He enjoys true leisure who has time to improve his soul’s estate.
Henry David Thoreau
Most every day I spend time with at least one person who is at a major point in there lives where the path ahead is rocky and the destination unclear. Sometimes the burden that these good folks carry is almost unbearable. Their problems may be the result of a loss of job and income, a major uninsured illness, a child in trouble, isolation and loneliness and too many other problems and concerns to mention. Most of their problems are situational, but others are chronic. The difficulty for many is that they lose perspective and balance. Too many of us only work and sleep, others of us may take relaxation in between work and sleep to the extent that if someone doesn’t nudge us once in awhile we would vegetate. And then there are those of us who don’t have to work who plant ourselves so firmly in one spot that we stagnate.
As a psychologist friend and I discussed friends and mutual acquaintances this morning we again came to the conclusion that too many us fail to get more out of life because we don’t know how to get out of the doldrums or even worse we are afraid to try. After our talk I did a little exploring and found these tips that I wish most of us would consider. They are excerpted from an article entitled Leisure Activities: The Way To Beat Stress by Bruce F Morehouse.
MASTERING LEISURE SKILLS
By mastering leisure skills in each of these five major activities areas, the retiree can begin to build the elements of a full and rewarding life in years to come.
NOTE: I believe these are needed even during our working years if we are to reap the advantages of a balanced life. Ray
1. PHYSICAL ACTIVITIES reap benefits that have been widely documented in both the popular press and in professional journals. There is evidence suggesting a direct correlation between physical improvement and emotional well being. Immediate results can be seen in a marked improvement in self esteem and a more positive attitude toward work and household chores.
2. SOCIAL ACTIVITIES and the relationships they develop shape much of the substance of our experience. Individuals influence each others’ opinions, attitudes, values, and behavior. Information is exchanged in an atmosphere where alternative views can be presented and discussed. Finally, it allows us to see ourselves through the eyes of others. We then learn how others view us which leads to more positive social interaction and greater feeling of overall satisfaction with life.
3. CULTURAL ACTIVITY is both a rewarding and an educational experience. Activities such as reading or attending the theater can be thought of as a form of communication with the great masters of the past. This enhances a feeling of continuity with our shared cultural heritage. In addition, we can gain a greater awareness and understanding of other cultures through these activities.
4. FAMILY ACTIVITIES provide an opportunity for interpersonal interaction that is free from the every day roles of parent and child. This allows for understanding of family members as individuals in a setting of mutual equality. The activities increase family cohesiveness and improve communication.
5. HOBBIES provide activities that allow escape from the "being up" aspect of social interaction. They act as a balance to the work day and compliment the more active forms of social and physical leisure. They are a form of focused attention that allow rest from the problems of every day living. Hobbies also allow creativity that may not be present in the work world.
As the individual develops leisure competency in the five activity areas he or she will be laying the foundation for a well balanced and rewarding life in the years to come.
What is this life if, full of care, We have no time to stand and stare. No time to stand beneath the boughs And stare as long as sheep or cows. No time to see, when woods we pass, Where squirrels hide their nuts in grass. No time to see, in broad daylight, Streams full of stars, like skies at night. No time to turn at Beauty’s glance, And watch her feet, how they can dance. No time to wait till her mouth can Enrich that smile her eyes began. A poor life this if, full of care, We have no time to stand and stare.
William Henry Davies
Bought my girlfriend a mood ring the other day.
When she’s in a good mood it turns green.
When she’s in a bad mood, it leaves a red mark on my forehead.
Living well and beautifully and justly are all one thing.
A man walks into a bar and says, "Bartender, give me two shots." Bartender says, "You want them both now or one at a time?" The guy says," Oh, I want them both now. One’s for me and one’s for this little guy here," and he pulls a tiny three inch man out of his pocket.
The bartender asks "He can drink?"
"Oh, sure. He can drink."
So the bartender pours the shots and sure enough, the little guy drinks it all up.
"That’s amazing" says the bartender. "What else can he do, can he walk?"
The man flicks a quarter down to the end of the bar and says, "Hey, Jake. Go get that." The little guy runs down to the end of the bar and picks up the quarter. Then he runs back down and gives it to the man.
The bartender is in total shock. "That’s amazing" he says, "what else can he do? Does he talk?"
The man says "Sure he talks, hey, Jake, tell him about that time we were in Africa and you made fun of that witch doctor’s powers!"
Why do ships carry cargoes and cars carry shipments?
Sadie stopped by an usher at the entrance to the synagogue.
The usher asked, "Are you a friend of the bride?"
Sadie quickly replied, "No, of course not. I am the groom’s mother."
Concern should drive us into action and not into depression.
A widowed lady, travelling alone, was taking a long plane trip back to where she & her husband both grew up. Upon arriving at the airport she informed the airline that she wanted to take her dog with her in the cabin. She became angry when the airline told her she couldn’t, but finally gave in and allowed them to put the dog carrier with the dog in the baggage compartment.
The airline pilot told her, "It will be warm & pressurized in there, & your dog should be just fine. Nothing to worry about."
Upon arrival at the first fuel stop, the crew went to check on the dog and found it dead! The airline crew quickly ran all over town until they found a dog of the same color, height, weight, and sex & put it in the cage in place of the dead dog
Upon arrival at their final destination, they hand delivered the lady her dog. Quite surprised, the woman says, "Sorry, but that’s not my dog! Could you please go get *my* dog! ?"
The airline pilot replies, "Sure it’s your dog. Look! It’s the same height, weight, color, & sex as when we loaded it."
The lady again insisted, "THIS, IS *NOT* MY DOG!"
The airline pilot asks her, "Just how do you know that this isn’t your dog?"
The widow answers. . . . "Because my dog was dead! I was taking it home to bury it next to my husband!"
You’re just jealous because the voices only talk to me.
Jewish humor has it that a rabbi and a priest met at the town picnic and began their usual "kibitzing." "This baked ham is just delicious," the priest teased the rabbi. "You really should try some. I know it’s against your religion, but I can’t understand why such a wonderful thing should be forbidden.
You just don’t know what you’re missing. You haven’t lived until you’ve tried Mrs. Kennedy’s baked ham. Tell me rabbi, when are you going to break down and try a little ham?"
The rabbi looked at the priest, smiled and said, "At your wedding."
Stress is like a violin string. If there’s no tension, there’s no music. But if the string is too tight, it breaks. You want to find the right level of tension for you–the level that makes harmony in your life.
Stay well, do good work, and have fun.
Indianapolis, Indiana, USA
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