"The tragedy is that so many people look for self-confidence and self-respect everywhere except within themselves, and so they fail in their search."
Dr Nathaniel Branden
Lately I have run into a few people who have seemed to give up on themselves. I am always shocked when I find those who just don’t realize how good they really are. I wish every one would do an objective personal inventory of themselves focusing on what they have to offer and more importantly on how they operate. It is bad enough when we overlook the good in others it is even worse when we overlook it in ourselves. Too many suppress their latent goodness thus keeping them from finding personal happiness and satisfaction.
Recently I was sent the following article written by author Cheryl Saban that provides some ways that we can develop our own feeling of self worth. In my experience those who can love themselves are capable of really loving others.
How do you express your self-worth?
Basically, I’ve discovered that in order to express self-worth, we need to learn to take care of ourselves. The following are some action-items I am trying to apply to my life. See if any of these ideas resonate for you:
1. Each day I will be grateful for what I have, and show compassion and kindness to others. I’ll do something that makes me feel good. I’ll tell my loved ones that I love them. I’ll actually say the words, and mean it. And I’ll make sure the recipient of my love hears the words and believes them.
2. Every week I will take myself on a special outing. I’ll realize that I’m worth the time and effort. I’ll make sure I get enough exercise, eat sensibly, and spend time in nature. I’ll also do something fun with my husband/partner, and my children.
3. Every month I will go over my finances and stay aware — I’ll set priorities. I’ll give some of my time, talent, or treasure to a charitable organization. I’ll stretch my mind to learn something new. And I’ll practice doing math, which was always my toughest subject.
4. Every year I will be proud of the person I am. I’ll celebrate my birthday, and treat my life as though it is a very precious gift – which it is. I’ll save some money in a retirement fund. I’ll evaluate my career choice and set new goals. And then I’ll remember to enjoy the here and now, for it is truly all I have.
Our sense of self-worth and learning how to express it with humility and love, is vitally important. Not just for our own well-being, which I think is rather obvious, but for those we care about as well. Express your Self.
Cheryl Saban PhD writes extensively about women, children, and social issues.
"You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love & affection."
Why the Military can’t communicate with each other. . .
If you tell the Navy to secure a building, they will turn out the lights and lock the door.
If you tell the Army to secure a building, they will occupy it and forbid entry to those without a pass.
If you tell the Marines to secure a building, they assault with heavy fire, capture the building, fortify it and call for an air strike.
If you tell the Air Force to secure a building, they will negotiate a three year lease with an option to buy.
I not only use all the brains that I have, but all that I can borrow.
There was a woman in the grocery store with a three-year-old girl in her basket. As they passed the cookie section, the little girl asked for cookies, and her mother told her no.
The little girl immediately began to whine and fuss, and the mother said quietly, "Now Veronica, we just have half of the aisles to go through—don’t be upset. It won’t be long."
Soon, they came to the candy aisle, and the little girl began to shout for candy. When told she couldn’t have any, she began to cry.
The mother said, "There, there, Veronica, don’t cry—only two more aisles to go, and then we’ll be checking out." When they got to the checkout stand, the little girl immediately began to clamor for gum and burst into a terrible tantrum upon discovering there’d be no gum purchased.
The mother patiently said, "Veronica, we’ll be through this checkout stand in 5 minutes, and then you can go home and have a nice nap."
The bagger followed them out to the parking lot and stopped the woman to compliment her, "I couldn’t help noticing how patient you were with little Veronica."
The mother replied, "I’m Veronica—my little girl’s name is Jenny."
A good many childhood ailments are cured miraculously as soon as it’s too late to go to school.
I was browsing in a souvenir shop when the man next to me struck up a conversation. Just as he was telling me that his wife was getting carried away with her shopping, a brief power shortage caused the lights to flicker overhead. "That," he sighed, "must be her checking out now.
"Chance is always powerful. Let your hook always be cast; in the pool where you least expect it, there will be fish."
A family who had just moved into a new neighborhood was anxious to make a good impression, but the neighbors seemed cold and made no overtures of welcome. The mother of the brood was overjoyed when finally her youngest son ran in and announced happily, "Mommy, the lady down the street asked my name today!"
"Oh, how nice!" exclaimed the mother enthusiastically. "And then what did she do?"
"Then she gave it to the policeman." said the boy.
People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.
The poor Jewish tailor is beside himself with worry. His wife is very ill and he wants the best doctor in town to treat her. But the doctor is somewhat reluctant because the tailor is so poor and, it being unlikely that his wife could be saved, the tailor might not pay him should his wife die.
However, the tailor promises he will pay anything, no matter whether the doctor cures his wife or kills her!
This is sufficient for the doctor and he agrees.
Unfortunately, the doctor cannot save her and the tailor’s wife dies.
However, when the doctor’s bill arrives the tailor refuses to pay it despite his promise.
After much argument, the doctor and the tailor agree to let the Rabbi decide the case since they both are, after all, Jewish.
The doctor puts his case to the Rabbi that the tailor promised to pay "no matter whether the doctor cured his wife or killed her."
After much thought the Rabbi asks the doctor, "Did you cure her?"
"No," admitted the doctor.
"And did you kill her?"
"I certainly did not," expostulated the doctor.
"In that case," said the Rabbi, "the tailor has no case to answer because you fulfilled neither of the conditions on which you agreed that the fee should be paid."
"If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person."
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
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