touring Canada was checking out of the Vancouver Hilton, and as he paid his bill said to the manager, "By the way, what’s with the Indian chief sitting in the lobby?

He’s been there ever since I arrived."

"Oh that’s ‘Big Chief Forget-me-Not’ ," said the manager.

"The hotel is built on an Indian reservation, and part of the agreement is to allow the chief free use of the premises for the rest of his life. He is known as ‘Big Chief Forget-me-Not’

because of his phenomenal memory. He is 92 and can remember the slightest details of his life."

The travel writer took this in, and as he was waiting for his cab, decided to put the chief’s memory to the test. "G’day, mate!" said the Aussie, receiving only a slight nod in return.

"What did you have for breakfast on your 21st birthday?"

"Eggs," was the chief’s instant reply, without even looking up, and indeed the Aussie was impressed.

He went off on his travel writing itinerary, right across to the East coast and back, telling others of Big Chief Forget-me-Not’ s great memory. (One local noted to him that ‘How’ was a more appropriate greeting for an Indian chief than ‘G’day mate.’)

On his return to the Vancouver Hilton six months later, he was surprised to see ‘Big Chief Forget-me-Not’ still sitting in the lobby, fully occupied with whittling away on a stick. "How," said the Aussie.

"Scrambled," said the Chief.


What we see depends mainly on what we look for.

John Lubbock


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.


Ray Mitchell

 Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies.

The editor is somewhat senile.


This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can join at http://groups.google.com/group/Rays-Daily. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal currently there are about 1500 readers from all over the world.

Thank you Susan

Because I have loved life, I shall have no sorrow to die.

Amelia Burr:



I had planned on writing about comfort zones today but something came up that is more important. You see I sent the following poem to a respected friend and it triggered a response that is both poignant and loving.


Train of Life

Some folks ride the train of life

Looking out the rear,

Watching miles of life roll by,

And marking every year.


They sit in sad remembrance,

Of wasted days gone by,

And curse their life for what it was,

And hang their head and cry.


But I don’t concern myself with that,

I took a different vent,

I look forward to what life holds,

And not what has been spent.


So strap me to the engine,

As securely as I can be,

I want to be out on the front,

To see what I can see.


I want to feel the winds of change,

Blowing in my face,

I want to see what life unfolds,

As I move from place to place.


I want to see what’s coming up,

Not looking at the past,

Life’s too short for yesterdays,

It moves along too fast.


So if the ride gets bumpy,

While you are looking back,

Go up front, and you may find,

Your life has jumped the track.


It’s all right to remember,

That’s part of history,

But up front’s where it’s happening,

There’s so much mystery.

The enjoyment of living,

Is not where we have been,

It’s looking ever forward,

To another year and ten.


It’s searching all the byways,

Never should you refrain,

For if you want to live your life,

You gotta drive the train!


Susan wrote:

This is perfect for me right now as my mom is in hospice and losing her pep….her steam. I enjoy all the great memories. I want to make more with her, but …..well, you understand….her vitals are good, but her spirit seems to be giving up since we had to move her out of her lovely, sweet apartment and into a nursing home. I want her to move in with me, but she says she can’t make the trip.

I guess her train is sort of sitting in the transfer station right now….and I’m sad.

Not to say that James, the dogs and Mother Nature don’t lure me to the front of the train. Life is good, we’re happy here in Dobbs…there’s just this pull back to be with my mother….I want to make her life bright and fun….go on walks together, lunch, laugh, little day trips….but, it’s feeling more and more out of my control these days. Maybe this is just the way it is….she’s pulling out of the train station….slowly but surely….towards a new adventure on the other side of the "mountain of earthly delights".

It’s like she’s fading away from us. I miss her lively conversations on the phone and her zest to put on her gym shoes and go out for a walk. I’m still looking at it as the glass 3/4 full….hoping for a bounce.

So, anyway, I’ve gotta go strap myself to the engine!

Thanks, Ray,

Love ya, Suse


Watching dear ones move towards their last days is probably one of the toughest things any of us will ever face. It’s a time when we can celebrate a life well lived or just agonize around what the loss means to ourselves. I feel that my friend Susan knows what we all need to learn and that is just how important it is to help those we care about leave this earth with grace. Her mom will leave her and all of her moms friends a monument to a life well lived.

Susan is an actress who is use to the curtain calls that accompany a fine performance and knowing her she will lead the standing ovation that will be so well deserved by someone who played the role that life provided with all of her heart and soul. And I know that I will join Susan in spirit as part of the appreciative audience.

Just like in the theatre the plaudits do not have to wait until the curtain falls for the last time, nor do we even have to wait until the last act. Thank you Susan you have helped me realize how important it is to let those close to me know how much I enjoy their performances and I will make sure that I don’t wait until the end of the play to applaud.




I hope you will understand that I am going to skip the humor today. I just want to bask in the image that Susan has placed in my mind. The image appears to have the face of many who I have cared about who also lived the good life often giving much more than they needed to, while they are gone and I miss them, they left behind fond memories that I often revisit and I am grateful to them all.

I hope you have a great weekend and I’ll see you Monday.


Love life and life will love you back. Love people and they will love you back.

Arthur Rubinstein


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.


Ray Mitchell

 Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies.

The editor is somewhat senile.


This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can join at http://groups.google.com/group/Rays-Daily. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal currently there are about 1500 readers from all over the world.

I will, will you?

“The problems of the world cannot possibly be solved by skeptics or cynics whose horizons are limited by the obvious realities. We need men who can dream of things that never were.”

John Fitzgerald Kennedy




As you know I am prone to finding an excuse to create a new Daily now and then and when I do I just send out an old one. Well today I am going to send out a previous Daily but not because I am too lazy but because I reread it the other day and decided it applies today as much as it did when I wrote it in June of 2002. So here we go again, a look back 7 years.


If you are like I am you find the problems of the world today spread a cloud across so much of what we do and see that it makes coping with reality a real challenge.

  • We try to balance our search for security with our great love of personal freedom.
  • We fear for the future of the children while we bask in the joy they give us.
  • We search for security during insecure times.

Unfortunately many think we have only two choices, total self centered ignorance that allows one to ignore what’s going around them, or unbridled pessimism that drags them into the depth of despair. For most of us there is a middle ground. What follows is something that was sent to me that if we all do what it suggests we will make life better for ourselves as well as for others.


Today let us promise ourselves….

To be so strong that nothing can disturb our peace of mind.

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person we meet.

To make all our friends feel that there is something special in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make our optimism come true.

To think only the best, to work only for the best, and to expect only the best.

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as we are about our own.

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the greater achievements of the future.

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature we meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of our self that we have no time to criticize others.

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear; and too happy to permit the presence of trouble.

To think well of ourselves and to proclaim this fact to the world, not in loud words, but in great deeds.

To live in the faith that the whole world is on your side so long as we are true to the best that is in us.


The great tragedy of life is not that men perish, but that they cease to love.

William Somerset Maugham


In an upscale pet-supply store, a customer wanted to buy a red sweater for her dog. The clerk suggested that she bring her dog in for a proper fit.

"I can’t do that!" she said.  "The sweater is going to be a surprise!"


The Images of Mother

4 YEARS OF AGE ~ My Mommy can do anything!

8 YEARS OF AGE ~ My Mom knows a lot! A whole lot!

12 YEARS OF AGE ~ My Mother doesn’t really know quite everything.

14 YEARS OF AGE ~ Naturally, Mother doesn’t know that, either.

16 YEARS OF AGE ~ Mother? She’s hopelessly old-fashioned.

18 YEARS OF AGE ~ That old woman? She’s way out of date!

25 YEARS OF AGE ~ Well, she might know a little bit about it.

35 YEARS OF AGE ~ Before we decide, let’s get Mom’s opinion.

45 YEARS OF AGE ~ Wonder what Mom thinks about it?

65 YEARS OF AGE ~ Wish I could talk it over with Mom.


Diner: I can’t eat such a rotten chicken. Call the manager!

Waiter: It’s no use. He won’t eat it either.


Every time a new Pope is elected, there’s a whole lot of rituals and ceremonies that have to be gone through, in accordance with tradition. Well there’s one tradition that very few people know about. Shortly after the new Pope is enthroned, the Chief Rabbi seeks an audience. He is shown into the Pope’s presence, whereupon he presents him with a silver tray bearing a velvet cushion. On top of the cushion is an ancient, shriveled parchment envelope.

The Pope symbolically stretches out his arm in a gesture of rejection. The Chief Rabbi then retires, taking the envelope with him and does not return until the next Pope is elected. John Paul II was intrigued by this ritual, whose origins were unknown to him. He instructed the best scholars of the Vatican to research it, but they came up with nothing. When the time came and the Chief Rabbi was shown into his presence, he faithfully enacted the ritual rejection but, as the Chief Rabbi turned to leave, he called him back.

"My brother," the Holy Father whispered, "I must confess that we Catholics are ignorant of the meaning of this ritual enacted for centuries between us and you, the representative of the Jewish people.  I have to ask you, what is it all about?"

The Chief Rabbi shrugs and replies: "But we have no more idea than you do.  The origin of the ceremony is lost in the traditions of ancient history."

The Pope said: "Let us retire to my private chambers and enjoy a glass of wine together, then, with your agreement, we shall open the envelope and discover at last the secret."

The Chief Rabbi agreed.

Fortified in their resolve by the wine, they gingerly pried open the curling parchment envelope and with trembling fingers, the Chief Rabbi reached inside and extracted a folded sheet of similarly ancient paper.  As the Pope peered over his shoulder, he slowly opened it.

They both gasped with shock. It was the bill for the Last Supper.


TERRIBLE TWO’S: Having both kids at home all summer.


Family leaving Church after services:

Father; "That was the longest driest, least informative sermon I’ve ever heard."

Mother; "The choir was terrible.  I never heard some of those hymns before, and they were singing them off key."

Little Tommy; "I don’t know, all in all it wasn’t bad show.  Three of us for a buck."


"Happiness is good health and a bad memory."

Ingrid Bergman


Eighty four year old Morris was hit by a car and lay bleeding on the sidewalk. A policeman arrived on the scene and, glancing at the victim, immediately called for a priest and an ambulance.

The priest arrived first, and bending over Morris, he asked, "Do you believe in the Father, the Son and the Holy Ghost?"

Morris lifted his head, opened his eyes wide and turned to the crowd that had gathered around him. "I am laying here dying and this schmendrick is asking me riddles!"


There’s one thing about baldness…..it’s neat.


On her way back from the concession stand, Sally asked a man at the end of the row, "Pardon me, but did I step on your foot before?"

Expecting an apology, the man said, "Indeed you did."

The woman nodded. "Oh good. Then this is my row."


"So," Jane asked the detective she had hired.  "Did you trail my husband?"

"Yes ma’am.  I did.  I followed him to a bar, to an out-of-the-way restaurant and then to an apartment."

A big smile crossed Jane’s face.  "Aha!  I’ve got him!" she said gloating.  "Is there any doubt what he was doing?"

"No ma’am." replied the sleuth, "It’s pretty clear that he was following you."


Life is partly what we make it, and partly what it is made by the friends whom we choose.

Hsieh Tehyi


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.


Ray Mitchell

 Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies.

The editor is somewhat senile.


This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can join at http://groups.google.com/group/Rays-Daily. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal currently there are about 1500 readers from all over the world.

Thanks Kevin!

How big can you dream? There’s no limit. I recently saw this quote:

"Don’t tell me the sky’s the limit when there are footprints on the moon."

Regina Brett



I was saddened not too long ago when I learned that a friend and Daily reader who lived in Florida had passed away. It was his son who I had never met who notified me of Jack’s passing. It turns out that his dad was frequently forwarding the Daily onto him. A few weeks later he asked to be put on the distribution which really pleased me as it provided me a way that to stay connected to his family.

Yesterday he rewarded me with the following gift. He wrote:

All the best and thank you for adding me to your list, it makes me feel better every time I read your daily.  Somehow my worries and problems do not seem to be so big and insurmountable after reading them.   


He added:

This may have been around a few times but after my father passing I sure looked at it with a different perspective.  It was sent to me by my sister in Nashville.

The following is what he sent and after reading it I realized that what this lady had written could just as well have been a summary of the thoughts we have shared in the Daily over the last nine years. I wish I knew the author; she has to be a special lady.

Written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio

"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.. It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written." My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.

8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.

12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a 0A relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.

16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.

18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.

19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood.. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.

35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood.

38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in20a pile and saw everyone else’s,we’d grab ours back.

41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

42. The best is yet to come.

43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

44. Yield.

45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift."


"We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly."

Sam Keen


I really do value my friends and their support, as an example Jane sent me this.

You and I are Friends…….

You Fight, I Fight……..

You Hurt, I Hurt……..

You Cry, I Cry………

You Jump Off a Bridge….

I’m Gonna Miss Your dumb ass…..


Being happy doesn’t mean everything’s perfect. It means you’ve decided to see beyond the imperfections.


For many years, it was believed that most injuries occur in the home. This is no longer true. 

Evidence from a recent study suggests that injuries are most likely to occur at social gatherings, right after somebody yells, "Hey, Y’all!  Watch this!"


Stan was having problems in English class, so his teacher decided to stop by on her way home to speak with his parents. When she rang the bell, Stan answered.

"I’d like to talk to your mother or father," she said.

"Sorry, but they ain’t here."

"Stan!" she said, "what is it with your grammar?"

"Beats me," he replied, "but dad sure was mad that they had t’go bail her out again!"


"In order for you to profit from your mistakes, you have to get out and make some."


At the UPS cargo phone center where I worked, a woman called and said, "I need a baseball quote." I immediately answered with Yogi Berra’s famous, "It isn’t over ’til it’s over!"

There was a brief moment of silence before the woman asked, "What was that?"

"You asked me for a baseball quote and that was the first thing that came into my head."

"Oh, my husband told me to call and get a baseball quote."

"Uhhh, do you want to ship something?"


"Do you mean you want a ballpark estimate?"


The moment will arrive when you are comfortable with who you are, and what you are–bald or old or fat or poor, successful or struggling–when you don’t feel the need to apologize for anything or to deny anything. To be comfortable in your own skin is the beginning of strength.

Charles Handy


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.


Ray Mitchell

 Indianapolis, Indiana

 Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies.

The editor is somewhat senile.


This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can join at http://groups.google.com/group/Rays-Daily. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal currently there are about 1500 readers from all over the world.

Don’t Wait!

Our remedies oft in ourselves do lie

Which we ascribe to heaven.

William Shakespeare




I had breakfast with a new friend this morning. He is accomplished and has a history of business successes. He is currently in the process of planning and implementing a new future for himself. Wisely he is researching alternatives that are open to him as he explores possible lifetime vocational opportunities. One of the things I like the most about him is that he does not want to be limited to only living within the confines of a job as he also wants to find ways to help people. As an example he is implementing a program that will help some of today’s troubled youth.

What surprised me was the discovery that my accomplished friend does not seem to realize just how good he is and how great is his potential for the future. He is working on further self development as part of his preparation for his next big life move. As we talked I shared with him my feeling that he already has much to offer and that rather than spending time in the theoretical world he would be better served getting out and talking to others about what is going on in business and industry. He will be an asset to whatever organization he joins but he takes a chance of missing the best position if he waits to start looking where that might be.

So many people I meet don’t seem to realize how good they really are and I suspect it is because we take so many of the important things for granted while placing excess importance on things that have less personal value.

Here one of my favorite stories that will give you the idea of what I mean:


Seven Wonders Of The World

A group of students were asked to list what they thought were the present "Seven Wonders of the World." Though there were some disagreements, the following received the most votes:

1. Egypt’s Great Pyramids

2. Taj Mahal 

3. Grand Canyon

4. Panama Canal 

5. Empire State Building  

6. St. Peter’s Basilica  

7. China’s Great Wall

While gathering the votes, the teacher noted that one student had not finished her paper yet. So she asked the girl if she was having trouble with her list. The girl replied, "Yes, a little.  I couldn’t quite make up my mind because there were so many."

The teacher said, "Well, tell us what you have, and maybe we can help." The girl hesitated, then read, "I think the ‘Seven Wonders of the World’ are:

1. to see 

2. to hear

3. to touch 

4. to taste

5. to feel 

6. to laugh 

7. and to love."

The room was so quiet you could have heard a pin drop. The things we overlook as simple and ordinary and that we take for granted are truly wondrous!  A gentle reminder — that the most precious things in life cannot be built by hand or bought by man.


It’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not.

Author Unknown


The Dentist’s Hymn:………….Crown Him with Many Crowns

The Weatherman’s Hymn:……….There Shall Be Showers of Blessings 

The Contractor’s Hymn:……….The Church’s One Foundation 

The Tailor’s Hymn:…………..Holy, Holy, Holy 

The Golfer’s Hymn:…………..There’s a Green Hill Far Away 

The Politician’s Hymn:……….Standing on the Promises 

The Optometrist’s Hymn:………Open My Eyes That I Might See 

The IRS Agent’s Hymn:………..I Surrender All 

The Gossip’s Hymn:…………..Pass It On 

The Electrician’s Hymn:………Send The Light

The Shopper’s Hymn:………….Sweet By and By

The Realtor’s Hymn:………….I’ve Got a Mansion, Just Over The Hilltop

The Massage Therapists Hymn:….He Touched Me

The Doctor’s Hymn:…………..The Great Physician

For those who speed on the highway – a few hymns: 

45mph………………..God Will Take Care of You 

55mph………………..Guide Me, O Thou Great Jehovah 

65mph………………..Nearer My God To Thee 

75mph………………..Nearer Still Nearer 

85mph………………..This World Is Not My Home 

95mph………………..Lord, I’m Coming Home 

Over100mph………Precious Memories


Light travels faster than sound. This is why some people appear bright until you hear them speak.


Dear John,

I have been unable to sleep since I broke off our engagement. Won’t you forgive and forget? Your absence is breaking my heart. I was a fool, nobody can take your place. I love you. All my love,

Belinda. xxxxoooxxxx

P.S. Congratulations on winning this week’s lottery.


I don’t do drugs. I get the same effect just standing up fast.


Jamie asked his dad to explain the difference between irritation, aggravation, and frustration.

His father picked up the phone and dialed a number at random. When the phone was answered, he asked, "Can I speak to Rolf, please?"

"No! There’s no one named Rolf here," replies the person who answered the phone.

The father hung up. "That, my boy, is irritation."

He picked up the phone again, dialed the same number, then asked for Rolf a second time. "No, there’s no one here called Rolf. Go away. If you call again I’m calling the cops," the person said.

The father hung up and said, "That’s aggravation."

"Then what’s frustration?" asked Jamie. The father picked up the phone and dialed the same number a third time.

"Hello, this is Rolf. Have I received any phone calls?"


A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle.

Erin Majors


Donald Ogden Stewart, the writer, had a son away at prep school.  When the boy reached the age of fourteen, Stewart wrote him the following letter:

"Dear son, now that you have reached the magic age of fourteen, the time has come to tell you about the bees and flowers.  There is a male and a female bee, although I haven’t the slightest idea which is which. As for the flowers – we get ours from the Plaza Florist, Inc. 

Well, that takes care of that.

Write soon,




We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.

Roderick Thorp


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.


Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

 Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies.

The editor is somewhat senile.


This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can join at http://groups.google.com/group/Rays-Daily. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal currently there are about 1500 readers from all over the world.


For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’ And whenever the answer has been ‘No’ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.

Steve Jobs




I have a lot more years on me than Steve Jobs but I strongly endorse his thought. Fortunately we all have the ability to move on when we are not happy with the way things are going. In my case I have made it somewhat automatic by asking myself weekly if I am on the right track.

As I mentioned to a friend yesterday, my Sundays sometimes are the first day of my week and other times the last day. Of course that required some explanation. For me it all depends on how things are going, if I have procrastinated and not got much done the previous seven days or if they were just not that memorable or rewarding then it is my last day and Monday is my new beginning and a fresh start for what can be a super week. But if my Sunday, with its freedom to do what ever I want to do since others are off doing there thing goes as well as it usually does then it is the first day of my week and I am off to a flying start.

In reality I can start again anytime just as we all can but if our days are filled with restart after restart we’ll just end up floundering around getting little done and slowly sinking into mental quick sand. By treating each period as having a beginning and end I reap all kinds of benefits. If things are going great I will be able to look back on the week pleased or maybe just relieved that I have had a series of successes. It is not that we need a lot of self approval but we truly benefit from some self satisfaction now and then.

I, like most folks also have bad days and sometimes more of them in a row than I can easily tolerate. It is during those times that having the end of my week in sight provides hope and anticipated relief for I know I can begin anew and that the first day of my new week will be full of opportunity to put the past behind me so I can begin again enjoying progress, adventure and comfortable times with friends.

The previous week, month and year have passed and are gone forever, there is absolutely no value in spending time dwelling on what was since all our time and energy is better spent on the days ahead.


Should you find yourself in a chronically leaking boat, energy devoted to changing vessels is likely to be more productive than energy devoted to patching leaks.

Warren Buffett


A father said to his teenage daughter, "I want you home by 11:00 tonight." 

"But Daddy," she protested, "I’m not a little girl anymore." 

"You’re right." he answered. "Better make it 10:30!" 


As you know my grammar leaves much to be desired but I think I finally have got it right, so here goes:

1. Verbs HAS to agree with their subjects.

2. Prepositions are not words to end sentences with.

3. And don’t start a sentence with a conjunction.

4. It is wrong to ever split an infinitive.

5. Avoid clichés like the plague. (They’re old hat)

6. Also, always avoid annoying alliteration.

7. Be more or less specific.

8. Parenthetical remarks (however relevant) are (usually) unnecessary.

9. Also too, never, ever use repetitive redundancies.

10. No sentence fragments.

11. Contractions aren’t necessary and shouldn’t be used.

12. Foreign words and phrases are not apropos.

13. Do not be redundant; do not use more words than necessary; it’s highly superfluous.

14. One should NEVER generalize.

15. Comparisons are as bad as clichés.

16. Don’t use no double negatives.

17. Eschew ampersands & abbreviations, etc.

18. One-word sentences? Eliminate.

19. Analogies in writing are like feathers on a snake.

20. The passive voice is to be ignored.

21. Eliminate commas, that are, not necessary. Parenthetical words however should be enclosed in commas.

22. Never use a big word when a diminutive one would suffice.

23. Kill all exclamation points!!!

24. Use words correctly, irregardless of how others use them.

25. Understatement is always the absolute best way to put forth earth shaking ideas.

26. Use the apostrophe in it’s proper place and omit it when its not needed.

27. Eliminate quotations. As Ralph Waldo Emerson said, "I hate quotations. Tell me what you know."

28. If you’ve heard it once, you’ve heard it a thousand times: Resist hyperbole; not one writer in a million can use it correctly.

29. Puns are for children, not groan readers.

30. Go around the barn at high noon to avoid colloquialisms.

31. Even IF a mixed metaphor sings, it should be derailed.

32. Who needs rhetorical questions?

33. Exaggeration is a billion times worse than understatement.

And finally…

34. Proofread carefully to see if you any words out 


To err is human, to blame it on someone else is more human.


A photographer for a national magazine was assigned to take pictures of a great forest fire. He was advised that a small plane would be waiting to fly him over the fire.

The photographer arrived at the airstrip just an hour before sundown. Sure enough, a small Cessna airplane was waiting. He jumped in with his equipment and shouted, "Let’s go!" The tense man sitting in the pilot’s seat swung the plane into the wind and soon they were in the air, though flying erratically.

"Fly over the north side of the fire," said the photographer, "and make several low-level passes."

"Why?" asked the nervous pilot.

"Because I’m going to take pictures!" yelled the photographer. "I’m a photographer, and photographers take pictures!"

The pilot replied, "You mean you’re not the flight instructor?"


"He doesn’t know the meaning of the word ‘fear’. Of course, there are lots of other words he doesn’t know either."

San Diego Chargers coach Sid Gilman on one of his first year players.


An account executive at a stock-and-bond firm telephoned an elderly woman client who had purchased her first stock — one hundred shares of Proctor & Gamble.  He told her that he had just heard they were going to split.

"Oh!  What a shame."  she lamented.  "I’m so sorry to hear that. And, they’ve been together for so long too."


Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense.

Ralph Waldo Emerson


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.


Ray Mitchell

 Indianapolis, Indiana

Management is not responsible for duplicates from previous dailies.

The editor is somewhat senile.


This daily is sent only to special people who want to start their day on an upbeat. If you have system overload because of our daily clutter, let me know and I will send you the information via mental telepathy. If you have not been getting our daily you can join at http://groups.google.com/group/Rays-Daily. Back issues are posted at http://raykiwsp.multiply.com/journal currently there are about 1500 readers from all over the world.

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