Ray's musings and humor

Wish Her Well

It’s a strange thing, but when you are dreading something, and would give anything to slow down time, it has a disobliging habit of speeding up.

J.K. Rowling, "The Hungarian Horntail," Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire, 2000



I spent a neat hour or so with a new college friend the other day. She soon will be off spending her last semester as an undergraduate in Asia. She has worked hard for years, is an outstanding student as well as an accomplished leader having excelled in sports and as an officer in many organizations. She is smart, vivacious and has a great personality. Unfortunately she is also carrying the weight of planning her future on her shoulders. She, like too many other students, is burdened with student loans and societies definition of accomplishment. She has never really stoped to take a breather from her investment in excellence.

My friend definitely wants to go to graduate school but she is not sure what she really wants to do after that. She is so busy being outstanding that I fear she has not had enough time to be herself. She reminds me of so many of us who are always so busy doing what must be done to meet a deadline or to complete an activity that we don’t give take time to stop and invest in ourselves.

My fantasy is that this bright young student will take the pressure off herself and stop, maybe even for a semester or two, in order to sit along life’s road and learn what her heart is telling her. I am hoping that she invests in a path that will lead to happiness and not just income and title. I would not be so presumptuous to think that I have the answers but I pray that she finds the road that is best for her without being distracted by the need to become what others think she should be.

As I thought about my young friend I thought about how so many of us fill our days with what seems important that really isn’t. Here is what the fabulous Gretchen Rubin posted recently that reminded me again that many things I do are really not worth the time.

Tips for what you DON’T have to do and what you DO have to do. Don’t confuse what you must do with what you choose to do. For example:

You don’t have to carry around a bottle of water.

You don’t have to finish a magazine before you throw it away.

You don’t have to dress to express your individuality.

You don’t have to drink wine with dinner.

You don’t have to carry a wallet.

You don’t have to watch reality TV.

You don’t have to take a shower every day.

You don’t have to check your email every minute.

You don’t have to get a manicure.

You don’t have to answer your phone.

You don’t have to use hair conditioner.

You don’t have to send out holiday cards.

You don’t have to read or watch crime reports.

You don’t have to keep up with sports news or celebrity gossip.

You don’t have to have house plants.

You don’t have to wear uncomfortable shoes.

You do have to keep some cash around at all times.

You do have to call when you’re going to be late.

You do have to remember the birthdays of your immediate family.

You do have to back up your computer files.

You do have to exercise regularly.

You do have to keep a cache of toilet paper in the house.

You do have to keep your phone charged.

You do have to keep a spare key.


Time is the coin of your life.  It is the only coin you have, and only you can determine how it will be spent.  Be careful lest you let other people spend it for you.

Carl Sandburg


A lady lost her purse in the bustle of shopping at the mall. It was found by an honest little boy, who returned it to her.

Looking in her purse, she commented, "Hmm, that’s funny. When I lost my bag, there was a $20 bill in it. Now there are twenty $1 bills."

The boy quickly replied, "That’s right, lady. The last time I found a lady’s purse, she didn’t have any change for a reward."


Remember, once you get over the hill, you’ll begin to pick up speed.


Sid and Al were sitting in a Chinese restaurant.

"Sid," asked Al, "Are there any Jews in China?"

"I don’t know," Sid replied. "Why don’t we ask the waiter?"

When the waiter came by, Al said, "Are there any Chinese Jews?"

"I don’t know sir, let me ask," the waiter replied and he went into the kitchen.

He quickly returned and said, "No, sir. No Chinese Jews."

"Are you sure?" Al asked.

"I will check again, sir." the waiter replied and went back to the kitchen.

While he was still gone, Sid said, "I cannot believe there are no Jews in China. Our people are scattered everywhere."

When the waiter returned he said, "Sir, no Chinese Jews."

"Are you really sure?" Al asked again. "I cannot believe there are no Chinese Jews."

"Sir, I ask everyone," the waiter replied exasperated. "We have orange jews, prune jews, tomato jews and grape jews, but no one ever hear of Chinese jews!"


To err is human—to blame it on a computer is even more so.


She says that:

"Hey Marco! Is it true you have a new girlfriend?" I quizzed.

"Yeah, it’s true" he mumbled.

"Hey, what’s the matter?"  I asked.

"Well, it’s my new girlfriend," he said.

"Oh yeah?  What’s the problem?"

"Well I asked her if she could learn to love me," he replied.

"Yeah…and?" I pried further. "and she asked me how much I was willing to spend on her education.


Find out what you don’t do well and don’t do it.


The state trooper pulled Mr. Schwarz over and, after inspecting his license and registration, informed the motorist that he was going to have to spend the night in jail.

"What’s the charge?  Mr. Schwarz demanded.

"None," replied the officer.  "It’s all part of the service."


"Whether it’s the best of times, or the worst of times, it’s the only time you’ve got."

Art Buchwald


Stay well, do good work, and have fun.


Ray Mitchell

Indianapolis, Indiana

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