Footprints on the sands of time are not made by sitting down.
Last Saturday a friend and I talked about how the burden to achieve a happy life is really on ourselves. It can be frightening when we realize that there are no magic answers nor can we expect others to do it for us. The problem, I believe is that too many of us get frightened by the challenge and end up resigning ourselves to the belief that nothing can be done. After thinking about our discussion I realized that more often than not our fear is based on the belief that we must do everything at once and so we set our sight on almost instant change, in other words we have unrealistic expectations.
In truth, just like everything else big changes don’t happen overnight and we are better off concentrating on making changes one step at a time. If we want more friends all we have to do is make one new one, and then later another, and then yet another and after time goes by we find our lonesomeness has disappeared. It is the same with almost everything else we may want; it is a process that requires us to begin at the starting line and not at the finish line. If we measure progress by our small steps we win almost everyday instead of being frustrated by the race and the time it takes to reach the goal. In truth life is lived in the process and not at the finish line and if we make good use of what we are given each day we won’t have time to agonize over what we have yet to achieve.
The first step for most of us is to decide what it is we want or at least think we want. If we don’t know where we want to go we not only won’t get there we won’t even know where to start. Here is something that may help.
If It Is To Be, It Is Up To Me!
What are 10 two letter words that make up one of the most powerful lessons one can learn in this lifetime? It goes along with the saying, “If you want something done right, do it yourself!” The 10 two letter words are: If it is to be, it is up to me! What a simple but profound concept on can learn from such simple words.
If it is to be….if what is to be? That is the great part, you can fill in the blank here. If _____ is to be then you have chosen for it to be and will then bring it into existence. The blank, the “it” is the part of this statement which allows you to become a creator. It allows you to bring into existence, or in your life, that which has not been there before. This is where you dreams become realities and your goals become achievable. If success is to be, it is up to me!
I always speak of a 97% and a 3%. The 97% of the worlds population believe in a different saying than this one. Even though most may agree with this 10 two letter word phrase, they don’t really believe it or apply it. The 97% really believe in a phrase that goes something like this: If it is to be, who is going to give it to me…or….If it is to be, the government will provide it for me….or….If it is to be, it is free! I could go on and on.
Now the other 3% know the true meaning to this phrase and apply it. If there is anything that happens in their lives, it is because they made it happen. They thought it up, they set some goals, and they took consistent action in making sure that it happened. Do they quit when the road gets a little rough? No! Do they listen to the nay-sayers and the wanna-bes? No! Are they deterred by the masses opinions or the bandwagoners? No!
The tragedy in life doesn’t lie in not reaching your goal.
The tragedy lies in having no goal to reach.
In Africa some of the native tribes have a custom of beating the ground with clubs and uttering spine-chilling cries. Anthropologists call this a form of primitive self-expression…
In America we call it golf.
I refuse to admit that I am more than 52, even if that makes my children illegitimate.
Lady Nancy Astor
My friend’s husband always teases her about her lack of interest in household chores. One day he came home with a gag gift, a refrigerator magnet that read: "Martha Stewart doesn’t live here."
The next day he came home to find the magnet holding up a slip of paper. The note read: "Neither does Bob Vila."
"My grandfather’s a little forgetful, but he likes to give me advice. One day he took me aside and left me there."
It was a terrible night, blowing cold and rain in a most frightful manner. The streets were deserted and the local baker was just about to close up shop when a little man slipped through the door. He carried an umbrella, blown inside out, and was bundled in two sweaters and a thick coat. But even so he still looked wet and bedraggled.
As he unwound his scarf he said to the baker, "May I have two bagels to go, please?"
The baker said in astonishment, "Two bagels? Nothing more?"
"That’s right," answered the little man. "One for me and one for Bernice."
"Bernice is your wife?" Asked the baker.
"Of course she’s my wife! Do you think my mother would send me out on a night like this?"
When asked what she wanted for her birthday, little Sarah said, "One of everything, please!"
She said, always remember these important rules when asking a man to do something:
1. Make sure the man is conscious.
2. Crash the hard drive on his computer and line the bird cage with the sports section.
3. Be brief! Limit your nagging harangue to two, three hours, max.
4. Reward him for cooperative behavior. Offer to cook him something that doesn’t have a peel-back cover.
5. Punish him when he refuses to cooperate. Microwave his remote on high power for 55 minutes. Rotate 1/4 turn, and microwave again for another 35 minutes.
6. Use "would you" or "will you" instead of "you’d better" or "do as I say and no one will get hurt."
When you have nothing to lose, you have nothing to worry about.
You may have heard the old joke about Shirley, the Jewish mother in NYC, who brought her 6 year old boy to the psychoanalyst, who diagnosed: "Nothing much wrong with your son, just a slight Oedipus complex.
Said Shirley the mom… "Oedipus, schmedipus, the important thing is that he loves his mother"
Love is blind and it’s not too bright, either.
Working as a computer instructor for an adult-education program at a community college, I am keenly aware of the gap in computer knowledge between my younger and older students.
My observations were confirmed the day a new student walked into our library area and glanced at the encyclopedia volumes stacked on a bookshelf.
"What are all these books?" he asked.
Somewhat surprised, I replied that they were encyclopedias.
"Really?" he said. Someone printed out the whole thing?"
Though no one can go back and make a brand new start,
anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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